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WAHALA EMPLOYMENT
I have this boy friend that I paid 800k to help me with a job. This man said his boss was the one that has the connection for the job so I borrowed money where I pay 5% (40k) monthly as interest.
I later discovered that this friend is actually the one that has the connection for the job. He just collected the 800k and watch me lament daily on how the interest and effort to pay the capital is affecting my emotions. He will dash me (2k -5k) some weeks to buy food when I beg him for money .
Recently he has turned himself to god in my life. I cannot chat or talk with him effortlessly again with insults on how he has helped my life. How my life will have been miserable without the job he gave me. I am just tired. Nothing I do or say pleases this man again.
The most annoying part is that I am just being careful not.to.offend him because of that singular favour. I was way better than this guy before things turned around. Those days I never looked down on him. His constant insult is affecting me. He warned me not to call him on phone again because I asked him to forgive me if ever I have offended him because I value his friendship...
*My Dear please start lookin for work because he will eventually soon sack you.... Horrible friend, he collected money and still wont let you breet, abeg sack yourself cos hes looking for reason to sack you and will find it....
Wickedness!
1)you shouldn't have paid for the job.
ReplyDelete2) he's acting like a god, cos you're treating him like one.
3) he asked you not to call him, meaning you have been calling to ask for forgivenss. If i may ask, why are you begging him.sef! Friendship is not by force.
My dear, block and delete his contact. No give am face again. If he calls using another line, block it. Go on a blocking spree. Put yourself on the pedestal.🤗
When you paid for a job, what did you expect? What sort of job did you get that you still need 2k to eat? I understand that you are paying off the loan; are you paying them 100% of your salary? You agreed to the terms of the loan so just make sure you keep to it. People have been advised a million times not to pay for a job but una go still do wetin una want do. Just make sure he doesn't fire as he may want to fire you and hire someone else that will pay him for the same role.
DeleteWhy are some people wicked bikonu. You collect 800k from your friend for a job you could have easily given her and now give her peanuts from the same money with insults. Poster please just start looking for another job ooooo and kindly disassociate urself from dat guy when you eventually find sumtin else. He is not a good person 😒😒😒
ReplyDeleteYou dont know people are very wicked? Even from some uterrances on this blog you wll know we are surrounded by wickedness.
DeleteSo what is your point ?he fulfilled the bargain even if you discovered that the job belong to him he just show you that he can't do it for nothing so why codedely wanting your money back by saying he watches you suffering to pay back the loan you took is it his fault that you need job ,more importantly you want him to get job for your for nothing and he is not into that so what are you asking us to do?let Stella give you job free if you resign ,hunger will show you shege
ReplyDelete@goke you are always high on something. Go back and read the chronicle again. Did I tell you I codedly want my money back?. Did you not read that I was helping him before things went bad. Did you not read that I value the relationship?. This is a government job he cannot sack me. Be calming down. This life is not that difficult
DeleteHaaa! Goke, you typed all this? No pity at all. I hope you would say the same thing to yourself if someone you call a friend does this to you?
DeleteHmmmm
I won't consider to call such person a friend... Genuine friends help each other to grow, without conditions attached
ReplyDeleteLike stella wrote, Better start looking for another job, because with the way he's going, He might get you fired from that job
Stay away from such person... He's not your friend, and for the sake of your mental health too
Good luck with everything
She said its goverment job so its kind of secured. Most people pay for government jobs o. I remember how many times i was asked to being this and that amount in millions just to be able to get a government job.
DeleteIf you value his friendship then put up with his attitude period otherwise do the opposite
ReplyDelete800k to get a Job
DeleteNa waooo
Nne if nah POS Business you start he for better o
Rather self Food business
Is far better ooo
Is because you paid to get the Job nah that way insult joorrr
Take 🍍🍍🍍
Chaiii 800kkkkkkk
Some people are not honest at all. And you are still calling him friend? I doubt if he is. It's better you don't expect much from him and pray for a better job. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteThese days, I don’t tolerate the littlest of nonsense from anyone. I put myself, my emotions and well-being first. If you threaten it, that’s it.
