EMOTIONAL CHECKOUT
Stella and bvs , please I need advice.
My ex and I got married to different people because of genotype issue, both AS, we are both seriously in love but we don't want to bring children into the equation...
It's been 10 years but we still communicate, I'm married to a man I like ,he's a good man but I'm not in love with him, my ex too on the other hand married the girl he's not in love with,we both keep communication,we are best friends, but no s#x attached since we both got married,but we still love each other, talk about our dreams.
Now he's saying since we've both had 2 kids each that we should divorce our partners, and get married, travel round and enjoy. Though the idea sounds inviting, he's rich and he's always been the one assisting me, infact the shop I opened,he gave me the money running into millions of Naira. but my husband loves and worships me, he's never given me any reason to doubt his love, but I'm never in love with him, I only love my ex from day 1, he was my first.
He's already in talk with a divorce lawyer concerning his marriage and waiting for me. I want to be with him but I don't want to break my husband. And he said he'll never touch me unless I leave my husband, what do I do?
You have already checked out of theMarriage emotionally..... Living with someone out of pity is wrong...You will eventually nack that your ex....Just get a divorce and live your life abeg!!!
The grass always look greener on the other side till you get there.
ReplyDeleteI think In this case it’s a Actually greener. Let’s be honest
DeletePoster dey play.. I pray you don't lose a good man.. your eyes go soon clear
DeleteMay God forgive me if this is a sin, but I think you should divorce your husband and marry your ex. This would also help your present spouses to find people who love them.
DeleteNa real demon dey pursue this mu sister
DeleteWhen God blessed you with a good husband madam? You said that yourself...When people are seeking God fearing men, you want to throw yours away because of money & old love. Because if your ex is penniless, your love longings will be thought twice. Money is not everything o, peace of mind is & your husband gives you that.
DeleteDoes your ex sound like a God fearing man or a selfish MF? It's his money that is attracting you. If he was poor, all these feelings will disappear. You will divorce your husband and he will not divorce his wife. You have no loyalty or concept of commitment. So if he is willing to sleep with you without you being divorced, you would have slept with him? Your husband is good to you so what exactly do you want. We've said it here a million times that love is not enough. If at your age, you still believe your happiness is tied to a man that is willing to break two families without a care of the impact on his wife, your husband, and the 4 kids involved, you deserve whatever you get. By the time una knack each other and the flame die down, he will divorce you for someone else.
DeleteStolen waters can seem very sweet, and the grass is always greener on the other side. You want to leave your husband who prioritises your happiness for a mere fantasy? By the time the euphoria of sleeping and travelling with your ex fades, you will realise the folly and foolhardiness of your action, only that it may be too late then. To think you both are willing to dump your families to gallivant the world shows how irresponsible and selfish you both are.
DeleteYou are married but is keeping tabs and receiving funding from your ex🤔 if he wasn't rich will the flame still be aglow?. Are you not hanging on to him cos you feel entitled to his wealth. Finally, turn the tables around. How will you feel if your husband dumps you ignominiously for another?
People actually love who they love
DeleteI can’t fault you both, but you both shouldn’t have dragged other parties into this
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Anon 15:56. I believe it's the physical and mental poverty in you talking, not you brains
DeleteI agree with Stella, you already operated with your husband just divorce him to avoid future pain.
DeleteYou go nowhere. Stay put in your marriage!!
ReplyDeleteHow can you conveniently allow your ex, another woman’s husband open a shop for you? Lol.
Your husband didn’t ask you where you got all that money from?
If your ex was poor, would you even consider his proposal? You want to travel the world indeed 🙄
Sluttychic.
First paragraph 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteTrust me, she only mentioned the shop money, but I believe that she has collected other money from the ex throughout the years. And if she and her husband should run into any financial issues, the ex would be the first doorstep she lands on.
DeleteSlutty ur so funny.but ur right if he was poor,she for no look am.
DeleteLol @travel the world indeed
DeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteThe only reason you have not been able to love your husband truly is because you are still holding on to your emotions with your ex, let that ex go truly and watch the love between you and your husband blossom.
DeleteMadam remain married to your husband and forget about all your fantasies with your ex.
ReplyDeleteDo we still have core christians in this age and time? In the joly book the only grounds for divorce is "adultery" which you didn't mention.
"but my husband loves and worships me, he's never given me any reason to doubt his love" see eeh in this part of the e better say your husband love you pass as you love am. E get why!
