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EVIDENCE OF CHEATING.
I told my friend about SDK family, and he told me to post it……please help post it
A friend of mine, need urgent advise……
He is married for 11 years and he has 3 children…
So he was transferred to another state to work, November 2020 and he is still working there…his wife doesn’t want to quit her job to join him and he has been going to see his family once in a while and sometimes his wife will come over..
He just found out that his wife is cheating on him with a boy ( he is richer than the boy, he is more responsible than the boy) he has evidence but his wife doesn’t know that he knows….he is planning to travel home and doesnt know how to handle the matter....Please advice, it is urgent.
I told my friend about SDK family, and he told me to post it……please help post it
A friend of mine, need urgent advise……
He is married for 11 years and he has 3 children…
So he was transferred to another state to work, November 2020 and he is still working there…his wife doesn’t want to quit her job to join him and he has been going to see his family once in a while and sometimes his wife will come over..
He just found out that his wife is cheating on him with a boy ( he is richer than the boy, he is more responsible than the boy) he has evidence but his wife doesn’t know that he knows….he is planning to travel home and doesnt know how to handle the matter....Please advice, it is urgent.
If he has evidence, he should sit her down and show her the evidence and ask for explanations and whatever she says will help him decide on the next step..... He should avoid by all means, anything that will lead to any altercation and walk away if it arises. He should also not expect her to agree that she is cheating and also be ready to accept that his alleged evidence may not be evidence at all...
Wish him all the best
Ah! She has a job...not many wives have jobs and bringing something to the table o.
ReplyDeleteShe is a mother of 3 and hot enough to attract a hot able bodied boy...
He shouldn't loose her o. He should step up his relationship with God, give his life to Christ, and change his attitude from whatever it is he is doing that is pushing her into the arms of a boy.
Waito... haven't I read some non-simp guys on this blog mock some posters for being an after one or after two? I thought they said a woman's time tick fast and she can't always be attractive?
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DeleteLove this shade of sarcasm.
Two can actually play the game. Your last paragraph, men like degrading women's body to manipulate them to their needs. But with a top notch self-care and self-esteem, you won't be bother about any unsolicited rants about biological clock ticking away or the woman body doesn't remain the same after giving birth.
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DeleteLet him watch war room and drink olive oyel
Quite shocking that after one or two, some boy found her attractive.
DeleteChai, this your response na AI
DeleteYes and women are naturally polygamous. If you leave this one you don't know what the next will be like. Why did you move from the city both of you were living just because of work? Stop playing with marriage especially marriage with a woman that is bringing something to the table. Just have a heart to heart with her and know where you can make adjustments.
DeleteOsheeeee badest 🤣
DeleteMinister of vawulence affairs
There are men who like free food no matter the taste or how served.
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DeleteYour reply @ Ms Sapphire always crack my bone. Make the man enter war room and begin to play because the enemy is out to destroy his home. Poster sorry that I laugh just go with Stella's advice nothing to add.
DeleteI'm sure the husband has a side chick in his base,two can play that game.
DeleteIn addition to all the strong points raised above,it will be good for the man to loose some weight,buy new sexy boxers whenever the wife is around so he can look more appealing to her, that's after the pot belly has reduced,and also keep praying for her,he should not allow the devil use one small cockroach scatter his marriage.
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He doesn't know how the next woman will be, let him forgive her.
I’m a man but Iv found out that a lot of women cheat because of companionship and not because of money.It starts with someone to talk to,spend time with and sex comes after especially in this kind of long distance marriage.Women cherish companionship a lot and will fall for anyone that gives it to them so just forget all that he’s richer than the boy bla bla bla.
ReplyDeleteAgreed. But can't these things be worked on instead of rubbing oneself in the mud? If one is not interested, then the legal route is divorce and be free instead of doing this under contract. Sheesh!!! this generation ehn, both men and women are so weak morally. What a time to be ALIVE 🤧🤧🤧
DeleteHian! I thought all women love money
DeleteMoney is not the motivation most times,it may just allow it to blossom
DeleteI concur.
Delete16:09
DeleteOnly few don't.
Money is still a clear factor here. Both men are "richer". Otherwise Poster would have described the other as broke. Since the woman's liability is not on the less richer man, she can play. And because he is not solely responsible for her she would be all sweet. Let her have 3 children to cater for and no man to support that is when it can be fully discussed whether she likes money or not.