ReplyDeleteI don’t go about disrespecting people or talking down on them, I deserve same treatment.
How can you even call such a human your friend? He knows what’s up with you, still he went ahead to collect almost a million from you. That one nor pain you reach you are still entertaining insults from him.
Get boys to rough him up, cough out that money and end that friendship cos he doesn’t deserve any respect.
Sluttychic.
Before you get boys to roughen someone, you must be affiliated, coz they won't work for you if they don't know you and assess the might of the person they are going to attack.
DeleteYou can never run out of patience if you ask God to fill you with it. Because getting a job is hard these days I'll advise you follow him with wisdom and stay away from him as much as possible. Goodluck
DeleteI don't understand. You got the job and became dependent on him? If he says back off, sis back the hell off and do your job independently. Stop forcing a friendship he doesn't want ..
ReplyDeleteDon't sack yourself. Simply become very efficient on that job. The secret of the work place security and excellence is in these two cards : the efficiency card- make sure you go extra mile on your dedication to that job. Be good at what you do and always do extra.The relationship card- make sure you are in good relationship with your superiors.
ReplyDeleteTake this advice. If you follow this advice well, even if that man asks them to sack you, they won't.
DeleteDon’t quit oh. Job is not easy to find especially juicy job like that
ReplyDeleteBut stop calling him na. Maybe he thinks you have grown wings after the help. Just leave him alone
Hmmmm is there a way you can cut tides from him without losing your job? dont even know what to say human are mean and not to put faith on. God will see you through.
ReplyDeleteWhy is some humans this mean nah?, poster i'm really surprised you called that wicked guy your friend.
ReplyDeleteBiko don't sack yourself without getting something better o,
This is the time to act like a fool to him until you are sure you can do without his almighty job. Good luck in your newjobhunt!
Poster he is not your friend. Just have that at the back of your mind. Real friends do not treat another that way.
ReplyDeleteYou bought wahala for yourself. This guy is a user. He is done with you. Read the hand writing on the wall.
ReplyDeleteTry and make positive impact at work. Be serious and add value so that you can become promoted and indispensable. Secure your job with your skill if you are genuinely qualified for it.
A U.S.E.R
DeleteThey keep treating you like trash unprovoked while you keep begging them.
They are narccissists who keep manipulating you and erode your sense of self worth. You will only do and believe whatever they say
Hmm which kind evil man be this?
ReplyDeleteThis your situation is somehow cos if this man changes his mind he can just ask for your sack.
Pls be looking for a new job o.
Take it to God in prayer, this man is not bigger than God, stop treating him like god, Call his bluff already.
Wizard
Half a chronicle.
ReplyDeleteOkay, not fully complete.
You showed your disappointment when you found out that he was the one having the job. Right?
Did he have all say in giving the job? Nobody else to settle?
Even if all you said is true. Calm down. Recoup your investment as you do your work well to make other people and your boss like your productivity.
I did not tell him when I found out. I acted as if nothing happened. I was grateful he coose to give me the opportunity even though he collected money. My worry is his sudden change towards me.
DeletePoster leave him alone now
DeleteWhy are you forcing things. This person doesn't value you. Just face your work
I thought you were talking about the boy friend that you later married. Boyfriend not husband? Will he sack or effect your sacking? What's going? See you see nervous breakdown if you don't step out of his shadow after all, you paid for the job.
ReplyDeleteSo, in the case he proposes, you accept and you start till-death-do-you-part count down of life of emotional and nervous breakdown?
You paid, do you understand? You paid for it.
Wise up.
I don't think the boy friend is her boyfriend..
DeleteThere is a difference between boyfriend and boy friend..
One is a person you're romantically involved with, the other is a male friend..
As you can see, hers is the latter, there's space between the 'boy' and the 'friend'..
#Stay with me
#Im rooting for you😁
Thank you.
DeleteWhy worry about his relationship. Maybe his concience is disturbing him. Block him.
