She said, "Hey guys, I just want to remind you that marriage is beautiful. Don't get it twisted. It's not that narrative that is constantly put out there that marriage is tough, because people have been living in marriages.
If there are 100 people leaving marriages today, there are more than 100,000 people happily married.
You need to understand that people change, people grow and that marriage will change you. Sometimes, marriage will bring out that part of you, you never knew existed. That's what marriage will do to you. But, the one thing that stands out for me is kindness.
Whatever you do, make sure that you marry a partner that is kind. And it shouldn't just end with you. Marry a partner that is kind to you, to your siblings, to your parents, to your loved ones, everyone who means something to you.
Marry a partner who sees your parents as his/her parents or sees your siblings as their own.
Let me tell you something, when you marry a person that is kind, when you fight, because you must fight (I don't mean literally, fights like quarrels, arguments), he or she still looks out for you. They're worried that you haven't eaten. They'd want to get you food, even though they're not talking to you. When you're sick, they stylishly buy you drugs and put by your bedside, so you can see and take it. When you're sleeping, they help you adjust your duvet.
Do you understand? While you're making your plans and preparations, make sure it is with a kind person, because kindness is key. Good luck."
If there are 100 people leaving marriages today, there are more than 100,000 people happily married.
You need to understand that people change, people grow and that marriage will change you. Sometimes, marriage will bring out that part of you, you never knew existed. That's what marriage will do to you. But, the one thing that stands out for me is kindness.
Whatever you do, make sure that you marry a partner that is kind. And it shouldn't just end with you. Marry a partner that is kind to you, to your siblings, to your parents, to your loved ones, everyone who means something to you.
Marry a partner who sees your parents as his/her parents or sees your siblings as their own.
Let me tell you something, when you marry a person that is kind, when you fight, because you must fight (I don't mean literally, fights like quarrels, arguments), he or she still looks out for you. They're worried that you haven't eaten. They'd want to get you food, even though they're not talking to you. When you're sick, they stylishly buy you drugs and put by your bedside, so you can see and take it. When you're sleeping, they help you adjust your duvet.
Do you understand? While you're making your plans and preparations, make sure it is with a kind person, because kindness is key. Good luck."
*sad side eyes*
It’s true o wicked people are heartless
ReplyDeleteCorrect 💯
ReplyDeleteWell said. Some partners can be wicked to each other.
ReplyDeleteShe said nothing but the truth,may God help marriages
ReplyDeleteGood advice from a beautiful woman.
ReplyDeleteNo be lie my sister
ReplyDeleteWas BM wicked?
ReplyDeleteHe said it himself. That he's a "beast" and as we all know beasts are monters and they ain't friendly but cruel and 'wicked'
DeleteBut can a beast hide their beastliness that well to get someone to the altar? Even a hairy back or a growl must show at some point. Or some manipulation and gaslighting is also involved? Hmmmm.
DeleteKindness is a very good quality, and a truly kind person is kind both in the little and big things of life.
@ 12:17 😁😁😂 ur comment just dey scatter my brain now .hahahaha. you must be a motivational speaker
DeleteThanks for making me to laugh.
Yes ooooh! Kindness is one of the qualities. Love is kind .
ReplyDeleteMarriage I believe is a beautiful thing. Just the right person to ride the boat with. Love is not hard .
Yes ooooh! Kindness is one of the qualities. Love is kind .
ReplyDeleteMarriage I believe is a beautiful thing. Just the right person to ride the boat with.
Kindness is key, all some people have is money. No humanity in them
ReplyDeletetrue💯
ReplyDeleteGod bless me with a kind partner
She has joined them in advising who they want to. If they are still in the marriage you won’t see much advice, but immediately anything happens they start showing themselves advising on what even a child knows.
ReplyDeleteSo that other women, don't make the same mistake one made. Marriage takes hard-work and sometimes, you won't know until you enter. Married women often times don't give advise because, we don't want to sound like we are insulting or belittling our husbands. We also don't want to cast ourself.
DeleteAnon: Below 👇
DeleteTake a deep breath, drink water (Drink water)
Take a deep breath, drink water.
Since it is what even children know, how come so many children are divorcing everyday ma?
DeleteIts from a good place.
DeleteMay God help us to make the right choice of partners and also make us the right choice to our partners. It's well.
ReplyDeleteI still find it hard to believe they are no longer together.
ReplyDeleteShe really is. And she spoke nothing but the truth. I married a kind man and I always advise my single friends to prioritize a kind man above everything else when they want to pick a spouse. A wicked or heartless man will bring you untold sorrows no matter how rich he is. I wish Elsie all the best.
ReplyDeleteFor you to attract a kind person, you also must be kind. Kind in all aspect o. The question is are you kind?
ReplyDeleteDey reason like toddler. The people who were murdered by their spouse, were they evil? You've not seen good people married to terrible people ba? Wake up.
