She said " I felt frustrated after my husband walked out on me after only four weeks of marriage which cost me N100million. friends and family warned me not to go into the marriage.They told me that the man only wanted my money but I was recalcitrant
I aso sorry for putting my children in such a position and would not have forgiven myself if I had abandoned them after committing suicide.”
from Ejiro Adigbo on Facebook
May God help all of us to overcome our challenges.
ReplyDeleteBut suicide is a fo.olish,s.tupid and c.oward route.
Nothing and no one is worth taking your life for.
Moreover, there is nothing new under the sun
So she was going to abandon her children in tbis cold,cruel world just because a man disspointed her? Very wicked and cowardly thing to even consider. Why will you spend 100 million to marry a man? Isn't it supposed to be the man marrying the woman? That's what you get for trying to buy a man despite all the red flags. I feel no iota of pity for her. She should just pull herself together for the sake of her children.
DeleteWhy can't women with children just focus on their children! I am almost 50! I have never been married, no children and I enjoy my own company!!! When you have the Holy Ghost! You are full of joy always!!! A matured woman like this , with her own money and children! Why not just focus on God and your children!
DeleteBut no! Una even pursue marriage matter pass single ladies sef.
Wow na she marry the man. So the money is more important than her children.
DeleteLadies stop making men the center of your life
DeleteThat position is ONLY MEANT FOR GOD ALMIGHTY
Only GOD validates you and you validate yourself
Never be desperate, never let fear drive you
Stop using your life to prove point or pepper people
Stop allowing what will people say guide your life
Stop it
Anon 18:42 God bless you. We need people to speak up against this cultural menace of age shaming women who are unmarried by a certain age or who don’t have children after a certain number of years of marriage! It’s not right. I love many aspects of African culture but this one cuts across many ethnicities & it’s backward.
DeleteProf Condoleezza Rice was a former US Secretary of State. Never married, no children & very fulfilled. Oprah Winfrey rejected Stedman Graham’s proposal and refused to marry. She had the option. With 65,000 kids that Oprah has put though college, point out ANY mother that is more fulfilled than MummyOprah as the ladies call her! She is fulfilling purpose!
Young ladies, find your purpose & passion and fulfill it. If it happens fine, embrace it and enjoy it but don’t settle for less just to marry! S*x isn’t food as SM will have us believe.
It doesnt make sense spending such money on a wedding to a man that is a serial husband! The wedding was talk of town among their peers and i guess the shame of him leaving after 4 weeks was a shame for her. My one cent not that it matters though! Madam get yourself together as nothing is big deal these days and you wouldnt be the first nor the last that such thing would happen to. Pick yourself up, learn from it and move on with yourself, children and your business
DeleteMy dear @ 21:26! Amen and you too!!! I guess is my leaving the shores of Nigeria early to explore the world! I have lived across continents! I am currently in Nigeria 🇳🇬.
DeleteAn elderly woman that kept marriage shaming me,her daughter just died inside yeye marriage!!! The way the world is going, you must love yourself deeply before anyone! As the Bible says love your neighbour as yourself.
Is for both men and women! No one completes you! You complete yourself.
Have your investments and trust God to guide you always in all your endeavours! That's all!!! We don't need to prove anything to anybody in this life.
LMAO. God please forgive me.. Wait. That's the dude she was going to kill herself over? Thought it was one Hunk self. This one's dick go small nau. Choi. Na wa oo for some women.. TF!!! The guy will start feeling fly now oo. Kai ni yar'su
ReplyDeleteObi for president
Wizkid FC
Proudly Tiv
The matter weak me sef.
Delete"This one's dick go small nau". It is very disgusting to body shame anyone especially about their private parts. You can do better.
DeleteThe WORST GOLDDIGGERS ARE MALE,
DeleteCRUEL,MEAN AND SELFISH USERS
Ladies only allow a kind man who fears GOD access into your life
@ 20:29... But it is a known fact that most fat men have tiny Ds. To make things even worse, this one come dey bleach join. You sef, do the math nau.
DeleteObi for president
Wizkid FC
Proudly Tiv
Na the husband be that?
ReplyDeleteOh Chineke.
Same question I just asked myself.
DeleteIke gwuru .....
DeleteImagine attempting taking your own life because of a man. Anyway, thank God you were rescued.
ReplyDeleteSuicide is never an option, please seek help ma. It's well with you.
ReplyDeleteThank God for the timely intervention..
ReplyDeleteSo she has children but wanted to kill herself untop man matter? Wawu 😲
Hmmm! It is well!
