Hmmm....
SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
Please house, is N160k too much for a family of 5 comprising of 3 kids and parents? The children are all under 13 years? This money includes buying foodstuff and all. Note that rice isn't included in the money .
Please I need your input or is my wife wasteful?
N160k for food, toiletry and what else? does this money include school stuff? I dont know but it would also depend on the state you stay and how you treat your wife... A woman treated with love can turn one naira into a million when it comes to spending.... There is nothing like wasteful and I hope that you are not calling her names already....
lets read other peoples comment on this....
The money is not in Nigeria of today. If you hear 160k, it will sound big. That's N1066 daily for each of you. So your wife is not wasteful. But is you cannot provide that, you can further lower your standard 0of living. Me sha don't collect monthly money. I prefer pay as you go.
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Delete160k???
When indomie is 5300
My dear, it’s not enough o
Even if the woman was a magician, I don’t know how she’d turn this “one Naira” to one million when bills in this economy is no joke
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Poster there are no absolutes here. The true indication should be what percentage of your household income that 160k is.
DeleteIf you are earning say like x6- 10 of that as a household, then it's no big deal, it becomes a concern if you're earning maybe x2 of that, it means you'll be struggling to save for other stuff.
You won't get your true answer here, because some people will claim that's their whole salary for the month and its too much for food and groceries, forgeting say shoe get size.
It's not too much my brother.
ReplyDeleteMarket is not smiling at all.
I think it's a lady that wrote this asking if it's too much to ask for monthly stipend of 160k from her husband or the brother wrote it on behalf of his sister.
ReplyDeleteTo me it depends on the level of cash inflow in the home. Some people can actually manage 70k will that family setting but that doesn't mean that they are satisfied with how they are managing that amount in this bad economy
Everybody is having a hard time at the moment. You all need to manage what you have. Nigeria hard shaaaa.
ReplyDeletePoster do you mean in a month or week? Would have been more specific in your write-up. Sir I believe you are aware of the situation in Nigeria and how prices have skyrocketed. Children under 13 years old are still growing and have a large appetite for food (hence a huge chunk will go into feeding).
ReplyDeleteRather than blaming your wife; you can take some money, together with your wife to the market so you can hear and see the prices of commodities.
(a) Practice weekly/monthly budgeting as a couple to help with your expenses.
(b) Now is to sit as a family and think of alternative sources of income to augment the one you have.
(c) Me respectful to your wife and sit as a family to solve and brainstorm on issues/concerns. Stop isolating yourself and apportioning blames on her. Instead correct and teach her respectfully in love and care if she is not doing some things right.
All the best
Calculate it for yourself cause you said and all. Does that include water and electricity
ReplyDeleteDoes it include snacks for school
Remember many kids at that age are eating non stop
Garri:
Yam:
beans
Tomatoes:
Pepper
Etc
Chairman,Na for your bank account 160k be like plenty money;until you carry am enter market to buy foodstuff in Nigeria..
ReplyDeleteIn all honesty;she is not wasteful “if” your children eats HEALTHY food which contains the complete classes of food..
My friends wife prefers “Pay As You Go” type,that is her husband giving her money whenever she needs to go to market,because having that money together gives her headache where she is trying to plan and cut cost with their three kids..
Food is very expensive now;Nigeria of before 160k was huge money for a month feeding..
Oga you don price 10 litres of original Red oil,groundnut oil? Tomatoes,meat and all??
Eating Junk self for Nigeria cost now,not to talk of healthy food..
@MARTINS
Also note that kids eat non-stop,whereas adults can manage 1-0-1 or even 0-1-0 if need be..
DeleteSo let’s estimate an adult eats 1k daily(under management ooo) then a child will be eating roughly 2k if na healthy food abi?
Calculate 30k for each adult in a month,then calculate that or the kids..
Oga thank your wife ah swear if na 160k she dey carry run the whole family..
