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Hello everyone.
I dont know how this will turn out. I just got a federal job for my househelp who has been with me for less than 2 years.
When she came from home I noticed how mature she was but quite trustworthy and humble, compared to what i was paying her, this federal job is everything and she is quite excited. I took her by surprise.
Appointment letter has not entered her hand yet but will come out soon as she has been interviewed and shortlisted.. it's my office. And i put her in my department but my fear, will she still be submissive and helpful in the house as i dont know her mind. Will she leave me?
I was wondering why she came as househelp in the First place but i later knew she was told i may turn her life around as i occupy a top position in the organisation.
The job is very good and pensionable . She is entering on O'level. I am planning for her to do online degree programme after confirmation and savng some money. But i dont know if she will grow wings. She is in 20s.
Just help her and leave the rest for God to handle... If she leaves you or grows wing, there is nothing you can do about it..... She is young and there is possibility that she might misbehave.
You can only do good and hope that the recipient knows to return good for good.
You've done your own for God, if she changes towards you, then look for another house help, house help no dey finish now. Also, it's not forever she will be with you, so prepare your mind from now that anything can happen.
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Prepare your mind for disappointment just incase it comes and it may ALSO not come but I would have preferred it was in another ministry you got the job for her except you know her well enough. I pray you will reap good from the help you rendered. MAY JEHOVAH BLESS YOU.
DeleteDear poster, what she will do is left to be seen, the most important thing is that you have helped another human being and you should be proud of yourself whether it favors you or not
DeleteDear poster, God bless you for rendering assistance to her, however, know that now that she has a source of livelihood, she would want to start planning for her life and future too, afterall she is not exactly young again (in her 20s), meaning she might want to leave your house very soon.
DeletePlease don't blame her for wanting more at this point, but I hope she at least does not bite the fingers that fed her by being disrespectful and haughty while planning her next move, and that she gives you adequate heads up before she leaves.
Just be on the look out for another person.
DeleteMaybe that was all God wanted you to do for her.
After two or three salaries; even if she is loyal; your mind will start playing tricks on you.
She will change wardrobe to meet up; maybe liked by bigger bosses or something.
Just see her as a sister and start looking for another help ontime.
Thank you for allowing God use you for another person. If she's a nice person, she will NOT forget
You have done your part, so don't try to play God. Leave the rest for God, don't expect anything to be safe from hurt, in case it turn out bad and don't suggest anything to her just watch. But be hopeful
DeleteNot to sound negative; poster do you pay her salary as your help?
DeleteIf yes; what brought about getting her another job?
You want to do away with her or what?
I am a little confused.
You needed her yourself and employed her. You now got her another job? Why? One of the jobs will suffer definitely!
Too much sentiments in Nigeria.
Or else she's a village relation that came to city for your help or something. If it's a help you filled form with agency to acquire for your own needs; then I am lost ooo
Anon 19.39 Nigerians are stupidly sentimental that is why if you check well most women have been displaced by their maids because they will go to the shop and buy exactly what they wear and put it on their maids, I wonder why they don’t ask God to Kuku reverse the roles , let madam become the house help . Very senseless women in this country
DeleteGod bless you for rendering help to her.
ReplyDeleteMay God reward you abundantly and always be of assistance to your generation unborn.
DeleteYour reward is in heaven.. U can't trust her to behave well but however she turned out, leave an open mind, don't expect too much so u won't feel hurt..
ReplyDeleteYou are such a blessing and a nice person. Don't expect much or anything in return from her or any human. If God has blessed you, just do your part because it is the right thing to do even if she misbehaves, there is a blessing attached to blessing others that even your children will reap someday. Putting smiles in the faces of others is enough fulfillment. God bless you big time.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this
ReplyDeleteI pray for the same miracle, Amen
God bless you for favoring and helping her and her family. You have done very well. Be open minded and at the same time plan an alternative help at home. Prepare and expect the worse irrespective so when it happens you won't be hurt, she's human and will misbehave one way or the other.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you and may you find favour before your bosses too. Thank you so much on her behalf. You are Amazing. This made my day
Thanks for helping her, incase she leaves, I am available
ReplyDeleteI helped my maid recently and she turned to do otherwise. I leave her to God and life, that didnt stop me from helping another under my roof. I feel it is my own sacrifice to God goodness in my life. If she start to misbehave which i pray dont happen just ignore and face front that should not stop you from helping more. God bless you ma.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you
DeleteRemember we are all humans and can never be perfect for only God is perfect,may He in His infinite mercy bless those that are lifting others and may we not bite the fingers that fed us in Jesus name.
