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I need advice. My husband said I'm not good in bed.
He's my first and I've asked him to teach me, he said other women that are good in bed, who taught them? I ask is there a way to be good in bed without rigorous and constant practice? Practice makes perfect right? If I can't practice with him, someone else may be willing to teach me, yes?
I need advice. My husband said I'm not good in bed.
He's my first and I've asked him to teach me, he said other women that are good in bed, who taught them? I ask is there a way to be good in bed without rigorous and constant practice? Practice makes perfect right? If I can't practice with him, someone else may be willing to teach me, yes?
This your husband is a lazy red flag.... so he cannot teach you? Ask him then to refer you to were you can learn....Hissssssss
My dear lie down there and continue as you are cause the day you will learn and mpve waist, you might be accused of sleeping around... This is how his mentality sounds like....
Abi ask him where you can learn it if he knows he can't teach you
ReplyDeleteYour husband sounds like a wicked man poster. He is trying to destroy your self esteem. Don't let him. You must make him feel inadequate in some way, maybe he feels guilty about something or feels like he doesn't really deserve you. Don't let him destroy your sense of self.
Delete🤣🤣😂Stella dun vex
ReplyDeleteIt is enough to vex. A very irritating husband she has. I even got upset and posted my comment with vexation down there in the comment section. He doesn't deserve her.
DeleteVery irritating😖
DeleteVery wicked some body hissssssss........
DeleteYou are good in bed
ReplyDeleteHe should do better and your body will respond accordingly
He must be really wack. Hence why he can't teach.
DeleteHope he is not so used to prostitutes that he expects you to act like them in bed without showing you how?
DeleteLol
ReplyDeleteTell him to register you online. There are so many lectures on line.
Trust me you be a pro by the time you are done
Hmmm 🤔 but there is love in sharing and teaching now. If you had told us in what aspect are you not good at. I could explain more.
ReplyDeleteGoogle kama sutra positions for ladies, it shows you pictures and videos on how to demonstrate. If you know how to twerk it gives you an edge.
Learn how to twist your waist like the musician - Flavour and use it to spell COCONUT. Just that one alone will drive him nuts. Then motivate him by moaning and say sweet nothings like 'Yes papito, Yes Honey, you are the bestest'' but no curse am oh.
All the best with my 2 cents.
God bless you, Phoenix.
Delete😂😂😂 asa mara over idi egwu😂😂 use waist spell Coconut and your hubby go speak in tongue 😂😂
DeleteIt's the 'no curse am' for me😂😂
Delete🤣 You guys ehhnnn. Oya poster goan learn how to spell coconut 🥥 😂
DeletePhoenix I hail o
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See me trying to spell coconut with waist🙈 hahahahahaha it's kinda cool though.
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DeleteHahahaha I had to google the kama sutra ooo,let me go and learn more oo🏃🏃🏃
DeleteCurse? god abeg😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteI cant believe i was actually tried spelling coconut with my waist. 🤣 Odiegwu.
DeleteTuwale for the pro master 🙌
DeleteYou be Pro walahi, poster someone don teach you now.
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Delete😜 🤦 Aunty Phoenix.
DeleteI don't understand spelling coconut with the waist. I'm trying to reason it but it's not working.
DeleteCan someone please explain. Thank u
Bad shidrenx lol
DeleteCo-co-nut = e make sense
Mao AKuh
Poster your husband is not good in bed too because shebi na the rythem of music you go follow dey shake your body. Tell him he's not good too if he can't teach you.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is the one that is not good in bed but you can't put it to him because you don't know nor have an idea of how lovemaking should be.
ReplyDeleteIf you study him well you will notice he is boring and has no moves. He is obviously the type that wants to lay back and let the woman do all the work hence his reply to you when you told him to teach you. He is a lazy mof*. I don't like to insult people's husbands but your husband is a selfish prick. Just look at the dumb reply he gave you when you told him to teach you.
If you go out there and have more experience it will shock you to find out he has no game and your body will recoil at his touch.
I am sure he is pretty sloppy even with all his so-called experience. They are plenty like him and despite all their sexcapades yet most of them suck in bed. Most of them with their experience don't even know what they are doing.
I don't even have any advice to give you because I am even pissed you married him. He married a virgin yet expecting a pornstar.