Me self I no go gree for bulk money if I be woman in this current economy,abegg give me money anytime I want to go to the market make I no get High BP😀😀
@MARTINS
No sir,madam is not wasteful
ReplyDeleteIf you all eat like birds and move like snails it would be more than enough. For five people and if boys are involved then hmmmmm. So this 160k is for food at home and lunches for school and work, paying household monthly bills, transportation, school costs that crop up, hygiene products for everyone, laundry costs, medication and entertainment, maybe clothing too? Man, that is $200 US and if your wife is managing an household of five whole humans with that, then drop down on your knees and thank her, sing blessings on her name, because she is a certified miracle worker. I am a single person and I need more than that for monthly upkeep, and I live simple, no extravagance, even with my cellphone charges and transportation covered by my employer. An entire family of five surviving on that sum in 2023 means many corners are being cut and many pleasures denied for the sake of survival.
ReplyDeleteI am assuming the 160k is for monthly.
DeleteRemain Blessed Anonymous and Martins. Oga 160k for 5 people is not enough in this present economy.
DeletePure water is 350 per bag, 10 is 3500 will last one week only for family of 5.
That woman is doing wonders o. better go give her a treat. I'm single fueling my vehicle to work only takes 200-246K monthly. Nivea roll-on is 1050, Body Spray 2300, Dudu Osun soap, toothpaste etc Paint of tomatoes -6K that will make one medium pot of stew
there is no more 200 Naira pepper again. Did you know that lol
Nigeria is on a whole different level we can't fathom
Sis I know fuel is expensive because I fuel my car too but from the amount you spend shows your place of work is very far, if you spend 246k try to move closer or double your hustle
DeleteNa wa o
ReplyDeleteAll i can say is God is very faithful
How many of una de collect N160k from una husband?? una go just open mouth waaaaaa! de talk anyhow! Ur husband see N160K give u naim u never go do Testimony for church?? When dem say make una get work una no go gree! sit down for house de do full housewife! what are u doing to support what he has brought?
ReplyDeleteNo mind them...dem sabi give nonsense advice here
DeleteMy dear 😂😂😂 same people that have not even see 60k monthly dey give opinions
DeleteThe money sounds big until you enter market. Things are quite expensive now.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is dropping 80k for family of 5 (2 children, his sister and both of us)He can actually afford more than that but, he thinks he’s doing me a favor. The funniest part is that he wants another baby. I don Kukuma go do FP jare. You will provide not so much while I use all my salary to augment. I don’t have the strength to stress my life anymore.
ReplyDeleteAnon: pray that your husband will have more to give you. Appreciate it no matter how little you call it, at least he can provide at all. Many don't have food to eat and you are here complaining. Just learn how to manage till it gets better.
DeleteYou know the side effects of that family planning thing right. Big tummy is one of them o
Delete18:00 she said he has more
Delete80k is paltry for three adults and two children, unless you are all vegetarians. Thank goodness you have the means to top it up. Considering the climate of the nation, eating for optimal brain and physical functioning cannot be done on a cheap budget. Having to eat foods like indomie regularly, which has absolutely no nutritional value, and folks wonder why ppl are dying young or dropping down under the hot sun. Imagine having to undereat and being undernourished all your life, how will your brain even push out a good idea that you can use to transform your life. Even basic thinking you cannot do.
DeleteThe sad thing is that during hard times food is always the first adjustment. It is a pity that eating well on the normal scale is now becoming luxury.
And so , so you want to her to get pregnant again and again in this country, if she births more than 4 kids na una go still abuse her why having children they can't cater for, as if the husband will agree to use condom everytime, you want her to calculate her period and enter one chance.
DeleteMake una dey think before giving advice in this blog, she is doing what's best for her family pending when things get better , big belle no be diseases na precautions to harsh economy she do so.
