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ADVICE NEEDEDMy fellow Bvs, please advise me of the best option.
Please I am planning to either Japa to France with my family or I go alone while they join me later.
Walai! Nigeria don tire me.
Thank you all.
Please dont go with them... Go first and settle in and get somewhere for them to stay and then you can send for them.... I dont know about other places but you cant rent a house in Europe without papers.
If you go with them without proper planning and accommodation, the suffer would be too much oh...
It depends on your japa route.
ReplyDeleteIf it's a job sponsored visa i guess it should provide accommodation for you.
Anyway to be safe go first and they can join you later
Go first.
DeleteStella, most japa are not illegal...
DeleteYou didn't say if you were going via a job transfer, school, or want to use tourist visa. If you aren't fluent in French, have enough savings that will cover your bills for at least 1 year while you settle in.
DeleteIt can go either way to be honest. When you are applying for certain things if they see the children around you then they know that you are not lying. It is harder to move about if they are younger children. If you have no one you feel safe leaving your children with then take them with you. If you have a husband and you trust him then you can leave the children with him and go sort out everything then have them come up when things are sorted out.
ReplyDeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteStella has spoken from experience ooo
ReplyDeleteStells he didn’t say na illegal japa na
ReplyDeleteIf you’re going legally please carry them with you. But try to go when school is about to be in session. Give your kids a little rest and let them be able head to school quick
Then you and your spouse focus on your daily grind before they come home everyday
It's usually better to go first and make arrangements.
ReplyDeleteThings might not go as planned
Nothing dey France oo,
ReplyDeleteWhat doesn't work for A might work for B
DeleteBut their minimum wage better pass our own nah.
DeleteJapa to France ke? 🤣🤣🤣 the suffering no go be here. What happened to more immigrant friendly countries?
ReplyDeleteThey will call you a hater oo!
DeleteSome will even come under your comment, and mention how their mum's cousin's driver's nanny's boyfriend's pastor's father went abroad with just 20$, € or £ and are now living in a mansion worth millions, whilst driving all the luxury vehicles known to man!
The only thing you can do on this blog, when it pertains to immigration matters, is to just wish them luck! Most don't honestly want to hear the truth!
Poster,
ReplyDeleteThere are deeper questions you have to ask yourself. Weigh the pros and cons of this. For instance, is your marriage strong enough to go through a distant relationship setting? If you don't take your family with you, how long before you bring them over? And if you go with them, how about job, school, housing etc. Just weigh and decide. You know better than we do in this case.
If you have the means, go with your family.
ReplyDeleteGo with your family
DeleteLizzy baby
i think you should go alone first
ReplyDeleteIf you have the funds, I mean well loaded, you should leave with them.
ReplyDeleteBut if it the other way round, Pls go alone first, gain grounds, then send for them.
If you have enough money to Carter for your family, pls go with them.if not, go alone and settle,then your family can join you later.goodluck.
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DeleteEasier said than done, going alone sounds easy and better but trust me if you are not focused and determined to bring in your family, they may not come in 6 months time. Its better to go with them, let everybody weather the storm together and grow together your mind will be in one place.
ReplyDeletePoster am speaking from experience. Please go first. U don't wade into new waters with both feet. U step in with a feet. I japa 2 yrs ago, thru study route alone first leaving hubby and 2 boys with him back in Naija. Omo I see something. The journey is not for the faint hearted. I was schooling and working back to back trying to raise funds for my family to join me. It wasn't easy but thank God for God and for my supportive family. Their visa was approved months after and the next phase was for them to come. Poster, they couldn't come immediately because of accommodation. I looked for accommodation for almost 3 months. Most House owners were given stringent conditions that I couldn't met. Haaaa, I cried. After a while, God came through and I got a 2 bed flat. Now my family came. Poster please don't go with them. Go and clear the way first, survey the land, pray, earn reasonable then bring them in. That way, the children will settle in easily. No body for Europe, UK, Canada, US go open door for you in the winter cold to accommodate your family oh!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't blame them, they too are having challenges they are dealing with.
Peace and light ur way.
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DeleteCan you speak French cs they don't speak English in France
ReplyDeleteIf you can handle the expense please go with them but if not let them remain here.
ReplyDeleteOga go alone first ,Europe no be America or Canada,you don’t have working permit or papers,you go suffer your innocent family ooooo
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from experience. Nothing dey France my guy. Nothing day there.
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