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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
Hi Stella. Please I genuinely need your advise. I've been dating my girl for 2 years and I'm about to meet her parents officially but there's a little hiccup. She's 24 and I'm 27. We've actually never had s#'x before and I'm fine with it.
I actually don't believe in s#'x before marriage. Not that I'm judging anyone or I'm being too religious. I feel its safer to stick with one person so you don't complicate your s#x life. Its a decision I made quite early in my life. This is my personal opinion, everyone is entitled to theirs and I'm not imposing it on anyone. I myself have had s'#x twice or thrice before and that was in my final year with my then girlfriend.
So back to my issue, I noticed my girl was pressuring me for s#x a lot. so I probed and asked what the issue was and she opened up and said her sis told her to try it out so she doesn't regret later coupled with the stories she sees online everyday. She's scared. So after much pressure and tears, she said I should at least let her see my D.
(We don't go naked in front of each other and she's never slept over at my place. It's just a precaution we agreed to take so we don't get tempted).
So I obliged. Then she said she wants to stroke it just to be sure I can get an erection. No wahala, I agreed. Then she went down on me. Gosh! I almost died from pure ecstasy. I wanted to be inside her so badly. I was moaning so loudly like what I don't know.
When I came, my whole body was quivering for some time. I felt so dizzy. I felt like fireworks went off in my head. This continued for some seconds afterwards. When I got myself, I excused myself to the bathroom. I felt so bad at how I had lost control. Over the years, I'd trained myself to be in control of my s#xual urges so I don't know how I let it go far.
I came out and told her we needed to go to a public place so we don't go overboard. She was now asking if I didn't want to touch her too or if I wasn't attracted to her. I explained to her that I felt its better we wait till after the wedding cuz I didn't want to have this on my conscience.
What if something goes wrong and we go our separate ways? Then we'd both be just another s#xual score in each others lives. I explained my stance on s#x. She flared up and held onto where I said what if we go our separate ways.
She said I was planning on leaving her. I love her too much. I cant let her go. Why would she feel this way? Its been 2 weeks and my girl has been so cold. I miss her. I want my jovial playful baby girl back not this new cold person I don't know. I don't want to loose her.
I opened up to my guy and he was like I'm overthinking it. That since I already want to marry her then the s#x shouldn't be a big deal.
I thought ladies love the idea of no s#x before marriage, why is my own now different?
Please what do you think? Should I just sleep with her and get this over with? Am I overthinking?
You dont want to nack but you enjoyed her 'handshake' and refused to also return the enjoyment..... I am not a religious person and i would feinitely want to taste what i am going in for long term...Your own is too much please..Are you not going to marry her?
You can still get married and things will go wrong and you both will part ways. I think you are hiding something...Maybe you are a 20 second man..hisssss
Let’s hope she’s not already pregnant. This one she’s strongly pushing for sex like this all of a sudden.
ReplyDeletePoster I like your type jare. Somehow you both are not communicating. Maybe take her out for a romantic lunch and then someplace quiet to talk about things. Wishing you the best. Have you prayed about your relationship? If nothing is wrong with you sexually you have to reassure her, or else now is the time to tell her what's up.
DeletePoster Kudos to you for choosing to please God and control your flesh. Have a talk with your girl in a public place please not home and clearly communicate your stand with her, then give her time to decide while you pray for God's will to be done.
DeleteTrust me GOD will never forsake you if you keep his statutes, laws and commandment. But you see man/humans will fail. Something huge is coming your way, do not fall please.
Great job Brother. Remain Blessed
God will help you through it all.
DeleteYou are a good son.
Don't mind her flaring up.
Don't let anyone cajole you do what you don't wanna do, since you have started waiting till wedding night, keep it up and all the best.
She will thank you later unless she's loose.
One man's meat is another man poison. Poster I don't just like your type, I love your type.
DeletePoster, it is your decision not to indulge in pre-marital sex again. You alone know the reason for such a decision. If it is for a spiritual purpose, you must pray to God to give you a partner who will share such stand with you. Indulging in pre-marital sex is not gender sensitive as we are made to believe. Any gender can take that stand. If it is a spiritual purpose, I would suggest you do not allow anyone pressure you into disobeying God. That you have committed a particular sin once is not a criterion for you to indulge in it again. Since you love your girlfriend, explain to her once again why you do not want to indulge in that. Your reason for a possible break-up is not a genuine reason for not indulging because married people still separate. Start by telling yourself the truth. What is your reason for taking that stand? If it is a promise you made to God, I am telling you that God will equip you with all the tools you need to withstand the temptations for you will sure be tempted. If you are hiding something, your lies will catch you. In conclusion, if your reasons are backed by God and your heart is humble, he will keep your girl for you or he will lead you to your missing rib. Do not ever displease God to please human beings!