Well, it is said that V wey man no dey buy p*** liners for naim dey sweet pass. Who say so? Check your Bible. Type search "Stolen waters is sweet in the Bible".
If his evidence is concrete enough, then what is he waiting for? It is either he keeps gathering more evidence before exposing the woman or he simply walks away. Cheating is a no no for me and I say this as a man.
ReplyDeleteCheating changes everything. Nothing remains the same again. That memory never fades. You will never look at your woman the same. don't know why any man will want to put himself through that.
Gather more evidence of you will. But your inner witness does tend to know these things with conviction. Don't doubt it. Have irrefutable proof so that when you present your suspicion of your wife's cheating to her face and she is still hell bent on lying, then you know that the person you call a spouse is a cold, calculating and conniving b..ch! You still want to stay married to that kind of woman? Yeah... I thought not.
Kudos to the woman for not quitting her job. Someone is willing to cutoff a source of income with the way things currently are? Anyway, ask him if he been faithful. He must come to equity with clean hands. Let it not be that she is team "you cheat, I cheat" and is only paying him back. The confrontation will be explosive.
Delete@DogAlmighty, if Nigerian women should react like you are recommending to him, there will be no Nigerian marriages left. WTF are you men to think you should be forgiven for cheating but cannot accept what you dish out?
Delete16:48
DeleteNot true. There are men who do not cheat on their wives. Funny that it is women who push this narrative the most especially when a woman is accused of cheating. If it was a woman that complained here today, we would read female Bvs telling her to leave if she cannot stay, and they would add that cheating is a deal breaker for them. But when a male sends chronicles of cheating, they mock him under the facade of sarcasm.
It shouldn't shock you 18:56. Only few men decide not to cheat and remain faithful. In comparison to men, women cheat less. It has always been so. Today women are more liberal, especially since many don't need to depend on men, so when they can't get what they need, they also find it elsewhere, but most will not rub it in the faces of their partners. There are still many women who will never cheat, no matter what.
DeleteThe plenty cheating men do it with few women. 1000 cheating men do with 1 woman?
DeleteWho did the survey anyway?
Sit who down…please call a family meeting if possible just her parents or elder sibling ask her right in their presence,let her u understand that few in your family already know about it even tho u don’t have to tell dem.This is so she won’t harm you thinking no one knows o…trend carefully.if u can’t stand her cheating just divorce her.
ReplyDeleteA good advice. Include her family members and let at least one of your trusted family around. But if you feel you might forgive her. Let a family member or trusted friend know. Then you confront her before you tnder the evidence
DeleteIt's only an unwise person that invites third party into his/her marriage. If he is old enough to have a family of his own, he is old enough to make whatever decision he wants to make without inviting any external party to bias his mind into staying or leaving, if it's contrary to what he wants to do. The man knows what he wants to do, if he doesn't, he should give it some time instead of asking outsiders for advice. Poster, you better not get involved, you may be blamed for misleading him if he takes a decision and regrets it later.
DeleteDon’t include family oh unless you’re ready for divorce
DeleteIt’s hard to come back from disgracing anyone
Dude in my side here was so sure his wife was cheating. She wasn’t. They day he involved her family, she left him forever. He regrets it but damage already done in her eyes. She would have and she had forgiven the accusation when he told her but see that calling her siblings and parents, she couldn’t recover any love for him
Please do not call family O
DeleteAbeg Do not call family O
No call family O.
It is very difficult to prove a woman is cheating except where pregnancy is involved or she is caught completely in the act in a way she cannot deny. That is why the old fathers designed some methods for that (not necessary here).
At any family meeting, she would deny in a way that you will be the person to apologise and that would be the end of the marriage emotionally or actually. Imagine apologising,
and losing your marriage on top what is wrong.
If you have evidence beyond shadow of doubt, confront her with it you and her alone. What she says or do will guide you about further steps. The only advice may be to record the confrontation because some women would deny even that confrontation when you take further action.
It all depends on whether she is till interested in the marriage. If she will apologise and stop. If she is no longer interested, you will know within days.
I hope you have been 100% faithful where you have been this one you said you go only once in a while if not pray for her n watch war room. Women are polygamous in nature. How can you leave your wife and be living in another state? Nawa for You. Hope you also still looking after yourself this one she went for younger guy. It most likely just sex. Don’t break up your marriage and home for one young Bobo to come n rip where he did not sew.
