PREGNANT FOR A MARRIED MAN
Hi Stella and BVs, I have been too confused to send this mail but I just need to put my story here.
I just found out I'm pregnant and it's for my married ex.
My long term relationship ended in December last year and I almost died. Like, I was legit placed on antidepressants and the suicide clinic was running constant checks on me, since i didn't have friends.
I was so sad I prayed for death.
Then I met a "friend". Didn't even know he was married because he didn't wear a ring and didn't give the vibe of a married man. So we became friends and that's when I made my research to find out he was married with 2 kids. I was a bit upset but just thought no problems since we were just friends.
Then he started to ask me out and I resisted him for a bit but just needed to really get over my ex so i leaned on him and that's how it started. It lasted barely 3 months but this guy tormented me.
He was proud, rude, stingy, and treated me like trash. I almost died from the heartache. It felt like the pain I felt from my last relationship was compounded and I thought something must be wrong with me.
We were always on and off until I finally decided I had had enough and stopped talking to him. He tried to reach out to apologize a few times, but I ignored him and even blocked him in June. Then I started having cramps and went to the clinic to figure out what the problem was and that was when I was told I was pregnant.
I almost passed out. I told the doctor it was impossible and they ran the test again and sent me for a scan and it was confirmed.
Now, I am almost 35, no child. I have a very good job and we live in the abroad. One of the reasons I went to see the doctor that day after the cramps I was having, was to ask the doctor how I could go about freezing my eggs, only to be told one had been fertilized. I legit prayed for this. To get pregnant, so I could have someone to pour my love on and expend my energy on building. I even held my belle last week and wondered what it will feel like to get pregnant and have a child and prayed God sent someone I could have a child with.
I didn't even realize I was already pregnant. I am so so so confused. I have been crying and don't know what to do. I haven't mentioned it to a soul except my pastor friend that said not to touch the pregnancy. I told the guy and he initially said he was okay with whatever I wanted to do, but when he came to see me he said I should have an abortion to avoid complicating lives.
He said he can't live with the guilt of his wife not knowing he has a child outside, but can't tell her either as it would kill her. So i told him not to worry about me and the pregnancy, that we would be fine and his name won't even be on the birth certificate so he won't even be recognized as the parent. He said he didn't want me to call him if I ran into trouble in the future with the child and I told him to not come claiming the child WHEN he/she becomes great in the future either and he promised not to.
I'm just 5 weeks pregnant but don't know what to do. The doctor said it was perfect timing to have a baby and anything later than this, it could be dangerous as per Age. But he also showed me details on abortion clinics since it's free. What do I do please?
I've never been confused in my life. Yes, it was a mistake and I realized myself a little too late and blocked him, and moved back to God. I had gone back to building my life all over again, praying and fasting, and getting back my peace and then this.
As for my family, I will tell them I got a sperm donor so they don't have to bug me. I promised the guy I won't mention him as the father to a soul and I intend to keep that promise.
Please advise. Single mothers, how do you cope? What's it been like? Should I even be a single mother?
*You live in a Country where you or your child wiill not suffer and if you birth the child and dont want, adoption agencies will gladly take him or her and give the child a good home..Please do not abort that child for any reason whatsoever as it may be the only pregnancy you ever have..
Anytime stories like this are posted i know how many TTC woman contacting begging that they will adopt the kids and even pay millions... Please dont mind what anyone here will say, look beyond your mistake and carry your child to term....Goodluck
Dont listen to any baby mama cos their stories are always pitiful and they will discourage you.
Even your soul is aware you won't abort that child, face your life and be happy with yourself, safe delivery in advance
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Longest time, Larry. Regards to your son
DeleteYou do not have a chronicle. You don't need no one to tell you to keep the child. In the birth certificate, place of father's name,use your dad or leave it blank. When your child is old,explain everything to him/her.
Delete"I made my research to find out he was married with 2 kids. I was a bit upset but just thought no problems since we were just friends..."
DeleteThis is where you should have backed out after that research before sleeping with him.
I thank God for giving you the discerning spirit to know that he's married but sleeping with him its not from GOD, hope you know that. #NotJudgingYou
I guess you won't betray the man's trust by revealing everything to your child in the future, so easy to say o. And make sure you don't scatter that man's marriage or kill the wife via revealing the truth. Stick to your promise, and I wish you a smooth journey.
Start making friends to help you out o, 3rd/last trimester is not easy as per sleeping alone during that period.
