I hope you learn something from this story after reading....
Uncle took her everywhere he travelled to : conferences, seminars, luncheons, etc. Any party in town that he attended, she was with him. At a point, we his relatives thought he wanted to marry her as a second wife cos my mum and others shouted and talked that he should leave the girl and face his family, he refused to listen. His wife too faced her kids and business.
For many years, uncle was with this lady. He did not allow her to have a boyfriend and he did not marry her, she too refused to walk away.
According to her, when her biological clock started beeping, she was telling him that she needed a family of her own too and that uncle should allow her to leave the next pregnancy so she could have a child at least, since she aborted several times already and marriage was not in sight. He had told her that he didn't want a child from her as he had 5 kids already, also, he wanted someone who would be free to follow him anywhere at anytime.
Aunty stubbornly got pregnant and kept mute till it was far gone. Uncle found out and abandoned her with the unborn baby when she refused to abort it.
Today, that boy is 21 yrs old, a fresh graduate. His mum did not marry anyone. We the family members did not abandon her, we helped with the boy's fees whenever we could.
Uncle had died some years ago, his kids from his wife are all married and do not have a relationship with this poor boy. They said his mum made their mum to shed tears for years. They don't even want to hear his name.
Sometime ago, this boy looked so depressed in his social media pics, I had to invite him to my home a few times, take him out, cheer him up and take him shopping. I feel pity for him.
I pray he gets a good job and be okay in life, he didn't ask to be born.
Men and women, I hope you learned something from this story.
Poor boy going through all these.
ReplyDeletePray he gets the biggest breakthrough ever and make it huge
Any prayers for the woman who shed tears for years or her children?
DeleteIf a man doesn't wanna marry you, don't get preggy for him. He will abandon you unless you have your money.
DeleteThe poor child is the victim in this story. I pray we adults do better in our life's choices.
ReplyDeleteCMM Yes oh A whole lot learnt here! Na woman dey always dey at the receiving end...The sidechick laid her bed and so let her lain on it...It is unfortunate her son is now the recipient of all the consequences of 2 stubborn adults...You did well to cheer him up
ReplyDeleteWe should continue to blame the babe that refused to let go and get married to a younger person to start life. She had long throat for ready made after all she wasn’t chained to remain with the uncle. This has now become a norm with babes nowadays . Make Una take an easy ooo
ReplyDeleteGod will help the boy. He did not beg to be born, I pray he pulls through and disregard all his step siblings.
ReplyDeleteAll that happened was caused by adults bring these children into their mess.
I pray he doesn't get depressed.
That’s what he needs to do, stop focusing on the unfortunate circumstances related to his birth and forge on in strength with his own life. His mom no get backbone much it seems and seems like the kid inherited the same trait.
DeleteAll this story highlighted is how selfish married men can be and how some women are dumb enough to take them serious. I would prefer to date my own foot than waste one minute with a married man, even if he had the wealth of king Solomon. Those fckrs always have a lie or two to tell about their wives and why they are cheating. Women should travel with with a bottle of stale piss just to throw in the face of married men trying to waste their time in life, when they realize nobody wants their tired asses they would stick with their wives.
14:24, you did not see how foolish the woman was.
DeleteThe coin of misogyny has misandry on its other side. You spend both sides of a coin at once.
Innocent child bearing the consequences of the selfish decisions made by the parents especially the mother. May God in his infinite mercies blessed him with a good and fulfilling job. Thank you poster for always there for him.
ReplyDeletePoor boy.
ReplyDeleteBut why some women dey mumu.
You follow man everywhere , man wet get wife.
Hmm abi na juju? This thing called love sha.
E get as e be.
There is always another option better only we refuse to choose it.
This is not even juju nor love. It is called 'olonga' longer throat in English. Cos where love dey for person wey get wife for house? May God come through for the poor boy with better job
DeleteIt is often the innocent kids that bear the brunt of their parents indiscretion.God will make a way for him and help him heal.Thank you poster for the role you played.
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Poster, congratulations and a big thank you for standing by your cousin
ReplyDeleteHowever, at 21 years, he is no longer a boy. He is a man and, in addition, a graduate. Go to the courts. He will see 21 - 22 year old men representing clients in court. There are Doctors aged 22 - 23 attending to patients or at the least clerking (or what do Doctors call it).
Poster, please advise him to get up and stand on his feet. Even if his half brothers and sisters rejected him, you his cousins and ancestral family did not reject him. He has his mother. He has his ancestral family in his corner. The world is open to him and waiting for him to manifest the purpose he was conceived and born for. He should remove his eyes from his half siblings properties or status and live his life to the fullest. It is even a common fact that some siblings of the full blood do not help themselves. Whatever his half siblings did to his father (certainly, they must have dealt with him going by their bitterness as narrated) is enough payment for what the man did.
Tell cousin to refuse to pay more for his father's error of judgment. Me, na Prophet Ezekiel's declaration I dey declare for myself. I will never pay for my father's or mother's errors.
If I were to meet with your cousin, face to face, I would have told him more , and in 3 - 5 years, he would have returned to thank you traditionally for introducing us.
