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A RESPONSE TO SATURDAY CHRONICLE- Read Original Chronicle HERE

Great time of the day Stella. This is Dogalmighty. For a long while now, there's been a general theme of complaints about cheating married men. It has become a bit of a pandemic I'll say. I don't excuse cheating but I believe there are triggers that need to be identified and addressed. That's why I'm making this post. The decision to push it on your blog is solely yours of course.

So here goes:

This may be coming in late. Of course I have always made my position on cheating clear in this blog. I have never deviated from it. Cheating can never be excused for ANY reason. That said, let me play bit of devils advocate. 

I seat with my friends from time to time. Most of us are married. A number do cheat. Some are hopeless cases. They will cheat without reason. I have cut those ones off. The few who have and genuinely seemed to regret it are the ones I've taken time to reach out to and counsel. Of course I have never told  them that what I'm facing is far more grevious than what they are basing their cheating on. But yet i don't go around cheating. No one knows tommorow though, so let me not blow my trumpet.

CAN A CHEATING MAN BE HELPED?

For a number of women, they knew the man they married was a chronic cheat before they married him. The man may even have been cheating with her behind his main girlfriend then. These women already factored in the cheating constant before they went ahead and married the man. They don't like that the husband cheats but they've accepted it. These kind of women don't post chronicles but they are in the comment section of every cheating chronicle giving hard advices that they don't live by and can't dare try. My post is not for them. They are enablers.

So like I asked, can a cheating man be helped IF it WAS NOT a thing he was doing before you married him?

1. A man who was not cheating previously and started doing so suddenly, may actually be calling for help. Men, generally are very reticent in voicing out concerns. And some will rather bear the situation for a while instead of having it addressed. If there was a thing bothering him about the wife and he may have brought it up previously and the wife took his concern the wrong way, he may not bring that issue up again. When the opportunity arises, he may fall and find himself cheating.

I'll share an example. John (real name) is a staff of a federal university. He leaves for work early. The wife, a full time housewife, doesn't bother about his breakfast. She knows they are struggling so the husband can't really afford eating out. She doesn't care. That matter went on until a student in school, hearing that John mentioned he was hungry, went home, prepared food and brought to John. That began the start of their relationship. She cooks every day and brings it to him at work. She goes the extra mile for him. 

He has stopped asking the wife for breakfast and not once has she asked him why.  Johns wife is a tailor. She makes money but when the kids are hungry, she'll rather sit and wait for John to return home so that he can sort  it out. He is in massive debts as a result. From time to time, his side chick sends him money to feed his home. The wife spends her own money at her will. Most times not in favour of the home. John is now considering marrying the side chic as a second wife. 

Never allow another woman show your husband more care than you do.

2. Letting yourself go. Yes, childbirth changes womens bodies. That is a known fact. However, your husband had a spec when he married you. He may have probably voiced out his concern and you ignored it. Yes, I know that in this tasking economy, staying in shape really isn't a priority for most women. A change in spec certainly isn't what a number of men bargain for.

 A mans sexual needs are very primal. Prick no get sense o! Anything that makes you become less attractive to your spouse should be avoided. Never be caught unfresh! 

I know of a wife that has tied the same wrapper for 2 weeks unwashed! The husband leaves for work in the morning, she's in wrapper. He returns home, she's in the same wrapper.  It was inevitable that he'd cheat. 

3. Any woman that respects your husband more than you do, can snatch your man. I don't think this one needs to be explained. Respect is oxygen for a man just the way that love and affectional affirmation is oxygen for a woman. Some men, rather than confront your disrespect, will rather get it outside. 

When you have everything a man should desire and your man still cheats outside, it is best you first do an internal check. 

4. Some women just marry and settle. People spend years in school studying for professional certifications. They still spend time and money on refresher courses to keep up to date. Why should marriage, an institution that it is, be different? Active self improvement should be every married spouse goal. Years after marriage, you can't still suck dick or you as a man, you can't lick plate well... Your knowledge base hasn't increased. There's nothing novel about you. You aren't helping your case.

5. Time! Time!! Time!!!

Make yourself available for your spouse as much as you can. By doing so, you also can begin to predict your spouse schedule. Na free time dem dey use cheat. If you as a woman know where your spouse will be per time, it will be hard for him to cheat. Everyone has a pattern. That's how the police catch serial killers outside DNA.. I'm not saying you should stalk your partner. Just use your head.

I can say this for a fact. No woman is more deliberate, intentional and submissive than a woman who wants to steal a man. In the same line, there are women that can't be cheated on.

I'll say it again, this post is for women who can't understand why a man who initially wasn't cheating starts cheating. If you knew he was a cheat before you married him, you are an enabler and you don't have a case.

6. My final point. Men may hate me for this even though most of them don't know this. The easiest way to know if your man is cheating is this:

MONITOR HIS SPERM VOLUME!

Yes o! Biologically, every man and woman is naturally programmed for reproduction. It doesn't matter if you are starving. You must ovulate as a woman or produce sp#rm as a man. For a man, his ejaculation volume is dependant on the last time he released. He produces more farther away from his last release.

If it has been a while you made love to your husband and you guys f#ck and his cum is less than usual, your oga don f#ck outside. Make sure he comes on you not in you from time to time. That way you get an idea of his ejaculate volume. If your husband m#sturbates while married to you, then you are the problem.

All said, if he will cheat, he will. Just don't be the reason why. 

Hmmmmm this your writeup get as e be........ Women should not be the reason men cheat? men who cheat will cheat, they dont need any reason at all please