THE CONFRONTATION
My married sister with kids just disclosed to us that when she was about 12 years my Dad came home drunk and dragged her to the bed and kissed her and tried sleeping with her but she refused and he left her.
She also said our Uncle staying with us was always giving her his di*k to suck and told her she will die if she tells anyone. My mum confronted my Dad about it few days ago and he denied. Could he be that he has forgotten because he was drunk?
Oh dear!!!.... why didnt your sister confront him privately? OMG, i dont know what to say and i pray you guys sort this out well....It could be that he was drunk but that is no excuse for that behaviour..I am disgusted and sure he denied it because she made it open!
I pray that your sister finds closure!
Sick bastards out there.
ReplyDeleteTotally disgusting. Abusing anybody let alone children is horrible behaviour.
DeleteYour papa knows but will deny it, even the yeye uncle might also deny itt.
DeleteNo be today some men don dey sick for head and below.
Mao Akuh
Chai this rape and sexual molestation stories dey always trigger me...Kai the important people in her life failed her; abominable acts. Tueh! Tufiakwa!!
ReplyDeletePlease encourage your sister to seek therapy so she can let go of all the trauma. I pray that God gives her the strength to forgive them even if they might not ask her for it...
All the best and she will rise above it (Amen). Please keep encouraging her, give her all the support she can get & let positive energy be maintained.
Why should she confront him privately? Abusers get off because their victims are ashamed and decide to settle quietly, when it's they themselves that should be shamed and disgraced publicly and made to reap the repercussions of their wicked act.
ReplyDeleteExactly!!! Confront in private ke? They deserve public disgrace and embarrassment.
DeletePoster this is easy deduce nah. Does your sister have a track record of telling fibs or mental issues? If the answer is no, then know she’s telling the truth.
DeleteSimilarly, over the years has your Dad done some questionable things, is he a terrible destructive drunkard? If so, you have your answer. Just 🤔 think carefully. And, their past will reveal who’s telling the truth and who’s lying.
Quite frankly, I think you already know the truth, it just very hard to digest.
Lastly, if he was drunk he might not remember after all these years. Goodluck
Avoid alcohol, u people talk say na enjoyment. It takes away people’s rationality and makes them behave like animals for that short period under influence.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn’t abeg
DeleteAll things in moderation
That's when you take much. Moderately is the key.
DeleteBtw, even without it, some men na he-goat in sheep cloths.
Mao Akuh
Many people did not get a choice when it comes to sex, it was forced upon them. In homes, churches, mosques, schools, going to the well, river, walking home from school, relatives and friends. These stories are aplenty and much too rampant on this planet.
ReplyDeletePlease encourage your sister to get some counselling. Obviously, these experiences have sat on her soul for so long and she is pouring it out to help release the burden of carrying these secrets. Most importantly, keep an eye on your children, better to helicopter sometimes than having to deal with these horrible stories later.
May your sister find healing and if she needs to keep away from these ppl support her, stand by her and do not invite these folks to family events that she will attend. It is ok to shun them.
Disgusting creature! Your dad is everything evil including being a paedophile. I will gladly 'disfather' this one if i was in your shoes, drunk or no drunk. He was never supposed to father a child. Tufiakwa! Please encourage your sister to go for therapy, she really needs to heal. May God heal her soul 🙏
ReplyDeleteI'm sure that man has raped people in times past, that's why he could enact it at home, what kind of drunkeness will push you to your child ffs?!!!
DeleteOh dear
ReplyDeleteThe family may not recover from this, how could he?
It could be true that he can't remember ,for a drunkard 20 yrs is a long time ,too long to remember
ReplyDeletePrivate what
ReplyDeleteShe told her family
Which one is private again
It doesn’t get more private than that
Two things, either he did it knowingly or because he was under the influence of alcohol does not remember since it's been a long time.
ReplyDeletePls let her work at being healed of that trauma since its only an attempt. And it didn't go beyond. This can break the family. I'm not saying what he did was right and not also down playing it.
