Hmmm.......
ADVICE NEEDED
I entered a contractual agreement with someone.
Now the person is catching feelings. Please how do I manage this? The person is kinda my spec but I am way older and more advanced in my career.
Plus, we are both single and I have heard him say he can never be with someone older and richer. I am confused. I like him too, but don't want emotions to get in the way. I have a goal.
He saw me with my fellowship bros and got angry, jealous and furious to the extent of blocking me. Please advise me.
He is not OK; dont fall for that trick, it is what most younger men use when they meet older women with money...If you are looking for anything serious, dont try it, you will lose your heart and your money but if you are a player or wanna be a player and dont mind losing money, then go ahead..... OTHER STAY AWAY ANY ROMANTIC ENTANGLEMENT WITH HIM....leave him, when he is tired and sees that his plan did not work, he will unblock you...
I support Stella on this one
ReplyDeleteLustful feelings he's got. Nothing more.
DeleteStella has said it all.
DeleteDon't fall.for such trick
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More like you are the one catching the feeling if not while the chronicle and confusion?
ReplyDeleteHe already blocked you so you can face your goals. If he decides to unblock you go ahead and tell him your age that way emotions won't get in the way of your goalssssss.
Lol😀 @ gooalzzzzz
DeleteThe guy is a gold digger and has no integrity
DeleteNa covetousness not love
He is very emotionally unintelligent that is why he foolishly and childishly blocked you on top of stupidity (jealousy)
I give such people distance because he is problems and chaos waiting to happen
Finish your contract, CUT HIM AND HIS CHILDISHNESS TURN OFF BEHAVING SELF OFF XOMPLETELY
Anon 6 56💯💯💯. Pure chaos. Sounds like you learned the hard way like I did.
DeleteThe case is more like saying don't mix work with pleasure. You have heard him say he can't date an older woman , don't go and be catching feelings for him , let the feelings die, else he will just use you clean mouth or catch cruise. Don't stoop low or allow your feelings to over-ride your decision.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster stop being carried away by his fake signs to lore you, just focus on the contract that brought you two together and if he has not mentioned it to you, it will save you better. So ignore him and treat him or act in a way that will discourage his intentions
DeleteGood luck
Hmmmmmm run oh!
Delete1. R. U. N!!!
ReplyDelete2. PYSCHO sighted!
3. GOLD DIGGER sighted!
Can you cancel that contract? If not GIVE HIM ATTITUDE AND BE VERY NASTY AND SHOW HIM IS PLACE.
If you are not firm with this you will do regret the day you set your eyes on him.
Hope you haven't slept with him o. Like, where did he get the audacity to act up because he saw you with another man?!!!
I am so scared for you right now!
See this one..
DeleteYou forget to ask her to also read The Secret..
Does this chronicle look straight forward to you?
"but I am way older and more advanced in my career." My dear, you don't sound older at all
ReplyDeleteFeelings kor emotins nii
Forget about him now way you dey never catch heartbreak plus giving cookies for freeeee
He blocked you, you too block him.
ReplyDeleteYou can give him a trial, I think his standards have been redefined with you. Speak to him first and find out what he feels. Tell him what he said as well and how it made you feel and hear him out. This things happen, he has fallen into his I will never.
ReplyDeleteDon't speak to him about any feelings because that will be a quick way to manipulate you. Just pretend as if you have not noticed that he is interested in you
DeleteThe guy is an emotionally unstable person with poor self esteem (seeing her fellowship person and misbehaving)
DeleteMadam he is a fool with no self control , road no dey there , press delete
Seems you're the one catching feelings. Why will you be bothered if he blocks you? As an introvert, if you block me, I'd scream hallelujah! Peace at last!
ReplyDeleteHe saw you with your fellowship brother, he got angry, jealous and furious, to the extent of blocking you". What were you doing with the brother' when he saw you?? He would have asked for explanation before his actions.
ReplyDeleteAnyways since two of you are catching feeling, share the love and feel it. Love won't stop you from chasing your goal, there is time for everything.
No mind am..
DeleteShe no still talk wetin she dey do with the brother or how the both of them been dey when he see them..
She just come dey whine herself..
After she don do contract with the guy say then go probably only they nack eachother without cheating until a particular time..
