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Please I need your honest opinion..I'm currently pregnant,not married and 28. The owner of the pregnancy wants us to take it out. I don't want to abort it cause I'm against abortion. But I'll be disappointing myself and a lot of people by keeping the pregnancy.
It's just one month old.
Cut him off if he insists and keep the baby. it will be hard in the begining but you will be glad you did when the smiles up at you and calls you Mummy/mama.
Please I need your honest opinion..I'm currently pregnant,not married and 28. The owner of the pregnancy wants us to take it out. I don't want to abort it cause I'm against abortion. But I'll be disappointing myself and a lot of people by keeping the pregnancy.
It's just one month old.
Cut him off if he insists and keep the baby. it will be hard in the begining but you will be glad you did when the smiles up at you and calls you Mummy/mama.
Next time, use protection to save yourself asking all this kind of question...when you wan pull pant you no ask us!
Keep the baby!
ReplyDeleteBrace up for Motherhood.
You insist on keeping it even when it is clear you are not ready for a baby. Soon, you'd not just be putting a burden on yourself but on him as well cause we all know that you expect him to show up and be "responsible" for a child he clearly didn't want.
DeleteIn a few years from now, you'd be calling him deadbeat even when he made it clear he didn't want to father this child, and celebrating yourself on "father's day" when this whole thing could have been avoided.
I hope you eventually have a heart to heart talk with your baby daddy and reach a mutual agreement.
I wish you a smooth pregnancy, and may your baby grow to bring you joy and peace.
Keep that baby,that might be your only child,you never no. My elder sis got pregnant, and baby dad said remove it. She wanted to,but we said no and supported her. She's 51 now,and that's her only child till date. Baby dad came back to acknowledge child,cos that's his only son and heir. He has all girls from his 2 house wives.
DeleteYou didn't call us that u wanna pinyo, and now this.
DeleteThe road no go easy o, unless u gat ur mola and sweet family to support u.
DONT CALL HIM A DEADBEAT DAD TOMORROW O. Carry your cross and move on.
Delete'You will be disappointing yourself'...lmaooooo. you gan gan are the disappointment.
DeleteYou were not 'disappointed' when you were nyanshing skin to skin?😁
Which one be keep the baby na Stella,na u wan help her raise am for inside that naija rough economy?poster to ba ku iwo nikan,ko tun ero ara e pa.
ReplyDeleteI saw this on FB, please keep the pregnancy because he/she might be the president God will use to transform Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteOracle of the most high
Do what’s best for you
ReplyDeleteWhy does he want it removed
You didn’t say
He’s probably someone’s husband
DeleteAnonymous18 July 2023 at 19:22 it’s like different girls don carry belle for your husband tire for you to assume he is married
DeleteYou have to think of yourself now. That guy if not married shouldn't ask you to abort.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby if you can afford to take care of him.
I’m all for very early stage abortion but that’s if it’s ur decision. Hope you know he may not be willing to support if you keep the pregnancy. Hope u are mentally, physically and financially ready for this?
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster,y did u have unprotected sex if ur against abortion? Wat did u think would happen afterwards?u have disappointed alot of people already with that singular act .haba.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster,y did u have unprotected sex if ur against abortion? Wat did u think would happen afterwards?u have disappointed alot of people already with that singular act .haba.
ReplyDeleteIf you decide to keep the baby without his consent, know that you're doing it on your own and he doesn't owe you shii.. if he decides to support, fine, if he doesn't, you should be fine with that too..✌️
ReplyDeleteFortunately or unfortunately the law doesn’t agree
DeleteIf she decides to keep the pregnancy, he’ll be liable for support
Men, use protection
Lol..
DeleteHope you know there is
1. In law (theory) ;and
2. In practice (practical)..
For this naija, you go carry belle and decide to keep it without Baba's consent, you'll know the difference between those 2 words outlined above, no worry
No Dante that’s for people that carry belle for guys with no money or women that don’t want to go to court
DeleteIt’s not like befor
Go to court if the man has money and you’ll get support
If he doesn’t have o well court will order 2k
Premarital sex is really on the rise. People don't have respect for life and their bodies again. Moral decadent has taken over this generation. God help us Amen
ReplyDeleteYou will understand how this generation is near saint in the next 20 years. Saw a girl's bio on that bird app and she wrote she's bi, loves sucking di*k and deep throat too. From her picture, she's not up to 24. I paused.