They are not dating, just friends
DeletePoster what type of job did you have to pay 800k to get? If it is not a civil service job, and that your employment is from Grade level 8(senior staff) then you took a very bad gamble. Unless it's the above job, and your appointment has been confirmed, only the civil service commission can terminate your appointment, not even the permanent secretary.
ReplyDeleteIf the job is a civil service job, and you are a senior staff, your appointment has been confirmed via official correspondence, just be rest assured that your boyfriend cannot threaten your appointment.
However, if the job is in the private sector, just know you made a wrong sacrifice. This is because there is no job security in the private sector. You are at the whims and caprices of whoever calls the shots in the office, and your boyfriend could have you conveniently booted out. My advice if the latter is you situation, start looking for a job elsewhere, forget the 800k you gave your rogue boyfriend cos it is gone. But this time around, don't be desperate, less another person takes advantage of you again. Send out your CVs to as many openings as you know, and even search for remote/work from home jobs online.
Lastly, pick up what is left of your self respect by desisting from calling that guy. He has shown you that your feelings and friendship mean nothing to him, infact you have alway meant nothing to him. Show him you can stand without him. If you have anything of value to sell that will you clear off the 800k debt at once, please do, this 40k monthly interest rate will stifle you financially if you continue
Did you offend him that is making you beg for forgiveness?
ReplyDeleteHe said you shouldn't call him again then stop calling him let him do the calling. If that job is truly yours nobody can collect it from you
He is a very wicked person, but I don't think you should quit your job now oo except if you have a better offer country hard oo, just pray to God to touch his mind towards you. I Wish you the best
ReplyDeleteThe guy is wicked. Be praying for favour and God will shame him when he wanna do otherwise.
DeleteWicked man
ReplyDeleteI wish you used that money to start up something for yourself,rather than waste it on this job.Please start looking for another job asap while managing this one because this one isn't guaranteed.All the best.
ReplyDeleteHe won't be able to sack her.. calm dan.. especially if na government job, you think say e easy to just sack person public or civil servant like that..
DeleteAnd no talk say she suppose use an invest, which better investment she won use 800k do compared to a life time job with job security and all.. even if na 150-200k you go dey earn self, it's still better, but I feel she might even be earning more.. some kind runs sef fit still dey the job were you go dey make coded money.. you know as this nonsense country be nah.. you bribe people to do their job
Please, start looking for a job, don't quit your job ooo unless he's asking you for sex or the situationbecomes unbearable. Naija economy is not smiling now, and I guess the job is a well paying job. The year has almost ended, from January next year there will be a lot of job opportunities due to people leaving their current job for a new one or due to relocation.
ReplyDeleteY do u want to keep chatting him up if he doesn’t want? Have u ever heard of the word ‘boundary’ google it pls, that’s wat he is setting for u. You paid for the job and got it, i dnt consider it a favor, since you paid for it. Fave front and do ur job diligently, let ur work speak for u instead of forming frndships where u r nt wanted.
ReplyDeleteFocus on the job you now have and forget about friendship.
ReplyDeleteHe's no longer your friend. In fact, don't ever see the need to call him except he does and be formal in your communication with him, strictly business!
Which kind help comes with insults and such embarrassment from someone you called a friend?? You said his insults is affecting and also claimed to value his friendship,how?? Don't let him kill your self esteem cos you sound so helpless. As he warned you not to call him again, take a break from doing so. Start searching for a better job,or go out there you may meet other people to talk to. He doesn't act like a friend.
ReplyDeleteMake una dey send full chronicle. Only change the particulars. Except the chronicle is an Uriah message to a Bv.
ReplyDeleteThe chronicle obviously no dey complete
DeleteThank you @Anonymous 16:50.
DeleteShe left out some details in the chronicle.
May God help you find peace and fulfilmen.
I am the poster. Nothing was left.
DeleteNothing was left
DeleteSituation is clear as day
Guilty conscience is worrying the guy
Which kind help comes with insults and such embarrassment from someone you called a friend?? You said his insults is affecting and also claimed to value his friendship,how?? Don't let him kill your self esteem cos you sound so helpless. As he warned you not to call him again, take a break from doing so. Start searching for a better job,or go out there you may meet other people to talk to. He doesn't act like a friend.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of fckry is this? 800k for job that is not sure, that you still have to on probation for 3 months for. And you took out high interest loan to get the money. My dear, you love to take risks.