DeleteWrong! Kind people also attract narcissistic people. Stop this analogy, the world is deep.
DeleteNarcissistic people prey on kind people.
DeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
Sorry everything here is about You, you, you. Hope You're kind too?
ReplyDeleteKind to his Siblings, Parents, Loved ones ?
Na simple question I ask o🙄
@ Teacher NK, only you have reasoned properly here! See BM is a no nonsense person, but not wicked! That's her my former NPD sis inlaw, went everywhere destroying my brother's reputation and now she olosho inside the marriage!
DeleteMy brother found out, but never spoke out! Until she go marry another man! No body still answered her. BM is like me!
Once I am done done with you, ofone!
If you like go from radio stations to tv stations and even satellite sef. Now you go tire!
Anyone you recruit to join your brigade, family or friends o! I cut off.
14:59, that line is stale. She was olosho inside marriage, yen yen yen, we know you people slut shame women when marriage go awry, so shut it. Your brother never spoke out, how did you now find out? You were the one holding touch light for her abi?
DeleteThat your brother, was he faithful to his wife while married? You, are you faithful in your marriage?
Disappear abegi!
You must be kind to attract a kind person ,not only in marriage relationship and if otherwise, there would always be some red flag before deep commitment. No one is perfect because some kind men can be unkind sometimes- not all the time, especially when they do not get what they want.This lady should keep quiet at least for the sake of her children. Dont give marriage advise because everything will be related to your husband.
ReplyDeleteThank you Elsie, will he/her still love you when the storms(tough times)comes. Marriage is no child's play I tell you.
ReplyDeleteThe silent treatment is bad in marriage...
ReplyDeleteShe don start, men we leave quietly after separation or divorce, but women do the opposite. They go about throwing words around indirectly to accuse their husband and let you think they are blameless.
ReplyDeleteTrue. Marry a kind man and someone who takes your family as his. I married into a family that I took like mine but it wasn't enough for them. They wanted me to love them to the extent I cut off from my family,I no gree. Their son refers to my family as"so so place people.." when I give him a dose of what he and his family give me,they cry more than the bereaved. Manipulators! Glad I took a walk when I did mehn!
ReplyDeleteExactly! Some people are not kind and kind people need to be careful before we walk into their trap
DeleteTake this hugs.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗. You can feel her sadness.
ReplyDeleteShe said the entire truth... marry a kind person and be kind to each other. It solves a lot of issues in marriage.
ReplyDeleteWas she doing these types of posts before her marriage became challenged?
ReplyDeleteHowever, she posted well.
The problem is that most times, "kindness" is subjective, tempered by gender assigned duties and rights, and greatly abused by the people who demand it the more.
It seems those that have ego find it difficult to admit to mistakes, or find how to make it up or simply say these words ' I'm sorry'.
ReplyDeleteWhat makes minor something becomes major thing.
Nothing makes you a perfect human ..When the light is lit,keep it burning.
Awwwww, true talk 👍
ReplyDeleteNwata Nwanyi ji nwayo aliputa!
ReplyDeleteBut okwu gi kwu otor ka amu.😍😎
A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that if a person is kind to them, they can be mean to the next person and it doesn’t matter; because no 2 relationships are the same. Or we say: I don’t know what transpired between them.
ReplyDeleteThat’s what makes many people marry unkind partners. Everyone will be telling you what this person did to them and you would be saying “they didn’t do it to me, so I won’t be bothered”.
And, you are correct. Until the day they do it TO YOU. Then you will feel the pains others were feeling.
Same thing happened between Beverly and 2shotz. Bev told us how mean 2shotz was. The new wife was defending him UNTIL she saw with her own eyes and started apologising.
When a person disregards others, just know that a time will come when they will disregard you too. Watch those things very closely and use them to make your decision. Even in arguments, there are disagreements - yea. But there is verbal abuse and insulting disrespectful behaviour. You can disagree with someone but still be kind and considerate, while expressing your disagreement.
You don’t have to wait until it becomes your turn. Avoid these things early.
Very well said @17:59
DeleteYou are right.
DeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
Very correct
DeleteI married a man who was always talking down on people thinking he can't do it to me. He started doing it to me after sometime. He would insult my family, talk down on me. I started replying him, the love I have for him disappeared. I just cohabit with him now, no attraction whatsoever.
Very well said @17:59
DeleteThe truth and nothing but the truth. We parents should educate our kids to marry only a true and kind friend.
ReplyDeleteE be like the outside d!cks she dey collect never do her.
ReplyDeleteStale
DeleteAre you faithful to your partner?
It is wrong to not to show kindness or true love in a relationship. I observed that some men and women, once God raises their bar of wealth, they will start talking down on their partners. Arrogance and neglect becomes the order of the day. I pray for true love in every marriage.
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