ReplyDeleteA man builds his home
You people no go kill person, make una no give the hubby heart attack o.
Delete🤣 it's just sex o. He is the one she married not him🤣🤣
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DeleteOmo, I give up on you people here.🤣🤣🤣
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DeleteAfter the confrontation, will he still eat her food with confidence? Will he still be open to sharing a bed with her without reminding her of the past? Will he ever trust her again? Physical confrontation can take any turn. What if she pois●ns him or invites her side-cock (who might even have a spare key by now sef) to strangle him at night? His life is in danger with or without the confrontation.
ReplyDeleteLet him call her from his base and tell her what he knows. How she answers will help him make the next move. He has to let her know that he has informed a few of his family members and hers (after the phone call) so that she no go plan for am even for him base o. Then make he go confirm DNA of "their" kids ASAP so that when he files for divorce, he will know whether he should ask for joint custody or not. The first thing is to expose a philandering partner to both families to cancel the option of being "cancelled" in order to protect the secret.
If however, he loves her more than life itself and could never leave her, let him return home, dress more sexy and generally make himself more appealing to her so that the boy doesn't snatch away his wife. Wives scarce o. Ask Dante.
Funny thing is women are also in this same danger with their husband's sidechicks but most believe it's just about the sxx and m@ney for the ladies. Some are actually there to steal, ki!! and destroy the wife and children just to take over her home. An adulterous partner (male or female) is a danger to their spouse and children but tell him to first hear her side ON THE PHONE.
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DeleteI'm supposed to be avoided the blog for at least one week abeg..
You people shuu lemme rest..
My mental health matters abeg..
I no go allow amotekuns kee me before my time..
I have never seen the large gathering and coming together of amotekun ladies like I have seen on this blog.. AHH.. if not for some few people like you and some of my female friends offline, I would have just concluded that Nigerian women are trash, but that's not true, we have few that are amazing and very sensible..
Maybe whenever I'm back, I'll only be scrolling to read selected few comments or no comment at all before person go dey get unnecessary headache ontop nonsense.
Abeg I wasn't here, I'm on SDK blog break😌😌
"An adulterous partner (male or female) is a danger to their spouse and children"
DeleteA big laff reading some women feeling that it is good a married woman is still wanted by another man as girlfriend after three children.
Fact is women have always been wanted by men after more than three children. The difference then is that the men wanted them as wives and taking up the responsibilities attached to that relationship.
A man wanting another man's wife or a woman wanting another woman's husband without the real responsibilities is just awuff desire.
Wahala dey o.
ReplyDeleteAt least today chronicle no vex me reach yesterday own.
He should let her know what he knows, and demand explanation for the cheating.
If e too pain am and the wife no wan accept say she dey wrong then let him leave her ,divorce her simple
You have your evidence, so what are you waiting for? For her to find out that you know and plot and kill you before you go leave?
ReplyDeleteMake sure you don't confront her alone o.
Any woman that can cheat on her husband is dangerous and can kill.😎
Is job that keeps them apart,abi. They have three children, where are the children?you didn't mention.
ReplyDeleteCan't he talk with the wife or make plan ,if that is affecting their marriage.
For the wife not want to quit her job, who knows why?? Till I hear from her own side.
So she should quit her job so you lot can insult her and say she doesn’t bring anything to the table?
DeleteIssues in marriage/relationship these days is either cheating or domestic violence.
ReplyDeleteIssue in marriage/relationship these days is either cheating or domestic violence.
ReplyDeleteWe know he won't look at her the same again. Thoughts of how she moaned, came, thrashed will play forever in his head. And I'm sure they did skin to skin.
ReplyDeleteOh you bet they did 😉. People no dey fear diseases again. Them go face diseases with ⚔️⚔️ and 🛡️🛡️.
DeleteYeah, speaking from experience?
DeleteAnd he came inside sef..
DeleteI'm talking of in all holes..
Side guys are wicked fvckers, they want to experiment every every, and even the lady wants to use the side cock to experience what she doesn't or can't do with her guy.. I know this cos 'my friend' use to be a proud side guy
Chai😜😜😜
DeleteDante, just tell us you a proud side guy. Everyday my friend my friend.
