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BV am I wrong?
I met someone online and we moved to Whatsapp, within few minutes of chatting he asked to see my pix and I sent him, then he asked for my full names and I only gave my first name, though he gave me his full name without me asking so he was demanding I do the same . Thats my first middle and last name and I declined, I only give my first name that I might give my other names later.
BV am I wrong?
I met someone online and we moved to Whatsapp, within few minutes of chatting he asked to see my pix and I sent him, then he asked for my full names and I only gave my first name, though he gave me his full name without me asking so he was demanding I do the same . Thats my first middle and last name and I declined, I only give my first name that I might give my other names later.
He immediately stop chatting with me insisting I must tell him my full names before he can continue.
I locked up o, I no get time abeg.
Am I wrong not to have given him my full names few minutes into chatting?
Yes you are wrong to have with held info.......If you ping me on Whatsapp and dont tell me who you are, I will delete stop responding at once....
Some of you want to get partners but when you meet people your bad side comes out.
The stories that end up in Marriage how do you people thing it starts? What is even with your name that you wont give it out? DEY PLAY!
He want to make a research to be sure it's real you. A lot of scammers are online these days. He gave you his full names, you should also do same.
ReplyDeleteYou can’t even be sure those are his names
DeleteJust say let’s add each other on Facebook
he just want to make findings...my sister call him and discuss with him..or he is not your spec...
Deletemy sister man full outside oooo...but husband is rare
He may have given fake names
DeleteShe said they met online, so I am sure it's one of the social media platform. If the guy is her spec, this chronicles won't have been born, "she for don rush give her real and full names sharp sharp"
DeleteMicho online is probably a dating site
Deleteupdate me for the dating site..i dey find wife....GOD help me
DeleteHe wants to verify if you're whom you say you are. People lie a lot.
ReplyDeleteVery Childish...
ReplyDeleteBig sis Stella it’s rough
ReplyDeleteI know the guy might be legit but some guys want your full name and pic with ulterior motives. Some wan carry go baba
You donminit ? Jus now jus now? What a wawu
DeleteSingle and searching don suffer.
DeleteOn an entirely different note.. in India, there is straight up arranged marriage. No compatibility checks.
15:46 Indians do compatibility checks
DeleteGo watch Indian matchmaker on Netflix
First and last name is ok. I don't blame him. He wants to be sure he isn't chatting with a shim.
ReplyDeleteWhatever it is just chat him up apologize and give or better still next time you me a guy and he ask for your full name, ask you add yourselves on Facebook.
DeleteIn that way ask he check you out you do thesame.
Next time send him your account number to credit you he will see your full name there 😂😂😂😂 ok bye
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DeletePlease I don’t agree with Stella on this. How are you sure the names that he gave you is even true?? With the way a lot of fraud is going on in the world, one has to be very sure about whom they are chatting with online. The fact that he stopped chatting you cos you refused to give him your full name is already a red flag to me.
ReplyDeleteTo me too oh
DeleteI understand wanting to be sure but a guy in this day and age that doesn’t understand this babes hesitation probably has some maturing to do. At some point, she will have to share those details but he can take it easy.
I agree. He may even have given her a fake name. Who asks for middle name at the initial stage of getting to know someone? Why didn't he request for a video call so both of you can verify that the image you have of each other is real? Poster be careful o. Let them not use your photo and name to go and create a Facebook account that they will use to dupe people outside the country. With your middle name involved , it will be hard for you to deny not knowing who was behind the account if security agents land on your doorstep. You see call outs on FB where I live in NA. No sane person will commit fraud with their real name and photo.
DeleteIf they ask for photo, ask for a video call instead. Both of you should see each other.
The middle name part is sketchy as AF
DeleteIdentity theft and scammer alert! I posted somethings for fast sale on FB marketplace and someone with a profile if two elderly white senior citizens came for the most expensive items. I researched them and found an old picture of two young men taken in front of those “sliced glass” windows and chipped paint house that I knew “seemed”Nigerian back in the 80s. I threatened to report them to FBI, and they completely disappeared from my FB radar! Another way they scam is your mother’s maiden name , your middle name or middle initial. Many here do not have middle names so it is not compulsory to rebel Don’t give it out. It’s not enough reason for this guy to get upset if there was good faith on his side. It seems there wasn’t. Trust your instinct.
DeleteOne of my colleagues was duped by a Naija guy. The red flag was that “he loved cats”. He had collected money from her & disappeared by the time she confided in me. I simply told her it was a very deep red flag as cats are used as mice catchers in Nigeria back then and any Naija man that said he shared her deep love of cats was a scammer. Be careful out there.
You met online and haven't seen one on one. How long or how well do you know him to disclose your full identify ??? Online dating is kinda ..........??? Use your head.
ReplyDeleteTo me, full name shouldn't be an issues. They are other weighter aspect of a persons life that he should be concerned about. How are we even sure that the full name he gave to you are his real names. This is what people do all the time. When asked for their names they generate a name that never existed
ReplyDeletePoster you are wrong. If you can send your pics why can't you send your name, he go chop am?