DeletePoster God bless you. When you do things for people, don't expect anything in return. That way, you won't be hurt or disappointed. I pray she has a heart of gratitude anyway.
ReplyDeletePlease I also need a federal government job too.
Poster,God has ordained you as her destiny helper,pls go ahead and help her.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that she will 'grow wings' except she is an exceptionally good person. I only hope she does not 'bring out your legs outside' when she starts working in your organization.
ReplyDeleteBut, how can she still serve you as househelp while working? I don't think that's possible Sha, but you know better how your organization works. I suggest you start looking for another help.
Yes o. Me too I am wondering how it's possible for her to work and be household too. Unless the job has very short hours?
DeleteI hope you will not expect her to do lots of work at home
Why place her in your department? Why not another department??? It’s too close to home in my opinion. She’s your maid at home and your colleague at work. If she misbehaves (which she likely will once she starts earning money), are you going to be able to handle that at your place of work?? Another department or a different location from yours would be best if you’re still able to do that. Ps: you don’t expect her to stay as a maid all her life. She too wan grow naw and get better in life. You’ll get your reward don’t worry.
ReplyDeleteIt is good to be good without expecting anything in return.Be rest assured that it will come back to you in so many ways.Bless your kind heart.If she ends up misbehaving,she may not get another opportunity like this.
ReplyDeleteThank you for helping her, may God rewards you accordingly. Just have Stella advice in mind in case anything happens.
ReplyDeleteDo not stifle her, let her soar as high as she can go. If she is ambitious she should have no desire to remain as househelp for the rest of her life, so let her go with well wishes when she is ready. Who knows the seed that you have planted what harvest it will bring one day.
ReplyDeleteGbam. Why would she expect her to stay a maid. She will be your maid for now as that’s two income for her but when she’s ready to leave, she will leave and don’t take it personal. This is women helping/supporting each other in action and not just words. God bless you poster and God will reward you here on earth and in heaven. Just let her know to help another woman like her. 💕
DeleteMy point too, I'm sure she doesn't plan staying a maid forever, but I hope she doesn't backstab poster while moving on.
DeleteWhy are you people like this. If she wanted her to be a maid for life will she get her a secured and pensionable job free of charge in the federal civil service, a place some others are ready to pay through their nose to get into?
DeleteI guess you didn't also read the part where she said she will enroll her for an online degree program, this she will be doing to enable her move up in the civil service as she is coming in as junior staff, are these the plans of someone who does not have good intentions for another?
Please, when going on anonymous mode to drop comments, have a heart, don't go under the cover of anonymity to demoralise and cast aspersion on people.
Cheka55, and if the BV is at peace with what she is doing what is the point of the chronicle? She is having doubts about something or experiencing some form of fear within herself, hence the chronicle. I cannot read the BV’s mind to know her true motivations, so I will not label her actions one way or the other, only God knows the motivation. So, let ppl leave their comment and you leave yours.
DeleteJust help her for doing good sake and for the fct that you have the ability to help her. Do not expect too much from her so you won't be disappointed.
ReplyDeleteStop looking down on others. Many have potentials just an opportunity to unlock it. The person you see as a nobody will later become somebody. That house help job will be part of her story to tell in the future.
DeleteThanks for helping her,please,start looking for another help. God will give you,a better one.🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteIf you can afford it pay 3 to 6 months rent somewhere for her and you get a new maid
ReplyDeleteLet her continue her work as your colleague
Don’t push her to misbehave and lord over her especially she’s in your department. Let her be herself and don’t monitor her. If possible, place her in a different department to avoid see finish.
ReplyDeleteHere is my advice. Go take another house help and after 3months of her working, let her leave your house and go rent a place of her own. Have a seatdown chat with her that it will be considered conflict of interest if she stays with you while working in your department. This will also help you in the long run incase she turns otherwise, your house story will not be what every staff will be discussing. So find an accommodation for her and let her pay for it so she can start taking responsibility for herself. That will help her spend wisely. But if she's still in your house, she might be spending her money on things that are not necessary. Hire the new nanny prior to her leaving so she understands that you did what you did from a place of love. Pls make sure she understands this too. And when she goes away, check on her from time to time and assure her that so long as she behaves well, you got her back like a big sister. God bless you for this kindness.