Wisdom is key here and there will be loads of forgiveness needed to move past this stage.
As for the uncle of course he may deny, try to heal from this wicked act done to you. And forgive.
You forgive for your peace of mind not because of the perpetrator. Don't allow these people live rent free in your mind and head.
Sorry about all these events, you can jeal akd move past it. Don't be held boumd by it.
"Pls let her work at being healed of that trauma since its only an attempt. And it didn't go beyond. This can break the family"
DeleteYou are sick for writing this trash.
You are also an enabler!!!
my sister in-law , was molested by an uncle of theirs and when he wanted to have his way, the mother calls her and tells her uncle Michael is calling you. She enables it and sends her to him always ..she will be 13 this year. She threatens her not to talk at all if not she will be starve..i told my mother in law to send her to me straight and since then, that particular uncle Michael. Has been so troubled explaining what was never asked but eventually will
ReplyDeleteIt will not be well with this Uncle Michael oooo.
DeleteThese people sow seeds, and don't know how they will germinate.
It is well with the young teenager.
Drunken state only aid you to practice what has been in your mind prior the day.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteNot a palatable experience. I pray your sister finds closure and heals from the trauma.
Same happened yo me when I was in secondary school. My dad came home drunk and headed to my room to kiss me. I struggled and left the room. I never told my mother.
ReplyDeleteOn another account my maternal cousin( His dad is my mum's senior brother ) who was staying with us used to bring out his d***k for me to suck. I was in primary school.
My mother was not there for us so I did not tell her then. Infact I was molested daily.
But now, that cousin is the only surviving relative I have now. He is over 70. I told my mother last year about my encounter with him as a child. She did not say anything. She is now back to village and in same compound with him. I feel so bad when I visit my mother and see him. He doesn't know I still remember as I am in my 40s now.
As for my father I never told anybody as he was a drunkard.
😭😭😭 I am so sorry Anonymous. I pray for your healing
DeleteYour mum didn't say anything?😫😫😭 I feel so disappointed hearing that she didn't react the way she should hearing all that happened to you.
DeleteWisdom is profitable to direct. If your Dad acted under the influence of alcohol, he won't remember that incidence. These type of disclosure can destroy a family. Your sister should have seen a therapist first. As per your uncle, he a a household paedophile.
ReplyDeleteLol who told you dad doesn’t re
DeleteFor your mind now you are the wise one
How many drunkards sleep with their children
Eww
ReplyDeleteThese kind of foolish behaviours cause a lot of damage 💔
You can imagine, even if he is drunk so he can't tell who his wife and child is.
Na wa o.
Hmmm...
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 4 my cousin molested me, he didn't penetrate me but he made me touch and rub his penis.
ReplyDeleteAt 15 My step uncle tried same thing with me while I was asleep, I woke up with him beside me rubbing my palm on his deck.
Remembering all these makes me really angry.
Iam begining to think there probably a spirit behind such acts cos I see my lil nephew acting same way towards me anytime i go to their house. little boy of 4 trying to rub his dick on me. I asked him who taught him and he said his friend in his class taught him, and that one is a boy o. He will say aunty i want to rub, and if I tell him I will report him to his dad he starts pleading.I told his mom and she isn't taking it serious.
There is a spirit that creates a pattern of behavior. That's why your nephew is doing it. Report him already or sit him down and teach him if not he is a rapist or pedophile in the making. Stop the pattern pls.
DeleteAnd since his mom is not doing anything look for a way out.
Please report to the dad I beg you in the name of God. What is all this na.
