Hmmm....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TIRED
I'm tired of waiting for love, I'm in my late thirties and a single mother of a grown-up child..
All I ever attract in my life are f#ck boys that want nothing serious than knacking, some of them will even be asking me for money, meanwhile they are richer than me because I'm literally poor.
I'm thinking of just giving up on love and find one guy to be knacking without any strings attached because I'm always bored and feeling lonely.
I don't even have money for flexing, if not I would've loved going to club to ease the boredom and loneliness.
Hmmm you became active quite early, thats why you are already bored and tired of love in your late thirties....You need to stop putting yourself under pressure to find love and you need to change the signal you give out, you are only meeting these kinds of people because you are the one attracting them to you..
Dont give up on love, it will come when it will come...
Instead of waiting for a man to cure your boredom, why not hang out with your girlfriends or find an activity to get involved in socially
This is the condition of a lot of single mums. Nothing but Fuck buddies is all they attract.
ReplyDeleteIt’s not true
DeleteThose guys will come for anyone. Single widow divorced.
They even come for married women too. In fact some prefer married women so the women won’t cry out when they dupe them
DeletePoster give up sex for now and just focus on yourself and having friends. You tend to find genuine people when you remove sex from the equation.
DeleteUse those lonely times to speak in tongues. cruise with it till it becomes a part of you. Jesus does everything. There is a higher life and fulfilment outside boyfriend and sex.
ReplyDeleteYou spoke my mind. There's fulfilment outside a sexually active life especially for the single ones.
DeleteYou didn't like @ Zaram and Fabulous. That peace of mind is very important. Many will not understand this.
DeleteWhere in this story does she said she is a Christian or filled with the Holy Spirit. Who's tongue are you giving her to speak. Please, you can ask or invite her to accept Jesus first.
Delete😂 anon 21:11 @who's tongue are you giving her to speak. This sounds hilarious
DeleteRepent and accept Christ Jesus as personal Lord and saviour.
DeleteGet yourself busy sis, yes the temptation will come but find a way to overcome it. The body is yours whatever you want your body to be is what it will be. Good luck to you
ReplyDeleteif you are attracting a particular kind of people, it's not them but you. There's something in you/ about you that attracts them.
ReplyDeleteSo, the problem my dear, isn't with them, but you. Take time to study yourself, your previous relationship, know the trend and change it.
For instance if your dressing is always seductive, enticing, offcourse you will attract guys who wants to cool off from the heat you caused them when seeing you. And when around you, if there's nothing to offer other than your seduction, what do you want them to do other than go for the food you are presenting?
Love attracts love. Love yourself enough to know you and God are sufficient, then someone will be attracted to that and want to share in your love.
Remember, relationship dosen't cure loneliness oooo. Before you enter one chance.
The path you are contemplating, is high way to ...(fill in d gap)
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DeleteTo add to it, work on your mindset, make positive affirmations, and believe in them. You can read books too.
*The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent* Start with it.
Good luck
CHANGE THE WAY YOU DRESS. Change your mindset and don't give up on God
DeleteMao Akuh
You are a grown a$$ woman, so you can do whatever you want. My only advice is, to make sure that the guy is completely single. Don't let your boredom lead to you being a third-party in someone's relationship or marriage!
ReplyDeleteAlso...are you allergic to improving your life? If love is not forthcoming, can't you take steps to enhance your life in other areas? Shouldn't you be using your spare time to acquire certifications /qualifications etc?
Truthfully speaking...you sound aimless. And it's probably why unserious guys are all you encounter!
This!
DeleteGbam. This is exactly what I’m about to do. See ehn poster, you’re not the only one going through this. I’m married but lonely like crazy in my marriage. Husband is not the emotional type and he sees me as someone who doesn’t have life goals even though I have a bachelor’s degree but pay is crap. What I’ve been doing on the low without even discussing with him is, researching on certifications to boost my degree, so I can make more money. I’ve been praying praying praying to God for financial breakthrough, to change my financial situation, get involved in church or community activities (still searching). I’ve come to realize that only Christ can fill the void of loneliness. Wishing you all the best.
DeleteNa lack of work dey make knacking occupy your mind. If you have something meaningful to keep you busy, you will be eager to build up yourself than look for unnecessary drama.
