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Tuesday, August 01, 2023

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

 Hmmm....


STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED


What will you do if you are in this situation........

You lent your husband money in April 2022, he came back again in May 2202 and borrowed more.

As time passed, you kept reminding him to pay and he kept on saying he will pay. At a point in November, he went and bought something that was not really that necessary in the house and showed you and you were not happy about it because he is yet to pay up his debt not even some part of it. 

In 2023, you were in dare need of the money because you wanted to get a sewing machine. He said he doesn't have the money. Okay you got some amount of money and needed only a small amount to complete it and you asked him to help you. He siad he can't help because he doesn't have money.

The last time you guys talked about the money he is owing you, he called you a Nag and said a lot of things showing no remorse. Claiming that others are owing him too that you aren't the only one being owned. Mind you, it is already one year.

Now, he is in dare need of money and is begging you to help him again, will you help him?
I have the money he is asking of which I was saving to use and get a sewing machine and also upgrade my skill. Asked him to ask his mum. He said he doesn't want to do that cos he doesn't want insult.

 If you were the one will you lend him some money again?.

HE has been calling me, crying and begging me to help him but I just can't forget how he treated and talked to me about the previous one I gave him. Mind you, he has not paid me and he is not/have never talked about it.


PLEASE I AM TRYPING IN CAPS COS I AM SHOUTING: WHATEVER YOU PLEASE DONT LEND HIM MONEY AGAIN......what da......

99 comments:

  1. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    I’m beginning to think I’m petty AF because shishi I won’t give him. Even if I’m not even saving up to buy anything, he will still not see one kobo

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    1. Don't give him a dime. He should go and meet the others owing him to pay up.

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    2. If the money wasn’t for an opportunity to upgrade yourself, I would have told you to split the money into 4 and give him quarter but honey the money is a means to get more money, so no

      It’s not even about being petty, the money is your future, please focus on that cus he has proven he can’t be there for you in times of need.

      Don’t remind him of his flaws, just simply say you don’t have to spare, you need to set your priorities right but be gentle and understanding with his brokeness but don’t help 🤣


      Push up (original)

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    3. Poster for better context, what was the money you lent him for? I don't understand this borrowing between you both.

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  2. How does he know that you have some money saved somewhere? I was told once bitten twice shy, why's your case difference? If I borrow you money once and you refused returning it, that's the last time you will ever know that I have money, we will both be singing "we don't have money ni"



    *Larry was here*

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    1. Exactly, don't even tell him you have money at all so he won't ask to borrow it. When you buy the sewing machine, tell him you took loan app and you are trying hard to pay them back and even need his help. Cunny man die, cunny man bury am.

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    2. Shengba no borrow kpachee

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    3. Love you sis @Larry we both don't have money o, àjọ ni owó lọwọ ni kí ṣe ẹsẹ.

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  3. Lol I think he just doesn’t want you to have money and do things
    If you buy the machine now, he will complain that you had money but refused to help him

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    1. When she buys it, let her tell him she borrowed money to buy it

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  4. Do not give him. Tell him the people owing you haven’t paid up.

    Sluttychic.

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  5. Please, be a good wife and cry with him.

    Sluttychic.

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  6. Don't enable his laziness please

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    1. Thats how u women will botrow ur husbands money that they will use and marry another wife!
      Continue! Submissive wives

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  7. Madam poster don't borrow him any more money till he clear his debts.you should know by now your husband is manipulative cause why the crying and begging for? when you're done gathering the money,buy the machine and better yourself,he's not the only one that has monopoly to be selfish

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  8. He never had any intention of paying and like every chronic debtor, they come back always, just a matter of time. If you're gifting him, your choice but lending him to pay back, the money will enter voice mail. Equating owing you to folks outside owing him showed he did not want to pay.

    You're lucky sef, he would have asked you "is it the small money you borrowed him the reason you're disturbing him?"

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    1. The poster didn't mention what her husband does for a living.

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    2. The poster didn't mention what her husband does for a living.

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    3. Probably jobless or in between jobs while trying to run a good woman down.

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  9. Lady T /worth more than a thousand dollars1 August 2023 at 15:12

    Why do you need to lend him the money when he wont give back and insult you on top of it?

    Buy your sewing machine and upgrade. It's for the good of the home i believe.