Have you even thought of your kids or it's all about YOU
If your ex claims he is madly in love with you that much why didn't he marry you and then adopt children? Shebi you said he's rich hence money wouldn't had been a challenge.
Women! Make we try dey get sense abeg
Heeyaarh, what a love story. Romeo and Juliet.
DeleteI know he's been nothing but good to you, but you see that your ex, he's not a nice person. I know he won't bring that part of him towards you but to others, he's just a cold hearted person. You and I know he's marriage is fractured in a way that's not like your own and do you know that if his marriage was ok, and he worships his wife like your hubby does you, he won't consider this. Can he do this for you if his marriage is as smooth as yours?
My dear, I don't know how old you guys are but you would both get bored eventually and think about the trail of heartbroken people you have had to cause pain in exchange for what? A trip to the Bahamas?
Let's find some middle ground, because I know your mind is made up. Go on a vacation with him as I know you are going to anyways, but let that be the end. Don't divorce and don't marry him. Advice him too not to divorce, he would listen to you. Tell him to try to build his marriage if his wife isn't such a bad woman. Many people have crushes and they keep in touch, maybe not to this extent of sharing dreams because that's why you guys think you still have feelings for each other. Be friends, that's all.
When you come back from the vacation, I assure you things will be clearer. 90% chance that you would see why staying in your marriage is a good idea. My fear however is that 10% chance that you both may fall in love deeper. I only wish your partner had some good cash reserves. The allure of this man is the money he gives you. Take away the money he gives you and you would see 10 reasons your partner is better than him. And as things are increasingly difficult nowadays, you would be needing him more in terms of finance.
But think about your kids and his kids, four children whose lives will be in jeopardy and on a different trajectory because two people were too selfish. Yes, that's what you guys are.
I have tried to reason with you, I cut you some slack and not criticize you with harsh words because coming here, you have a residue of God's spirit in you that's holding you back. That voice that's telling you not to do it, that made you come ask us, that's the voice you should listen to. End the madness with the most little collateral damage.
All the best.
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She has thought of the children. She would take them along. Afterall are the children not hers alone? Do men have children of their marriages except to cater for them until adulthood for the mothers and owners of the children?
DeleteDevil just dey beat drum for this poster and she is dancing happily, not knowing that regret is knocking at her door. E go shock you say the ex no go divorce him wife anything. Last last, na side chick you go end up as, that is if his wife does not go spiritual on you and make him dump you like a bad habit.
DeleteThat is when you will understand the importance of having a man that loves you unconditionally, he is rich and he is nice as you claim, then you think he will push away someone he loves (Yes, he loves her, no matter what he is telling you) and married for 10 years with 2 kids will just like that. Continue deceiving yourself.
Infidelity loading, is all this sacrifice worth it, you better face your marriage and your front before problems arise in the future
ReplyDeleteDevilish schemers. You and your ex just used the people you married. Cold and heartless calculation. I have nothing but utmost sympathy for your respective spouses. Your husband particularly, how did you explain to him the millions? Is he in love and a fool as well?
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and break your marriages. Don't be shocked though that you may end up having a child with your ex and then it might turn out to be SS. Then you'd reap the due reward of your schemes.
It bothers me that marriage has become a tool these days. Whatever happened to marrying for love? Why do consciences die easily?
They didn’t calculate anything
DeleteThis is why I say don’t break up cause of genotype
Do ivf amd stay with whom you love
Best comment.. Dog Almighty I am always looking forward to your comments
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DeleteHmmmm!sounding like what someone I know can do.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion,this is a very selfish thing to do to a partner that has never given you any reason to doubt him.A man who worship the ground you walk on.
The reason why the feelings never left is because you kept on nurturing the relationship with your ex,I am not saying you shouldn't talk but you never set boundaries.
Why not spice your marriage,give the other man space and see if you can truly love your husband.youre no longer single,you have two kids,think am well oooo.
Exactly!!! She never let that ex go, so how will she establish a fruitful relationship with another?
DeletePoster you have been married for 10 years but actually been in relationship with 2 people for that duration (your husband and ex), go figure.
What a pity.
ReplyDeleteIrresponsible fellows.
So you used your partners to have kids and now ditching them.
Go and meet your rich ex and start travelling the world madam.
I pray they meet better people too.
This is pure selfishness. You have been unfaithful emotionally to your husband from day one.