DeleteI think homeschooling will be the surest way to go until a certain age
It’s not a spirit
DeleteIt’s normal for his age but you should stop him
He will also stop on his own soon
Google it
In my case i confronted him he apologized but not really from his heart, the most painful part is that my mum later told me I made it up. I love my mum so much but I felt so disappointed in her for not protecting me as a mother, for choosing “herself”( my father) over the wellbeing of her children…I wasn’t the only one my father tried to sleep with, he also tried to sleep with my cousin that came to stay with us( my mum’s senior sister’s last daughter) my mum also did nothing. My mum was always fighting with my dad for sleeping around but never left him. I feel she is weak!! I asked her why she never left, she said she had no where to go. ( my mum is a professor ooh) but when it came to my dad she lost all sense of reasoning. I have forgiven my dad but we are not close, I hardly call him, in fact I forget he exists at times because I call my mum almost everyday but don’t remember to ask of him, I just feel dead inside towards him. A lot of women stayed and endured so much in those days especially infidelity( speaking from what I saw growing up in my environment I’m 41years old) my family friends, neighbors, uncles and the church.
ReplyDeleteWomen who stay with cheats and say it's because of the children, I hope you are reading comments?
DeleteEven your daughters are not safe with a cheat, he can rape them too.
Keep destroying your daughter's lives because of marriage.
Your mother said you made it up. Can you imagine. Some people are not worthy to bear children o
DeleteI think yuh should dump your mother too
DeleteShe’s worse than your dad
Exactly how does a father find his daughter sexually attractive? Some things are mystifying really.
ReplyDeleteHe was drunk, orishiriri okurin
DeleteGod have mercy
ReplyDeleteKai, this is disgusting to read. I feel very disgusted. Your father might have forgotten it as it was such a long time. I pray this revelation doesn't break the family
ReplyDeleteLET IT BREAK!!!!! You guys should stop saying this trash! So she should keep it a secret just to protect the family? Na wa for una oh.
DeleteI just taya anon!!! The kind of nonsense situationships we try to protect at all cost in Nigeria is mind boggling. Who cares if the film wants to break??? Who broke it if not the useless drunkard of a man? I wouldn't even want to associate with this kind of man if I were the poster's sister.
DeleteThis father sleeping with their daughters ish is everywhere even in the North, it happens nah.
DeleteTo be a husband is not same as to be a responsible good father to your kids. What kind of a sick man is that? I pity the young girl.
ReplyDeleteTo be a husband is not same as to be a responsible good father to your kids. What kind of a sick man is that? I pity the young girl.
ReplyDeleteTo be a husband is not same as to be a responsible good father to your kids. What kind of a sick man is that? I pity the young girl.
ReplyDeleteYou this anon, what is wrong with your phone? Always posting multiple times
DeleteLol
DeleteI have a daughter now and I’m so protective of her, her dad is a good man but we are not together it’s complicated. I decided to move to USA with her. Now if I meet any man that womanizes or sleeps around it’s a major deal breaker, I’ll rather be alone and single.my mum comes visiting every year but I will rather she doesn’t come because I will have to speak with my dad.
ReplyDeleteNobody is talking about the uncle that wasn't under any influence. I'm so pained that he didn't go to jail.
ReplyDeleteWhy won't these evil uncle's (and other males) leave their nieces (little girls) alone?
We have to protect our children at all cost.
Women who stay with cheats and say it's because of the children, I hope you are reading comments?
ReplyDeleteEven your daughters are not safe with a cheat, he can rape them too.
Keep destroying your daughter's lives because of marriage.
I don't know what mine is. Let me exlpain maybe I will understand what happened and find closure. I'm almost 40 years now. This happened I'm early teenage years. We were all watching the TV one day and a kiss scene popped up and I put away my face then so my dad was watching. In the evening, he called me to the sitting room asking why I removed my face when the kissing scene came up, that it means I understood what they were doing. I started fridgeting. He asked I pull my cloth for him to check my breast and he started touching saying he's feeling it to know if I already know men. He asked why my breast is not pointed? I told him it's because they didn't buy me a bra on time. Me that didn't know anything about man in secondary school. He let me go finally. Everyday, this scenario plays in my head. I hadn't tell a soul. This is the first time of talking about it
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry that you had to experience this as a child. He had no business feeling you up. I hope you find a way to heal from that experience. Even confronting him may not bring any closure as those generation of men were raised stupidly! Seeing all the comments here
Delete...Dear poster, you were in secondary school then, so you probably were a pre teen or teenager. We hear stories from the olden days that some parents actually subject their children to horrendous 'virginity tests' it's possible your father was coming from that primitive mindset...however, this particular scene from your past refuses to leave you because it left you confused as a child and still as an adult. You knew what he was doing was wrong but you were conflicted because he is dad, and dad 'should' be doing the right thing shouldn't he?
