Hmmmm..
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFRONT OR NOT
When I met K and saved his contact, I noticed he posts pictures of his loved ones at least 3-4 times in a week, his loved ones include his immediate family, his friends, 2 of his EX, one of the EX's daughter(he said she took in for someone while they were together, because of the love he had for her, he accepted her child as his) and his clients(he is a fitness coach). He always posts the pictures in the particular order I mentioned above.
We are dating now, should I be worried he has not included my picture/pictures in the list of "LOVED ONES" pictures he posts 3-4 times weekly? But my picture is his screen saver..
We are dating now, should I be worried he has not included my picture/pictures in the list of "LOVED ONES" pictures he posts 3-4 times weekly? But my picture is his screen saver..
I am confused on if I should ask him of not.
I am not one that posts at all, so I have never posted him and I don't think I'll anytime soon.
I am not one that posts at all, so I have never posted him and I don't think I'll anytime soon.
My friend advised I confront him, I truly don't know if it is necessary.
Advice a confused girl please.
Advice a confused girl please.
Hmmmmm he only posts his exs.....
Please ignore him , its petty or you can ask out of curiosity but do not confront on something like this..
Or you can take some photos from the Internet of some really cute guys and start to use as your DP; he will ask and then you can stylishly bring in the topic..... or you just forget it totally and get busy with someothing profitable.........
You’re dating now and because of that you want him to start posting you on social media,do you post him on yours,what if he’s waiting to be sure before he posts you?abi if he posts every woman he dates like you want him to,don’t you think his social media would’ve been flooded with pictures of women by now.make Una Dey use sense before Una send chronicle abeg
ReplyDeletePosts pictures of ex? Lol, better be sure there’s nothing going on there. The child that was conceived while he was with an ex and now graces his dp, better verify that’s not his child. Too much is going on with this man and the women in his life. Posting your pictures should be the least of your worries, I am not sure the guy is as single as you think. Personally I’d never date a guy who still posts pictures of his exes under the guise of “loved ones.”
DeleteIt would have been normal, I think, but I don't get his posting not just one, but two Exes, and posting the daughter of an ex who he claims he has not fathered. Maybe they're all just friends now? But what I see is that your instincts are kicking in. Pay close attention to things, yes, be very observant. Because this kind of thing can cause problems in marriage, such as lack of trust, if you do eventually tie the knot. So it is better to get the right picture, so you don't waste your time or give yourself unnecessary headaches.
DeleteJust ask him if it bothers you.
ReplyDeleteMy own is for you to sha ask questions well/research about that his ex's child, be sure the child is not his o becauseee.... its better for you to find out sooner than later.
DeleteI don't like drama.
ReplyDeleteLooks ike drama is brewing here.
Una too like to Dey like chronicles. You met someone that still posts his exes you went ahead and started dating him. This particular chronicle is still preamble the main one is loading
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteMy dear oh
DeleteShe use her two eyes enter relationship with man that still posts his ex
Lol
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DeleteWhy should he post you when you don’t post him?
ReplyDeleteWhy some of una dey always feel say na una get this world so everything must go how you want it.
Which day una start to date sef wey you nor go let person rest?
Sluttychic.
You can post ur exes but u can’t post me, must be ment. You are kuku seeing the red flags now. There is only one reason he is still posting his exes. Imagine the disrespect sef. If na birthday sef, person go understand but randomly? Hell no!
ReplyDeleteYou better make him stop now and if he doesn’t, well it confirms my suspicions
Yours must be come with insult and your usual braggart arrogance. E no dey tire you? Refine yourself a bit. Kai!
DeleteYou have said it all
DeleteWho posts ex when dating
One dude told me he was posting ex cause his immigration lawyer could see his status and he needed the lawyer to know he was in a real relationship with said ex. Wetin consign lawyer 🤣🤣🤣
16:28, u dey ment abi?
DeleteRelationship grows from stage to stage. Don't confront him. Get busy and when you guys get there, you will know.
ReplyDeleteIs it really you? Welcome!
DeleteHe is posting his ex
DeleteShe better move on
This is one bizarre and strange ass chronicle. As this situation is causing you undue stress and illogical thinking, please break it off immediately. Move on while this hasn’t developed into anything deep. You will never be satisfied because what you want has a low chance of materializing. Plus, you are in silent competition with ppl who were in his life before you, innocent ppl you do not know. If you are worried he may still be carrying feelings for his ex, it is a strong possibility. Just move on because you are an overthinker and overthinkers have to be careful of putting themselves in situations that will trigger that part of them.
ReplyDeleteFind a single man with no relationship with his ex, no children or who even has a social media account. There are still tons of ppl in the country who do not do social media, I think that you would be best suited with such a person. Over thinkers ideally should not be on social media unless they are making a living on it. Social media is a triggering place for an overthinker.
Hmmm...such a wise comment!
DeleteGod bless you. I am one. I over think everything. Thus making life very stressful. I left all three major social media in 2020. Peace has returned and on my WhatsApp, I didn't give permission to contacts, so I don't see anyone's status. I like having my head and mind in one place abegii.
DeleteVery wise comment,how do cope with so much baggage?
DeleteOn point
Delete16:02, I am so proud of you for recognizing that trait within yourself and taking the steps to bring peace and harmony into your life.