ReplyDeleteSince your love for your ex is strong, how do you deal with your new in-laws. They will so much hate you, as a woman. Your kids will hate you for leaving their dad. Your step kids will hate you for breaking up their parents. So much hate will be around you as a woman and not the man. My advice is you cut all communication with him. Look at Yul and Judy. I wish you all the best
Take anon 15.29 advice, otherwise your case will be "worseter" to Yul & Judy
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My Dear...10 years ago was another life. Focus on what you have now...your husband and kids and build a lasting future with them. Love dey fade o. God has blessed you..kilo tun fe?!!
ReplyDeletePeople are looking for good husbands dem no see. You get one, olojukokoro no go let you see road. This world na wa ooo. Covetousness is really bad. I cannot advice you poster. Las Las you go do wetin dey ya mind. I am so sorry for your husband. He really deserves better.
ReplyDeleteStop punishing your husband. Go and join your ex, and leave your innocent husband to be. Don't worry your husband will be hurt but I tell you life doesn't revolve around you Mrs. He will find someone somedays to compliment him.
ReplyDeleteBut you see this your new found love of yours, I pray he doesn't play you just to knack you and take that fantasy away from his head. He will break your heart and turn your life to living hell later. Decide what you want.
You and your ex are not serious. So now you have finished using your respective partners,you want to dump them,right? Your husband has done nothing wrong except marry a woman who never loved him so she can have AA kids. Now you will take innocent kids away from their biological father just so you can be with your ex. How selfish can people be?
ReplyDeleteThat being said...you will do whatever you want to do anyway. But think very carefully about how your actions will affect your husband,your children and family before you satisfy your own desires.
Cuople who are faced with this sgenityoe issue...can I proffer a possible solution so you don't have to end up in this kinds of dilemma. If you guys can afford it,pls opt for IVF using donor egg or sperm. If you want to have 2 kids for instance...you can have the first kid using your wife egg and a sperm donor with AA genotype. For the second kid,use your husband's sperm with a donor egg that's AA. That way you both have biological kids and you can do this for as many kids as you want. Where there is a will,there is always a way. I know a couple who did this and they have their beautiful kids. No drama.
Easier said o when it's time to do it is a painful process
DeleteVery good advice oh, alternative modes of conception should be embraced in this country, there's always a way around things.
DeleteAnon 16:37, how is doing IVF with donor sperm or donor egg a painful process? Is it as painful as raising an SS child? Except they can't afford it, if they can, that's a better alternative.
DeleteDon’t use donor eggs
DeleteJust do embryo selection in ivf
Jaye ori e,but be prepared for whatever comes out of it, it may worth it or it may be full of regrets.
ReplyDeletePoster I just want to remind you that, the grass is not greener anywhere. Know that you haven't lived with your ex in a while and you both have changed, it might not be rosy with him as you think.
ReplyDeletePlease stay with your wedded husband, you don't love him cos you never gave him chance for love cos of your ex, build the home you want....... Some of us got to know and saw our partner the day of the ceremony yet we built and nurture the love.
ReplyDelete🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteYou see why men..just don't give a fuck anymore..imagine you destroying another woman's marriage...okay let's assume men are scum, how about yu considering he other lady that might be hurt.see why most people day it's best for Ken to check out emotionally with women because you women are never stable.only loyal to your feelings and selfish desire.
ReplyDeleteSo according to your argument men should comfortably check out emotionally while women should not because? You sound like a child.
DeleteBoth sexes are involved in playing the game and you are condemning women alone
DeleteNone of this had to happen. You could have both stayed together and used science to help you since money is not an issue for your ex.
ReplyDeleteYou have both been having an emotional relationship all along, you never left each other. He financially provides for you and you are his shoulder to cry on. These ppl were simply means to an end and have never been truly committed to by either of you.
Yes, you still have a conscience but you have stated multiple times you are not in love with your husband, but you could have never been in love with him because your ex has always been in your energy. You never married the man free and empty of another, your entire being was still full of your ex, there have always been three ppl in both marriages. The devastation you will cause by divorcing your husband is still lesser than the devastation of that man being married to a woman that was never really his, that he never truly had. None of the spouses deserve to live in an illusion and delusion of their reality.
Just so you know, you have been chearing on your husband (not only when you sleep with your ex that it's cheating) and I feel so bad for him.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, how do you expect to fall in love with your husband when you are constantly in touch with your ex? The time, energy, effort and all you needed to invest in your home, marriage, and husband, you are busy frolicking with another woman's husband . Thus, preventing her from getting the fullness of her husband. Preventing her from getting a good marriage.
Shame on you madam.
