Hmmmmm
TO DO OR NOT
This is a short one and all i need is advice on what to do....
I am in love with my girlfriends younger sister and i want to end the relationship and ask the sister to be my wife......
We started dating a few months ago but i have not been the same since i set my eyes on the younger sister.....
I have had a long talk with the younger sister and we both feel the same way but she says she will not go ahead if i do not break up first with the sister and make peace with her...
Please note that what we feel is so strong that we cannot control it....
We are not in a relationship yet but we have done all the genotype checks and all........
What should i do as a man that does not want to hurt someone who has not done anything wrong...she has been awesome but my heart is with the sister.....
Should i tell her that i found out I am AS?
WHAT!!!!......Please end the relationship with the older sister and do not give a reason...give her time to heal before you tell her what you have to tell her....I dont know how this will end but make sure your action does not break up that family.....You cannot be in peace if the marriage causes war between the sisters!
Think about it...Walking away from both sisters may be a good choice!
This is so sad...I will advice you to look somewhere else rather than having yourself stuck with the same family.
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God forbid, you and the younger sister are evil, very selfish. Genotype indeed, you must be sleeping together already to go as far as genotype testing and discussing marriage. “What you feel for each other” indeed. Two people with zero moral compass.
DeleteAnon 18 you are right. He must have slept with the younger sister for them to be having this kind of feelings for each other
DeleteFor you to have gotten attracted to the younger sister in the first place shows you have no integrity. Love or attraction only happens when you consider the person acceptable to you in that regard. This is why a man would run into a gorgeous female cousin for the first time and not be attracted because he knows that this is not acceptable or possible in that regard. Why didn’t you have such an instinct?
DeleteThey are yet to understand that love is not a feeling. It’s an action word
DeleteBe deceiving yourself. Man without sense of morals and judgment
You better leave that family before you become a weapon fashioned against them
Zendaya
Confused men are irritating. He will still see another lady elsewhere and japa. When he marries he will be chasing side chicks upandan, telling them he wished he met them first, and how bad the wife is.
DeleteI know a family in Lagos it happened to. Guy eventually married the younger sister. Didn’t end well. He later broke up with her and married yet someone else. Useless man and younger sister. Now she is bitter and miserable and somehow estranged from her family
DeleteOga abeg just walk away from that family, maybe if you see another of there sister again you will still fall in love and leave the new sister again.. you better respect yourself and leave that family alone..
ReplyDeleteYou need Jesus in ya Life ooo
DeleteLet me tell something...you is confuse ooo
So if ya girlfriend babe is confuse like you with ya friend or younger brother
How will you feel?
Infuation
Very true Stellamo, work away from both sisters to safe yourself from family cold war.
DeleteOga, tomorrow you'll see the younger sister young sis, and fall in love again, ba🙄. You are not yet dating but have gone ahead to do tests. Next thing you will say is she mistakenly got pregnant for you, so you have to marry her. Abeg if you do not want to date your girlfriend, end the relationship but stay away from her family.
ReplyDeleteI tire, Poster please don't go and tear someone's home, since you lack self-control abeg end it with your girlfriend and look elsewhere cos the beautiful ones are not yet born. The sister is devilish.
DeleteYou are not in a relationship but you have had long talks and been to test for genotype compatibility! You are not read to get married. Just sleep with both of them if they allow you and go far away from them as possible because I am sure say na wetin go calm your bodi be that. Ashawo still plenty for your body.
ReplyDeleteAnd this younger sister that her eyes and legs are after things meant for her elder sister will just be perfect for your type because she will definitely outsmart you and do you dirty at some point.
The sister self is a bad sister..instead of her rebuking you she is busy telling you that she is feeling the same way with you..you better tell her the truth..
ReplyDeleteWonderment of this world. Mr confused man, put yourself in the picture. How would you feel if your Gf decided to cut you off because he fell for your younger brother?
DeleteHow would you react if these ladies were your sisters and another man is trying to cause rift in your family.
Gently walk away from the family. The parents might not accept you. Your marital life will always be complicated because of lust. You will never have peace of mind because nobody will believe your story of not cheating with the younger sister.
