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He cautioned single women to be careful when thinking about a relationship with a man in his forties, highlighting the significance of carrying out extensive study and due diligence before making a lifetime commitment.
In response to his claim, numerous men commented in the comment section of the post that his assertion is not true and that they are simply having trouble finding good women. .....
Na you sabi.
ReplyDeleteThe same factors binding women not married in their 40s could be same with men e.g heartbreak
Thank you! People will see a man in his 40s still single and start thinking something is wrong with him but would make excuses for a woman. What if the man too has been experiencing heartbreak, disappointments from women? Men too can have high standards, just like women you know, and wont just settle for anybody.
Delete"Wise" pastors know that a congregation of more women is more profitable so they like titillating the eyes of women.
DeleteBut Bible reading and understanding women know what to hear and act on.
This man just knows how to keep women as his congregation, he says things they wants to hear either truth or false, he cares more about his followership and popularity.
DeleteBut if he preaches as your usual patriachal way then it's normal. Anything can hold anyone not to marry though
Deletehmmmmmnnnnn....ok
ReplyDeleteI don't like the advice at all, let people marry at their own desire time. If they rush to marry without having any thing going on in their lives, you will still condemn them of why marry early. Is just like saying a girl who's not married at 30+ has issues, is that true? No. Everything about this man and his wife is marriage, abegggi.
ReplyDeleteSensible comment..
DeleteIf we agree he is correct, then the same applies to women in their 30s
You dey mind am
DeleteEverytime marriage marriage as if without getting married you will not enter heaven
That's his Calling / Ministry
DeleteThis one has twisted the narrative to suit her mentality. If you like, don’t see the truth in what he is saying especially as he is a man and knows what’s up with guys.
DeleteA few famous men who got married late actually said it was just a mindset thing for them until they met the one. They viewed marriage in some negative way and one day they met someone and just knew they couldn’t go on without them in their life.
DeleteAs a pastor he should be careful about putting labels on ppl. I understand what he is saying, but deep checks and investigations should be the norm at any age. If most of the bv’s had committed to doing deep checks and investigations half the chronicles we receive would not exist, and life would be happier for many
Well said@12:26.
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DeleteI don’t take this pastor seriously.
DeleteSluttychic.
Anonymous 12!26 well-done.
Delete@ Shyla you just wrote my mind. Exactly what I have in mind
DeleteWhat about Regina Daniels that married a man in his 70s and her family is reapong the fruits now?
ReplyDeleteDifferent strokes for different folks
ReplyDeletePlenty of teachings everywhere, may God grant us wisdom to make decisions that will benefit us. Amen
DeleteExactly let everyone do what suits them. These pastors be confusing people up and down
DeleteAs a Bv used to ask here.
DeleteWhat verse of the Bible is he preaching from as a Pastor?
Many of them are bad market
ReplyDeleteSame with many women in their 30s🙄
DeleteThank you ojare. You got his explanation wella. Bad market that wants to control the woman and her finances while also exhibiting narcissistic behaviors.
DeleteJudging by most comments here, they didn’t bother to get his narrative before jumping in to castigate him.
Men in their 40s are women in their 30s..
ReplyDeleteMany are just desperate to settle down, some couldn't settle down earlier because of their 'bad' behaviour.. and very few actually are not interested in marriage, been busy building their career or life happened.. but these are the exceptions..
The general rule of men in their 40s and women in their 30s- bad character and desperation to settle down.. be very cautious with them.. they can pretend to be what they're not
@Dante...what about heartbreak for both genders? not always bad character...balance your views.
DeleteSpot on
DeleteDante this is not always true. I dated and was supposed to get married in my 20s but the dude wasted my time after almost 6yrs we broke up. The next guy did same after 2yrs without mentioning marriage sef. I can boldly say I'm not a bad person,infact I've been told I'm well mannered. My husband married me within 7months in my late 30s and I'm older than him with 1 year. He says everyday that he's happy he married me.
DeleteAka let’s all be mad 😂😂@ Dantes response
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DeleteI don't doubt you.
But all I'm trying to say is that if we would go with this 40s narrative for men, then we shouldn't excuse 30s narrative for women..
We can't be excusing and understanding one but judge the other.
Don't say is bad character that makes them not marry early. Most of them are not that lucky to meet the right one. You can be good,have good character and still end up with the wrong person.
DeleteWhen it comes to relationships, marriage and choices, the rule book hardly gets it conclusion right.
ReplyDeleteBut in his case, it's what you get when someone thinks they have a better people's story. Some of his opinion on this emotional issues, often doesn't conform to definite human practicalities but narrow logic or theories.
Different Strokes for different folks. Not an advocate of using a yard stick for all...
ReplyDeleteVery true talk. I dated a man that is 40 and his character is everything that is described here.
ReplyDeleteI didn't know that it is his bad characters that has kept him unmarried. But now I know.
Very toxic and mannerless somebody that hid that part of him but he still later gave himself away.
I can't speak for other men in their 40's but the one I had an encounter with was nothing short of a disaster
Hmm, there are different reasons why some men in their 40s are having trouble settling down. Some don't have a business or job or something doing that can sustain a family, some are still having fun, to them life begins at 40. Some are suffering from unseen forces or terrible family patterns, some may have given themselves a certain age to get married, some haven't found the right woman yet, Some don't believe in marriage, some don't think women are worth being with, some are gay men. Some, their families haven't approved of the women they bring home, some want to marry from a certain place/tribe, some want women that will take care of them, so they're patiently waiting into their 40s. Etc
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DeleteOne of the reasons there are many unmarried people in Nigeria is that a lot of men aren’t earning well, so they’re refusing to get married. It's not as if they don't want marriage but responsibilities are major factor here.