In this present world of many wicked husbands, God gave you one of his best, still blessed you with kids, And despite the years in marriage, this man's love and care is still intact. Even After 2 kids, with only your husband investing in d marriage, you have all these good things to say about him. Then you want to throw all that away for an ex who you have never lived in marriage with.
I must say you are selfish and self centred. Even your kids mean nothing to you,except your "love"
The greatest mistake you will make is leaving your marriage. And trust me, you will never get it back.
Then again,I think your husband deserves better. So instead of you still in marriage but cheating, free him so that someone deserving of him and his love will come in.
He sure deserves better. He also deserves to be loved. To experience true love.
So while on your tour round the world, what happens to the children? I guess it can't stand in d way of your love interest.
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As in ehh sometimes I wonder how people reason , poster let me tell you something my son of six years woke up with nobody in the room he met me downstairs cos I went to do change over ,he said mummy you left me alone in the room I told him son nothing in this world will ever make me to leave you , see dotun fighting for his children and here you re you willingly want to give up your family to be with an ex , ijeoma in your quest enjoy I hope you realize yourself on time
DeleteAs e dey hot!!! 🙌🙌🙌
Delete📌👍 Hf_
DeleteYou're playing a dangerous game. Your husband gives you peace. Stick with him, please.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm this thing called love, been making lives difficult and miserable for people since 1900.
ReplyDeleteIt is well....🚶🚶🚶
This is not love. Love is kind not selfish. This is infatuation
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteLet me be blunt with you. You need to let go of that idea and stop giving flimsy excuses.
E dey ur eye before, no be say one thing...
It's really hard to be with someone you don't love, and it's more harder when the person you're with doesn't match or measure to the standard of your ex.
ReplyDeleteIt's so painful and draining 🤦
Someone pls play "LOVE IS WICKED" By..........🤔
The standard of the ex only exist in her warped mind
DeleteAhewoooooooooo Ahewoooooooooooooooooo... (Claps hand)
ReplyDeleteKai, your husband made a mistake marrying you.
I really wish you can abandon your marriage and go after your ex. You think you're the only woman he's cheating with? E go shock you.
Go fess. I pray God should send your husband soulmate his way.
Hahahaha 🤣🤣 Blackberry don come again o
DeleteLeave am BB, e go shock am. Ashewo man & woman! Rubbish
Delete😂😂😂,BlackBerry,off ya mic oo.
DeleteWell technically he’s not cheating
DeleteHe hasn’t touched her
Y’all life happens.
Technically ke......if not physically he is cheating emotionally, his heart no dey with him wife. Also cheating financially, you can't tell me he told the wife he is funding the side hen.
DeleteThat your ex is wicked sha. He will have to lie or start acting up for his wife to react just to get divorced. The woman will have to suffer mentally for what's coming her way.
ReplyDeleteThe root of your confusion is collecting money from your ex which some women will say it's nothing but will make war when their husband decides to help his ex. Your heart will draw towards comfort and enjoyment which seems lacking in your marriage.
It is becoming dangerous getting married to those who leave their partner because of genotype and tribe, they tend not to let go of their true love
Felicity
Eyaaaaaaaa. I feel pity for your husband
ReplyDeleteThis is an indecent proposal.
ReplyDeleteYesterday someone dropped a comment saying women are very confused beings, u give her gold she says it’s silver she wants, give her silver she says it’s gold she wants. The person was bashed, but he said the absolute truth.
ReplyDeleteWomen are so confused that they don’t even know what they want, themselves.
God help us all.
And the man that wants to leave his family and take another man's wife by force is not confused? Maybe you are right, he is more constructive in his destructive attitude. After all , he already funded a business for his ex. I'm guessing it is you up there spewing childish nonsense. I don notice you so I will try to be skipping useless comments from you. Your mission here is solely to bash women. Too bad.
DeleteYou want to go with ur ex but u dnt want to hurt ur husband, hanty pick a struggle stop confusing ur village people.
ReplyDeleteMadam please remain in your marriage. Your husband has not given you any reasons to doubt hus love for you like you said. You have kids with this man for God sake,what will happen to them?. Build your home with your husband and travel round the world with him and leave your confused ex alone. 10yrs after,what makes you think things will work out fine between you both,he was never yours and he will never be.Get sense
ReplyDeleteYou are an animal and very wicked I wish I can send this to your husband which kind heartless human being are you pls divorce him and go meat your first love and see how your life will end miserably
ReplyDeleteLife sure has a way of fucking people up swears!
ReplyDeleteU have mentally leave that marriage..