Abort mission immediately.
So you are Thinking what am Thinking...
DeleteSee younger sister from the pit of hell
Holy ghost fire consume the both of you oooo..chaiii
This Life self..
How can you lead the elder sister On and fall in Stupid Love with the younger One
Love Kill you there👋👋👋
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I really don't understand this chronicle today ooo...just imagine the said lady does this same thing to both of you.
DeleteAbeg no just vex me this evening... nonsense.
You lack self control oga, na your type they sleep with wife younger sister. You better face front if you dont have anything good for that family you are about to destroy cos of your selfness.
ReplyDeleteOnly younger sister? He may also sleep with his wife's friends and even their help because he has no self control nor boundary.
DeleteDo you think the sister is the finest or only person you will be drawn to or feel so strongly about in your lifetime? The minute you marry, the temptation will start. You will see better babes. That is where the self control and conscious decision to stay true to your partner which you lack is needed.
You and the sister fit each other. Two selfish humans with ojukokoro .
Even the younger sister is also a fool
ReplyDeletePoster if you move to the younger sister you will bring serious issue between them, things will never be the same again. Please stay away and don't hurt the elder.
ReplyDeletePlease I beg you in the name of God, stay away from that family. This thing that you want to do will never end well
ReplyDeleteYou will only end up causing problem.
Pete Edochie has a saying... He who brings an and infested wood into the house must expect visits from lizards.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is tasking enough on its own already. Why start it off in such a bad foot? You want to create enmity between both sisters? I don't think dating the younger sister should even be an option for you.
There will always be someone else better than the person we are currently with. Does that mean we should keep jumping from one partner to another? Besides I didn't see where you wrote that there was an issue between you and the elder sister.
For the younger sister to even have gone ahead to do a genotype test with you is a serious mark of betrayal. Is that how desperate for marriage she is?
You do whatever suits you. But I'll be lying if I say anything good will come out of this.
Poster leave those girls and move on.
ReplyDeleteE no go work
If I'm their parents I won't allow this marriage to hold
ReplyDeleteYou are a wicked person. Tomorrow you will see another cousin and fall in love with her. Walk away from that family.
ReplyDeleteUseless he goat, tomorrow you will fall in love with their mother. Next one will be their niece,the next will be their cousin.
ReplyDeletePlease, remove your cursed self from the family, wicked man. Don't worry someone will fall in love with your sister and person will leave your sister and marry your mother.
Oloshi, oloriburuku,madman.
First, you don nack the older sister?
ReplyDeleteYour response would determine what my advice would be
Let him knack both of them if them go allow him so his eye will clear. Nothing clears infatuation like when you have seen the person finish. Once has demystified both, he will fall in love with another cousin.
DeleteMEN have discipline, have SELF CONTROL of your emotions. It will save you a lot of stress. If I were the sister I'll run for dear life. Betrayal of trust hurts more than a stab wound.
ReplyDeleteFor the record, immediately you started thinking about the sister, probably fantasizing about her 😊😊, your attraction for your girlfriend just started withering away. It's just normal. As men, remove your eyes from the sister abegii. The mess you're trying to incur is not worth it. Imagine how the family will react negatively to this.
Go and ask people who did exactly this and learn from them why this should never be done.
One more thing, if you've already started MATING with your girlfriend, then it's MISSION IMPOSSIBLE.
THINK WITH YOUR HEAD AND NOT YOUR P*NIS!!!!
I know one pastor's daughter that had a similar scenario, he came to the house for the older sister but eventually married the younger sister and they were all okay with it. Poster, this one you have done genotype and can't stay away from each other, I hope it's not what I'm thinking.
ReplyDeleteJust break up with the older sister first and keep your relationship secret till she has healed fully. I hope it works out for you, I hope this is genuine and not lust as some sisters are known to target their siblings' men.
Yes, it happens. I met a girl when I was volunteering who told me that her father was first dating her aunt, then he came to the house and met her mother, he ended things with the aunt and got married to her mother. She was the product of that union, so it does happens.
