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THE CONSEQUENCES OF MARRYING A LIAR
He deceived me and made me take loans to sponsor his travelling,to set him up.Meanwhile,he had been dismissed from service bcoz of forgery.
He lied so many times and I forgive him.It got so difficult for me that I couldn’t pay back the loan and had to drop out from a course.
He came back and told me he was denied visa and many more lies. That was when I remembered that even his father warned me never to discuss finance with his son or even do anything together with him.SMH,so many lies that I was too blind to see!
Got my life together now n I pray to recover!
After all the begging n intervention,I have forgiven him for my own peace but I will never ever ever trust him or allow him near my dwelling....
I know someone who married someone like this..Infact he borrowed money for the wedding a year ago and lied he was paid for a contract...The owner of the money he refused to pay back has arrested him and he is currently held but this person was thinking of plan B to run and then she fell sick and went to check and discovered she is pregnant...when she told me i asked her one thing...So despite all the lies and complains una still nack on top?
Should i ask you the same thing?
If you are dating or married to someone like this, please leave without bringing in kids to complicate the issues
Lies that Nigerian men tell. Met one with bad breath like that told me his wife left him. Foolish broke mugu. Gosh thinking about the bad breath now makes want to pass out. Left one with body odor only to meet another with bad breath.
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣 I swear, I didn't want to laugh 😁😁😁😁 I'm sorry. Why are you attracting men with this kind of he goat odour? I reject and rebuke it for you in the name of Jesus. Me that my nose is extra sensitive. Na long distance race go get me.🏃♀️
DeleteIf you did not listen to your father in-laws' advice about his own son. Is it the advice of a common blog visitor like me that you will listen. Don't chase me away o. Keep praying for him.
ReplyDeleteAbi mtcheeeewww
DeleteThank you Zaram.
DeleteDid u finish the chronicle?
DeleteShe is not seeking for counseling. She already learnt her lesson. Just sharing her experience.
DeleteYou should have sponsored your own travelling with the loan you took. You would have kept your daughters with your mom or sister just so you could settle first. After a while, you bring your family to stay with you.
ReplyDeleteI mean, how could you take a loan for a chronic liar who has proved to be irresponsible? Someone his father advised you not to trust with money issues? You saw the red flags but you dived in regardlessly.
Well, that is in the past. I'm glad you distanced yourself from him. You will heal from your hurt and recover all you have lost. Just cast all worries to Jesus, continue to pray and work hard, you'll stabilize soon.
May God see you through.
Dived in regardless*
DeleteDon't blame her, her good intention was to assist her husband man not knowing the man is a liar. It is not a crime being good, just pray not to fall into wrong hands.
DeleteDon't blame her, her good intention was to assist her husband man not knowing the man is a liar. It is not a crime being good, just pray not to fall into wrong hands.
DeleteEven his own dad advised you, you didn't take heed. Further cementing the notion that, you can't advise someone in love.
ReplyDeleteThank God,you survived.
ReplyDeleteMy annoyance is that you have given birth to children for this man. He will always be part of your life because he is the father of your kids. The red flags are usually there but you choose to marry this man. It is until when African society stops looking down on single women. That is when women will stop getting married to disposable tissue papers.
ReplyDelete@Natasha na waaah.
DeleteWhich category of men do you described as disposable tissue paper?? There are still responsible good men. If you ever be lucky to have or meet a good responsible partner these days, cherish him.
"He has been dismissed from service "...Na waaa oo! he would have told you. Poster seems he is going through tough time and thought the easy way out is to use lie to cover up. Asides being a chronic liar, If he was good to you forgive him and be careful next time. Give him space to fix himself,as you are yet to recover from the trauma.
Delete"He has been dismissed from service "...Na waaa oo! he would have told you. Poster seems he is going through tough time and thought the easy way out is to use lie to cover up. Asides being a chronic liar, If he was good to you forgive him and be careful next time. Give him space to fix himself,as you are yet to recover from the trauma.
Delete"He has been dismissed from service "...Na waaa oo! he would have told you. Poster seems he is going through tough time and thought the easy way out is to use lie to cover up. Asides being a chronic liar, If he was good to you forgive him and be careful next time. Give him space to fix himself,as you are yet to recover from the trauma.
DeleteLiars are the worst
ReplyDeleteLiars are the worst no bi small. The most dangerous one is to lie and watch the person suffers it. I have them around, I don't know or have ever talked them. Each day they must cook up one silly lie with my name and sell to people. Those they sell it ,buy ,use it and end up in confusion. You want to know about someone,you are asking both haters and enemies. No matter how you try to open their eyes to see, they keep believing their lies.
DeleteI have been indoors relaxing all day, they are still at work using my name to talk rubbish even when they don't see me outside. Liars are the worst.
Liars are the worst no bi small. The most dangerous one is to lie and watch the person suffers it. I have them around, I don't know or have ever talked them. Each day they must cook up one silly lie with my name and sell to people. Those they sell it ,buy ,use it and end up in confusion. You want to know about someone,you are asking both haters and enemies. No matter how you try to open their eyes to see, they keep believing their lies.
DeleteI have been indoors relaxing all day, they are still at work using my name to talk rubbish even when they don't see me outside. Liars are the worst.
Thank God you're alive and learnt your lesson, don't even pity him because he will never change.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Stella, if you are in marriage with someone with a questionable character and no kid involved yet, please it's better you leave to avoid innocent kids having bad blood and traits run through them.
ReplyDeletePoster, pray for your daughters life and future, that man will continue to attract curses with his actions.