ReplyDeleteLeave the rest for God to reward you accordingly .Do don't rely on her because MOST people would probably fail you.
ReplyDeletePoster God bless you for helping her secure her future,you're a good person and only God can reward you.
ReplyDeleteDon't expect her loyalty because it is not quaranty,you've done your own part,leave the rest to God.
God bless you sis, you have done well and God will definitely reward you.
ReplyDeletePls, someone help me, I want to get an ID
Stop worrying about situations you have no control over . Do your part as you have and leave the rest to God. The actions of tomorrow you are worried about is in God's hands.
ReplyDeleteMust we Nigerians help someone and expect that person to serve you all your lives???? You have helped her!!!! God pays back , if not you or your kids!!. Now help her settle fast and look for another person before you say she was ungrateful or husband snatcher!!!!
ReplyDeleteShe brought her in as a maid, but an opportunity came up she extended it to her. She wasn't under obligation to her, to compel her to give her that job. She could have picked one of the myriads of unemployed people around.
DeleteDo you think Poster is unaware of the possibility of the maid growing wings and even leaving her? She just wants to open up on her fears. You people should be fair in your criticism.
You hire her as a house help and asking why she came as a house help. Such help is for her own good, if she misbehaves she lose.
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all.pls render the help to her and leave the rest to God.
ReplyDeleteYou've done your part leave your fears for tomorrow
ReplyDeleteMay God reward you
If you look for another help, she might feel jealous and will not be 100 percent loyal anymore, and you will keep giving jobs to all your houseworkers, and at the end, you won't have anyone to assist you. You have a heart of gold, and you have done the best you could for her. If she is as nice as you have described, then someone like her may be hard to find, and as long as she keeps doing most of the purpose you employed her for (though it might not be 100 percent because, as a human, she will feel tired after office work).
ReplyDeletePoster you have a good heart and May God continue to bless you for your good deed
ReplyDelete"She won't grow wings", however you must be honest enough with yourself to know that you have helped her experience growth and that growth will come with certain changes that may require some adjustments on your part and hers.
ReplyDeleteYou can't expect her to serve you the way she used to before now. You were her employer, now, you are not. In the worst case scenario, you are simply her colleague who is her superior/supervisor at work.
Don't expect her to be at your beck and call 24 hours a day, but she may occasionally help out as a sign of her appreciation.
When she gets her employment letter, congratulate her and tell her that she can stay with you for a few months until she is able to save enough for an apartment.
Tell her to recommend someone you can employ to work for you.
God did not create us to serve people forever and you must live your life with that consciousness. Most of the people that served my family have all left and they are doing well now. My family is doing welll also.
You're a good person, the Lord sees, the Lord rewards, He will reward you. Don't ruin the good the Lord has used you to do.
God bless you poster for getting the job for her.
ReplyDeleteIs the bad ones that are discouraging others to offer help these days. I have learnt lesson in a hard way.. That total strangers will be angry and envy at your own blessings. Those you offer help want to push you down to take over.
ReplyDeleteSince doing this was not because of her but of your own nature as a person. Don't expect anything from her that way, if there is fuck up you won't be affected. Believe me relay solely on God for your rewards
ReplyDeleteIs the bad ones that are discouraging others to offer help these days. I have learnt lesson in a hard way.. That total strangers will be angry and envy at your own blessings. Those you offer help want to push you down to take over.
ReplyDeleteMay the good Lord bless you abundantly for your good heart. If she great full good, if not good also. You done your own share of what God wants you to. Remember Jesus did not feel bad when only one out of 10 that he healed came back to appreciate him.
ReplyDeletePoster, thank you for helping another when you can. Just help people and don't expect them to be ETERNALLY serve you or greatful. If you can, discuss with her that you would really love her to work fully in the same capacity say for 6months -1yr, as she did before the job you got her. Then,get another help. Stop worrying about the future God will reward you for you kind deeds.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you dear poster
ReplyDeleteFederal govt some of us are looking for.
