This is an update of my chronicle posted on the 27th of October.
Apparently, the time I sent in my chronicle, my husband or rather ex husband as it is now, got his girlfriend who lives on the same street as us pregnant and went to pay her bride price.
I gathered up courage and told my husband that it's obvious our marriage has ended so I would leave the house for him and his wife because this girl comes to the house anytime she feels like probably making me know she's now in charge. He said I could leave but not with his child and I had to agree because I know if I leave he wouldn't assist with our son's welfare.
I gathered up courage and told my husband that it's obvious our marriage has ended so I would leave the house for him and his wife because this girl comes to the house anytime she feels like probably making me know she's now in charge. He said I could leave but not with his child and I had to agree because I know if I leave he wouldn't assist with our son's welfare.
Once I am able to get on my feet financially, I will go back for the child.
I moved my things immediately to my parents and explained all what I had been through to my parents. Immediately, we agreed on returning the bride price to his people. I was really surprised with the way my parents embraced me wholeheartedly.
I moved my things immediately to my parents and explained all what I had been through to my parents. Immediately, we agreed on returning the bride price to his people. I was really surprised with the way my parents embraced me wholeheartedly.
Before I left, I pleaded with his wife to please not maltreat my child that I will definitely come when I'm buoyant and she agreed. So far, she hasn't treated him badly because I asked around. Once a new term starts, I'll try to get a teaching job so I can raise capital to start my business again.....
Your son will be used as messenger when she births her child...You should have left with your son and managed whatever you can.... I am shocked that she came into your house whenever she wanted...Ah ah, why are some men so shameless?
Ladies before you marry or during Marriage make sure you have a source of income to avoid stories that touch like this...I am so pained by this story... As she take drive you comot,na so another person go pursue her comot...
Chai ariri.
ReplyDeleteHmmm Poster I can imagine what you are going through!! This is indeed a sad situation. I would have preferred that you take your son to stay with your parents in the meantime or take him along with you whilst you start hustling...What if they relocate somewhere without letting you know? Or she starts maltreating him....You are the only one who can take care of your baby.....All the best....
ReplyDeleteSuch a sad story
Oh dear! Who can we trust in this life again? Has the world gotten this bad?
DeleteOh Lord your words have I hidden in my heart that I will not sin against you!
Why leave your son behind?
Deletemotherhood is about sacrifice and this is the time to prove it, you should have stayed for you son or left with him
please go back and take him, once she births her child all this niceness will be gone
pregnant women are always nice to kids most times but when her childs comes she would want him to be the only one her husband loves and that will bring resentment and maltreatment sets in
go and get your child since you have a roof over your head then you hustle your way out
Anon 9.01 its childhood that is the real sacrifice these days biko. Its the child (ren) that continues to suffer the bad and poor choices of the parents indeed.
DeleteWhat did I just read,you should have left with your son at least you have a place to rest your head.whatever you eat in your parents house,your child will eat with you.New term is almost here.
ReplyDeleteI don't support leaving your son behind with that kind of a stepmum and a father that's not remorseful of what he did.
May the Lord protect your son.
Thumbs up for your courage but you have go get your son cos nobody is going to train him better like you would do. Your own and our own no b the same o
ReplyDeleteDear poster, do everything to be in your son's life before he is turned against you. And before he grows up hating you and wondering why you didn't leave with him.
ReplyDeleteBrst wishes.
Stella, the new wife may not maltreat her son. Not all stepmothers are monsters.
ReplyDeleteBut she caused another woman this kind of pain. I hear. Dey play you hear?
DeleteShe's still a monster with her audacity.. tufiakwa some of these women, they no send you when the take your own. Even if she's a maid, she changes so quickly once una shameless horsebands rubs their back.
DeleteI see no reason why women leave without their kids.if your ex husband doesn’t take care your son,take him to court and he’ll pay up.my mom did the same with me and my sister and it messed a lot of things up for us.
ReplyDeleteI don’t understand it either. The one good thing she has to show out of the marriage is what he wants. He turned her out of the home, brought another in right before her face and demands to keep the one thing she could get. Talk about stripping a person down to nothing. I despise ppl without any compassion or care. I pray a living and divine miracle over her life.