ReplyDeleteYou did nothing wrong. You should always do what you are comfortable with in life and relationships.
ReplyDeleteYou wanted to move at your pace while he wanted you to move at his own pace. He gave you his full name but how are you sure that was his full name, truly?
Even if it was, you didn't ask him not demanded the full details he provided. He gave it out voluntarily so you weren't under any obligation to give yours out when you weren't feeling up to it yet. I find people who do that to be very sly. They give out information about themselves without you asking to make you feel relaxed and divulge more about yourself and when you don't fall for it you look bad. I think it is a form of guilt-tripping.
You both won't even work out if you date. Compromise would be an issue so it is good it ended the way it did.
Now, did you see how he moved on easily when you did not fit into his expectations of how an online date should respond, without thinking twice he let you go While you are here still thinking of him. Well, you should take a cue from that action of his and learn one or two things from it. Unlike you who is feeling unsure if you did the right thing or not after you have made your decision.
I don't know if it is a scarcity mindset but if it was a lady on the other end who demanded the full name of the guy she is interacting with and he declined by giving her only his first name she would continue, bending and twisting to his ways even if she does not subscribe to it. I respect the guy for moving on and that is how you ladies should act too when men do not fit into what you are looking for rather than tolerating what you do not like or want.
Learn from that guy.
You did nothing wrong and always learn to stand by your decisions no matter the outcome. Be true to yourself.
Words on Marble.
Oh such a wise man 😉💆💆💆
DeleteDid he also send you his picture without you asking?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm oline dating dey fear me oooo
ReplyDeleteYou should have given him your full name..man is trying to be careful of scammers
ReplyDeleteShe shouldn’t have done anything she’s not comfortable with
DeleteHe’s not comfortable with something and he moved on
Ladies should do that more often
You got to be open minded if you want to date someone or know someone.
ReplyDeleteUnless your name is a code to Swiss Account.
I don't see anything wrong in you withholding your full name. You're just being careful.
ReplyDeleteDo what you're comfortable with. The World is so wicked and scammers are everywhere, be careful, please.
I think to me asking for a full name when you're just meeting for the first time or trying to get to know each other on a first date or on a chat, I think it's not all that proper to me.
ReplyDeleteA first name is okay for a start and then gradually you can ask of it. I think it was too hasty to me. The only reason I will support a full name is when it's for business purposes.
A lady I dated though it was short lived, asked for my full names and I knew she wanted to check me on Facebook to see if I am married. I gave her my full names. After some minutes, she called to say she can't find me on Facebook that there are many names same as mine. I smiled cos I know she can't find me easily and beside my settings doesn't enable an engine search on my names.
I told her don't worry I will send you a friend request for I have already seen and gone all through your photos and post. No she didn't give me her full names but when I stored her number, I got her Facebook ID through import.
Lastly, I wouldn't blame the guy asking you for your full names but then it was too hasty. Maybe he wants to check the kind of person you are and the content you put out there on Facebook so he wouldn't waste his time on a slay queen.
Your full name won't add money 2his account. I don't understand why you withheld that information.
ReplyDeleteYou are very wrong
ReplyDeleteWith your name will he be able to take money from your account 😞
You should have given him your name since he gave you his own full name.
Girl, do what you are fully comfy with in the talking stage. Guy should have been a little patient but he chose to bounce, please do same.
ReplyDeleteAnd you are not wrong dear
Dear writer, please in the name of God, don't ever give a total stranger your full names: names and surname. They will take it to do jazz to hypnotize you. Don't ever! @ Anonymous that said he might want your full names for utlterior motives is actually right. Strange things are happening. One once asked me for my first and second names, my sure name and my mother's name. I could tell it was for evil intentions; I covered myself with The Blood of Jesus, and ran faster that Aboki Okada... You should block and delete this person - he doesn't mean well!
ReplyDeleteYour mother's name?
DeleteForget it. Not jazz intentioned.
More likely fraudulent intentioned. This is because most banks use mothers name as security test question.
21:11 they use mother name for Jazz
DeletePastors use it to pray too
My dear you're not wrong. It's nice t bad to be security conscious
ReplyDeleteI see nothing wrong with what he did nor with your refusal to give your full names.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I'm pretty sure if it was your account information he requested for, you'd have sent with no reservations and you'd make sure he gets everything correctly. 😂🤣😂😅
Most men why they request full name, is to find out what tribe a person is from....... Instead of going direct to find out they indirectly use name to research. I see nothing wrong in giving out names thou.
ReplyDeleteYou never want love just dey play. Ordinary name you dey hold back. Ok na
ReplyDeletePlease don't give him your complete name,he might have given you fake names
ReplyDeleteI think he was too hard on you. These things take time. He's now the one for you, let him move along abeg
ReplyDeleteI don't see anything wrong with telling someone your full name, he took the first step to tell you his.
ReplyDeleteAren't you proud of your lineage?
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