I had goose bumps reading this.....
My step dad died recently....
I didn't even know what I felt when mum told me. She asked for money to clear hospital bills and the rest and I told her to call his kids. The man has older kids from two other women, she also has kids for him and they are doing fine.
I wonder why she even called me for such.
A step dad that treated us with disdain when we ran to him after our step mum showed us shege banza.
We slept on the mat in the sitting room, he would come in drunk and kick us in the head, yelling at us to get up and go to our dad's house. Head that I was managing due to what my own biological dad did to it, always hitting it on the wall while beating me, after my stepmum reports me to him.
I wonder why she even called me for such.
A step dad that treated us with disdain when we ran to him after our step mum showed us shege banza.
We slept on the mat in the sitting room, he would come in drunk and kick us in the head, yelling at us to get up and go to our dad's house. Head that I was managing due to what my own biological dad did to it, always hitting it on the wall while beating me, after my stepmum reports me to him.
While living with mum and stepdad, we worked and bought food in the house before we could eat. We worked for our school fees of #200 and below in government secondary school.
In the mornings, he would share pocket money to his children, we would not get 1 Kobo.
Mum was working and earning well but she was lavishing her money on her new husband and the kids she had for him.
We later left the house to live with friends when the house got too hot for us.
We struggled and educated ourselves to become what we are today, by God's grace.
Mum should stop calling me biko, I no get money.
Hmm! Friends house to live? When your mum was there? Dont give her shi shi... My God heal you.
ReplyDeletemum and biological dad
DeletePoster,don't give her shishi. She and her late husband should getat! I really hate it when mother can't peotect their children,when they choose a man over their own children's mental,physical and emotional well being. She doesn't deserve any help from you for that man.
DeleteKai you went through a lot! Thank God we don't look like what we've been through.
DeletePls help her if u can...she will always be ur mum
ReplyDeleteWhich kain talk be this??
DeleteTutu
Abi you read a different story 🤨🤨 did you read the part where she lavished money on the husband and his kids? Please don’t help her. Let his children take care of the bill. An eye for an eye, my motto #KPICHIKOM on caps 😏
DeleteAll this una goody too shoes is tiring abeg
DeleteIt is this same reason that keep parents being irresponsible. They believe whatever they do,the children will forget and forgive cos after all they are your parents. Hell,no! A parent who took care of their chil,dren are the ones that deserve to be cared for,respected and honoured. Enough of this emotional blackmail!
DeleteWith this your comment, that's how our politicians hate the truth.
DeleteYour mum shouldn't disturb you guys.
Mao Akuh
So sorry for your experience.
ReplyDeleteYour mom should be blamed for not protecting her children. The abuse you suffered could have been averted if your mum put her kids first.
Your dad failed woefully too.
I bet that your parents are regretting their irresponsibility to you and siblings.. Your step dad doesn't deserve your money just pity. You can choose to show mercy on him if you wish for God's sake.
both parent gave up their kids for new partner. do whatever you like if you don't want to give then don't
DeleteKai,this is sad.So sorry for what you went through growing up.
ReplyDeleteThis is heartbreaking 💔💔💔💔💔
ReplyDeleteJust send what u can and tell her to call his kids, he is not ur father, he wasn't then and can't be now..
ReplyDeleteI'm now the good child, which my step mum call everytime she is sick, me!!! She called a witch, thief, that will never amount to anything , this same me had to go sell minerals on my head everyday before I will eat, my father's food, me the daughter that became the house girl, she came to my father's house with 3of her relatives, one is her daughter. .
When my father died she came to me and said let me see how u will go that school now??? And that was the challenge, I needed to prove her wrong and I did.. She took over all my dad's property, we are just two and we didn't ask her, guess what she has finished everything.. Sold everything
Why can't she reach out to her children and the man's she with her husband spent money and attention on? Did she forget? Does she think you guys have forgotten? Does she not rate you guys that you see her call and jump at it? Her audacity!!!
ReplyDeleteOga keep your money to your self.
ReplyDeleteYour mum should go to her kids from that man.