DeleteSometimes you have to think of the child's mental health and change of environment, especially when your financial situation doesn’t match what the father can provide. So she has done the right thing.
DeletePoster, cover your child with the blood of Jesus. Only Jesus truly saves and protects. Even you dey house with them, na Jesus go still keep the child for you.
Leave them two alone. God will compensate and announce you in a loud way. I believe that you will marry a powerful man who your ex won't be able to stand. You will run many more successful businesses. God gave you golden fingers and anything you touch will come to life. He saw all you did for your ex and your family, He will bless you. Sometimes, we pass through such so we can grow up and prepare for the marathon- I am speaking from experience. Even me that is typing this am not the same person I was when this year began because I am passing through real fire. But inside all, I am taking lesson notes.
A piece of advice? Don't EVER put your financial future or security in the hands of another person. Don't ever place anyone above you. People will not value you when you do so. Pray that out of your life. Collect your financial futude back from the enemy. Learn this for your future businesses and marriage. God bless you my sister.
Stay prayerful!! You will win. You will go abroad sef.. wetin be Russia? Don't worry. You are still young and your 30s would be awesome. Screenshot this message and use it to pray your life back into divine shape.
Sorry to learn that it has come to this sad and disappointing end. I do not understand men and the ministry of pain so many are adherents to. Why put you and the child through all that even if it has to end. May God have mercy on you and open prosperous pathways and give you double for what you have lost. Take care of yourself and go get your child as soon as possible. I do not see why he insisted on taking the child when he has another coming, so you should lose everything, even the child you birthed. So what was your value or purpose in the marriage? My dear call on every powers in the heavens for justice and go get your child. Find a women’s focused charity or ngo that also provides legal assistance and see what help you can get.
ReplyDeleteTake this experience as a learning one and make sure you have your own financial resources and home. You see what happens when a woman is completely dependent on a man, so ensure your own financial security, so you never experience anything like this ever again. May you send a glorious update of your miracles soon.
You left your child? How do you sleep at night?
ReplyDeleteTo me o, it is not yet uhuru.
Poster please go and take your son now before it is too late.
ReplyDeleteManage whatever you have with your son,it is better to be safe than sorry...
Exactly, poster go and carry your child!!!! Once the new wife gives birth, attention will shift from your child.
DeleteYou already have shelter, I'm sure your parent won't mind pitching in a bit more to feed your child pending when you find a job.
The worse that will happen if for you to not be able to afford to pay school fees for now, nothing spoil, let him stay at home with you for the next few months (sounds like your child is still young).
I missed 2 full terms when I was in primary school because my mum was sick and we had to move to the village with my grandma for that period, yet I am still here today, nothing spoil.
Dainty the woman is in honeymoon phase and need attention from the husband sef so the child will be a distraction what if the child needs pampering,cuddling she can't give the child that cos now she wants the quietness of the house not a child around when he is not her own ,person wey get mind do this by the ti sh us to bed your boy hnhnhn,poster I want you to get back to us that you have picked your child from there, did your parents even permit you coming home without him when they have shelter nooo I no gree go collect your pikin simple, let them wallow in their selfishness and I pray providence will smile on you soon
DeleteYour peace of mind is your primary consideration now. Put yourself together and do everything you can to be in your son's life! See him as often as you can. I'm so sorry you had to go through this all.
ReplyDeleteIf she was a good woman, or has conscience she won't take your husband and cause you pain the way she did so she definitely isn't a good person.
ReplyDeletePoster please pray for God's blessings and go get your son. She won't treat him well when she births hers
Link to the chronicle
ReplyDeleteGod bless your parents
ReplyDeleteI told you to divorce him that day you sent in your story. The thing is, some women won't leave until the man comes and kicks them out by himself.
ReplyDeleteIf you didn't find out he got another lady pregnant you might still stay there while being maltreated by the same man who was meant to be your protector, constantly tolerating disrespect and maliciousness not knowing, that your partner treating you the opposite of the way they vowed, they way you ought to be treated - with care, compassion, love and devotion is enough reason to seek separation in the first place.