DeleteDante na the work wey you dey be this o ,😂😂 everytime your friend
DeleteHas he been faithful to his wife over there?
ReplyDeleteGood question
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣 a million dollar question. Anon 16:03.
DeleteVery good question
DeleteHonestly, this lady didn't do well. There was a gap in the marriage and someone filled that gap unfortunately.
ReplyDeleteIf He can take care of his family relocation, He should do it instantly except he wants a broken marriage.
He should show her the evidence and give her ultimatum to resign and join him. He should open a viable business for her at the new location.
No advice, he will forgive her 😏
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmm... Please consider the following:
ReplyDelete*Women loves companionship
*Some women are polygamous in nature
*women are weaker vessels
Aside from the above, the following questions needs an urgent answer
*Are you also innocent?
*Hope you are not having a side chic?
*Why go home once a while?
Again, this issue needs to be carefully treated. Be careful so as not to loose ur life because once a woman starts having extra marital affairs, it's always dangerous and deadly.
Confront your wife in the presence of her family and make them understand that, you have also informed yours too Incase of any future or unforseen circumstances.
I can't imagine the shame it will bring to her family. Ehya! Poor woman, if na man now you go hear "pray for him, it's the devil's handiwork(even satan don tire for false accusations), do dry fasting 6-6 for him"
DeleteOya oo e don set! He should pray and fast for her to change ✌️
It has to be addressed and they decide what they wish to do. He should address the matter when he is in a good state of mind and at peace. It seems like he is shocked at the type of person the wife cheated with, folks cheat with those they have access to, not necessarily because of looks, accomplishments or wealth. Sometimes the cheater’s choice makes no sense and even make the other spouse sick at how low they stooped, as though they could have handled it better if they had cheated with someone who had more or looked better.
ReplyDeleteCheating is painful, and within marriage where one of the sacred vows in fidelity, I don’t know how it feels. To add children and a disrupted household due to work commitments, cheating just adds another dimension to it all. Communication is so important and spouses should never underestimate what poor communication or no communication can do to their marriage. So many couples talk at each other and not to each other. Criticisms are quicker to give than praise. Appreciation and even kind words get forgotten. Eventually they drift apart to the point where having some naked stranger climb on them or they climb onto one becomes so easy and even desired.
I wish your friend all the best.
first and foremost, he should run a DNA test on their kids cause this aunty didn't start cheating today, then call one or two people in the family before confronting her and share with them his evidence so she won't go and plan on eliminating him due to his discovery,
ReplyDeleteI am a woman o. Pls be calm for now and go do DNA for all your kids. After that, call a family meeting and let them know what is going on. She might not own up. So no need seating her down. Let her be with her side boo after all said and done. Send the children's fees and feeding money and let her take care of the other bills like paying of rent. When she starts paying rent, she will no longer have change to do be doing anyhow. Then wait on the Lord's instructions. Lastly make sure your hands are clean o. If your hands are not clean, do DNA and face front.
ReplyDeleteDecide what you want to do first
ReplyDeleteIf you want to stay with her then don’t tell anyone but her. Go home and have a conversation. Couple do recover from cheating. But if people hear, it’s harder to recover. Some women will leave you if the Shame is too much for them
If youve concluded you want a divorce, then you can get others involved or just call her and present your evidence. If she doesn’t convince you it’s not true, then bounce
Nobody is holy.
ReplyDeleteBefore you bring your chronicle, make sure you have discussed,then post everything with reply or feedback. When you said that "she doesn't want to quit her job"you should have given us her reason.
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DeleteDon't mind him
Like we don't read Chronicles of women who quit their jobs because of marriage and they end up in slavery with the same horseband becoming a monster overnight. She should quit her job in these hard times and join you when it is not like you are in abroad.
Abeg shift oga .
Poster, 1st of all I'm sorry your friend is going through this. No one deserves to be treated like this.
ReplyDeleteThis is my suggestion. If your friend have valuables with her i.e land documents, house documents, money etc. Let him make sure he takes those things from her 1st without her suspecting anything. Because if not so, she would sell the things and take off with the young man so he has to secure those things 1st. While at it, he shouldn't sleep with her because he doesn't know her health status at this point. He can come up with an excuse why he can't touch her yet.