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    1. He will the house uncomfortable for her that’s why she’s worried

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  10. Poster please don't borrow him money again,they never change.
    Very soon he will start calling you names,stingy , wicked etc don't mind him, just ignore and keep your money.
    He will be fine.

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  11. He has been calling you from where?
    He has been crying, you sef you no fit cry?
    You know your husband better but with the narrative above, I won't give him.
    And no, you are no being wicked or heartless, sometimes even our loved ones need tough love.

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  12. He will still treat you same way after he collects this one, don't give him, and stop announcing to him when you have money, buy your sewing machine, upgrade your skill,it will help you.

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  13. Do not borrow him any money. He has already showed you the kind of person he is. If you borrow him, the same cycle will be repeated.
    A chamelion cannot change it's spot. By the way stop telling him about your finances and start hiding money from him. Don't let him know your worth.

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  14. DON'T GIVE HIM!
    HE IS THE BARRIER BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PROGRESS.

    When you buy your machine, tell him you had to borrow to complete it. Cancel a refund from him. He will never repay you.

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    1. Exactly! Why will your husband not want you to use your own money for better things? Am tempted to say he's an enemy of progress. No wonder they say marriage will either make or mar you. God forbid evil abeg.

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  15. Question: Why should a married woman borrow her husband money in the first place?

    Isn't the money you both have owned by both of you?

    Mstchew.

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    1. God bless you.... Sensible comment. See my below👇👇👇

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    2. @TJ, mine*

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    3. It’s their marriage
      Nothing wrong with their plan
      Dash your own spouse if you like

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    4. Husband/wife’s money belong to both of them. You know there are some husbands who do not give their wives money for personal upkeep.
      These wives take up half or most of the family’s responsibilities. These women work their butts off everyday to make sure family is doing okay while their husbands are either lazying around or spending money on frivolities.
      These women decide that since their husbands have decided to be irresponsible, they too will have to mind the way they release cash afterall you nor dey give me money so make I keep my own. Is this money still “our money” Any woman who tows this path, I cannot blame.
      If this poster’s husband had any form of consideration, he would have raised some money for his wife to get that sewing machine knowing full well that she has bailed him out couple of times and can always bail him out.
      Do me I do you 🤷🏿‍♀️

      Sluttychic.

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    5. So when it's his turn he refused to help her out and why should she help him too?

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    6. 🤣@15:21

      For Naija marriages,
      Husband's money or wealth is for the wife and her family first, her children second, and the husband last.
      Wife's money or wealth is for wife first, second, third. Anything left is for the children if and only if her husband cannot afford or refused despite nagging and all to do beyond his power. The husband has no stake beyond loans and handouts.

      By the way, Naija widowers who survive richer wives are treated slightly worse than widows who survive richer husbands.

      Most modern Naija romantic relationships and marriages are transactional.

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    7. I'm surprised too, but then I understand a lot of people run their union differently for whatever reason.

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  16. Me I always use someone to borrow him but it’s me that’ll give the person the money o because he’ll never pay back otherwise .and I’ll tell the person to ask for interest join .

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  17. Don't give him Nada
    In fact as he is crying, cry more than him, turn it to a crying contest😂😂😂😂

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  18. Simple thing cry back and tell him if he see where to borrow,he should let u know so you set will borrow…

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  19. Such an entitled man. We do things for the sake of the future. Dear Poster, your husband lacks integrity, no look Uche face. Keep your money and face your sewing.

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  20. Tell him you are broke

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  21. Why lend your husband money in the first place? I don't get it. Where you supposed to lend him in the first instance or help him out with his financial need since it seems you're financial buoyant than him.

    How does it sound saying you lend money to your husband? Not boyfriend oo but husband. So if there's an urgent need of money and my wife has the money, I will tell her to lend me. What happened to sharing the idea of what I wanted the money for and plead if she can finance it than outrightly making it look as if I'm asking for a loan. So why are we family?

    So if table were to turn, would you ask your husband to lend you money or you will just beg him to give you or finance your need?

    Be sincere here.

    Even if he lend you, will you pay back when due or you will hide under my husband's money is also my money?

    The truth is that, you shouldn't have given him than giving him in the name of lending. It's better I don't receive money from my woman than receiving in the name of lending. Why are we family in the first place? I won't be surprised if the money you're asking for, part of it was also use for the family upkeep.