Even with the experience he no sabi do anything. Someone that is supposed to introduce you to something thrilling is yarning dust. What a lazy mofo.
DeleteOn second thought! This is my advice. The next time he tells you that you are not good in bed and makes reference to other women. Just laugh and let him know that even though you married him as a virgin you are not stupid to think that compared to other men he is the best and you can bet your last dollar that if a competition is being held to decipher men good in bed with the number of sexually active men in his office alone (let alone in the whole world) there is no way he would take the first position even among 10 men so he needs to calm down.
DeleteLet him know simply because he is your first doesn't mean you are stupid to think he rocks. You know hotter and sexier men are out there who can make you squirm better, scream harder and moan louder and you deciding to stay with him alone doesn't mean you think he does it better than those you haven't tasted. He is the one who has no game
Give him his medicine.
Google videos
ReplyDeleteThat man clearly doesn’t love you. How can he speak to his wife like that? When you truly love someone you want to make love to them and teach them. My husband was my first, and I still remember the first time we did it, I was so scared but he was really gentle with me and kept whispering assurances in my ears to make me relaxed. After it, I started spotting blood from the broken hymen. This man was so scared he had hurt me and kept researching online what to do. The spotting stopped after some time. And I truly told him I didn’t enjoy the first time, and don’t think I would be having sex with him again. Eh?! The man quickly off cloth, asked me to lie down and he taught me SEX that night. He helped me sit on him and used his hands to guide my waist. He taught how to take it doggy style by using the pillows to prop me up so my back was arched. Before I knew it, na him dey chase me around the house to come ride him. He is the only man I have ever slept with, jo one else taught me but him.
ReplyDeletePoster your husband needs to do better. And you also need to understand that the problem here is not that you can’t make love, he truly doesn’t want you sexually. There is more problems in your marriage. Because sex is intimacy with the person you love. Not about different positions and acrobatics.
My 2 cents! 🤷🏽♀️
Oh yeah he doesn’t love her one bit
DeleteLol, my husband was like yours, always telling me I don't know how to give BJs, I don't know how to do this or that. I got pissed and got second hand tutorial that almost snatched me. The day I applied what I've learnt, he snatched gbola from my mouth and asked me where I learnt BJ's, I told him that all the Banana and cucumbers in the fridge have been helping me, if only he knew. Namsense.
ReplyDeleteGood for him!
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DeleteJust imagine. He drove you to commit.
My darling, you can never satisfy some men.
ReplyDeleteSome are complainers no matter what or how best you try. They can never be satisfied; while others don't know how to talk or present their case properly, therefore can say such to you directly instead of looking or teaching you.
and others are frustrated because of their wild s,exual escapades before marriage. So, you cant meet up.
I don't know which category your hubby belong, but know that none of these category is your fault and you shouldn't be made to feel bad or take responsibility for it.
For the complainers, they complain constantly on other things too.
These set of people are fault finders, with a degree to bring people's self esteem down and make you feel you are never good enough. Or they did you a favor being in your life.
If your husband falls in this category, then too bad your precious virginity was wasted on him.
Well,
What to do is to ask him how he wants it(bed breaker Blackberry will give you more details. Lol) and his expectations during d do.
Remember not to do anyone that will affect your health or well being now or in future ooo. (Just because you want to please him). He shouldn't use you to satisfy his selfish hor.rifying and dang.erous fantasies if any.
Also read wide on the subject matter to learn. Being a newbie dosen't mean you shouldn't make efforts too to satisfy a good and faithful man.
I remember this book "every woman ' though I never read it,but back in d days, this was what all newly wed or about to, read. Alot of information are on the net. Read up and choose the right ones.
Make an effort to spice the do and to increase in your performance. Lol.
Find out also about the side effects of diff position and styles if any (before you go do pass yourself)
If his complaints persist after these, just ignore and not take it to heart.
Cos faithful spouse nah in-built discipline, decision, and dear of God not because of what the other partner did or didn't do.
Wandering why he will marry a V and not an experienced person since that's what he wants
You kept saying what the poster should do. What should the man also do, seeing that he is the more experienced one here?
DeleteLet's not make excuses for wicked people with low self esteem who try to pull someone else down with them.