Just wait until you hear the contract FESS🙄
The contract is probably for papers. Una no dey think pass knack
Delete17:30
DeleteNa wetin dey him brain be that , nothing useful to add
Madam don't be deceived , he is a covetous man wey don see your properties and wants to reap where he didn't sow
Running Running 🏃♂️, I'm Running
ReplyDeleteThis boy is childish.
ReplyDeleteAnd also a scammer
Madam run 🏃♀️
Japa
Poster you see this Stella’s red pen, please that’s the advise you you take. If you ignore it, you will definitely come back with the main chronicle.
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
I think you have also caught feelings for him if not you wouldn’t be here today asking questions.
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you the plain truth ehhh even if you try dating him and end up married to him you will suffer it. Don’t joke or play down his words of not wanting an older woman that is really who he is. I know you might want to taste the water by telling him your are older and prays he accepts you like that, the good news is he will be with you but within a short time those his words will manifest in him, don’t say I didn’t warn you. ✌️
People change their minds all the time pls
DeleteHe might like her
17:31 men are not people they are very logical we women think with our hearts she will learn cos he will cheat or leave her halfway with a lady his age or younger believe a man’s words don’t twist it
DeleteHe doesn't like her
DeleteHe doesn't see her as a person (only a means to an end)
He is narrow-minded, selfish and MEAN
He is setting trap to eat you, eat, your money, divorce you later after wrecking you
He is emotionally unstable and destructive
Na thief wey dey hide him true colours since but the mask don dey slip off
RUN O
Madam run ooo
Na friends with benefits you dey call contractual agreement? Is that what you kids call it these days?
ReplyDeleteWell, if it is a business arrangement and your emotions are getting in the way, you either get a hold of your emotions or you simply tell the young man how you feel. Whether he'll throw it in your face is a risk you should be conscious of.
Mixing business with pleasure sounds like a generally bad move to me. Not everything is worth pursuing.
OG💯
DeleteNa the same thing I reply below before scrolling up to read comments.
They always think they're slick with words, what kind of agreement?
See as she's painting the guy like a fool, someone would just begin to act jealous for no reason?
Haba Aunty!
Poster don't fall for this big trap, he has told you his preference already, better stick to the original plan or you carry your slippers and run o...
ReplyDeleteHmmmm this type of stories doesn't end well
Unless you can play too Sha!
Don't even get entangled with him please.. U are not even dating yet and he's blocking u because he saw u with some guys really.. U will loose ur self esteem and yourself if u fall for him and he will manipulate u because he knows u like him..
ReplyDeleteJust pack ur face and face front, act like u don't care about what he thinks or feel and see him come back to his senses..
Poster go COLD
DeleteHe is a trickster and disaster waiting to happen
He is getting impatient that the trap he set for you has not caught you yet
RUN O
If the feeling is mutual, then there's no harm in trying, But be very wise about it.
ReplyDeleteThere is harm please
DeleteThe guy has already shown he is a nuisance and emotionally, mentally unstable
Exactly as Stella said.
ReplyDeletePoster don't let a small be boy use you, those are tactics, you are supposed to know that. We've all been young before so see through him. A young man in love with you will respect you and wouldn't act like a little brat. He will wait and tell you at home with utmost respect. When a younger guy is in love, he will serve you and will never be bossy. They respect both your age and the relationship not this one acting like King Kong. He's just manipulating you.
Well said!
DeleteWhy are you confuse with all his traits except you want to be duped,insulted, embarrassed and dumped.
ReplyDeleteLife is not that hard. You heard him say he can never be with someone older and richer and you are older and richer, right? That is your answer.
ReplyDeleteSome ladies will hear a man say to them, "The man that will marry you will be lucky," yet they will continue the relationship only to feel bad when it is over meanwhile the man has been dropping hints.
The fact that he blocked you when he saw you talking to someone should be a red flag to you. He needs to grow up. Who has time for impulsiveness and childish tantrums? He seems like too much work, if you ask me.
I can tell he hasn't asked you out outright but just giving mixed signals. A serious person would make his hidden intentions known to you straight away if he feels he has competitors you won't slip away into the arms of another man and not try to guilt trip you.
He has sensed you like him so he is trying to emotionally blackmail you so you lose guard.
How can a serious person block someone they have a contractual agreement with? What about the continuity of your business dealings? Avoid this child for your sanity and let things be strictly business between you too henceforth. Turn 360% and be strictly professional in your interactions with him.