DeleteI thought ladies love the idea of no s#x before marriage, why is my own now different?
DeleteSo all women must like the same thing? All women must want the same thing?Over 3 billion women in the works and all must want the same thing before marriage? I personally don't think you should get married. Your way of reasoning is as extensive as a full stop.
It is better for poster to leave that girl, she is not godly and one day she may leave you on the grounds that people have told her several stories about me. And she doesn't trust you etc what if something goes wrong in future do you think she can bear it, she thinks marriage is about sex, she is not even looking at having enough skills/ education to boost financial status, or even vital questions about your expectations in marriage she is thinking about sex, very shallow something.
DeleteYou and your girl don’t have the same values and that’s a big red flag. You are a principled and disciplined man, I suggest you look for a woman with similar values. This girl will drag you into other things that would not be in your best interest. You deserve a better partner.
DeleteHa Stella. Na wa for this your advice oh. The man made a valid decision and you're shaming him for it.. It's not right.
ReplyDeleteIf the roles were switched, we would be advising the girl to run away. What your girl did was wrong and it sounds like she is easily swayed by outside influence. Poster think carefully and make your stand clear with her again before continuing your relationship.
Exactly
DeleteNa from clap, dance dey start. Poster she said off your cloth you agreed. Next, let me touch. You too agreed. Now you've gone back on a decision you made for yourself. You guys should come to a conclusion and move forward. If she wants you to do what you cannot, call it quits and stop wasting each other's time abeg. Can two walk together unless they are agreed?
ReplyDeleteDear poster
DeleteSorry this is coming late and I hope you see it
She’s not pregnant nor trying to force anything on you
We live in a society filled with projection, everyone hears one story and let’s fear creep in to their own situations forgetting that out of what they may call “normal” an “anomaly” exists.
She has probably spoken to people who have told her you are either gay or may have ED so she’s trying to see your reaction, forgetting that those people advised her based on what or who they think a typical man should be.
Secondly, you dint express yourself well, bringing up “you people going your separate ways” already fueled her suspicion and lack of trust, cus why would that even be an excuse in the heat of the situation?
She’s just trying to play safe but going about it the wrong way.
Thirdly, most women were raised to see men as sexual beings, and when a man doesn’t show sexual desire it means he doesn’t care, you dint try to touch her, making her feel unwanted, like I said, with all she has heard she feels there should be a normal routine to these things (touch me I touch you)
If you love her, express this to her, let her know how much you wanted to devour her but felt ashamed, you are the head of your to be home, learn to take the lead, correct whatever impression and always assure your woman and don’t be scared to be vulnerable.
Shalom
Push up (original)
Poster if the primary reason you're not having sex before marriage is because of your relationship with God, then pleasing Him and not your babe/fiance is ALL that matters. If she decides she doesnt want to continue the relationship then so be it.
ReplyDeleteYou dont know what God could be saving you from or the reason why God is testing you like this, but if you decide pleasing your fiance is more important, dont be surprised if God chastens you for that decision.
oga i think you are doing too much and your explanations shows you want it,...so why fret this much?
ReplyDeleteYou dey mind am?
DeleteE no wan sex, but see explanation.
Mtcheeeww
I dont like all these small kids talk.
Stella 😂 it's your last paragraph for me 😂😂😂🤣
ReplyDeleteHer flaring up may be an excuse. Maybe she was not satisfied with what she saw and she is thinking of how to let you down. Why does she feel the need to escalate things after all you both are planning to meet each other's parents officially.
ReplyDeleteOr maybe she just wants the sex and trying to guilt-trip you like guys guilt-trip their
girlfriends by forming vex.
I would tell you if the reason you are holding on till marriage is Christ then you will always have to pick your desire to please Christ over her. This is what happens when you don't date people with the same conviction, you end up losing your resolve.