DeleteWhen you know you'll be disappointing yourself and a lot of people if you get pregnant out of wedlock, what stop you from abstaining or better still use protection? My dear, keep the pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteDon't abort please. You'll be fine in the end.
ReplyDeleteLol ,una think say e dey easy,28 years you no be small pikin again,use your head, everybody for here be forming holier than thou,shift joor,go do the needful,and start closing your legs like mermaid.
DeleteAnon, it's not about being holy or not. What I can't do, I won't advise another to do it. That's me. I guess you're speaking for yourself with what you wrote. Have you even thought about the guilt she might feel after the process? Dey play.
DeleteWhich yeye guilt?poster don't listen to them.
DeleteUpon all the advice we give here?
ReplyDeleteDid you feel he was impotent and when he sleeps with you raw nothing will happen? I don't understand.
You had sex
Went about your life like nothing happened and nature took it's course like it should and you are saying you dont know what to do.
I don't know why some of you keep having premarital sex when you gain nothing out of it. It is either you abuse postinor which have a negative effect or do unnecessary family planning despite being a single lady who has never given birth or done with child-bearing yet ( like one blog visitor) or abort. Is it so hard to close your legs?
I know some of these wicked men would run when you don't offer sex but it is better than the betrayal you feeling right now. You thought he was going to tell you to keep the baby? I dont know why most of you do not love yourself enough to put yourself first, you think if the negative effect of premarital sex was carried by men you think they would sleep with you all?
I find it hypocritical when a lady who can confidently have sex without thinking what people will say now starts thinking what people will say when she is pregnant. If you are bold enough to it have sex be bold to handle whatever comes with it.
Please keep your child. When you look back you will be very happy you did.
Avoid premarital sex please. There is no gain there.
Word.
DeleteYou realise pregnancy is not the only or worse outcome of premarital sex. And that woman can want sex too. Also that contraceptive is not only for the married. Your ignorance is too plenty, you need to pay someone to tell you the plenty things you need to know.
DeleteThe crux of the matter is pregnancy and abortion so I focused solely on those.
DeleteOh really?! Contraceptive is not only for the married but pregnancy is, right?
Else, can you explain why this sexually active unmarried lady who can use contraceptives like a married woman is ashamed to let people know she is pregnant, unlike a married woman would?
Anyone can want sex but Self-control is a thing(which will do women a lot of good if they apply since they alone bear the brunt of everything)I guess you have never heard of that before.
She is going to carry the pregnancy alone and if she decides to abort and anything goes wrong it is her cross to carry alone.
Why pay when the young darling, the all-knowing anon has already given me the 'assumed' lecture for free? If you think there is still more to learn, please don't stop.
Humour me.
🤣@17:45 & 19:09
DeleteWho write chronicle or question na?
Who body dey pepper na?
The man or the woman.
If the woman go to court, who people go first blame and disappointed at?
There are women who would sing hossana if they are in the questioner's shoes. But they are few.
Not all rights need to be exercised at all times.
Me no go plenty school o
🤣 😂
ReplyDeleteMadam Stella your comment on this dey make me laugh 😃 😀 sha
Poster na only you fit know wetin you wan do with this pregnancy.
I wish you all the best.
When there's sex, unprotected sex, two things are involved. Either the woman gets pregnant or gets infected with std or both. And the man, either he gets the woman pregnant or gets std or both. And here, you got pregnant.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby. You never would know if that might be the only one you will ever have in your life. Cases like this abound. No one knows. The rejection, shame, disgrace and dis comfort will come but you will be happy you did keep the baby in future.
But be prepared for everything making up your mind to keep the baby.
The things we dint know are plenty, this cannot be the only one. A whole life depends on her decision, only her can make it rightly
DeleteAnd your mind has not yet told you that the owner of the pregnancy does care about you? Like you are still dating him? Are you still communicating with him? Please cut him off your life completely. What if you die in the process? A man that advices you to abort does have an iota of love for you or is in a better relationship that you are not aware of.
ReplyDeleteLol..
DeleteHaba Slim..