ReplyDeleteLeave him then, if u have been married to him for 10years and yet u can't love him then no need bringing with him.
*Being
DeleteLong throat
ReplyDeleteHmm, years ago, a friend approached me for marriage and told me there was a lady he wanted to marry but they had to part because of AS issue. Reading this chronicle makes me so glad I turned him down. I can imagine how this guy treats his wife at home for him to be so bold as to tell his ex to divorce her husband as he's divorcing his wife.
ReplyDeletePoster, you are a wicked person. The reason you're still tied to your ex is because he's wealthy and your husband is not, if not your husband would have even the one opening a business for you. You may have not cheated on your husband physically but you have been cheating om him emotionally. You have been contributing yo another innocent woman's anguish for years, because unlike women who pretend, men who are not in love with their wives don't. I hope your husband finds out what a wicked soul you are.
How I wish people with good intentions meet each other.
Hmmmmm na wa
DeleteThat is why her husband is not progressing. You are spiritually tied to another. Cut all contacts with your ex and see your husband prosper
DeleteYou mean your ex gave you money almost a million naira to run your shop and your hubby didn't ask questions, is that possible? My advice, weigh your options very well before you leave your marriage.
ReplyDeleteIf he would leave his wife to be with you, just know he will also leave you to be with another as well. Marriage is a vow of commitment. Cut all ties from him so you are not tempted. It may not end well if you go ahead with him. Keep the good man you have.
ReplyDeleteI hear u say he's rich right? Ok being rich is just grace,and I can tell u ,that even the love u claim to love him is as a result of his wealthy,but surprisingly to you,u don't kw that God works wonder,the moment u live that ur present husband, which u affirm that he worship and loves you., consider it over,coz one sickness can mess you and ur ex up,in a Twink of eyes, everything comes to zero level,then it will be done on you that all that glitters is not gold.resist devil and enjoy ur life with this God giving man u have.longer throat will implicate you.Ndi high way
ReplyDeleteI am speechless,What a life .
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooooooo
ReplyDeleteGood husband wey some of us dey find......
People that keep in touch with their ex to the extent of financial assistance Omo I raise hand for you. Madam old age love is different from young love. Better stay put with the man that loves and adore you. Una Sabi lucky for love oooo
ReplyDeleteYou mean you will leave your children just to travel round the world?
ReplyDeleteNo be small thing oo
DeleteSh#meless woman!
So madam after achieving you guys dreams marrying another person to birth your kids, now you ll leave them to be together selfishness at it's peak , so you now leave your children with your oga,him leave his kids with his wife , then una go begin so ajala chaii uwa nke a sef that means zero worries ,just eat ,sleep and wake up to each other no birthing of other kids again o boy , I know it seems and feels juicy but I want you to speak to your inner mind encourage that man to mend his marriage he is treating a fellow woman like you bad even initiating divorce and you re giving him a go ahead, well how ever you want it but just know that you think it through it's either it favor you or you fuck up big time
ReplyDeleteBiko a note to ndi genotype issues don't go and marry another person and then years time you begin dey talk like poster, make una marry and save your respective spouses this kind of pain this poster it's planning.
Madam I hope and pray that in due time you ll send us a reply that you did what is right both by conscience and what is right ,even in the sight of God because na asunder you dey put so
There is no point advicing you to learn how to love your husband because I know your mind is already made up and one day you may end up sleeping with your ex. latter someone will say there is no harm keeping an ex whom you once had sexual escapades with as a friend even when married. Please as you are planning to do what you have in mind, make sure you explain to your husband the reason for your actions on time so he can know how to program his mind. I know some persons may not take such an information lightly as the might look for a way to hurt you, especially if they have invested so much in you. You know your husband and you know how he reacts to things. Make sure you apply wisdom when revealing this to him. Tell him what made you separate from your ex. Explain to him how much love you and your ex had for each other... Don't give him the hints all in one day. Reveal these things bit by bit. Even without you telling him straight up that you don't love him, those stories you tell him about you and your ex from time to time will help bring the awareness in his mind that love was never the reason you married him . Then after a long time you tell him that you are nolonger interested in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. See how people marry who they are not in love with. You would have waited more, maybe you would have found another man that you are more compatible with if you waited more, instead of putting this poor man in this situation. He is even a good man, Kai! I don't just like betrayal.