Slim shady are you mentally okay! If she gives birth and starts begging on this blog you will be the first to ask her why she didn’t do FP geeseeee
DeleteSlim shaddy, you really should read more about contraception and the different types available so you don't make this blanket statement again.
DeleteAnon 23 :22 and Dainty T nnah eeh this kain mentality tire me , a woman is taking precaution she is talking about big belle , slim shady abeg try dey read ,as in expand your I Q
DeleteOmo at this point 160k is nothing o.
ReplyDeleteBut you can manage it as money for foodstuff for the month. Does it also include like tfair? Drug? & any other miscellaneous?
It all depends on.
If that's all that can be provided then manage it madam
It depends on your income and pocket. Some families manage less than or much more thsn that.
ReplyDeleteWhere are you based?
How do you people eat?.
Do you include protein (chicken and meat) in all your meals etc..
If you have fears or issues, sit your wife down and discuss finances with her. A woman carried along will do wonders, but when she feels the money plenty, na to dey spend be that na 🤷🏽🤷🏽.
But that amount in today's Nigeria is dependent on your feeding habits and taste.
Poster, You said buying food stuff and all . Is the 160k monthly or weekly?
ReplyDeleteA Close Sister of Mine Receives 150k Monthly for a Family of 5, Sometimes 6 as her matured brother in -law lives with them sometimes.The hubby is based in another town for work entirely.
ReplyDeleteShe said it's not enough.
Kids are under 12
Plus a Baby.
Beverage for a Month costs over 40k
Then she will buy food Stuff: Rice, Beans, etc
Toiletries
Fuel for Gen and Car
Kiddies School Snacks
Gas
Dstv subscription
Nepa Bill
Sweepers bill
Multivitamin drugs for the Children
Omo, Thank God she's working,so she's always add her salary to it.
it depends on the state you are presently in Nigeria If you are in big cities,it may not be enough.
ReplyDeleteNo amount is too much especially with our present economy. If the 160k is way too much please speak with your wife so that you both can work on a more comfortable budget.
ReplyDeletePls give that woman a break.
ReplyDeleteI'm a student whose parents give 35k monthly, no transportation just feeding for just me and my eyes day see shege because the money no. Day reach me.
Times are very very hard o
My dad gives 150k
ReplyDeleteIts technically for 3 adults but my mum is mummy village so there are usually at least 3 other adults in the home
The 150k doesn’t include any house stuff. It’s for food only and my dad also buys the big things like water gas bag of rice, garri
My Mum and dad get money from their kids too but it’s technically not for the house
Me here managed 100k with family of 5 and you are saying 160K is small or not just ask her to manage love covereth all things including love and needs
ReplyDeleteOga in as much everybody dey para for this economy honestly things are hard, indomie carton is 3800 for minimie, 4 k for others the least is mimee which is 3650 now, 2k meat is not up to 15 pieces,
ReplyDeleteThe best Una go do is to locate pple that sells in wholesale prices for provisions, snacks , detergents and soaps too buy children juice in packs, if meat, fish finish for stew augment with eggs children needs protein , buy in crates from wholesalers, as for other foodstuffs like tomatoes ,peppers ,rice and others buy from big markets close to you stock the house that way you ll see change small.
The country is hard pls appreciate her small at times calculating expenses dey give person headache. The tone of your voice saying she is wasteful is not even good . Pls Nigeria is hard everybody is feeling it check Bvs responses that's to show you we re not lying, I pray God will see us through it's well with you and my prayers is that God will continue to enlarge your coast
When my husband would drop money for foodstuff, I would augment it and buy what would be enough, as the money was no where near enough, but he thought he was dropping a truck load of money, once I saw that he actually thought he was dropping too much and would often complain about me not buying things in “Bulk”, I told him to stop sending the money , instead, I’d send him a list of the needed things and ask him to get them himself, after spending 3x the amount he used to send me twice, he turned around and stopped complaining, so ask her to send you a list of the items since you think she’s wasteful. Buy them yourself and see if she truly is.
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