You wrote that you are confused because you thought ladies like men with no-sex before marriage beliefs but what you failed to understand is that, those are spiritual ladies( I purposely did not write, religious ladies).
Anyways a man who cannot stand for something will fall for anything.
Have you even prayed to God.
Have you gotten revelations that she is your wife. Loving her is not enough.
Now one! 👏🏾
DeleteThank you bro for this input
DeleteYou summed everything! Nice one
DeleteGood lord, Stella🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteI think immaturity is at the core of this. I think it is good for a young man to have sexual discipline in life, and that discipline may be what holds your family together in the future. No, do not have intercourse with her, you can stick to your morals. You have already committed yourself to making her your wife, and you love her. She knows your body responds sexually, there is nothing more for her to do but wait for her marriage.
What you do need to do is sit down and have a real conversation. Perhaps she needs to be reassured that she is beautiful and you are attracted to her, but you also have your own morals and values that you need to uphold to be able to live in peace. Continue to show her love and affection, but do not get manipulated into breaking your moral code. At least she will know she has a man with backbone and values.
Come back and share your wedding night story.
Men with backbone and moral values seem to be quite rare these days. I commend this poster. Poster don't relent.
DeleteGod bless you
DeleteLollll, afi backbone la i se skeleton.
Delete'Backbone' that he brought his public out for public viewing?
'Backbone' that he accepted hos penis to be stroked.
'Backbone' that he accepted blow job.
No be only 'backbone', na bone back.
Meat wey you no wan swallow, no use teeth cut am.
Read to understand not to criticize 22:21. No one categorically stated the poster has a backbone. He may or not, but he is being encouraged to. And I don't see why you are mocking him. Temptation can come to anyone, that is why he is here for advice.
DeleteDon't sex her and don't dry hump too. She might have ulterior motive.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you decide, use condom. Ask her what she wants. To pleasure her or sex?
Stella.. Stellaaaa 🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteAre you sure she's on the same page with you? why the sudden change in her stance? be careful before she pins what is not yours on your head.
ReplyDeleteStop apologizing on your sexual stance.
Felicity
Poster don't take Stella's advice. She has already said she's not a religious person and that fine.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with your stance and to be frank, I'm very proud of you. Your body is the temple of God and you should treat it as such. Please keep speaking to your fiance until she sees reason. Also put it into prayers.
You made a valid point here..since they both agreed not to sex till after marriage why is she rushing him now..poster pls and pls stand on what you believe dont let her make you break it..
DeleteI don’t like what she’s doing
ReplyDeleteSomeone tells you their stand then you stay and later start using emotional blackmail to get them to reverse course. I’m not a fan of hers
Are you minding her? Poster please, go for ladies with like-minds abeg! Let her carry her Emotional blackmail tactics and go.
DeleteThis is why some marriages do not work. You see square pegs trying to force themselves into round holes.
People dating those they shouldn't be dating. People whom their beliefs do not align. Anyone that tries to make you sin can never be the one.
She has stroked it and it rose up yet she is not satisfied.
Exactly my point trying to blackmail him Emotionally which is very bad..why will her sister be the one to tell her what to do..he should not fall for this her trap..
DeleteDear poster.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, this is a major hiccups. It is not little.
Secondly, I would react the same way with what you said: what if you break up. This is not the mindset of someone who is in it fully. That should have never come from your mouth.
She has given you pleasure and wants to experience the same with you - which shows she loves you. She is feeling rejected by you.
I, personally, did not join the no-sex before marriage wagon. It was my own personal decision. Sex was important for me, and I tested before going in, and 15 years later, I am not disappointed.
If you know she is the one, it should not be a problem.
Very reasonable comment. However, if the tables were turned, hope your answer will be the same.
DeleteHope if a lady posted this Chronicle you'll still say "He has given you pleasure and wants to experience the same with you - which shows he loves you. He is feeling rejected by you"
Good point, Nocturnal. I am not sure if I would give the same advice, the story would determine what I would say.
DeleteI simply shared my own personal experience. I am writing from a different perspective, mine. Maybe that will give him some context to what she may be feeling. Personal conviction and self-control (divine) is indeed needed to control sexual desires.
I am not encouraging the poster to sin or go against his beliefs. Like I said in yesterday’s chronicle: people are different, unions/marriage are likewise different. The poster would read and discern.
@Anon 15:30...
DeleteSince when did giving pleasure equate to the person loving someone, or being in love?