DeleteOne thing about living long, you will see all kinds of things and hear all kinds of story. Length of years is the greatest teacher about this life, and still nobody lives long enough to learn all the lessons.
It happens & all goes well but not everytime or in every family o. Poster don't use your selfish hands to scatter that family
DeleteI don't know what some men want. Years ago, my elder sister's boyfriend told me that he wished he met me earlier. That he is dating the wrong sister. Then proceeded to try to connect me with his best friend. That was the day I stopped seeing him as a big brother and started giving him distance. I did not tell my sister because she was crazy about him. But started avoiding him and his friends.
ReplyDeleteOga poster, there are so many women in the world. Feelings are fickle. Do not destroy a family because of your lust that you are calling love. KEEP IT MOVING.
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ReplyDeleteHow can you love someone who is betraying her sister indirectly.... you have gone to do test kwa! Hope you are not under an influence...this one you can't control it.
ReplyDeleteFind an older person and speak with please. Marriage is not a joke.
Please stay away from this family in the name of God abeg. One thing you should understand is that love is a decision, and if you're honourable, please take the decision to fall out of love with the younger sister and walk away from the family. I also blame the younger sister, why will I even entertain someone who wants to ditch my sister? Doesn't she have boundaries?
ReplyDeleteThe family dynamics will never be the same if you and the younger sister get together. I sincerely hope that you and your girlfriend have not been sexually intimate. Because knowing two sisters is just ewwww.
ReplyDeleteIf you and the younger sister insist on being together at all costs, then know that you will have to relocate, at the minimum to a far away state, and better yet, to a completely different country. The family dynamics will never ever be the same. She will suffer more than you for this choice and she has to know exactly what she is signing up for. Plus, there is no guarantee that the attraction and chemistry you both feel today will translate into a long lasting happy union. Hot passion can fizzle out just as easily as it started, yet it is she who will have to live with the tarnished character for the rest of her life, you will get to easily walk away. You must sit her down and tell her exactly what she is signing up for. If you die soon after the marriage she will still have to live with a tarnished image. You are asking her to sign up for a very risky venture with you at a very high cost to her. I do not know how young she is, even you. But lay everything on the table and even if she chooses to back out, you must break off the current relationship with your girlfriend, that union is irretrievably broken by your desires and personal plans. Do not string her along another day, break it off right now. Tell her, you do not see yourself married to her, or having a future with her and there is no point wasting her time, you are releasing her so a worthy man can find her.
Very true. I know a family this happened to. The marriage didn’t last up to two years, too much drama. How would poster act around his ex at family functions, omugwo etc. The side looks from Aproko family members will trigger unnecessary quarrels between the couple. Even when the sister eventually marries, do you think she would want the poster and younger sis anywhere near her home. We are not oyibo people ooo. Our hobby is gisting / gossiping. The selfish younger sis thinks it’s a movie until reality dawns on her
DeletePoster,y are u asking us? U have gone for genotype test and had long talks hope u haven't slept with her bcos u would be a bad person.u are dating both sisters, in ur mind is dat right? Leave that family alone before calamity befalls u.from ur write up it shows that u have a wandering eye.but should it be in d same family?haba! That family is better off without ur wahala.u are already trying to sow a seed of discord and d silly younger sister is there enabling it.nawa oh for some people.
ReplyDeleteExactly. He has wandering eyes. Poster na longerthroat dey worry you. Don't you know that the beautiful ones are not yet born? The sister na betrayer. You wan cause kasala for that family ba?
DeleteWow this is not so good, you want to damage this girl health for selfish sake.. stay far away from them you will be heal too
ReplyDeleteJust tell the sister
ReplyDeleteThe younger sister isn't a good sister at all. So she is ready to sacrifice her relationship with her sister and probably the family just to be in a relationship with you. She should never contemplate having anything to do with you . Yeye sister
ReplyDeleteGod deliver me from evil sister and devil boyfriend, if I were the elder sister, I will curse both of you with everything in me and it shall come to pass.
ReplyDeleteI pray both of you end up together so that you can see the repercussions because nobody does it and won't regret later.
Please go ahead and fufill your lust with that your betrayal, you deserve each other.