Lol people force people to stay with people they don’t love you can’t force feelings the married those other people out of need it’s sounds selfish but it’s life,it is de service to live with people you are barely tolerating the resent and eventually hatred crips in if she and the ex wants to come back it’s their choice but they should be ready to face the consequences, again our society should allow people speak their truth and emotions instead of this hypocrisy about do or die marriages leading lack of fulfillment.
ReplyDeletePoster biko what did you tell your husband I mean the source of that big money and he did not ask you ,you get rich family members I pity him cos he has been so blind to your cunny and backstabbing attitude, the way I dey respect my marriage taking money from family member dey Shane me unless dey want to help how much more ex with that huge amount,that man should open his eyes pls cos you re about to kill him emotionally if he is already in the market to be sold by you who he married, fed,loved and still loving Judas do pass this one yes he did cos na the same boat una dey .
ReplyDeleteNdi betrayers without remorse go and travel round the world oshey traveler,money is enticing you and you re here yarning opata about love , love wey make you marry another man cos of genotype after using him finish you wan leave am , you go see yourself for what you did yourself
Selfish MFs...y didn't yall marry, do ivf with pgt since your Wickes ex has money...
ReplyDelete10yrs and una still no fit forget.
ReplyDeleteOtilo o
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Trust me poster you guys will soon knack .
Do the needful and face whatever result that comes from it.
I wish you well
So, what'll happen to the kids. It's always about the kids. I get love but both of you are very selfish. Imagine the reasoning "to travel around the world"
ReplyDeleteWhat'll then happen to your kids. Your family of 10yrs ???. You both are selfish. I guarantee you that if you leave your marriage and go with this guy, once the honeymoon phase is over, the love ends there.
To potential couples who can't marry because of genotype incompatibility, the good news is you can actually if you have the resources for medical intervention (surgery). It's called bone marrow transplant.
ReplyDeleteSo should you have children with sickle cell disease you can correct it via surgery.
423 was here.
Why are doctors not making this awareness to the public?
DeleteSee your mouth like Wikipedia. Do you know the cost (financial, emotional, pyschological), complications, prognosis, etc involved. See how you are mentioning as if its paracetamol for headache. Your yeye de smell for Internet.
DeleteAnd they lived happily ever after is worrying this poster 😀😀😀
ReplyDeletePlease get a lawyer and start your divorce process and be with the man you love….I pray your husband gets to find out you don’t love him so he looks for who deserves his love…That’s why I always preach love with your head not your heart,the man go think say he get loyal wife for house meanwhile na rabbit wae punana dae scratch to rub another man…rubbish
ReplyDeletePoster follow your heart if not you will keep regretting and wishing you had. Life is too short. The heart wants what time wants, your husband will be alright las las.
ReplyDeleteMany people only think of themselves alone, you both are selfish. You will not have it all in this plot. Trading other people happiness.
ReplyDeleteThe Bible says, there's a way that looks good to a man, but the end is destruction.
ReplyDeletePlease don't leave your husband.
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteYour hormones are raving, you are dreaming, wishing and fantasising. He is your EX, your PAST. Why have you dragged him along to your present and even to make him your future?
There is a reason people stop commuication to the barest minimum or even block their exes.
Don't think you have not been cheating on your husband, you have been from day 1. God sees you as an adultress, which is why you don't have peace. If you had peace, you wouldn't be sending this chronicle.
Break up with that man physically and emotionally. Say a final good bye. Block him on all platforms and Delete his numbers. Oh, you will ache to call him, you will ache to speak with him, you will cry, you will be irritable, you will wish,... Then you will heal.
When you feel like calling him, call your husband instead. Be intentionall about loving every detail about him. See him as your husband, not an AA sperm donor.
Have you thought about your children? How would you feel seeing them in tears?? My dear, I could go on and on.
Why not take some time out and go on a personal retreat. Ask yourself some questions and PRAY. ASK THE HELP OF GOD, AND DO RIGHT.
Peace.
@ Slim shady they actually do maybe not enough.
ReplyDeleteMedical science is evolving and some incurable diseases of the past are now curable and many more are better managed.
Children with sickle cell disease now have promising future but at the moment the procedure is expensive but accessible. Nonetheless prevention is better than intervention.
Doctors may recommend this to couples who have the resources, capacity ... and not willing to go their separate ways for some reasons. And interestingly they may not have children with sickle cell disease but ironically all their children may have the disease and it could be one of them. It's probability-based.
This is a forum for the learned and the platform is for exchange of ideas and ideals that's why I mentioned it in the first place.
Above all prevention is better than intervention.
423 was here.
Both of you used your partners when you could have used a surrogate.
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