Pr*stitutes do it all the time, yet I'm certain a lot of them will not be able to pick their regular customers out of a line-up!
Oh dear. I personally don't like sex before marriage.
ReplyDeleteNow, I don't want you to do what you will regret. If you eventually have seggs and decides to blame you for breaking your vow nko? Begin to guilt trip you?
Follow your conscience and own anything that happens afterwards. But if you ask me, you have trained and disciplined yourself to be chaste. Keep it up and don't compromise
Stella you are too funny. Stella said she is not a religious person bikonu. Poster I cannot advice you on going against your morals and I am not also against your girlfriend because the situation I ended up in today was because I didn't test before marriage. Now I am out of the same marriage because the thing is not working. It is well with however you choose to handle the situation
ReplyDeleteWhy the pressure to have s*x all of a sudden?🤷🏾♀️ My mind is telling me that there is more.
ReplyDeletePoster, if you must have s*x with her please take precaution.
Poster did you share your personal convictions about No-sex-till-marriage with your girlfriend or you just assumed that there will be a mutual understanding? Because clearly, what I see is a clash of two people with different ideologies about sex before marriage and this should have been clearly stated at the start of the relationship.
ReplyDeleteKindly note that having your girlfriend go down on you is actually SEX. You have already had sex with her so you have broken your personal pact; it's not only when there is a penetration. And are you also attracted to her? I mean physically attracted asides the emotional and spiritual aspects.
Look both of you are in this but it seems you are carried away by your personal beliefs and wants: she expected that you returned the favour. There must be an agreement with both of you if you are Team sex before marriage or sex after marriage...
By now you should know what she likes; maybe get her gift or take her out for lunch or dinner. Don't sleep with her like your friends suggested. And have a real conversation about both of you stance on sex; If you truly love her and want her in your life; both of you will have to reach a compromise and resolve your cognitive dissonance or move on to a lady who believes in your stance..
All the best
Poster Pele o.
ReplyDeleteSince you agreed to the music why don't you do the dance as well.
Just take note of the day you do the do with her, cos maka what @Eka Joy said up there, I began having 2nd thought.
As a guy, you don't request for a no sex relationship, it raises suspicion, it question your manliness and sexuality. If you're doing it base on conviction, fine, but don't ever do it cos you want to please a particular girl to make her see you like a godly man or because she ask you too.. women say lots of shii they don't believe in.. they ask you for sacrifices they don't expect you to accept, it's sh!t testing, that's how they know if you're a Real man or a S!MP,. Those they call Real men are actually S!MPs, but it's another height of sh!t testing, they expect you to be smarter than their manipulations..
ReplyDeleteOk, back to your ish..
Lol.. me? I won't be the one to give anyone advice to sin, I won't be questioned on the last day for pushing another one into sin😁.. but we all know what my stance is as related to relationship and sex, infact even before the relationship begin, some kind pre-intimacy must don happen.. mine might be due to my past life, I now have what I long for from a lady sexually, I know what I enjoy and I know what I can't manage.. but you sir, you have very little experience so yours is different but are you and your girl the same? What if you girl is like me that has had some good experience and now have a certain standard she can go beneath?..
We really have 'good' Nigerian men out here fam, but these girls because of how they mess around, especially with their religious leaders and married men, they begin to spread the notion that we are sex maniac and that we all have high body count, it's all a case about people seeing things the way they are and not they way they are..
The other day Ezege said his body count isn't up to 10.. Omo and this is a single Nigerian guy in his late 30s,. How many Nigerian girls can honestly say their body count isn't more than 10 at age 25… this is why they are always trying to shame you and every guy from digging or caring about their pasts... Ahewo past😁😂
Guys can request for no sex oh our rich American football player Russell did that and he says that was his choice
DeleteOf course I don’t know them yo their house
Lol..
DeleteYou want me to drag Russell ABI😂😂, you think Ciara would have agreed to be with him if not for condition wey make crayfish bend.. when she was younger and without child, who where the kinda guys she was rolling with..
This is a clear case of good guys (S!MPs) finishing last.. they wait to 'eat' the remains from the bad guys (Real men)..
Imagine doing no aex relationship, not with a virgin, not just with any non virgin but with a mother 😂😂..
