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What is your take on visiting your guy that stays with his immediate elder brother. Both are still single but they stay in a one bedroom apartment. I stay in a self con alone but not in the same area.
My guy has been asking me to come and spend the weekend with him but I am not comfortable with that. Though his brothers girlfriend comes and spends like two weeks before she goes back to her base. Me and my guy stays in the same base so I find it hard to go for weekend at his house.
The house is comfortable, I do visit him to stay from morning till evening or some times I come from work and leave when its getting dark but have never spent a night at his place. Should I just spend one weekend with him or just keep on telling him that I am not okay with this.
Why are you not Okay with spending a weekend with him? It is not a big deal nah and it will help you to know him better......
It is not a big deal so if you ask me I would say you should do it
Fornication is nothing to youth now is even allowed but don't come here to say he served you breakfast because of seeing finished ,I even wonder what youth now reserved for their wedding night ?Kai shameless generation no wonder the rate divorce and breakfast is alarming,continu in sin and immorality it is your choice
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DeleteI didn't see where that poster talked about fornication here, you have already judged the poster. That means the poster is going there to fornicate 😕🤔😳😱 you feel that if the poster didn't spend a weekend she cannot fornicate during the day?
Even if the guy visit her at her place, they can still fornicate. Cos she said her guy stays with his elder brother you have concluded they are children 😂😂😂 make una take am easy cos no be so God dey talk to him children 😏
A really disturbing trend. Fornication is now applauded and moral sanctity despised. What a generation. BTW, fornication is still a sin.
DeleteAre you aware that people can spend nights together without fornication? But I would say avoid the temptation sha.
Delete@excited courtesy , my dear fornication is the end point. Forget all these beating about the Bush. Flee from sexual immorality. Remain chaste.
Delete15:58👍🏿
DeleteAfter, we no go hear word say the man chop, clean mouth, see finish, and leave.
So we all na agree no more complain say he leave me after all and free. All adults get right to decide.
With all the visits and return visits, what does Poster expects to learn more from the sleep over. The man's snoring volume?
Lol. Y'all think fornication only happens when people spend the night together?
DeleteWhy is spending the weekend so important than coming to see your people and having him investigated, time is Super needed for a woman and must not be misused. Don't go there, tell him to come see your people then afterwards you can go with another girl to spend time with him so sex will not take place, you girls waste your best years doing dating rubbish then later start one evil desperation to settle down, your best years should not be trampled upon. Never sleep with a man who is not your husband. He should ask work on getting his own apartment.
DeleteA guy that cannot afford a place of his own, but squatting with his brother, what business does he have courting a girl, talkless of asking her to come for sleep overs?
DeleteIsn't it obvious this guy does not have his priorities right? If you get pregnant peradventure, cos I know you are intimate already, is it in that living condition, you will raise a child?
Why are people so obsessed with drinking stolen waters( fornication) and overloor the more pertinent things of life?
Honestly, I won't feel comfortable, I like visiting my man in a house that is just him, or he owns it, like others are just squatters while he is the owner. I will feel like, I have inconvenience someone.
ReplyDeletePersonally not fan of spending nights out. Let your decision allign with your principles and goals. Ask him for the sleeping arrangements. Above all, do you but communicate effectively with your partner.
ReplyDeleteSince his elder brother's gf once visited abi do visit and spend two weeks. You should go and spend weekend with him, that will also help you to observe how him and his brother communicate.
ReplyDeleteYou could get to understand some things from spending weekend with him and his brother. Since is even a one bedroom apartment so it will not be too tight for you three to be there. Just make sure say you no part legs 😏
I will feel awkward too especially as he is the younger one. Why don't you tell him why you don't want to spend the weekend at his place out of respect for his elder bro and see finish maybe when you tell him he will understand and stop asking. I rather he spend the weekend at yours since you are alone at yours.
ReplyDeletePlease don't go .@Makason may be better but in all fornication is against God's word
DeleteThe most complex B
In my opinion, don't it's disrespectful. Elder brother gf going there to stay for as long as she wants is her business. But you starting yours means you are competing with her.
DeleteStay clear from sleep over.
Own your respect the way have been going is better.
Tell your guy that he owns his big bro respect if you don't sleep over.
But don't forget fornication is sin before God.
Can't he get his own apartment?
ReplyDeleteFlee from fornication. You can still know a person very well without sleeping over or having premarital sex. Come during the day time and go in the evening . Don't give the devil a chance to destroy you. Remain blessed.