If he the man is any of the things you enumerated above, he should go for self development and enhancement courses, work on his self esteem and his D game, instead of trying to make an innocent woman feel inadequate.
My darling anon. She asked for what she should do. That's why I focused on that.
DeletePoster be very cautious if you decide to be watching porn online as a result of the pressure your husband is putting on you. A lot of what those people are doing are demonic and unrealistic. They are acting after all, and that is why a lot of people feel real life falls short and get addicted to porn. Some even begin to develop unreasonable and bizarre fetishes. Please be careful.
ReplyDeletePoster, he is the only one that can teach you on how to improve, tell him to correct you on whatever you are not doing well for him so you can learn and improve.
ReplyDeleteStella sha,😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteThe next time he tells you that, turn the tables and tell him that, the women that are good may be slept around, had more than a partner. Tell him he is ur first. Also tell him that the reason he knows the difference is cos he has slept with so many women, that is why he has something to compare you with. Tell him u were decent enough to hold urself till marriage.
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you, face ur bully head on, you only have to do it once. I know his type, if you don’t shut him up now, he would degenerate to insulting you in the nearest future. Any man that can tell his wife this rubbish, doesn’t care about her feelings.
Bia, are you married to the poster hubby? Why the vawulence
DeleteThe only person whom you can learn from is your hubby.pls don't be tempted to go outside it's well
ReplyDeletego and watch blue film. after all you are married. thats the only place you can learn since he is your first and you can't cheat on him
ReplyDeleteMadam. Hear me and hear me well. It is only a man who is not good in bed that says his partner in not good in bed. A man who knows what he is doing in bed takes total control of every situation. He is in charge and initiates. He leads his woman into realms of pleasure she never knows exist.
ReplyDeleteBecause he knows he is doing the woman must reciprocate.
Every woman has a bitch in her. A man who knows his act brings out that bitch. He brings out the whore in the nun. Why should a man wait for her to initiate? Take her and turn her in and out. Na she go craze for you.
Your husband doesn't know what he is doing on bed. Don't allow him put that trash on you.
A woman doesn't know what she's doing, give her explosive head. Get her juices all over your chin, taste every drop flowing down there. Pull her up and push her face down to reciprocate the same. GUIDE HER exactly how you want her to suck you off. Whatever you do, keep initiating every course of action and ASK her how it feels for her. Make sure pleasure is constant for her. She will keep these in memory and keep playing it in her head. With time and gradually, she will begin doing these from muscle memory and you the man will reap the benefits.
No be joke. A number of my exes still call and express appreciation because I made them better lovers in their marriages.
I repeat myself again. It is a man who doesn't know what he is doMadam. Hear me and hear me well. It is only a man who is not good in bed that says his partner in not good in bed. A man who knows what he is doing in bed takes total control of every situation. He is in charge and initiates. He leads his woman into realms of pleasure she never knows exist.
Because he knows he is doing the woman must reciprocate.
Every woman has a bitch in her. A man who knows his act brings out that bitch. He brings out the whore in the nun. Why should a man wait for her to initiate? Take her and turn her in and out. Na she go craze for you.
Your husband doesn't know what he is doing on bed. Don't allow him put that trash on you.
A woman doesn't know what she's doing, give her explosive head. Get her juices all over your chin, taste every drop flowing down there. Pull her up and push her face down to reciprocate the same. GUIDE HER exactly how you want her to suck you off. Whatever you do, keep initiating every course of action and ASK her how it feels for her. Make sure pleasure is constant for her. She will keep these in memory and keep playing it in her head. With time and gradually, she will begin doing these from muscle memory and you the man will reap the benefits.
No be joke. A number of my exes still call and express appreciation because I made them better lovers in their marriages.
I repeat myself again. It is a man who doesn't know what he is doing that says a woman is not good in bed. ing that says a woman is not good in bed.
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DeleteStory story.
DeleteThe fact still remains that not every woman is good in bed. You ladies should stop with the wishful thinking.
And definitely some men are wor wor in bed and na dem dey make useless noise pass, deceiving themselves sey dem be stud. 😂
Delete"If I can't practice with him, someone else may be willing to teach me, yes?"
ReplyDeleteYes, if you want to ultimately destroy your marriage or your conscience or both.