    Pls Madam if you can't sacrifice what you have for your husband, provided he's not into gambling, then don't give him anything he ask from you. I believe he would have given you if tables were to turn without asking you back.

    Pls be blunt to him that you're not giving him than make it a loan credit to him.

    The only place I will fault your husband is not keeping to his words. A man's word should be his bond.

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    1. You don’t know the kind of system they run in their home. Let me use mine for example. We have a joint account that we use for running our home. Anything outside that is our personal money to use as we please. If I ever need to borrow money, I have to return it as far as it is borrow. This man clearly borrowed money from his wife. And he has to return it.

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    2. I got you Eka Joy and the reason I faulted him for not keeping to his words and agreement. The mistake he made was asking for a loan. He shouldn't have made it a loan but beg his wife to help him financially and when he has it, he will surprise her by giving her more than he collected. It's better that way.

      Why should I ask my wife for a loan? If she can't help me just like I would do for her, then I won't ask for it. All I'm saying is that, no partner should give their other halve money in the name of loan.

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    3. TJ but when she needed help from him he bluntly refused right? Even tho he promised to pay back and she said she needed little money to complete her money for the purchase of sewing machine so why should she help him out when he doesn't do same???

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    4. TJ why shouldn’t you ask for a loan
      Is it your money

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    5. Anon 17:46, let's be real and true to ourselves for once here. Would you ask your husband to give you money as a loan?

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    6. Lol..
      Very wrong not keeping to his words
      But this particular bad attitude na babes do am pass..

      Even me wey never marry I know how many girls I don borrow money wey dem no talk about am after.. me I just see it as a down payment for a roosted corn sha😉

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    7. Teejay Abeg Abeg Abeg! She should pack all her money and give him so that tomorrow he will go and marry another wife like Yul and leave her penniless, then the same you will come here and hail the man as ‘Odogwu’? Taa gbafuo

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  22. Dear poster you havent shared who is responsible for bills in the house.... is your husband the one paying for everything.....? and you dont contribute a penny?
    Your silence on this is very suspect...
    What is the household dynamic when it comes to spending...? cause if you're here complaining about 'borrowing' your hubby money and you dont give a penny to the household bills, then please it is a 'debt' that can easily be written off, since he is the one who has been providing in full for the household.
    He may have even borrowed the money not because he needed it, but because he wants you to contribute something, he may even be seeing you as an ingrate when it comes to household affairs, always taking but not willing to give a penny....
    Please give us full details and not partial information, that you borrowed your hubby money and he hasnt repaid.
    You're exposing your hubby to insult, but he may be a very good husband, paying for everything

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    1. Thank you. Another wise comment. It could even be the man taking care of the house bills and feedings. Some people don't know what some men go through in life.

      My elder brother few weeks ago sat me down and gave some marriage advise to me when I visited him about my marriage preparations. He said to me, ''Marriage isn't a bed of roses. How much have I known this lady and willing to commit?'' He went further to say, ''A man can confidently feed a woman for years and even spend on her recklessly without any problem or anyone hearing their voices. But the day a woman spend at least maximum of one week in taking care of the home, the neighbors will hear that the man is jobless and irresponsible.''

      I think to a reasonable extent, he's right going by the comments I have read on this post. No one is asking some pertinent questions like what did he use the money for? Or who has been taking care of the home front. As usual, majority will always go with the RED PEN ABOVE.

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    2. TJ he’s not right
      That’s just something people say
      Do you know how many women feed their husbands
      Rest Abeg

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    3. If you like buy all the household and pay all the bills. Some women salary and their earnings is theirs 100%. Any day they buy anything out of it for the house or it enters your hand as husband, you must pay for it. Some are bad to the extent that they buy for themselves only and still insist the husband must pay. Others are are w1cked to the level that they added N50 to buy salt in cooking, they tell their husbands while he is at the table that's why the food is tasty.

      Did we not read the chronicle of that man in the USA whose wife has 4 properties home and abroad but collects children snacks money after paying for it and collected the money she used to organize a surprise birthday for her husband?

      TJ, very sound advice you were given. Only God knows what some husbands go through in their marriages.

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    4. Another good submission..

      Tho, I already made my comment before just from the write up, but you comment made me remember what my cobbler friend told me..

      His wife was sick, he wasn't boxed up on that particular day, she had some contribution money with her that she's holding until December, that's still some months ahead, he told her to borrow 10k from the money to get medications that he'll refund her the next week, she refused, asking him to look for who would loan him 10k to give her..