ReplyDeleteWhy not look for handiwork to do? An idle mind is the devil's workshop. Why not join a church group instead of going clubbing? Since your clothes aren't good enough for clubbing, it will be good to worship God.
ReplyDeleteAlways put God first in all you do.
Don't give up on love, true love will find you. Change your mindset please poster.
ReplyDeleteThe narrative that you’re attracting them is not true and can lead to undue self condemnation
ReplyDeleteThe fact is these bad guys will try anyone. You just have to be on guard and pray for the best
Yes, they prey. But they select who to prey on. And if most of her suitors are men of prey, she needs to review what is going on around her.
DeleteGood to boost up Poster. Also good to tell her the truth.
Mr. Mann
16:08 what I’ve told her I’d the truth. It’s not her fault that they are trying her. She should only question her ability to reject them
DeleteLots of people think if you’re a certain way, these guys don’t try you and it’s just not true
There's no higher flex than being rooted in Christ. You've been there (in the world) and done that, give it a break.
ReplyDeleteIt's about time you find a higher purpose for your life. Get involved in an active church. You don't even need the club's, there's nothing there.
Download and read self-help books that would upgrade your mindset.
Get closer to God too and study His word daily.
You can not be dwelling in sin and expect all to go well.The devil uses sin to trap and destroy the life of man.
ReplyDeletePoster pls rededicate your life back to God.occupy your mind with Godly things and spend time praying.get involve with church activities and hang around with good christians friends.The lord will make a way for you.goodluck dear.
Find a man that wants what you want
ReplyDeleteYou have needs and they are good needs
Whenever a man asks you for money just move on. Not because he’s a scammer but because your mind clearly can’t take it
Poster stop stressing over this thing.
ReplyDeleteBe happy and be more about the money, map out plans to make money and also try to gain more exposure. Be involved in things that make you happy other than love or relationship.
You will find love again.
Abeg sex isn't everything.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you poster .
ReplyDeleteYou really seem to be focused on sex. There's more to life than just sex. You say your child is grown. That's also to say your child is of age enough that he can copy examples. Guess who he or she will copy from? You!
ReplyDeleteYes, you are a single parent with needs for intimacy. But you also have glaring financial difficulties that you need to address. Deal with your financial situation! If you keep up the way you are going, it will be a matter of time before you tie your body to sex for money. I'm sure being a prostitute doesn't sit well with you.
You need to channel that sexual frustration into a very productive venture that will boost your bank account. A woman engaged in value addition and production, increases her chances of attracting her kind of man.
Aunty, no just siddon for one place dey talk say to(t)o dey scratch you abeg.
Poster, you don't even need a man now. You need to love yourself and also add value to your life. The reason you attract fuck boys is because you don't have value. Please look for job or handiwork. That's what you need now and watch good things fall in place.
ReplyDeleteYour child should cure that boredom by always gisting, teaching that child how to love her/him self without waiting for a man. Stop waiting for a man to make you happy but find your happiness 😊
ReplyDeletePoster let me tell you what you don't know you don't add value in your life ,at late thirties what are you doing to stay afloat in this economy, you said you don't have money to flex yourself so if you have money na club be your first port of call, hustle fo out with ladies in your age bracket that hold their shit together, there is comfort money gives ,the confidence too that's why some women with value even with two children still get married.
ReplyDeleteYour mindset no be am don't go and attract kidnapper or killer , be vigilant and watch out for yourself and your child. are you planning on retirement what plans are you making towards that , are you saving for your child s education ,are you participating and planning out his future ,do you have investments either trust,stock ,bonds or any money market investment, nne as for knack buy vibrators if you still see a good guy later fine and good . But you see this your lazy mindset forgive me o e no go carry you go anywhere don't bank on a man especially now that you re a single mothers, hustle on what will bring value to you ,your child and wellbeing.
Start content creating, be active in gym meet friends no go dey look for man , step out and make money then flex yourself, you think feeling sorry for yourself waiting for. Good man will drop on your lap ,be worthy of yourself and see everything fall in place .
I don't like when a single mother is feeling miserable of herself, value starts with you
Sorry if you feel I'm harsh but that's the reality hustle ,shop for yourself , change wardrobe and look good what's all these puppy whining for we hen there is more to life , it's not by force to force love .it comes even when you don't expect it but while waiting do something meaningful