ReplyDeleteWe have talked about desperation leading to nothing good many times on the blog. No matter how great the need, acts of desperation always seem to do us in.
Try to get a second job or a side hustle that can help you get more money and to pay off the loan quicker.
Okay, let's leave the part about buying a job.
ReplyDeleteThis country is a big mess, job buying has become the order of the day, especially in federal government parastatals.
That he collected 800k from you. That's fine too. Whether it's him that has the connect or not is irrelevant. Other people would have paid if you didn't. You don't expect him to give you for free right?
Lastly, stop enabling nonsense from him. He didn't give you the job for free, so he has no right to continue to demean you. I kinda feel it's a big job tho, and maybe it's worth more, like people pay over a million or two for it, but he gave you at a subsidised rate,. But that's irrelevant, the koko is that you paid and he didn't give you for free, so he should stop bragging like he changed your life, you also changed his life with the 800k you paid..
Unless there are other things you're gaining or looking to gain from him, that's probably why you're taking all these toxic behaviour, cos I don't understand
I guess the guy had to warn you to stay off cos you are always disturbing him for money- BEGGER
DeleteYou feel he should have given you the job for free- ENTITLEMENT
you still feel you are better than him if not for condition- PRIDE
Beggar with Entitlement and Pride..
Terrible combination.
Leave him alone.. he is NOT your friend..
Most times you girls claim a guy is your friend, you want to USE the guy for your benefits only.. nothing for him to gain from the friendship
So, this job buying is a real thing? I mean, I know about networking and connections helping you to land a job, but I never knew that ppl actually paid to get jobs. I really have been living under a rock
DeleteThis your friend is so mean and wicked, I do not understand why you are begging and desperate for this friendship
ReplyDeleteAbeg back off from this friendship and be very good at the job. Friendship isonu
I have no pity for anyone who pays anything (kind or cash) to get a job. They are part of our problems. Anything you see in the hands of your business partner-in-crime take it like that.
ReplyDeleteObviously you don't know what happens in the federal government sector in this country. You are talking from an if ignorant point of view.
DeletePoster put in your all at that job. Be friendly but be careful too. Then stay away from him since he is killing you slowly with his bad treatment. Let him be. You value his friendship, does he feel the same way?
ReplyDeletePls stay away from him and face your job squarely
What a friend! Did you say you still beg him for forgiveness.pls let him go, he's not a friend.it seems what you are going presently has affected your self confidence.
ReplyDeletePoster,you need to build your self confidence again by changing the way you see things around you.remember, this is a phase which will pass away soon.Talk to other people and submit your CV, believe you get a better job else where soon.goodluck!
I'm waiting for the full truthful story
ReplyDeleteWhy not help me and write the full truthful story.
Delete🤣
DeleteYou see deceitful and wicked people? I hate them so much bcos those are the attributes of the devil!
ReplyDeleteWhy treat someone bcos u have the power in your hands?
You gave him opportunity for the abuse..... Don't shine teeth with him always.
ReplyDeleteThis poster sef your own dey your body, jumping all over the post replying people.
ReplyDeleteIf you can’t take varied opinions why did you send in your chronicle?
He has helped you have given him is reward the end
ReplyDeleteIf you can ignore him please do, just make sure you learn the job so that you can breathe without him
ReplyDeletePoster poster calm down o.
ReplyDeleteNa the scope.😁
He wants to frustrate you out of that job so that he can SELL THAT SLOT AGAIN.
Simple.
With the way economy is moving like a truck without seatbelt, he will even sell that SLOT for 1.2m.
People go pay na.
Poster better adjust your girdle.
I don't know what type of job so I can't advise further, I don't want to speak off grid.
But sha tighten your girdle.
Tis well.
You value the friendship but he doesn't. Please stay on your lane and do your job efficiently
ReplyDeleteDon't quit oooooo, I am here trusting God for a good job over 10 years post graduation.