Abeg abeg abeg😂😂
Anyway, like I said earlier, unless for your religious conviction, which might have been the case of Russell, cos I doubt Ciara was the one who made that rule, anything apart from your religious conviction as a man or just because you chose not to, anything apart from these two exceptions is clowning..
Let's bring this back to Nigerian men and women🙄
Dante your view is disgusting. Human beings deserve more respect.
DeleteRussell Wilson wasn't a virgin too. He was a divorcee when he met Ciara.
DeleteBesides just like Ciara wouldn't have gone for him initially, do you think he would have gone for Ciara if she was a random lady? There are lots of ladies in church even celibates like him he could get but he wanted Ciara.
Just like Meagan's good ex-husband that was celibate and Meagan had to be celibate by force. He had a lot of church sisters who held the same belief but he wanted a known face.
17:11
DeleteYou dey very funny.
Dante's comment is disgusting.
What would call Poster's girlfriend's attitude?
18:28 you are even funnier seeing you cannot reason I was responding to Dante's comment. You make your own comment on the poster's girlfriend. Your business.
DeleteThis Dante man has toxic masculinity! I’m a woman with a body count of ONE! My husband of many years. I know MANY Millennials & Gen.Z with zero or low single digit counts. While I see your advice as deliberately “macho toxic” many times, please try not to generalize in belittling ALL women. Some are much older than what your age range appears to be. It’s a public space.
DeleteI agree that the poster should stick to his principles and be careful he is not being pushed to cover up something as they both “seemed” to be on the same page initially. However having being in a similar situation many years ago, the constant “hugs” and the accompanying “temptations” should be avoided….Go on a date in public and have a heart to heart talk. Ensure you are on the same page & encourage her from time to time.
Stella post my reply to funny 18:28. Troll that cannot read to comprehend.
Delete1.24
DeleteIf you don't fly away from here..
See you talking about minding my comment cos it's public space and calling yourself toxic, not me..
So you can throw insult like a dumb olodo in public space but I can't make my own factual statement so I don't get insulted? And you think I'm the toxic one among the both of us? Something is really wrong with you..
Coming here to talk about age, why don't you also tell the girls that throw insult at me the same thing? Or you think they're older than me too? Do you even think you're older than me.. let's even say you're older, then you show be ashamed cos you lack wisdom and maturity, you probably forgot to pick it up while aging..
Just come here to throw insult cos they can't engage in logical argument..
Amotekuns..
Bye ✌️
See better man. Poster well done, you are doing very well cause your type is rare . Please stand your ground of no sex before marriage. The devil is just using her. If it's ment to be she will come around but if she doesn't then know there is something God is preventing you from in the future. Don't allow her cause you to sin like Eve did to Adam.
ReplyDeletePoster, if you eventually have sex with her, you may develop hatred for her for making you break your vows. Your eye will clear when you are done.
ReplyDeleteThat *your eye will clear* thing is real. Don't do anything to make you regret reneging on the stance you wanted to take.
DeletePoster, pls go back to God,sex after marriage has always been His plan for mankind and you need to pray seriously about her. Seek the face of God plssssssss.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you decide to do, use protection please. If she wanna break up because you refused knacks and you love her, by all means knack her very well. You already sinned by releasing, so complete it and ask for forgiveness.
ReplyDeleteWhich kain mindset be this?🙄
DeleteYou already sin so keep on sinning and delve deeper into sin and don't look back?
You can't sin and retrace your steps? 😏
So anybody that sins has no right to repent? God abeg o, people!
DeletePlease stick to your values. But lovingly explain to her that you're not leaving her but you respect your conscience. I love the fact that you still have a conscience. Keep it up 💯
ReplyDeleteSimple and short
You people should take it easy on this blog biko, my husband is not around and I feel a certain type of way.
ReplyDeleteI have only wicked advice that may lead you astray so let me just read comments
😂 😂 😂 I no get hubby but I can relate.........
DeleteThe reason why most christians avoid sex before marriage is because
ReplyDelete1) it was a commandment given to the church 'thou shall not commit fornication/adultery.
2) sex before marriage makes the union tiring and boring and if the man doesn't really love the woman, he tends to slow down the marriage rites since he is already getting the sexual pleasure from her without doing the proper rite.
Sex before marriage open doors to sin and brings alot of troubles to the home even after marriage. If prayers are not well said, the relationship may not even lead to the altar.
Pls have a conversation with her and settle this amicably.