After all that, he should call her on phone and ask her . Please don't involve a 3rd party at this point because as Stella rightly said, your evidence might not be evidence so don't humilate her in the presence of others. Don't also go face to face because things can escalate.
After all these, you can take your decision. But I suggest even if it's true but she's genuinely remorseful, please forgive her.
A man that has a property doesn't have to stylishly collect his documents from his wife for what actually, she will sell the property and run off with the guy is it even easy like you said , if the man has made up his mind to leave her he don't need all these serenade na to just tell her to leave ,if you re caught cheating wsp this type na shame go even dey catch you which ample time the woman get and the authority to collect his documents.
DeleteIt is what it is!
ReplyDeleteMr man always pray for your family, you are the priest in your family and you have to stand in the place of prayers for your family to avoid the devil going in
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DeleteTrue talk
DeleteThe men are very lazy to pray. That is why the devil came in. Take it to God in prayers and see her change for Good
@Poster, it is quite pathetic you are going through this. I pray God will comfort and heal you.
ReplyDeleteHaving said that, let me tell you that you have to have real evidence before she can confess to you. Why? Because women are too deceitful and can be heady and cunning even when caught red-handed. Therefore, be sure you have a real fact that's undeniable.
Once you have this, be ready for two things: either you will divorce her (if she is not sober) or forgive her under strict warnings, if she is sober and ready to change.
Please note that if you fail in what I said above, it's either she will continue to cheat, and this may lead to your death and unending sorrow, or she will lose respect for you forever. Therefore, be ready to make it a major fight but do not beat her because you may kill her in the process out of pain and emotional trauma.
Finally, most women cheat, hence all the advice you are receiving from them. Forget all the lies you have been hearing from them. Who do you think the so-called wayward men have been taking to various hotels and been sleeping with? They cheat because they are emotional beings and because many of them see vir.gin@l as an instrument that can be used to do achieve anything desired. Social media has also destroyed everything. A married woman has once messaged me to meet her in a hotel before. We were not dating, not a friend, etc. She just heard about me and got my contact and requested to see me and have sex with me. Can you believe that? I have different cases in my hand which are personal experiences.
Once she is sober (if she opens up to you) then have a deep discussion and ensure she deletes the contact of the guy, you give her strict warnings, both of you have more time together and if possible, get marriage counsel from a professional that can guide your home. Marrying is easy but sustaining it is not easy. It is a hard-work.
Also, if the poster cheats, desist from it. She may be trying to get even with you.
DeleteStop cheating on your wives men.
He mustn't keep silence over it.he should discuss it with her.
ReplyDeleteThis is going to bring a big shame to her family OMG
ReplyDeleteCheating is so painful
Dear husband please stay calm before addressing the issue with wife
I pray for God's intervention for you🙏🙏
Good for her.
DeleteShe brought him shame too
Cheating is bad but men & women are now in competition on who will cheat most
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Oga poster just tell her you know of her escapade face to face and see her reaction , if you have not cheated confront , maybe she has a dirt on you and decides doe you to be even in the pool, while you re on the path of amendment you guys should find a way to stay together I can never be apart as a married woman in this Nigeria with amy family, abroad I can , long distance marriages this is one of the baggages that comes with it , you guys should work around it
ReplyDeletePoster you see the comments here I guess you re surprised yes, that's what men do to a woman that doesn't cheat if I tell you how many times I ve caught my husband cheating even when I get belle, na sorry he dir he can give me do I cheat back no it pains , marriage will make you to make sacrifices wey be say of not for marriage as in na rhip what d fuck am I doing with you , confront and weigh your options you don't need anybody to do that for you my own na straight up ,no family drama I do it myself.
ReplyDeleteConfront and know d duration and how beat to navigate for the future
Husband forgive your wife's cheating. I'm sure she would forgive you if you were the one caught. Confront her and let her know you knew and if she feels remorse and begs for forgiveness, forgive her. We all make mistakes. Nigerian men cheat on their wives everyday and even impregnate their side chicks, their wives forgive them.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, you didn't mention that you were faithful in your base, were you cheating too?
Oga poster, this chronicle is not even necessary. You should have confronted her and if she feels bad and promise to change, then forgive her . Ask her what made her do it and you both should work on it. Always pray together whenever you are around. Of you are cheat too, change for good.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is filled with ups and downs, forgiveness plays a huge role in making it last.
If you can't forgive her, then divorce her quietly.