I watched a movie recently,the scenario you painted up there happened ànd it spoilt their relationship.How woul you feel if your girl fàll in love with your younger brother. Please tell yourself the truth.If all of us live by the golden rule,the world will be a better place.
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Dear poster, what you are feeling for the younger sister is LUST. Just say NO to lust and move far away from that family, don't break it up. The younger sister is also a bad child for stabbing her sister at the back. When God want to give you a gift, he does not add sorrow so the younger girl cannot be what God plan for you. Commot yah eyes.
ReplyDeleteYou are not in a relationship yet but you perform a genotype test. sad and bad. What a sister. How can you both have such evil thoughts? If the sister was not there you would marry her, right? Seems like someone without direction.
ReplyDeleteSelf control,discipline and fear of God are what we need iñ all relationship or we for don fall in love tire.If doubt me
ReplyDeleteremove these three virtues and you collect woto woto from opposite sex.
Chi chi loving
What you are feeling now will be tested in the marriage... please don't but that innocent family into depression and hate because of your lack of control.
ReplyDeleteTell her immediately and pls do not date her sister,it will break her emotionally.pls go date someone else and leave that family alone.
ReplyDeleteDo you think the family of the ladies are headless individuals? No family in Africa will consent to what you are about to. If you are no longer in love with your first girlfriend, kindly let her go, find another lady entirely and move on with your life. NOT WITH HER YOUNGER SISTER PLEASE.
ReplyDeleteNawa for boyfriend and girlfriend's sister.
ReplyDeleteI feel differently
ReplyDeleteIt happens
Not a big deal
You are scum evil man may you never succeed in dividing the family in jesus if you try may evil before you olosi
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm you see this life choose yourself over anyone or anything cos everyone has a tendency to dissapoint you!
ReplyDeleteThe sister too? The generation where siblings had each others back is gone!
I can never feel anything for a friends guy not to talk of sister
You go sleep with their mother with time. Nonsense. Mrs O
ReplyDeleteLol it’s said that a lot of people still underestimate the power of love because most of us settle down just for settling sake,dear poster I kind of understand what you are going through love is hard to control and it takes the grace of God and it would be bad if you also marry the elder sister who you do not love just because then end up being miserable,tell the older sister how you really feel but distance yourself for like 3months or more from the younger sister,if it’s meant to be love never hides.
ReplyDeleteGuy move on with your life and yeye love,stay away from that family please.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I don't want to introduce my bf to my sis. She is far more beautiful than I am and i fear what will happen. It's not easy being the ugly elder sis.😭
ReplyDeleteMy dear it's not like that if you re afraid of him meeting your sis what of neighbors, colleagues or friends, pls invest in your self esteem to carry you far ,make up look good carry your self high , any glman that falls for another sister in the same family should be avoided and that s on periodt
DeleteThe more reason you should introduce them then observe. Abi you think men can't cheat in marriage? If he is truly in love with you, it won't matter how beautiful your sister is. There are men who are not overly obsessed With outward appearance. Please try to have some confidence in yourself and believe in yourself that you are worth it.
DeleteBeauty is alluring, ppl are captivated by beautiful ppl but that does not mean your man will physically desire your sister, he may stare and move on. My cousin rejected a very beautiful girl when they were younger, and when I saw this girl was stunning, I mean stunning. He rejected her because he said he did not want to deal with a woman that so many men would desire, too much headache for him. Plus, she was very light skinned and he loved dark skinned women, so she wasn't even his spec.
DeletePlease know that what is in you, the spirit in you is not in your sister and the person who will love and desire to be around your spirit will not have eyes to see you sister.
This comment is funny a d you lack self love. Work on it and you’ll see how beautiful you are.
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Poster I reject you over and over again in Jesus name , anybody that will enter and disturb the peace of a family like you may they not see the person in the first place tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteWhen you people are doing something, ask yourself, what if this happens to me, how will I feel? How can you be so callous in your thinking? This dey bury your intestine in that family? You're just clearly lusting after the sister. Nothing more..if you don't want to have anything to do with your girlfriend, then leave the family in total
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