      Baba was shocked, he said he didn't talk to her for one week straight cos he was wondering how her mindset worked, like this money is for your own health and you're punishing yourself cos you want the money to come from him, that means if he's dying she can never borrow to save his life,..

      When I was praising my ex on sp, it's not cos she's perfect but for this naija, she's gold! Tho, most of the girls I roll with have common sense sha, I no dey waste time to throway person wey no wise, I protect my mental health like mad

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    5. 17:48
      A man will never know who his wife is until when any of his tyre burst in the marital journey. So, it is better to take 4 spares along with him on the marriage journey. One of the spares is the advice given by TJ's uncle.

      No man should marry a Naija woman expecting she would support financially without telling the world from their rooftop. If she helps only (then contribute equally, or move on to feed the man) without shouting it to the world, or bending the man's ears with words, then thanks to her and all glory to God.

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    6. Dante @18:28
      Gave madam money for medicines for our sick child. She came back without the complete prescribed drugs because the money was not enough. Her bank was opposite the health centre (across the street). She refused to walk in to withdraw from her account to buy the additional drugs. Baby was still unwell at night time when the drugs would have relieved her greatly if all were bought and given to her. If we separate today, madam will drag for custody of the child as "her child".

      However, not all mothers and wives are so.

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    7. As a woman, a mother & wife of many decades, it’s wicked to expect a man to pay 100% of ALL bills in the family. And vice versa. This is why some Naija marriages break up here. Greed. I tried to talk a lady out of divorce (for money, not DV) for hours on phone as they have many kids. She said “he paid her bride price & must house & take care of her” but she makes more than the man who also has a very good job but cannot do all they need. The breakup was messy!
      A successful marriage is load sharing, doing life together, in love. Why would a woman be making the same as a man & expect the man alone to take care of : 1.Health insurance premium 2. Mortgage or rent 3.Property taxes (some up to $15k/year of after tax income 4. Car maintenance for at least 2 cars 5. Car insurance/emission tests/Tags/etc 6. Food/grocery for the family 7. Clothing for the family including children, there are 4 seasons where I live with different types of clothing. 8.Homeowners insurance 9.Home maintenance, lawn care, cleaning service 10.Out of pocket health cost (different from monthly health insurance premium) 11. Incidentals for relatives in Nigeria 12. IRS or Uncle Sam unless you are low income & get refunds of taxes. 13. School fees. 14. Utilities like heat, garbage, electricity, water, gas etc That mindset won’t work here. I don’t know of others but 🇺🇸salaries may be higher for every profession but bills are also a lot here no matter how wealthy you are! Easy government $ from corruption in 🇳🇬 has seeped down & created unnecessary entitlement.

      The poster did not provide full disclosure. Even a fortune 100 executive making $mils will be stressed🤔. If he is taking care of all these & you are “lending” him money..I don’t get it. A wife is a helper, the crown of her husband (not the other way round, the Bible says a good wife is a crown of her man) May our sons & daughters not meet women or men that will run them ragged. The Bible says “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up… Eccle‬ ‭4‬:‭9‬-‭10‬, ‭
      Are there irresponsible, lazy or entitled men who do/pay for nothing while throwing their women out to suffer the vagaries of the brutal workforce? Yes. Are there selfish men who want their wives to own nothing while not having ALL assets in both names, yes! Are there men who cheat & spend on side chicks while ignoring their wives & kids, absolutely! Men whose sibling is next of kin who funnel all $ to their relatives deluding themselves that their wives are NOT their relatives, YES! This is not for you including the poster if you are married to those classes of men.
      If you aren’t married to such men, please change your mindset. I have decades of a very good imperfect marriage, sometimes I made more money, or we equalized BUT every asset is either in my name or both names, his decision. There is a reason most mortgages here are owned by husband & wife. We send kids of both genders to school not to turn the boys into slaves, marriage should never enslave. 🇺🇸Gen Zs & young Millennials do not think like this! In the late 80s/early 90s, jobs were hard to find in 🇳🇬 & men hustled after contracts or became traders in situations that would compromise women, that started this trend! It wasn’t like this as our moms helped with bills. It’s not global standard for a man to pick 100% of life bills! Marriage is give & take. I am a better cook so I do almost all cooking, faster, better doing laundry while he takes cars for servicing, maintenance, deals with yard maintenance folks. Many men cannot function under the model of (100% of bills is for men) in the West nor is it fair to be married to a well paid wife & spend ALL your income while she keeps all hers. To do what? Many young ladies forget they will be moms of adults of both genders someday. “The labor force participation rate for 🇺🇸women was 56.8 percent in 2022”! Women in the west work & contribute a lot!