ReplyDeleteNo human is worth crying and killing yourself over. Thank God she is fine now.
ReplyDeleteSometimes people experience a challenge and instantly think they are at the end of the road, which is not true.
People need to know this; As long as you are alive, your chapter isn't closed and your story isn't over. Keep moving.
She can still get married in the future to a better man and he would be the one to fund it.
Is there any punishment for attempted suicide in Nigeria? If not, there's need for our lawmakers to do the needful.
ReplyDeleteThere is a punishment.
DeleteSMH
DeleteYes o, I heard she has been arrested and in custody.
Delete@Anne K, you may be insane to think that a law that punishes someone for attempted suicide is okay. What happened to championing the idea of creating avenues for people to seek help at little or no charge?
DeleteLies...she hasnt been arrested. You ppl are so wicked. No Empathy whatsoever, cant u atlst have pity for her. She did a foolish thing but depression pushed her to it obviously.
DeleteI have come to realize, growing old doesn't necessarily mean having sense.
ReplyDeleteSo very many instances abound.
I wish her well.
Take heart Ma, we live and learn. May you find peace and courage to move on.
ReplyDeleteIs this the guy she attempted suicide for? Kai!!
ReplyDeleteSluttychic.
I am not in support of what the man did to her, but what do you mean about is this the guy? Is he not a human?
Delete15:27, no he is not.
DeleteSo this is the man she wanted to sacrifice her life for? Thank God for His intervention
ReplyDeleteShe has three kids and a good business even if she needs a husband spending that amount on a man with questionable character doesn't worth it.....
ReplyDeleteI pray you heal soon and next time there is no need for marriage unless both of you are on the same and let the man pay out of the wedding expenses.
She has a STRING of businesses. She is very wealthy.
DeleteHotel, the biggest spa in lekki, restaurants, real estate etc etc
No be urgent 2k be this.
Which makes it so unfortunate the caliber of man she lowered herself to marry.
Someone who was even mocking her that she is acting 'don't then that that attempted suicide is just episode 1.
Where y'all keep finding these your satan's tes.ti.cles fascinates me.
Women STOP ALLOWING INFERIOR MEN HAVE ACCESS TO YOU
DeleteSTOP DATING , MARRYING DOWN
Nothing good comes out of it
We have covered that spirit of desperation countless times on this blog. It doesn’t matter who she is or what she has, if she allow that spirit of desperation to soak into her she will scrape the bottom of the barrel just to say she has someone.
DeleteNothing good comes out of desperation. Look where it took her, what if she had died. Imagine a whole 100 million naira wedding extravaganza could not keep the man with her for a month, not even her money, access to opportunities and influential people kept him there - this tells me that she likely was the driving force behind the entire relationship from courtship to wedding.
I wish her all the best on her journey to healing. And I hope she realizes that her worth and value is not dependent on having a man in her life. Her brothers, uncles and her own father can be a father figure to her children if that is what she is seeking.
Someone who is in her 50s? Her children should be adults or at the very least teenagers. What are they using father figure for now that their grandfather, uncles could not do? Someone who will come into their life and they will barely see because if work.
DeleteWhat a pity. Truly, if you dont marry someone who will raise your standards omo, you will marry complete trash.
The funny thing is, the society that you are doing it for to fit in is laughing waaaaaaaa behind your back.
It's well with you
ReplyDeleteIf not that you were trying to pepper imaginary enemies, why would you spend 100M naira on your wedding at this age and stage in your life, when you still have children depending on you and a business to run?
ReplyDeleteObviously, the money was a lot to you for you to factor it into your reasons for wanting to commit suicide.
Thank God you didn’t succeed oh, God has plans for you. Leave the man to his destiny and face your front.
Trust in God and He will bring you a decent man who will love and take care of you.
She wan pepper people with 100 mill wedding, Las las na her eyes the pepper enter. She invested in a ceremony wey people don chop forget instead of the marriage itself. I pray she heals and finds herself.
DeleteWas it the 100million naira that made her to attempt suicide or the husband leaving her? Whichever, I hope she has realised how selfish she is, not to consider her children and other loved ones. May God heal every broken heart, give them courage to move on.
ReplyDeleteFarida Okoro. Lookatew😏
ReplyDeletePray your kids find a place in their hearts to forgive you, at this age ika na evu agha ortu? If shame was a person.
Go view Bukky Wright's video 10times for a brain reset. She seen that and done that. The focus ought to be on your kids and their successful endeavors through life not Demola, the number of curses on his head from UK heart broken women are enough for his lifetime.