It is not the church that gave the commandment of no sex before marriage. If you believe in God you will know that it is a commandment by God himself.
DeleteYes my love, the commandment were given to the church by God himself.
DeleteA man that sees what he wants and ready to settle down should go and do the needful. If there is any doubt like you said that he is scared because of what is going on these days,there is hospital to go check.
ReplyDeleteWhy most women say no to s*x before marriage because they are scared of being used .If he loves you and really wants to marry you, he should respect your feelings or rather go see your people. Why is he using s*x as an excuse?
Ask her to take a pregnancy test before anything happens.
ReplyDelete👍👍👍
DeleteDo you want him to back without protection?
DeleteA man that sees what he wants and ready to settle down should go and do the needful. If there is any doubt like you said that he is scared because of what is going on these days,there is hospital to go check.
ReplyDeleteWhy most women say no to s*x before marriage because they are scared of being used .If he loves you and really wants to marry you, he should respect your feelings or rather go see your people. Why is he using s*x as an excuse?
A man that sees what he wants and ready to settle down should go and do the needful. If there is any doubt like you said that he is scared because of what is going on these days,there is hospital to go check.
ReplyDeleteWhy most women say no to s*x before marriage because they are scared of being used .If he loves you and really wants to marry you, he should respect your feelings or rather go see your people. Why is he using s*x as an excuse?
In all you said, her take away was in the case you guys break up? And you fell for it? Anyways, you will grow to understand her manipulative nature. Your conviction and principle for years is being used to blackmail you and you're being casual about.
ReplyDeleteDon't you think there's more to her plans? What if she's having sex, pregnant and wants to give it to you? She has seen the size and now wants to taste. Really? Becareful
I don't like this Stella's answer,what kind of advice is that?Are you supporting sex before marriage?May be she is pregnant already and wants to pin the pregnancy on you....poster be wise o............ Josaria
ReplyDeleteWhat 😧 😧. People have mind oh
DeletePoster your girlfriend is not ready for marriage and has no idea about who a good man is what to look out for in a Man, she just wants to explore n get sexually involved because of all she has read n seen on social media. She wan use u test run
ReplyDeleteKnacking after that O ti lo !
Mtcheeew... Small pikin dey worry this one.
ReplyDeleteYou never talk wetin dey do you for body.
One of my male friends was pressured for sex by his ex but he wasn't going to bend to that idea . He loved her so much but he but for that sex, he didn't want to compromise his stans on it. They latter broke up because of it and he found another girl who is ready to stay chaste with him. Now that ex wants to come back but my guy is already in a new lovely relationship and ready to marry this November.
ReplyDeletePoster, that is the devil using her to make you do what you don't want to do. Don't compromise again. Don't just do it. Let her go. If she tries other guys she will be able to compare between you and them who loves her more. We don't measure love by who opens up more to sexual activities. At least she has tested your D and confirmed that it's working so the other demands from her are not necessary to keep to.
You think you can't find another lovely girl? Just let her go and you will be surprised at how the next relationship will make you ask yourself what you have been doing all those while with that ex.
My own is that if she leaves you and latter comes back please let her go for medical checkup to confirm that she didn't come back with infectious diseases to infest innocent you that has been minding your business. This is very very important.
Well said👍
DeleteLater* not latter
DeleteStance* not stans
There are many benefits in being a virgin. Many virgins are not taking advantage of that opportunity that they have because they don't know the secret
ReplyDeleteAs a virgin you have the ability/grace to pray and receive answers effortlessly. Since the day I got to know this I feel very satisfied. I know how many situations(situations that seemed unchangeable) I have been able to change by the power of God because of this. No man can be wiser than God. When he gives a command he knows his reasons.
Poster I have Dsame mindset of no sex before marriage..I can't fault you here and I can't fault her either, the both of you should sit like adults and settle it amicably..and most importantly put it in prayers..All the best..
ReplyDeleteStella this your response makes it look like you are encouraging pre-marital sex. Poster, you perceived what you would not want to eat. You must learn to be disciplined in whatever standard you have set, if you have chosen to be celibate, live by it. It pays in the long run and saves you from unnecessary headache and fear, STDs, etc. Do not let her manipulate you or blackmail you emotionally. Let her go if she is not okay with all the physical evidence she has seen, you will find your own. Who knows if she is even trying to pin another person's pregnancy on you. Be vigilant brother.