He may be your spec in terms of looks but his personality is cringey.
Someone like that would be keeping malice every second of the relationship as a form of control to manipulate his partner. You will keep walking on eggshells and develop anxiety over time when he has you where he wants you.
He seems controlling too with anger issues.
When he unblocks you and he is finally ready to talk be Brisk in your responses and a bit distant. Don't let him get away with his mannerlessness. He needs to learn how to regulate his emotions properly, that is if he wasn't faking it to start with, going over the top like that.
Your last paragraph is very very important
DeleteSee all the red flags, and you are still asking questions...
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of contractual agreement did you enter? Please reply anonymously for some specifics. How did you meet him? What contract did you sign? How old are you? All these will guide us to advise you correctly.
ReplyDeleteExactly, same thing I said below..
DeleteBecause na their way be that, them no go talk something finish to paint themselves innocent always.. see everyone insulting the guy as usual instead of asking the right questions first
Someone that's not in a relationship with you,got furious and blocked you because he saw you with another bro,that guy is not for you,he has a mission,you had better start creating healthy boundaries between you two.
ReplyDeleteTake Stella's red ink seriously. I agree with her
ReplyDeleteSo you need advice regarding someone who has not fully matured yet. You see glaring red flags on many levels but you there contemplating. Wtf you need advice for? You know damn well that there is trouble on the road, you want to enter then when you drop into some deep ditch and break some limbs you write again wondering what went wrong. It will be sweet on your lips and sour in your belly.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of nonsense is that? He blocked you, then allow him to wallow in his nonsense imaginations. Did you promise to date him? Did he ever tell you that he wants a romantic relationship with you? Why are you stressing your mind over this boy? Is it not contract that you both are in for? Pretend as if you have no idea why he reacted that way. When he sees that you are not falling for that gimmick, he will retrace his steps and come out open to toast you the normal way, with that your full respect will remain. Then it's left for you to decide if you will say 'yes or no'
ReplyDeleteNever answer the toasting of a fool
DeleteWhat kind of contractual agreement?
ReplyDeleteRelationship contract?
Contract to father your kids?
Just say a contract agreement with someone is vague
Arrangee with Akatar for iwe.
DeleteDoes he feel the same way?you need to take it slowly and be careful not to hurt yourself during this process.
ReplyDeleteThere is no genuine feeling na trap
DeleteHe will shop your ponyon and money for free, u dey do bonanza with your life I beg ruuuuuun.
ReplyDeleteSo is he supposed to pay before chopping the ponyon? She dey do buying and selling with the ponyon?
DeletePoster run for your life
ReplyDeleteHe is a bad market
Gbam
DeleteGbam
DeleteStella advice is so on point if you like listen
ReplyDeleteThat agreement need to be speak out, he already told u wat can work with him still u still thinking it, to be i will just let go let him find his type that won't be richer and older
ReplyDeleteHe blocked you, you too block him and forget about whatever contract you both had, it's as simple as ABC.
ReplyDeleteShe might need the contract na
DeleteShe never ready to talk truth, that his statement “older and richer” he is referring to you! That nigga knows your age and he knows you are richer!
DeleteLet me interpret his words for you since you are slow “ I know you are older and richer than me so I can have a fling with you but anything more than a fling count me out I can’t keep a older woman like you” the green light he is giving means fling a.k.a Fuuk and run
18:04 Gbam. She’s too dumb to know what’s up. He go use her well and her eyes go clear. She will still do what’s on her mind!
DeleteJust take a walk....... Proud and arrogant people can destroy.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Stella on this one. Na strategy
ReplyDeleteAll guys are not the same oh
ReplyDeleteGive him a chance if you want
Just don’t loan him money and have sex only if you want to
Forget about that guy and move on,you can not be happy with his type........ Josaria
ReplyDeleteSee, package that feeling and throw it into the Atlantic ocean and RUN !!!!!!??
ReplyDeleteShe won’t listen. Women and our nonsense emotions. This guy told you his spec from the get go. If you end up getting hurt then that’s on you. And you. Better don’t blame this on men. Some women are used to toxicity so na you sabi.
DeleteHe made his stand known to you from day one, if you go ahead and fall in love with one chance, that's your own making.
ReplyDeleteYou don fvck that guy hence his reaction. Carry your cross if anything happens.
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