No, because you can learn without him teaching you. It is like cooking. If your husband complains about the food, he does not have to be in the kitchen to teach you how to. you can learn and continually experiment until you find your rythm. And you may pass own the knowledge to your daughter at the right time.
Assuming you do not know and you are not just seeking husband bashing or moral support to look for another teacher, you can learn from books. Books are better than videos for plenty reasons. Two reasons are mentioned. One, even Christian bookshops stock the books. Two, you can keep them in your bedroom within sights of your husband. So that when you begin to practicalise your learnings, he would not and cannot turn around to say you learnt your skills another way.
Stella may refuse to post the book list. Therefore, another comment with the list would be made shortly.
Just as you already know or may soon know, marriage is "one by each". There is no man or woman like you and your husband. He saw the other women who can do like "koso" (spinners) on the bed. But he married you. Work on that and explore within your marriage.
Mr. Mann
Wicked husband, please don't let him kill your self esteem.
ReplyDeletePoster please look for ways to improve on your skills.Your husband might not be able to teach because he’s also not skilled so you can try and read books or something else but do not cheat.If the problem persists,consult your doctor.
ReplyDeleteThe List mentioned @18:13
ReplyDeleteLove Without Fear by Dr. Eustace Chesser
(A classic) and other related books by same author
The Art of Marriage by Tim & Beverly LaHaye
The Art of Marriage after 40 by Tim & Beverly LaHaye with Mike Yorkey
(A Pentecostal Church gifts the first to all young couples) Sold in their Bookshop christian bookshops)
The Kama Sutra
(Ancient Eastern classic. Available as text and pictorial guide. Even your husband will learn from it)
The Perfumed Garden
(Another Ancient Eastern Classic. Available as text and illustrated guide)
Secrets of S*x by Keith Anderson (Jaicobooksdotcom) (Bought this at the bookshop of that Big Catholic Church at Toy.n, Ikeja) Very good if you can find it though targeted at the man. But understanding the man helps too).
Fuller list only on Madam Stella's enabling this and express permission make man no go waste time and data type long list.
Best wishes and greet Oga for us.
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DeleteThere are about 2 to 3 basic things to add flavour to your love-making as a woman:
ReplyDelete1. Make sounds when you are making love with your husband. Men are moved when women moan during intercourse. It makes them to cum and create a sense in the man that he is doing it well.
2. Touch him as he bangs you. Play with his nipple, touch his scrotum, stroke his back, etc. Do not sleep like a log of wood when you are doing it. It is called love-making and not 'man's assignment'. It can be frustrating sicnerely, in all fairness to your husband/partner, when a woman expects the man to do everything and she wants to look innocent in the process.
I think in this case, if the husband is willing to teach, she would learn. At least she has learnt some tips from you.
DeleteI don't get why you people are calling the man names. What if the tables were reversed?
ReplyDeleteThe poster might actually not be good in bed and her husband had to let her know. What would you guys have preferred. That he continues to endure in silence without voicing his concerns?
This a marriage, no boyfriend and girlfriend play. The truth is that there are some women who are actually not good in bed. Not everyone is a tigress , and that's just the reality of life.
There's absolutely no reason to tag her husband a wicked person. Haba na. Let's be calming down on this blog.
Dear Poster, have a heart to heart talk with you husband. Read books and watch movies also. You'll learn alot.
May God bless your marriage, and don't forget to keep us updated. 😉
The man would ve been nice enough to say kind words to her she is a virgin for crying out loud, her self esteem is on the line ,she is even afraid of this sex with whurtfil words from the husband, before you know it she will off emotionally, if somebody should complain or criticise it should be from a place of love and teaching to learn , he sounds as if he is not even happy that he married a virgin, madam you re price don't allow your husband to kill your self esteem practice and improve show him that he is bad teacher with nothing to offer his students .
DeleteHee should do better tell him he should do better after all it's a physical act that involves twwwo people peace to your marriage
He is wicked because it's like he was blaming her for being a virgin, while still refusing to help. He didn't even care about her feelings. He didn't behave like a lover. The man needs a lot of sex education. Imagine a cat expecting a tiger in bed. Laughable. He deliberately wanted her to feel bad to cover up for his inadequacies.
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