DeleteThe closure you seek is in 1 question. Did he do this publicly or with your mother's consent/knowledge? Your father did not have the right to touch you in that manner at that age, he had intentions but probably somewhere along the line stopped himself. In a nutshell, it was wrong and wasn't supposed to happen! I hope you find closure from this event.
Leo Inspired!
Alcohol is not bad. In fact, in moderation, it's actually good for you.
ReplyDeleteYour might have been drunk and it's still no excuse however, it's way in the past and it's your dad's word against hers.
I think you guys need to have a sincere family meeting with all parties involved and with a psychologist present
No alcohol is good for you. Red wine in moderation has some heart protective effects, but you could probably get the same results from drinking plain grape juice. Overall, alcohol is an antagonist in the body. It is a class A carcinogen that nobody speaks of because the industry is so powerful and for some countries it is a huge part of their GDP. Alcohol is detrimental to every single organ in the body, not just the liver. These are effects it has without even being addicted or drinking to drunkenness.
DeleteIf it can be avoided best to avoid it, but if you cannot avoid it, then by all means practice great moderation.
20:07 Lol I’m sorry but you’re just wrong
DeleteI'm the poster.That my uncle has a record of sleeping with 2 of his sisters too,they summoned him in the village but he didn't show up.He lost all he has and sleeps outside the garage in Mile 2,he claimed his mum is a witch.Daniel it shall never be well with you
ReplyDeleteMay God heal your sister. Molestation is not a good thing to witness. I was disvirgined and raped my a fake boyfriend who promised no sex before marriage. Only for me to go to his house. He switched on the generator. Naive me, I never knew he had wicked plans. Immediately he raped me the relationship ended. I called on God to avenge my case day and night. Giving birth to a female child scares the hell out of me. Only God can heal your sister bcus the memory will always lingers.
ReplyDeleteI pray he dies
DeleteYour sister is going through alot at the moment, please hug her and tell her she will be fine. No one will accept their wrong did in present of anyone.
ReplyDeleteSo many crazy things are happening.
ReplyDeleteI was barely 11 when I was sleeping then beside my dad and mum but unfortunately I was just beside my dad and not my mum cause we had a king size bed …my dad wasn’t drunk or anything but something prompted me to wake up at midnight and I turned to see it was my dad I was sleeping beside, I didn’t know when my mum switch sides, obviously I slept before they did and I noticed my dad slid his hand inside my singlet and romanced my tiny nipples cause I had a duvet …I was too shocked but my mum made a move and he removed his hand..Since then even till now, I haven’t told a soul and I intend to keep it that way but I don’t know if he did it cause he was trying to see where exactly he slid his palm into cause it’s not as tho he slid it from beneath…he actually turned and his body position made his hand to be on my upper chest ….I’m confused but my dad I knew knew back then liked women.I’m married now and expecting a child and I’ll protect my child like a hulk cause my husband too was molested my a lady while growing up, he was always going to her for his assignment and she started forcing him to suck her boobs and she also sucked his small pennis….I remember when I was 4-5, a guy which is about 37 now used to molest we kids and I constantly told my mum that uncle tolu put pepper in my bumbum which she never paid attention to….Funny enough his mum and my mum were very close then even after we left that house, they’ve lost each other’s contact now…the woman had 5 boys and tolu was the eldest….it shall not be well with you Tolu anywhere you are and you won’t succeed in whatever you find yourself doing.AMEN!!!
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