Don't expect anything from her
Poster, like SDK said do it, and leave the rest for God. Proverbs 19:17 says "the one showing favour to the lowly is lending to Jehovah, And he Jehovah will repay him what he does". Jehovah is not a debtor that will not pay a loan given to him.
ReplyDeleteIf the girl decides to grow wings tomorrow and becomes intractable, let her go. But, you on the other hand will have a clear conscience that you were able to help someone through the position that Jehovah God placed you.
Anytime the girl eats a spoon of food, buys a new dress, pays her bills without tears, she will always remember that God used you to make all that possible.
Dear Poster, you are good woman with a good heart, not many in your position will do what you have done for a relation, talk more for a maid. Relax, God sees your good heart and it won't go unrewarded by him the greatest of all Rewarders.
Darling, God bless you for being a blessing to someone else but I find this a tad confusing. Do you really expect her to continue serving as a househelp after you've elevated her status to that of a federal civil servant? How do you reckon she would juggle both? More importantly, why do you think she should remain a househelp? I don't think it's fair. It's like you're setting her up to disappoint you. It would take an extraordinarily humble person to remain subservient in spite of the new job opportunity and the corresponding salary upgrade. I mean, come on, let's be reasonable here.
ReplyDeleteI would recommend you start the search for her replacement, and this time, let the help do exactly what she's paid to do. If you feel like helping out, be prepared to let her go as well. Don't make it look like you're placing the golden handcuffs on her. Upgrade her while guilt tripping her to be tethered to you as a loyal help. I may be wrong but from my vantage point, you can't have both.
Let her stay till she gets her own accommodation, if she chooses to help out with chores, all well and good. Even if she swears she will remain and serve you , please let her go. It's unfair to keep her as a househelp. You've sown goodness in her life, you will certainly reap the benefits one way or the other. Thanks again for being a blessing, sweetheart. I wish you the very best in all your endeavors.
e-hugs and kisses.
It is possible for her to continue as maid. It's a civil service job and not so demanding. Besides she could perform household chores over the weekend. If I am the maid, as a show of appreciation, I will help out as much as possible in the house.
DeleteYou're a good person. God bless your kind heart. I wish I have the link of a chronicle that sounds like yours, so you can know what to expect from her. But in all just have an open mind, she may or may not change.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for the responses and concern .
ReplyDeleteThe fact is she is working as casual staff in same place now. But when opportunity for permanent employment came ,I gave her name. As I find her very responsible and respectful. She goes very early and by 3pm she is back. And does what she is supposed to do for 7 months now before I come back. No work on weekends.
The new job will be on shift (6 hours.) She can't be my colleague. Lol.
I am the boss and head of department.
she is earning more than I was paying and still humble.
Yes I wanted househelp. But she is worth more than that and i decided to better her life. I know she will stay for long cause she needs the free accomodation.,feeding etc. She is still very new in the state. All the same I can't hold her if she eventually wants to leave. For now i am very okay with the arrangement
God bless you madam for being a God sent to her,may you also meet divine helpers, pray for her and always try to keep advising her like your sister,trust God to take the wheel ,may God bless you.
ReplyDeleteI am the poster. But when she noticed my former househelp who left before she came wants to come back she is worried and told me she wants to still be with me. The former one wants to visit next month. Just visit ooo.
ReplyDeleteAnd wants to be with me to further her education. Not sure how that can work. But i can't keep both in the house. This girl has been extra good and hardworking sensing someone wants to replace her but i have no issues with her. She can stay as long as she wants even after getting her permanent job.The former one is in her late 20s and wants to come back not sure as househelp but to stay with me to school Just 2 of us in the big house. I am satisfied with my girl
For now who is more like a sister than househelp.
Thank you all for your prayers
God bless and reward your kind gestures. Thank you for being good to a fellow human. ❤️
DeleteGod bless you have a heart to heart conversation, let her discuss her fear that way she can confide and tell you what's on her mind .God bless your kind soul
DeleteI believe givers never lack, her set time for upliftment was you. just do it and keep heeping blessings upon your head i doubt she will be ever ungrateful to you. Pls any available slot bring here and be a blessing to us too.
ReplyDeleteI pray you are able to help and not expect anything in return. Perhaps you can stop seeing her as an househelp but a sister. You can even tell her that. Will you still be paying her a salary?
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