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  23. I think this man is after you not getting the machine and you are not being smart with him, he wants to incapacitate you financially. He doesn't have your good in mind and the earlier you realise this, the better for you.
    He wants you to be at his mercy financially.

    Felicity

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    1. This may be true poster. Don't give him the money. When this phase passes, you can pretend as if you borrowed money from someone to buy a machine or better still, cry to him to buy a machine for you. Cry the way he cries when he wants to get money from you.

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  24. The correct term is DIRE need!
    I appreciate you knowing the difference between borrow vs lend. 👍

    As for advice, everything has already been said by others.

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  25. Integrity matters alot. He can afford to buy things in the home yet refuses to pay back even a little of the money given to him.
    Poster,if you are led by the spirit to give, pls do.God will surely bless your kind heart.

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  26. Even if he cry's blood, don't give him shishi, tell him you borrowed the money out to someone earlier and the person has not returned it yet, that, that is the reason still haven't bought the machine yet or tell him you already made down payment for the machine and the money is no longer in your poccession

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  27. He did it not once but more than once and no remorse. They say 'once beat, twice shine '. You were in need and he didn't care and still have mind to ask for more.That kind of relationship is quite draining. You know him better, whether to lend him or not.

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  28. He did it not once but more than once and no remorse. They say 'once beat, twice shine '. You were in need and he didn't care and still have mind to ask for more.That kind of relationship is quite draining. You know him better, whether to lend him or not.

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  29. He did it not once but more than once and no remorse. They say 'once beat, twice shine '. You were in need and he didn't care and still have mind to ask for more.That kind of relationship is quite draining. You know him better, whether to lend him or not.

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  30. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    It's the crying and begging for me..
    You married a manipulative, entitled drama 'queen'..

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    1. He got no shame and pride in him. Who cries before their woman begging for money as a man?

      I have said it here before and I'm saying it again today. Pride must be the last thing that leaves you as a man. Never lose your pride while you are alive. No matter what. Don't ask. Don't beg if the end will be humiliation and disgrace.

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    2. On point my Big OG..

      A Man should have Pride..
      A Woman should have Shame..

      When either lose these traits, it is finished!

      As a man, you shouldn't be with a shameless woman, as a woman, you shouldn't be with a man that lacks pride.. you'll regret it..

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  31. Sorry your husband is as manipulative as....
    Be a good wife and cry with him, even wail more than him to ba possible.

    BUT, DONT GIVE SHI SHI



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  32. First question is; What did he do with the first and second money you lent him? Did you visibly see what he did with those money and they warrant investing on? If yes, then I would say it's for the good of the family. It's not a bad idea supporting your husband financially in building the home as long as you have and you are very sure that he is doing those things in your name and his name together; except you have a more important goal to achieve with the money.

    Secondly, if he can't give any reasonable explanation of how he spent the money and you can't see them with your corocoro eyes, be ye assured that he spent them all on a side chick; either by sponsoring her education, paying of her rent, or as a contribution for her (side chick)mum/dad's burial.

    When they start taking money from you like that you have to watch them more closely. Don't give him any money again. Nobody should blackmail you with cries and fainting or being hospitalized. It's the pattern woman.

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    1. Solid comments.

      Poster appears to know what was done with the money. Hence she is not bothered about that.

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  33. Pls mama ,do not borrow him, do pity pity face😆 and say you sef need money Shikena

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  34. E be like once dem wan pepper you or shut you up... Na "nag" dem go call person! Hian! Nne whatever you do! Biko wemie ego gi ewemie! Oh... He hates insult but he likes to give insult! He should go outside and look for the money! Anyway, I know you'll still give him! Na wetin dey pain me be that! We no get mind!

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    1. YOU no get mind.
      My mind and heart na ROCK.

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  35. Poster don't lend him money, he is a user.
    Let your money remain in the bank till its complete.
    That husband will never pay back.
    Scum.