ReplyDeleteDogAlmighty, very apt
DeleteTommrow we will hear I stood by him when he had nothing. Madam, you say you have a self con in which you stay alone. Your man is a squatter so why can't he come and spend night in your place instead?
ReplyDeleteIf you go to where he is squatting, will all three of you sleep on the same bed or his elder brother will sleep on the floor? How is a squatter asking his girlfriend to even come and spend the night in someone else house?
If your man doesn't have sense what happens to yours? What business does a man who can't afford his place have with dating? I don't understand women who encourage such.
Instead of you pushing him to go get his place and stand on his feet, you are trying to encourage him not to put in effort to be better. This culture of normalising immorality isn't helping really.
Instead of him pressuring you to come over to where he is squatting, pressure him to go get his own place. If he can't afford his own place, he can't afford you. Simple!
I hate rubbish.
Thank you!
DeleteGbam! How I love this comment.
DeleteI support this comment with 10packs of juice. 😄
DeleteDropping it like it's 🔥
DeleteThank you for this comment D.A
DeleteHmmm you may give room for a menage de quart if the elder brother gf dey there. As you dey visit am dey okay abeg. No go spend weekend for there with 2 men for house.
ReplyDeleteSorry French no go wound me na ménage á quartis
DeleteThank you excited courtesy.
ReplyDeleteSpending the weekend with him must not end in fornication.
Some of you that courted from the tree, you are not any better.
Poster, give it a chance. Get to know him, his hygiene level, his attitude to chores, cooking and every other important detail.
This is what we call “humble beginnings” explore it with him.
Be safe ✌🏿
Hygiene level in the kitchen, room and toilet are found by unexpected visits, not planned weekend sleep over.
DeleteJust as a woman's natural and true beauty is found by an early morning Saturday visit.
I am a male. Trust me on this.
No slutty, i swear to God even before His eyes, we are better, we are purer. Thesame way u ppl are bent on pushing ur immoral agenda, we would also stand our ground and tell you that sin is still sin even if everyone is doing it and it won’t go unpunished.
DeleteBtw, if you have children and one keeps obeying ur rules and the other keeps flaunting it and doing it wth pride and openly, which one will be dearer to ur heart? Now that is u as a human being, talk more of God our creator. That is just a simple example. The example with our Lord is a far bigger /better example.
We would keep preaching the word of God, cos it would never go out of fashion, if u don’t like it, skip it but dnt come and be putting ppl dwn.
16:40, so it is only on Saturday mornings you can catch her without makeup 🤣😂😂😂😂😂
Delete16:46, I read you! We don’t know what kind of relationship they have. They may have decided to abstain from sex till marriage.
You want to tell me you never visited your husband while dating?
Spending weekends with your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t always end in fornication.
Some people just want your presence/company and not your body.
Slutty, no i have never visited him. He visits me in my parents house whenever he is around. Dated for less than 6 mnths and he told my dad straight up feom the beginning that he wants to marry me, he is not here for jokes. We dated briefly and guy was running over himself to do all the necessary rites and marry me. 10yrs, 2 kids later and i would do this over again. I still thank my parents for that kind of upbringing and won’t hesitate to put it out there whether in writing or orally, i dnt know who might be reading. Sexual immorality is so prevalent now that it has been normalised and ppl now even want to twist the word of God.
DeleteCall me prudish, i dnt mind.
@poster don't go just continue going to see him after work and advice him to work harder so as to get his own place, see the seriousness towards taking your advice to be a better and responsible hardworking guy so you know what you are into.
ReplyDeleteHow would you be comfortable staying in a room with two guys? No be say na room and palour o. I wouldn't be comfortable at all
ReplyDeleteWhere are you going to sleep? Will they leave the room for you? Or the elder brother would leave the room for you guys? For me going to spend a night there is not right rather he should come to your place
ReplyDeleteI think you want to spend the weekend but you’re not comfortable with doing the do and feeling the elder brother will know you have done the do😜😜
ReplyDeleteWell, it depends how closely related you're to the elder brother, you know what works for you best .
ReplyDeleteYou have your own space yet want to sleepover with a boy who is squatting!
ReplyDeleteRespect yourself o. Just as he is pressuring you to come and spend the weekend, pressure him to work hard and get his own little space. Don't settle for less because naso it take dey start .
My own is that will his elder brother excuse you both and allow you both stay in his room while he sleeps in the sitting room?
ReplyDeleteYou can go and spend time with your bf even if na parlour una stay, you can relax and be happy.