DeleteWe cannot lie to ourselves, we must recognize our flaws as we recognize our strengths. And only through admission can we take the necessary steps towards correction. Nothing beats inner peace and there is no price too great to pay for it.
I'm wondering, what is your motive for dating him? Is it for marriage???
ReplyDeleteThere are too many things that are not straight here. If you want marriage, these things should be straightened out.
He took a child that was not his and he knows.
Sis are you not seeing the flags? Is this the kind of life you want?
Your story will be plenty. All the best.
You’re comfortably dating a man who has the audacity to post his ex?! And you’re still dating him? Why ? Men scarce like that ?
ReplyDeleteAsk her o as in the audacity,this is how he will have the audacity and be calling women on video call in your presence when you complain he will say after all you were comfortable with all these before what changed, for you to tolerate this rubbish means you want to start fighting as in this early morning and day never break, one thing I believe is that it's not by force to stay with someone that doesn't give you peace , why will be comfortable with this ex daughter that got pregnant for someone he was dating , some things no dey disgust you see baggages everywhere and you re afraid to confront . Antie ,nne sisi ,nwanyi oma ,baby I'm calling you all these names so that you ll know that you deserve better,
DeleteGo ahead and ask him but try not to act desperate or he may take you for granted.
ReplyDeleteMy sister that child is his child, n he is still very much in contact with the exes he posts.
ReplyDeleteIf you can date a baby daddy and a liar, pls stay, but if it is a deal breaker, pls u neva see bf, go front.
That supposed EX he's posting is the main chic. You are the side dish. Screen saver he can change with a simple tap under 30secs.
ReplyDeleteYou've begun dating, as in you're *supposedly* the woman in his life now and he still won't post you, yet continues to post this "ex"? Let's leave this one aside.....
ReplyDeleteThe main issue (to me) is you said this man had so much love for this "ex" that he accepted another man's pregnancy/child? Where is Ashton Kutcher and his camera crew cos surely, we all, especially you OP, are being punked! In this year 2023 of our Lord Black Jesus Christ????
My dear, use your tongue to count your teeth. After you are done counting, count again so they don't stain your white.
Hian!
I didn't even remember that she wrote about the exes baby while I was typing
DeleteBefore a man can post a woman on his status he has known how committed both of them are, that man is sure to walk the marriage path with that woman. If you bf still post his exs that means they are not his exs but his current women.
ReplyDeleteThat child he is posting always is his baby, no one got pregnant while dating another man and the man will freely accept that child. The man knows that fully well that child is not his and at any point in time the father will come for that child. If that child is from his siblings then you should feel at home with it. Oga is not sure of you, he want to play you. Those women are much in his life, just be wise.
Lollllllll, poster you must be young young.🤭
ReplyDeleteAs in young young.
Day old young young.
That child is his.☑
That so called 'ex' is the future continuous.☑
You are present continuous.☑☑☑
Screensaver ko, lifesaver ni.🤣🤣🤣🤭
And oh yes yes, you are dating yourself all by yourself.
😄😄😄😄
DeleteGo and verify (in Peter Obi's voice)
ReplyDeleteI no dey trust some of these fitness coaches at all.
It's strange for him to still be posting his ex on his status. What do you make out of it? Please it calls for a serious conversation before the next conversation you'd both be having will be one you'd be in h3art br3ak
Petty and jobless
ReplyDeleteThose pictures are the open pictures of his loved ones to many people.
ReplyDeleteYour picture as screen saver is a closed picture to him and a few.
It is obvious there are many things fishy here but it is up to you to tell yourself the plain truth.
This is a new relationship right? You didn't tell us when the relationship kicked off. You are just getting to know each other. Give him 5months. Allow the relationship to stand the test of time before you begin to bother about posting of pix. It seems he is an attention seeker. What's all the posting of general pictures all the time?
ReplyDeleteWell, the pictures he posts are of those he has gotten used to. They have known each other way before you came in so he may not know how to stop posting them now because of a new relationship and as an attention seeker that he seem to be. Allow the love to mature. What if after doing PDA with your pix and you both suddenly break-up within a short space of time of knowing each other and then he stops posting the pix, then he finds another love and starts posting her photos just in a short time frame, won't people see him as unserious? If he is smart enough and considerate he would stop posting everybody's picture. Not even your picture should be posted for now until he gets used to the relationship between both of you. You can still complain to him though. Ask him if those exes he posts on a regular are more important to him than you. His response should help you know your fate. If it were only his siblings I would have told you not to bother at all until you are about to marry.
Poster listen well:
ReplyDeleteThat posting thing was never my thing! Because I’m private and don’t like people to ruin a good thing. My ex was a post kind of guy! Forget people talking about reciprocating— a person will do what’s in their nature happily (hence love languages) if he posts even his ex and her alleged child why not you? Ah ah wow … my ex used to post shirtless, bottles, locations but not once did he post me— he was cheating pro max!!
I know personal trainers even ones in church — most are conceited and rarely faithful they see beautiful women a lot and begin to associate that contact with connection. Some even safe beauts because we know some women are shallow and like “body”. Screen saver looool I know you know that esp with latest iPhones it can change in a second right?or mostly nobody cares about those! Lastly nothing can convince me that child isn’t his. So many single men fear the responsibility this one turned out as a HERO? Even if the real dad is CD a dead beat his relatives WOULD NEVER let another man lay claim on their DNA. Wake up!
I don't like Stella's advice.
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