Felicity
Somewhere someone responsible was dying to marry you then, but no, you settled down with "uncle Ajala" the traveller. It's well.
ReplyDeleteAnd you know this how
DeleteIt's so unfortunate you ended up with a liar.this is the reason why we must take our time to choose our spouse carefully while praying and committing them to God.
ReplyDeleteIt's well poster.let the lord direct you at this time.
How do you know she didn’t pray
DeleteOr do bad things only happen to those that don’t seek God
Wahala ..
ReplyDeleteInside life
One pattern I have seen is women with daddy issues tend to have a tendency of looking for the love in their partners which if not careful get blinded by the need of love and affirmation become enslaved.
ReplyDeleteFathers pls treat your family well so you don't push you daughters into the hands of horrible men.
Dear poster pls you need to heal first and I don't blame you for those decisions made. Heal from the hurt your dad put you through and then learn to love yourself. Only then will you be able to recognize love and also stand up for yourself if I is not.
Lastly your girls need to be brought up in love in self affirmation so that they don't go look for love where there is none.
Healing from your father's hurt will be easier if you call on the holy Spirit to help you through it .
Many just abuse kindness and take it for granted, especially when they feel they can easily get you. Had it been you were not there for him he would have called you a wicked wife. Dangerous lie is dangerous.
ReplyDeleteMany just abuse kindness and take it for granted, especially when they feel they can easily get you. Had it been you were not there for him he would have called you a wicked wife. Dangerous lie is dangerous.
ReplyDeleteDo you wonder why someone fall out of love after falling in love? Is all these kind bad behaviors that kill the feeling. It was love at first, now the man is showing her ' shege'. Guess her next option won't be a divorce.
ReplyDeleteDo you wonder why someone fall out of love after falling in love? Is all these kind bad behaviors that kill the feeling. It was love at first, now the man is showing her ' shege'. Guess her next option won't be a divorce.
ReplyDeleteDo you wonder why someone fall out of love after falling in love? Is all these kind bad behaviors that kill the feeling. It was love at first, now the man is showing her ' shege'. Guess her next option won't be a divorce.
ReplyDeleteDo you wonder why someone fall out of love after falling in love? Is all these kind bad behaviors that kill the feeling. It was love at first, now the man is showing her ' shege'. Guess her next option won't be a divorce.
ReplyDeleteHaha....anon nawa o,why did you keep posting your comments in threes. Kilode na
DeleteWho love cannot do does not exist. Happy you got your life back but I hope you will not open leg and allow him plant more seed inside of you cos people like that can just scope and sweet talk my gender Into falling inside their trap again and again.
ReplyDeleteYoung ladies (&men) should ALWAYS remember that marriage is NOT the wedding ceremony day(s), it is decades & decades so be careful who you DATE. It is a marathon, not a sprint in the race of life. Poster, you did not STATE that you got married traditionally or under the marriage act so pardon any assumptions.
ReplyDelete1. Many young girls use marriage or relationship to escape difficult parenting, difficult living conditions, poverty etc. Don’t solve a temporary situation with a permanent problem, it never works. Even poverty can be very temporary. Tyler Perry was homeless, now he is a billionaire. Most of the rich in Nigeria are just one or two at most 3 generations from abject poverty! Many lie now as if they are from wealthy backgrounds but we know the first university in Nigeria was founded in 1948 & the rich families (from commerce) in the late 1800/early to mid 1960s are well documented.
Poster, I can imagine the stress from the stepmother issues you were facing. Dating, even marrying or living with this guy may have complicated your life more than what you were running from. Run away from him if you are not married and do not look back especially if you are not pregnant for him! God just saved you from a grenade! Look for friends to share a small apartment with instead of living with a man like that.
2. There is a difference between character and reputation. Your character is who you truly are while your reputation is who many assume you are. This poster’s “lover” appears to be deficient in both. Even his father warned you about him in the most important issue in a relationship after love, finance. Why go on without getting him committed to working on the character flaw? I hope he is not a gambling addict. Have him get to the root of his problem, there are many resources online and in-person but stay out of it. Leave before you get too entangled.
3. I hope you are not pregnant for him & kids are not involved. You are too young for this type of stress. When I was 24, I thought I was old enough to make decisions on love & marriage. Thank God for his enduring mercy. Thirty something years later, I have met so many women in my journey so far who made just one wrong detour in that most important but glossed over relationship decision, spending years of hell on earth. Get out of situations that will make your life a living hell while you can if no kids are involved. Joyce Meyers got out of a bad marriage, you don’t seem to be married to the guy yet so “count it all joy” that you saw this.
4. Young ladies please stop listening to those who tell you any age is too old for finding the right man. It is not true. Find your purpose so you can find the purpose patner. God says in Jeremiah 29:11 that “he has plans for you”and they are good plans. Try your best not to live with the man like you are married when you are not. It gives the enemy permission to divert your path in life, get entangled in this sort of mess, Some even jointly buy homes while not married, It complicates matters!
I’m a bit old school as Gen X & telling young ladies it’s not in their favor to muddle finances with a guy they aren’t married to falls on deaf ears. I once had a patient in his 50s who had a live-in lover of 28 years. I saw him over a 6 year period & always asked after the woman as a courtesy though I never met her. One day as he was leaving he casually told me he was getting rid of “that woman in my house”! I called him back to sit & politely told him it was horrible he didn’t even add her name to the property & used her for 28 years! I know he is Caucasian but he knew my belief system & told me the next visit he changed his mind! Thank God.
Stay away from relationship situations that are undefined by law & tradition!
Poster, flee, leave him. May God give you your own man and peace of mind in Jesus name🙏🏾