ReplyDeletePoster, don't let anyone make you feel less for making the right choices for you. Don't let toxic masculinity make you take decisions you don't want because you want to please societal misconceptions about a real man looks like.
ReplyDeleteThis is not surpose to be an issue here..I met this guy and I am team no sex till after marriage and he is team sex before marriage..we just jejely went our separate ways..if you try to make her understand your stand and she is still cold just let her be.she will definitely come around.
ReplyDeleteStory of my life and I can’t shout I jejely let them go!
DeletePls do not give in to temptation and the voice of the devil. You are already free from his bondage. Pray fervently against this temptation using scriptures and pray for her as well. We are told to fleeeee fornication cos sexual sins can be very tempting. It is best to avoid all possible occasions of sin (being alone together for now should be avoided). May God help you overcome 🙏🏾
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣 this our Stella na real character o! E say na noodles 😂😁
ReplyDeleteOgbeni, you collected head na. The least you could have done is to lick her plate for f**** sake.
Too much for love. You love her yet you left her high and dry like that.
And you Sha enjoyed it o😁. If selfish was a person.😏
God bless you Poster and keep you. keep your relationship as clean as you can help it. Don't let her pressure you. Many things can happen which you are trying to avoid.
ReplyDeleteAsk her, she has touched it, what else does she want? She is sexually experienced thats why she is going this way.
Pls talk to her and reassure her, if she doesn't cooperate with you, pray and and ask God for help.
This is what happens when you are celibate for other reasons and not for the love of and respect for the word of God.
ReplyDeleteYou lose your grip when tempted and end up falling like a pack of cards. If the reason you kept yourself was solely because of God you would have avoided her like a plaque that right now she would be the one looking for your face up and down and trying to make up.
Look at you explaining yourself and saying you are not over-religious. So what if the whole world thinks you are over-religious what is your business with that? Have you ever heard anything like over-unreligious before?
You better don't let the world and its silly tags make you feel weird that you will now start minimising who you are in Christ. They don't define you.
And whether you like it or not you are already over-religious (whatever that means) in the eyes of the world. Because to the world you can be a Christian and still fornicate and engage in sexual sins. to them It's cool and no big deal you know ways of a woke Christian.
That your girlfriend, are you even sure she is your Godly ordained spouse? because the one God has for you will never ask you(indirectly) to pick between them or God. The one God has for you will not come between you and your God but bring you closer.
I am not an advocate of trying to convince someone to wait with you till marriage because if you feel you can convince them, they also feel they can convince you too. Cutting them off has always been my advice.
Since you sound like you want to keep her then do try to talk to her just once but if she still squeezes her face and pressures you to fornicate please forget the two years and move on.
Well said. Anon 20:10. God bless you abundantly. God's generals are needed in times like this.
DeleteShe is PREGNANT. Please be watchful and dont fall for her tricks as she won carry another man belle give you. Total rubbish.
ReplyDeleteposter she is PREGNANT oh. She wants to pin pregnancy on you. Flee oh
DeleteSomething that is very glaring, please stick to your decision o, except you want to unknowingly raise another man's child, if you like allow her to manipulate you.
DeleteStella your advice is very wrong here he didn't ask for fore play abi head,she did. Pga, of you are settled that this woman you want to spend the rest of your life then marry already.
ReplyDeleteI am so proud of you for keeping your self .
ReplyDeleteI hope that girl is not pregnant and trying to pin it on you if you agree to have sex. She may feel you are naive and don't know road. I hope you conduct pregnancy test and don't agree to any sex at all.
Why is she pressuring you for sex? Be careful of STDs too. You have kept yourself up to this time. What else? It is either she is on the same page or not. Make sure you people complete pre-wedding test.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Poster pls my own is mark date and month of the do o , pls invite her and you guys should have a good time with srokes of pleasures and ecstasy.
ReplyDeleteNothing dey there as far as she is the one pushing for it give it to her , if you re reluctant it shows you have skeleton In your cupboard, whatever happens she asked for it first
She gave him thr fruit to eat and then their eyes were open and felt ashamed.
ReplyDeleteIf you do anything against your conscience and God just to please, you will regret it all your life, because she will continually use it to control, dominate and ruin you.
Take it from me, call her bluff, she will come begging later. She is being used to weaken you.