I may sound harsh but in a way I am happy, he helped you make and speed up the move you couldn't make yourself; else you would have wasted your beautiful years sulking and sucking up to a mere mortal who wasn't even present when God formed your beautiful parts. God may not find it funny seeing how little you price yourself despite how much you mean to him.
Don't stay wherever you are treated less than a human. Don't give any human that power over you not even your spouse. You see Israel's ex-wife and how she left with her dignity despite how young she is, a lot of ladies in miserable marriages need to learn from her. She may be young but she is very wise and has high self-esteem. Some would even refuse to go thinking they gave the man their virginity but she put her sanity, self-worth and peace of mind at the forefront of everything.
The only thing left is for you to go and take your child. Don't worry he won't fight you like he claimed if he sees your resolve not to down. Was it not the same child he ignored and took up his responsibility for? so why do you think he would care if you both left his life besides the lady is pregnant so with time he may not care about the safety of your child considering how wicked he is.
Go and take your son with you. Having him with you, seeing him daily, will inspire and trigger you to work harder to give him a better life.
God will give you your husband. You will laugh at last. Be patient and have faith.
Words on Marble.
Sometimes that kick is needed but God please I don’t want it.
DeleteLike I know I could do better financially if I start my business or go into another career, but God please you know I’ve prayed privately and praying here, pls don’t let let me get fired or laid off. If I’m to leave let me do so at my own time
Amen
Sorry about your experience,but you should have just left with your child, nobody can take care of your son like you.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand what you went through but I pray that God use it to turn things around for you positively.
DeletePls go and get your son back!! Enrol him in the school where you teach. They would give you a discount. Then keep hustling.After all that happened you still trust a woman who was sleeping with yours behind your back to take good care of him. They will brainwash that child. The man will even lie that he begged you to stay and you refused but walked away.
ReplyDeleteA word is enough if you’re wise
Yes I agree. How on earth can you trust an heartless person to treat your son like a mother...someone that brought you nothing but pains? Abeg Poster, I beg you in the name of everything that is good, go & take your son out of that place asap...to avoid stories that touch 🙏
DeleteI detest any woman that leaves their children behind. I can never rate you or help you never ever. I was divorced and homeless with two children. The man knows I will kill him if he tries to take my kids from me. Men knows the type of women to try that shit with. I took them never looked back. Rubbish
ReplyDeletePlease don’t talk like this. Sometimes, a woman has to save herself first to be able to save her child. Moreover, the child does not belong to the woman alone, they belong to both the woman and man so anyone can have custody at a particular time as long as the child is being taken care of
DeleteBut anon 17:28, how does a mother sleep at night knowing her child is in the hands of a she devil? Hian, I no fit o!
DeleteHmmmmm Stella Amen to your marriage. I wonder how someone will go and marry someone else child only for evil intentions.
ReplyDeleteLeaving your son behind is a grave mistake. I pray you don't live to regret. The care a mother will give her own child can not be compared to another, especially with the circumstances that led to the other lady confidently coming into your home any time she pleases. Like Stella rightly said, your son will be used as an errand boy. You could have dared your ex-husband; I bet he won't leave his son unattended in terms of welfare. Your calculations might be wrong.
ReplyDeleteI pray you stand on your feet like you projected, and please go back for your son as soon as possible. May God heal you and grant you your desires, "if positive."
I think the mother examined this situation and decided this was best for now
ReplyDeleteMy friend left without her children.they are thriving. Sometimes your child needs comforts you know you can’t provide. Let him stay and eat three meals and turn on Ac and go to a good school. Some men are crappy husbands but good dads
Suffering is not easy pls
Make she enjoy the public prick and make sure you go take your son soon.
ReplyDeletePls Go back and get your son, to me that's the most important thing you should do now. Since you even have a place to move to.
ReplyDeleteThe Lord is your 💪🏻
it is well !
Put your trust only on God.it's well.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
The trauma of you not being around on your son is much, and the scar is not visible. Please go and pick up your son. Sue your ex to social welfare in your area, he will definitely sit up about his welfare.