ReplyDeleteThough some may have their reason though.
If I can't comfortably take care of myself, why add another person's daughter to the equation?
Marriage no be come suffer oo.
Lol..
DeleteAnd we know how most Nigerian ladies support asking their ex for money and even fvckin other men cos their husbands is broke..
We no fit shout abeg😂😂
Exactly, some of my male friends aren't married yet cos of financial instability. Not everyone wants to suffer their future wives and kids. some have gone through alot in life and they don't want repeated circle again. Let people marry when ever they want to marry. Remove the church cash Mr Kingsley and his wife makes, will they be lovey, dovey the way they are now, let the single men/women breathe.
DeleteExactly Shyla, if I have the means(money) today, I will get married already. It's not all about the wedding but what comes next inside the marriage.
DeleteNigeria makes it difficult each passing day for an average Nigerians to survive.
Element of truth
ReplyDeleteWith this kind economy, men go enter 40 sef with no plan to settle, or what they are now doing is looking for baby mama.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that there is a rule to these things esp as it concerns humans. There's no one size fits all. The same lense that should be used to check men in their 40s is the same lense that should be used to check men in their 30s as well. This also applies to women.
ReplyDeleteDo your proper checks and due deligence at whatever age you meet anyone.
He said nothing but the Truth… Men m
ReplyDeleteMaybe not all men in their 40’s sha.
The Bad Men might outweigh the Good Men.
They are more Authoritative, Disrespectful, demanding what they can’t give. They can’t stick to one woman,
They want you to be in servitude to them regardless of their Behavior.
They don’t want to be questioned at all, it’s their way or the Highway.
They have this NARCISSISTIC BORDERLINE PERSONALITY SYNDROME.
Wouldn't a man in his 20s or 30s eventually cross into their 40's? Is your description above for all men in their 40s, or you are talking from a place of hurt you suffered from a man in his 40s? Does it mean all these traits manifest only in single men in their 40s? Please let's try to show some intelligence in our analysis
DeleteThem done do this 1 shege 🤣
DeleteANON 17:02, Read my comment 👇🏼
Delete“Maybe not all men in their 40’s sha.”
I can never Generalize anyone, no matter the Category.
Anon17:33, Did the Shoe Fit 👞👅👅👅
This man I don't see him as a pastor.
ReplyDeleteHe behaves more like a motivational speaker.
People wey dey attend him church dey try o me I can't.
Everytime he is talking about relationship/marriage
That's his calling
DeleteThat's exactly what he is, a motivational speaker. He's misleading young ladies and setting them up for disappointment.
DeleteWho says a man or woman must be married at a certain age? Is he God?
I feel sorry for people that believe him and his ilk.
And na them dey enter my eyes o.🤣🙈
ReplyDeleteMe too. I like older men
DeleteMe too. I like older men
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DeleteThey make sense die....
DeleteI partially agree with him and unfortunately, it is not the same measurement for women in their 30s or 40s. The difference is, men are the ones who biologically are wired to seek a woman's hand in friendship or marriage. They make the move. They are the hunters If you would call them that. If he chooses not to do that, then something is wrong somewhere. He is either mentally or emotionally unstable, a player, an unserious individual, has bad character or just socially awkward, likes men e.t.c
ReplyDeleteIt is not applicable to women because women can't propose to a man, women are not naturally wired to ask a man out. Women plays for a receiver angle when it comes to relationship dynamics. She can't ask herself out, someone has to. So she can be the best woman on earth and still be single. She can meet an emotionally stunted man who is not ready for marriage.
For women, it is a case of the right package delivered at the wrong address. The person may not value it.
For men, it is a case of the wrong package delivered at the right address, you just have to return it to the owner immediately because there is no need for it.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Men are the hunters bla bla bla..
DeleteHunters set trap for tangible kills..
If men are not setting 'traps' (wanting to marry) you, then you are a problem.
QED
Who says a woman can't ask a man out? I know women who have been happily married for years who told me they were the one's that wooed their husbands. It all depends on the maturity of the man you try to toast'
DeleteThanks Dante.
DeleteI don't know why XOXO painted it as if it's cos the man is bad. What about him not having the financal wherewithal?
Come on! XOXO
Sometimes you give me that impression to wanna question your intelligence here. I know you're better than this. I will take it that you're trying to catch cruise but if not, then I feel disappointed at your submission.
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteSome Of the Men really do not have the Financial Resources
This Pastor K self with him Marriage talk talk self
Am sure More Single Ladies do attend his Chiurch
Make he dey deceive them o...
Lol, some men in their 40,is not der fault they are still single
ReplyDeleteOther countries are advancing technologically, having break throughs in different facets of their economy, but all Nigerians can talk about all the time is marriage, marriage. Will marrying in one's 20s, 30's 40's or even 50's tackle the shameful state of our local currency. A pound is selling at 1600, Euro 1,400, Dollar 1240 & all a supposed man of God is interested in, is eligible age for marriage in a bad economy
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DeleteGod bless you Cheks!
DeleteMen in their 40s marry women in their late 20s or early 30s. A lady above 35 is left for poor men
ReplyDeleteRita Dominic married a billionaire at 47, mercy aigbe married billionaires 3 times, you marry according to your circle and class
DeleteSo I go hustle this hard to make money, then waste am go marry evening newspapers. I reject!
ReplyDeleteYou speak like an ignorant , life will teach you.
DeleteNa hookup girls full Nigeria. There are no good last out there for marriage in 18-40 range
ReplyDeleteGood responsible girls full everywhere na you they follow asha*wo
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