That he isn't ready doesn't mean he doesn't love her nah.. one has to be mentally, and financially ready to embark on that journey, especially for a man
How are people against abortion but not against fornication? Well, it's your decision to make. Good luck
ReplyDeleteIt’s the poster I pity the most: At 28yrs she’s not smart at all… if she likes, she should listen to Stella and keep the baby. Smh
Deleteplease keep the pregnancy,you"re already close to 30.hold on to what you have now cos you don't know what the future holds for you
ReplyDeleteCan you give me the baby when you birth him/her? Been trusting for a baby. Almost 10yrs now.
ReplyDeleteThat baby may be the only one you may have. It's a small price to pay for your indiscretion.
For the Bobo to tell you to remove it, he is not ready for you.
Pls keep the baby. The baby had no choice in the decision you made to sleep with a man.
The Lord will surprise you soon. All will be well.
DeleteEhugs
DeleteLady T, God will give you a blessed child soon. Just trust him🙏
DeleteOh! This touched me. Poster, is there a way you can gift Lady T this beautiful gift. It's a whole human we're talking about, I know. But I have seen this kind of arrangement before. At least you'll know who your baby is with. Haa! wishful thinking...Lady T, God will bless you with good children, amen 👏
DeleteCynthia
DeleteA resounding and massive AMEN
Cynthia
DeleteA resounding and massive AMEN
Poster, do you have a job? 28 years is a full grown woman. Would you rather please men and displease God?
ReplyDeleteI will advise you keep the baby.The guy wants you to get rid of it.what if you lose your life or your womb gets damage during the act and later when you are ready for a baby, it's becomes difficult.
ReplyDeletePls where are your parents? especially your mom? Open up to her and be ready to face the consequences. But I assure you, you will not regret when you see the beautiful smile of your little angel tomorrow.
That one na nollywood
DeleteThere’s very little risk with aborting at one month pls
Poster I know it's difficult but to be at the safer side, keep your baby, don't abort.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, keep it if you want but that young man has been honest that he does not want a child. Bear this in mind, it takes two. He means it and may never want it. Ten years from now, will you be able to tell yourself it's okay when your child asks if he fell from the sky? Now, having experienced watching a child grow up without a father, I dare to say it may never be okay. You are about to make a decision that will not only bring another being but a selfish one. Let me tell you some of the struggles of kids from single-parent homes. They grow up sometimes feeling inadequate, have low self-esteem, damaged self-worth, they battle with demons no one can understand. Now, another one, I hope someday if probably no man wants to marry you as a single mom, you will stick to your conviction and always pick your child
ReplyDeleteThey made a selfish decision already when they decided to have unprotected sex. What were they thinking? The baby forming had nothing to do with it.
DeleteKeep it.
Take it out ! Single motherhood is a chore ! Talking from experience, don’t let the pro choice people tell you otherwise.
ReplyDeleteYou will be bitter and tired all the time especially if you don’t have the necessary resources
She don’t know!
DeleteMy bestie is a single mom who went against the advice of her ex and had the baby… her story is the reason I made sure I got married before having kids, and even in marriage I prepare and save for uncertainty. Single motherhood is not for the weak, I tell you. Even the toughest of women break down at some point… I will NEVER advise anyone to tow that path.
Do not go and get married only to make your child the responsibility of your immediate family members like your old mom and your sisters. Do not go and build a new family and abandon that kid without the love, care and presence of you in the house then you claim you are loving him from afar by sending money. Do you know how much damage you will be causing. I do not think you know. When your child can only visit for a few hours and leave like a stranger.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I am trying to holdup a mirror so you can see. I'm sure you grew up in a 2 parent home? Think about this decision and dot all your i's and cross your t's because this journey you are embarking on is long and challenging. Just do right by that child if you decide to keep it.
I have not said half cos I'm tired later
Pray for forgiveness and keep the baby whether he wants it or not. It might be difficult at the early stages, but trust me, like Stella said, you will be glad you did at the end. If you decide to abort it, the consequences will be there both spiritually and physically. You might not survive it or be able to have a child in the future.
ReplyDeleteIf abortion is not something your conscience can handle then don’t make it an option. I am 100% pro-choice and always will be. But belief systems are a huge part of a human’s life. It is never good to go against one’s belief system unless you have already done the change work involved with that.