Forget the money, you'll recover.
Inukwa suicide!
I don't even want to get angry.
God please forgive her.😭
They want to keep managing AGBAKO okunrin saying man na man
DeleteMan no be man oo
Only few are
The rest are goats, hyenas, vultures pretending to be human beings
Hmm these story if you listen to their accusations on YouTube u will be shock.
ReplyDeleteSingleness is not a crime
DeleteIf better man no come, have peace and serve GOD and face front instead to inviting chaos on two legs into your life
Singleness is not a crime
DeleteIf better man no come, have peace and serve GOD and face front instead to inviting chaos on two legs into your life
It is good to learn that you won the men’s. stay focused and soak up the love of your family and loved ones.
ReplyDeleteGet therapy to address your issues. You are enough and do not need anyone to ‘complete’ you. There is no shame in talking to someone.
Such a beautiful woman. May God strengthen her
ReplyDeleteWhile I sympathise with her especially her kids. I am of the opinion that our past(in terms of choices and decisions we make) usually determine our present and future.
ReplyDelete1. This case is a celebrated one as such if there is a legal punishment for such activity then the law should be applied in order to serve as deterrent to others.
2. I do advice ladies, especially those who are late 30s and above but still single/ divorced /widowed etc. Please don't marry a ma because he is a socialite, rich, handsome etc.Marry him because he is cerebral, focused, gentle etc. He can even be your opposite socially. Like I advice a popular socialite who was single then, that she should find a guy doing his phd or completed it, that she won't regret it. She laughed but later thank me for it. There are a lot of online drama and marital break down but this are the only group of individual that you don't attach drama with.
The above man was not in any category you mentioned.
DeleteNo single shingbai gum am.
Na ex convict sef a according to several accounts online.
So what advice do you want to give again.
Na only desperation can lead to this. Pure desperation.
Doing PhD doesn't mean he is a good man o
DeleteFirst does he fear GOD ?
Is he kind?
Is he disciplined?
Is he committed?
Is he humble?
Does he have direction?
Is he already walking in that direction?
Can he lead himself, talkless of you?
Is he a liability spiritually, financially,educationally etc
Is he teachable?
21:21 Nigerian men left the group chat.
DeleteI think it may be more about the N100 million just wasted, and harsh judgement especially from those who warned that burdened her so much, more than the man leaving.
ReplyDeleteN100m for wedding?. God Almighty.
ReplyDelete100M for a wedding? In this depressing economy. Thank God you didn't commit suicide. How can a man work out of a marriage after 4 weeks? Such a man is not worth it.
ReplyDeleteIs it that people don't know the difference between 'work' and 'walk'?
DeleteChai! I've seen this too many times, so it isn't a typo.
Anon 16:28, if you don’t overlook those little grammatical or typo errors on SM you won’t enjoy the stories. If it bothers you so much you may want to read up on
Delete“Grammar Pedantry Syndrome (GPS), a subtype of OCD/ODD (obsessive-compulsive disorder/oppositional defiant disorder)”…… ✌🏾
Thank God for the timely intervention, it is well with her.
ReplyDeleteNawaoo 🙆 100m just for wedding.
ReplyDeleteBut my own is why is she still bearing sobowale? She was once married to foluke daramola ex husband sobowale and they were both divorced,so why is she still bearing the name?
ReplyDeleteMay she be set free and remain so loruko Jesu Amin
DeleteI think it's more of the 100m wasted that she wanted to commit suicide not the man walking away.
ReplyDeleteShe said she decided to spend so much because of her status and to have a man who promised ivf so she can bear her biological children.
A highly irresponsible list of decisions by this woman. She was ill for a long time and I can only imagine the agony her young children went through at the time only to pull this stunt over an ex-convict who was canned for fraud. What kind of father figure would an unemployed and impoverished homeless fraudster be to these children?
ReplyDeleteThe height of manipulation, recklessness and irresponsibility of these jokers is repulsive. Her children need better parenting. She is a stressor to them. The people with this particular personality disorder which I choose not to name can really be a nightmare especially when they find each other.
You survived a chronic health condition recently and got off with the acid-bath-bleaching advert embarrassment and the next thing was a society wedding to a criminal? When are you two planning to have sense?
Sense and delusional behaviour don't flow.
DeleteNarcissist!!!
DeleteI said it before.
DeleteSay it again.
She doesn't have sense.
No single sense at all.
Clout chaser! Sniper no dey her area? All this public show unto what? Drink sniper and kpeme quietly.
ReplyDelete