Don't be move to send her 1kobo
Hmmmmmmmn
ReplyDeleteI truly empathize with you... I will react the same way if I were in shoes, abeg let his other children fend for the hospital bills. But above all, kindly find a place in your heart to forgive him and just forge ahead with your life...May his soul rest in peace Amen
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about the past hurt, It is well.
ReplyDeleteHave you called your mum and had this talk with her about the past treatment? Have you aired your hurt and grievances to her? If you haven't, please do. It will help you to heal as well because that was a childhood trauma.
Thank God , God no be man. You are doing well now 👏👏
She knows but wants to pretend she forgot or assume u forgot and forgive
DeleteThis is so sad, I'll definitely do the same thing if I'm in your shoes, honestly your mum enabled your step dad with her actions towards you and your siblings. She should call the man's children abeg.
ReplyDeleteNawao may God heal you wholeheartedly
ReplyDeleteVery very sad. You gave her the correct answer. Why is she asking you for Money for his bill when he has children?
ReplyDeleteYour parents were very wicked. I'm sorry you went through that. May God bless and keep you.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm in your shoes,I won't give them 1 Kobo,I will forgive but call his children abeg.
So Sorry for what you went through.....I wouldn't give such person my money.
ReplyDeleteHow can a mum watch her kids suffer without doing anything to save them. Na wa o.
ReplyDeleteOh my dearest. Sorry about what you had to go through.
ReplyDeleteHeal please, and if it means not answering and attending to requests please do.
Parents have a way of hurting the children and then sing about forgiveness later on.
What would have happened if you didn't turn out right? It is well with you.
Dear poster, I am really sorry for what you went through in your formative years. Nothing hurts like betrayal from the ones who are actually supposed to protect you.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I will advice you and a siblings to a see a counselor or therapist, to unburden your hearts, because you are still hurting from the traumas you passed through growing up.
Secondly, the key to healing is forgiveness. God saw through your pains and gave you beauty for ashes, that is why you were able to surmount all the miseries thrown at you by parents.
As for assisting with money, give it a thought and however the spirit moves you act on it.
Cheks55
All these people advising him to forgive and drop something hope you will definitely do same to anyone who tried to deprive you of life and its fullness? Which kaind advice is that? Please don’t give her kobo. Let her and his children who are his money deal with it
ReplyDeleteHmm!! What a parents, especially the mother, God forbid bad thing
ReplyDeleteIf I hear say you send her any money ehn...
ReplyDeleteWhat if you had died from head trauma?
Abeg, evil should go far.
That's life.sometimes, the hardship we go through tend to make us wiser.
ReplyDeleteSo sad to read.Unfortunately,there are still some kids and young adults out there going through the same.I'm glad you're in a better place now dear poster.Since he had kids,let them foot the bills.You can forgive and love from a distance.
ReplyDeleteJust negodu
ReplyDeletePls ignore your mom and her husband joor.
Yeye humans, they deserve bad thing
If you find yourself in that situation, you will understand. The hatred will be raised to power 1000.
ReplyDeleteA lesson to learn, treat people living with you nicely whether they are your kids or not. No one knows tomorrow
Mao Akuh
At times, I wonder and ask ' where is humanity in some humans?'. Thank God you had beauty for ashes, poster. May you be completely healed.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know how anyone can remain with a wicked person. I just don’t get it, except they have deep dark secrets for you that you fear will come out if you leave, I just don’t get it. Living with a wicked person and acting like you have gold.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your experience.
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Poster, the only thing you owed the man and your parents is forgiveness but not your money. Don't give her shishi ,no kobo.
ReplyDeleteIf I could write a song, I would write the most beautiful lyrics with the best rythm for my best(step) dad this day. This amazing man, taught me how to be more patient, kind, generous and forgiving. When I lost my biological father, I just couldn't tell some friends that I had lost my biological father cause not many new I was dad's step child.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE him dearly but not as much as he loves me I know this for sure. I pray I get a good job soon to enable me ease him of some financial burden. God bless the best (step) anyone could ask for me.