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  36. Please don't lend him any money and don't ever let him know that you have the money. Ladies never lend your husband money that you can not easily for go.

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  37. Are you sure your husband loves you? He's wicked and stingy. You have a good heart and he knows, that's why he's taking advantage of you. Please don't give him anything. Use your money and establish yourself.

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  38. Poster if I’m you I’ll get someone to borrow me the balance to buy my machine, when he asks again I’ll say I don’t have I just bought my sewing machine.

    Eezi

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  39. That your husband is a chronic "onigbese" you better hide your money well before he milk you dry. How did he even know that you have money saved somewhere?

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  40. Poster, if this man gives you the silent treatment for one year, doesn't sleep with you for that long and generally treats you like a stranger in the house, can you "comfortably" deal with it? If you have obi okwute like me, don't give him a brass farthing and lock up too.

    But if you know you are not "that person" and you value peace more than the money, just give him the money jeje so that he will not give you hbp. Since you cannot keep your mouth shut about your money plans, pay the price na.

    In my dictionary, "lend me some money and give me some money" are two different things. I could tell you to forget it when you return it as promised but to act entitled over something you cried for and even add name calling to the offence, hmmm...e don be o! You MUST hate me when I return the energy.

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  41. Friends, the institution of marriage is meant to bring about unification, meaning everything is supposed to be one, that is finance, assets etc.... The two had become one. So there is nothing like my money,, my car..... It is our money, our car etc.....

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    1. Lol. This your English no concern Nigerian women ooo

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  42. There is a strange dynamic to your financial live. Why not suggest he sells the household item that he bought in November that is not necessary to raise the money he needs now?

    A sewing machine is your tool of trade that can transform the long term finances of the household. I am not keen on you dipping into that money when you only need a bit more to get it.

    If you are going to dip into the sewing machine money your goal will be pushed back yet again. Unless, you can source a good secondhand machine that would cost less and you can give him the leftover amount. I used to see good cheap second had sewing machines, be sure you rest before you buy anything. BV Martins may be able to tell you where to go for that.

    Your husband needs to look for better paying work or get a side hustle to increase his income. It seems as though he is not making enough money to meet his needs or he does not manage the money he has well, which then means he needs financial counseling.

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    1. Test. Be sure to test the machine first*

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  43. Buy your sewing machine first, if change remains, buy the threads or whatever you need to start up your skills.
    If change still remains, then you can lend him the money.

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  44. Poster, pls go ahead and buy the sewing machine and upgrade your skills. Do not lend him the money.

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  45. Money should not be lent to wasters of any gender even in relationships of any kind. If the money owner feels so much obligated, the person should give what the person can give without pains.

    Money should not be lent to those who have the habit of borrowing without repaying.

    But would majority of the advice be the same if the Poster is the husband?

    Before we recite "any man who ...", Read the passage again. Then read Proverbs 31 fully well on what it says about a virtuous wife. The Bible is one complete book

    #goodtoflipthepost

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    1. That Proverbs 30 woman is not for the faint of heart. If you are ready to work from dust to dawn like a field hand without rest, not think about your own needs, put everyone else before you and constantly be on the go, then that is the description to emulate.

      It is funny that a man who did not commit himself to any one woman would want all of that from a woman as a show of virtue. The source is questionable. I could have handled it if Elijah or Samuel said it, but a philanderer...hmmmmmmm

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  46. Keep your money, please. He is not a man of his words, no vex. He will still not pay up and it can be an issue in your marriage. Let his other debtors pay him.

    I hate things like this. If you complain now, you'll be termed as a wife that is not supportive.Na wa!

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    1. Or ‘enemy of progress’ 😂😂😂😂😂

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  47. Your husband is wicked he doesn't want you to be financial independent that's why he wants to collect that money you want to use for machine.

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  48. Better buy key and lock that heart, he knows your mumu button he will plead and cry you ll give him , what about you upgrade yourself you need it most tell him that you don't have , he doesn't even get a good mouth imagine telling you that other pple are owing him too , madam you don try pls upgrade your skill and buy a new sewing machine

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  49. Tel him people are owing you and you don’t have money. Simple. He burnt that bridge.

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  50. You should know this man dosen't want your progress and financial freedom
    Be wise

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  51. Thank God you are not me.
    Because somebody go cry BLOOD tire.
    And I will patiently shift the mug close go his eyes to collect the tears for my tea.
    🙂

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