Keep cheering him up. But kindly remember to gently tell him to man up. the earlier he gets going, the better. With good efforts, he can stand well enough to partner with a good woman. With his family to attend to, he would quickly forget about his half siblings who refuse to accept him.
Mr. Mann
That’s how you people yarn opata. What do you mean by his half siblings rejected him? His half siblings did not reject him, he was/is simply not a part of their family. Do you know how hurt they probably were by the actions of their dad. You all need to stop having these expectations from jilted children
DeleteOga sufri dey lie, where in Nigeria do we have 21 and 22 yrs old lawyers representing clients in court? How many years is law course in our universities? What about law school? Nysc nko? How many years was the child when they enter University? 13yrs? 🙄
DeleteAlso doctors, where did you see 22 yrs old doctor's?🙄
He was never a part of the family so there is no rejection from them except in the eyes of people who are so deeply entitled.
Delete. In fact, they were victimized by his existence and continue to be. There is a reason why the God of Abraham told him to release Hagar and the child, that he will bless them by himself and that is why polygamy isn't part of the plan but an aberration. Keturah's children were also settled on the side . This man's mother first betrayed him with her selfishness and debauchery. Her partner in these vices, topped it with rejection. It is left for the boy to hold his creator as his father and live the life of Jabez. He may not owe the children of his father and apology but I will advice him to feel for them and their mom and pay for them everyday. The torture and insults, the pain is mother's affair with the dad cost them and the pain of his birth is deeper than any frown on his own Facebook picture. May God help them all.
This is similar to a story where Oga was nackin house girl and married her after wife died. People said she died of a broken heart as she was aware of the nacks but couldn't send the girl away as oga refused and the girl was ready to be a 2nd wife. The 1st wife's children were way older and now very successful but have refused to relate with/help the 5 kids from the house girl turned wife because of what their mum went through. The man died while some of the second wife's kids were still in primary school so you can imagine the level of suffering. From lack of accomodation, to no school fees, no food etc.
ReplyDeleteHow some men with grown up kids will go and complicate their lives by having more kids and then buying diaper and milk, paying school fees etc. when they should be relaxing and being taken care of by their grown kids is beyond me.
Was the house help turned second wife actually expecting help from her late husband's older kids? That would be incredibly bold and audacious of her.
DeleteAlso, she's very stupid to have up to 5 kids for an old man.
I hope the older kids would never have anything to do with her again.
@ Fabulous Onyx, truly some people complicate their lives and situations with foolish decisions. Seeing the man is old and not far away from retirement should have made her stop at 1 or 2 kids, check it now, she probably wanted to have 5 to compete with her madam or overshadow her.
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ReplyDelete"Uncle had died some years ago, his kids from his wife are all married and do not have a relationship with this poor boy. They said his mum made their mum to shed tears for years. They don't even want to hear his name."
The quote up is from the post. The last of the three sentences in the quote summed them. What do you understand from the quote?. We both do not have to understand or relate to a story the same way. You are free to see the waywardness of the dead man and the rightness of the decision of the young man's siblings and wish the young man bad as you may already do because of his mother's action. I am free to see the future of the young man and encourage him through the Poster from falling down.
Second @ 20:13
"Today, that boy is 21 yrs old, a fresh graduate." Another quote from the post.
The LL.B. course in Nigeria in Nigeria is a 5 year course. So if he read law, he would be a graduate at 22 years. Law school is 1 year. That is 23 years. During NYSC, he is entitled to practice law and appear in court right. What is the difference between 21 years and 23 years for a man to stand up.
Please go to private Universities in Nigeria, you will see 19+ - 20 years old students in final year law classes
But the world does not end within Nigeria. The LL.B course can be done in 3 years in UK if studied full time. Some Universities even offer a two year accelerated LL.B. course for students who are ready to put in the effort or are brilliant enough to cope. Some of the Nigerian UK graduates come to Nigeria to do the Nigerian courses and do the Nigerian Law School both take two years max now. Before, both took 1 year.
When LL.B. was a 4 year course in Nigeria, I know Lawyers who were called to the Bar at 20 - 21 years old. If you add the 1 year for the 5 years course, a lawyer can be called at 21 years now.
It appears you do not know that 15 years old are now being admitted into universities and that a lawyer can appear in court during the NYSC programme or that a Lawyer can appear in court the day after call-to-bar even without going for NYSC programme. A Lawyer called to the Bar but on the NYSC waiting list can practice. Do the arithmetic 15 + 5 + 1.
However, it is unusual to see 21 - 23 years old as described in my comment. Maybe that is why you called it a lie. Is unusual the same as impossible? That is the theme of my message to the Poster. To tell the young man not to write himself down. Indeed, being a graduate at 21 years means he is doing great by your standard. And that means also he can do better as I have seen possible.
Again, go to the courts, you will see 21 years old lawyers practicing.
Please, before you call out a "lie" next time, know we visit this blog from different experiences of life.
Mr. Mann
Thank you Mr.mann, my late niece (God rests her soul) graduated at 19 years old. At 22 years old, she was already earning half a million and was married. This is as far back as 2011. I was 6 years older than her, but we graduated the same year. That some of us didn't graduate at an early age doesn't mean others didn't or can't.
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