ReplyDeleteIf the father does not want to have anything to do with the child that is fine. Love conquers all and if your parents and family love you they will support you. A newborn adds to the wealth of a family, not money wealth, but spiritual and emotional wealth. Your are not a criminal, getting pregnant even unmarried is nothing reprehensible. You have not committed some ghastly act that means you should walk in shame and disgrace for the rest of your years. It’s only a baby, life, humanity. Have your child and set your conscience free.
May you not look for children in the future. Those that never aborted and are legally married are still fasting and praying for children. This life hmmmn!
ReplyDeletePlease are you financially and mentally stable to take care of a child?Your partner does not want the child so let it known that keeping the child is a unilateral decision which comes with consequences.Don't go about shouting 'deadbeat' dad when the poor guy decides to ignore you and the 'unwanted' child.Use your tongue to count your teeth before it gets too late.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby. Inform his family members so they know that they have a seed outside. Let them handle it. Don't abort oh. See, Abortion is 50/50. It could scar you for life. Even if it is successful, your belief system will condemn you. Look for an experienced good adult to advice you without condemnation.
ReplyDeleteDON'T ABORT OH.
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ReplyDeleteKeep that baby
ReplyDeleteThat I what you get in a society that side fraud and applause crime , immorality is the order of the day pls face your matter we were not there when you remove your pant and if you keep the baby knows that you will train and fed him for 21 yrs and know that none here will help you with anything needed by the child but next time use your sense sin is sin some has immediate results some the result is later
ReplyDeleteALL OF YOU TELLING HER NOT TO ABORT ON FACE VALUE, ALL OF YOU ARE NOT WELL I SWEAR. ITS A WHOLE HUMAN BEING SHE WILL BE BRINGING INTO THIS WORLD REMEMBER, NO WONDER PEOPLE ARE SO MEDIOCRE THESE DAYS, TOO MANY UNPLANNED GOT CHILDREN.
ReplyDeleteIt is you who is not well. Didirin oshi. Must you abuse others for having a different opinion from you?
DeleteIf abortion is your lifestyle, that's on you.
Others think differently, and that's on them.
Capslockdunce.
And if she aborts and it torments her for the rest of her life, what then? Her mental health and peace of mind are important. If she aborts and loses the ability to conceive again, then what? Only she can decide what her mind can take, and what level of guilt she is able to live with. Abortion as someone above wrote is 50/50, 50% of the women who do it are happy with their decision and 50% live in regret for the rest of their lives.
DeleteYou are the one who is not well 01:12. Very uncouth and crass being. Must people reason like you?
DeleteYou lot will just be giving advice anyhow. No fear of God.
I hope you know you will be judge at judgement day for every single word you utter. You may not be the one to help her abort but you will share in her guilt for urging to abort except you repent and ask for forgiveness only then you will be forgiven.
People are so mediocre because of too many unplanned children, you say? or because of no self-control and always giving in to their lustful urges? Look at how you are dancing around the main issue.
I am sure there is another single lady reading this right now who will still go to her boyfriend house to go and fornicate and before this year ends will still come her to write chronicle. Most of you dont take your lives seriously nor do you respect God except when you want something from him.
Users everywhere.
Close your legs and have peace of mind, no pregnancy scare, no fear of diseases, no shame guilt and pain, upright standing with God and clear conscience but no, you will not listen and some of you would rather give all that up for five minutes enjoyment then cry wolf later and be disturbing other people looking for advice when the die is cast.
Even if she aborts you think she is like some people that won't feel guilt and cry everyday because they are no longer sensitive to the holy-spirit? What if the holy-spirit convicts her and she feels guilt and remorse afterwards?
Even you insulting people ask yourself, what do you think God would want her to do in this situation?
Does the poster even sound to you like someone that is mentally strong to handle the after-effects of whatever outcomes she encounters? I remember the day a lady came here on SDK blog crying that she feels guilt due to abortion. We kept pacifying her, preaching to her to forgive herself.
The world is stressful enough already but some of you would be adding unnecessary stress to your life due to lack of self-control. People will take their time to advice you despite you ignoring their first advice not to fornicate but you will still come back to insult yourselves thinking you are insulting them. Very rebellious and pig-headed nation.