ReplyDeleteMartins please where is the link to the first chronicle this poster sent
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
It's well dear poster
ReplyDeleteI pray that God will come through for you Financially and Emotionally in Jesus name. Amen
It's well with you poster...but please no matter the situation you're in,go and carry your son....they might turn his heart against you just to get back at you... pls go and carry your son.
ReplyDeleteCan you go and get your son she might be pretending outside but inside na slippers dey land for the boy head or hurtful words ,go back and tell them the boy will start staying with you for now that you have a change of mind take your child with you ,how do you explain to people that you re back without your son I know you must be missing him, do you know why will even motivate you the more your son him knowing that you didn't leave him behind and you waking everyday to see him around you , he is the humanity you re seeing out of that mess, the sunshine you wake up to everyday,his smiles will brighten your day, he is your strength
ReplyDeleteHe will motive you to hustle harder if it's pap start ,if it's akara start, if it's buns learn and start, it will be hard o but the joy of seeing your boy and his smiles is priceless I can never ever leave my child in a home a woman and a horseband that did this to me, kt your baby be your walking stick wetin sef you re alive and have a shelter go collect your pikin since you said he is not dragging him with you , you said if you take him he might support let him not support nah ,take him first when you get yourself fo to welfare for child support, what's even the worst that he has not done go and take your child ,the type of my mum she will tell you I na a gba dokpuru nwa gi ie as you dey run run with your pikin
Wicked horseband, shameless side chick.
ReplyDeletePoster the Lord is your strength.
Poster sorry about your ordeal try and go back for your son it's better you guys stick together he is still tender now to avoid drilling some negative words about you ,sometimes it creates gap in development of a child,by the time he is back to you it will like a stranger things create that bond he needs it now before the will tell him you abandon him ,one of my antie when she ran from Lagos to east left her son do you know that the man called her family mockingly that their daughter left her son in his words even if I dragged the big that she couldn't even out up a fight for her biological child and she call herself a mother my antie said that words broke her till today
ReplyDeleteGo back for your son he is not dragging him with you for that woman to get mind enter your house you shouldn't have ,she promised what if she maltreat the boy inside no be woman again wey get this kain mind.
May God come through for you try and get yourself together even if the money for school never ready out him in govt school or lesson so that he will learn with others improvise and make headway about the situation I'm happy you re well and you will make it Amen
Men be staining white on a daily. SMH
ReplyDeletePoster, it is well with you. I doubt he'll release the boy when you go back for him. The longer you leave him there, the more difficult it'll become.
Go and pick your child and manage whatever you had with you, God will come through for you.
ReplyDeleteThis is so painful. I pray you get on your feet fast so you can pick your child. All the best to you
ReplyDelete"As she take drive you comot,na so another person go pursue her comot..."
ReplyDeleteAmen!
Na lie. To each his or her own. De there de deceive yourself. Nobody de die for better for worse again,learn or perish in it.
DeletePoster sorry for what you went through but try to get your son as soon as possible
ReplyDeleteGo back and get your child, na just 1 child o. if you, adult can run back to your parents house, you for carry the pikin go. Ladies, especially singles planning to marry, make una try de look for source of income before and immediately after marriage. stop thinking na soft life for man to de provode everything while yours na to cook, sex and born.
ReplyDeleteYpu people will ntinue to swallow bile on issues that are of no consequence anymore. The tenets of traditional marriages are no longer sustainable. There is no more for better for worse, not till death do they path. Its like parenting, if you don't review the old principles with the quickly evolving times, you will be left to perish in needless pain and sorrow. Just like the farmers who refused to mechanised when the machines arrived. Nothing bad will happen to the new wife or the man, he is tired and needs to move on, he may have communicated it to the ex but she was stuck in the old for maybe selfish reasons sef. Becos it must be so unhealthy to stay claiming you love someone who has told and showed you he doesn't love you. Women should be independent, love themselves and know that the old kind of marriages these new days are more liabilities than assets. The world has moved on, you move on too abeg. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeleteI have no sympathy for wicked women like you that leaves their children behind for someone else to raise. The environment is not good for you, but good for your son.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you not leave your son with your parents.
You are a wicked woman.