Mao Akuh
Don’t abort this child. There is nothing more to say
ReplyDeleteZendaya
Nawa oo
DeleteSo like this now you carry belle for person husband? That man knowing you have his child will turn you into his perpetual side chick
Fan Emmanuel
Fan Emmanuel, he won't if she keeps the promise of keeping him away from the child, she's in a country where things work and she's financially capable. All she needs to do if come up with the most reasonable way to explain things to the child when he/she is grown.
DeleteIt's true oh Fan. You know how selfish some men can be.
DeletePoster please in all you don't be carried away. When you repent don't allow yourself to go back to that man for sex with the believe that he has seen it all because if you do hmmm... Then I will say no need calling yourself a bornagain. By then even God will tag you among the pretentious christians. The only person you will end up deceiving is yourself not God nor man. Don't allow conji to make you make further mistake. You are not the only side chick in his life. He knew he was married yet he came to you. What if he carries a deadly disease from outside to come and infest you ? By then that will be consequence number2 and this one may worse than your present condition. Just be still and align properly with God and He may miraculously bring a man that will gladly marry you and take custody of your child.
Symbol Adeoye was a baby mama two times but God in His mercies gave her a Good man in the end.
Sumbo Adeoye*** what a typo
DeleteThat man might still visit her after birthing the child, knowing that she won't spill but its up to her to allow him or not.
Delete@All, anytime you discover that your boyfriend is married, forget the sweet mouth walk out unless you have ulterior motive. We should not be glorifying bad behaviour/sin.
Mao Akuh
For the sake of being back to God, comfortably take care of yourself and an extra please don't abort the baby.
ReplyDeleteKeep the pregnancy dear sister.
ReplyDeleteTake care of your baby, after birth.
Live your life to the fullest. May God see you through.
Poster the mistake has been made. Even though the circumstance around your pregnancy is questionable, but on the flip side, something beautiful came out of it. Keep the baby please. In life, we have to learn how to live with the consequences. This baby is a lease to live and surround yourself with love, kindness. Your baby is a blessing to your life, don't trade for anything in this world.
ReplyDeleteJust breathe easy; I understand that you are trying to get on your feet and leave behind what happened last year. The good thing is some amazing things can happen out of terrible mistakes that we make.
Congratulations, learn to love your baby and you...Ehugs. You will raise your child with the help of God and lean on him to help you. You can bond with other mothers when you are attending ante natal clinics. You will be fine. God bless you
Firstly you should have protected yourself since you knew you were dealing with a married man,you were actually selfish because you were going through hurt.
ReplyDeleteI will advice you keep your baby,since you are doing well and in a more friendly society to single mothers.
Although it's not easy doing everything all by yourself,some days you will wish for the child's father to be present.
Please love that child and train him/her in the way of the Lord.Whenever you feel frustrated please don't pour it on your child and quickly inform your family because you need their love and support at this time.
Safe delivery.
Poster please keep the child and be happy. You wanted it and you got it. Pour your love on the baby and enjoy jare.
ReplyDeleteMy only worry for you now is when pregnancy hormones starts. You need a friend or two through this journey or a strong support system. Your mental health o.. The relationships you had didn't help and now those hormones shouldn't come now and make things worse. Join a group in your place of worship. May God be with you all through till full term and your baby comes. Amen.
poster keep that baby, do not touch that child cos what you prayed for has come to pass. I know you wanted to be called MRS before you have a child but since it came in another way please accept your gift from God.
ReplyDeleteA child is a gift from God, whether you slept with your husband or your married friend. Do not allow what anyone will say here to discourage you from keeping this baby. The stress is only from now till nine months. Once the baby pop out you will see the joy and how happy you will be for life. Remember age is not on your side, Relocate to another city and block that your married friend to face front. Do not contact him and make sure you both write an agreement so that he will not come back in the future.
Congratulations to you and safe delivery.
At 34 age is not on her side how? My in-law that’s 42 just gave birth to her 5th child, after 7 years,and she told me she never planned for it.
DeleteThis poster knowingly got pregnant for a married man and you believe it will be easy for her? It would have been more better if she had this child for her ex boyfriend, at least they can co parent. Even if he’s not interested, when the child starts asking questions, she can easily show him/her the father. Who’s she going to tell she got pregnant for a married man? Her friends?? Which family member?? Oh she decided to get a sperm donor at 34?? Ha, poster May God help you.
Dear anonymous 17:48, I hope you realise say body dey different. For some it gets difficult from that age. My friends cousin almost died carrying her pregnancy at 37, giving birth to that baby was war. Not because of sny spiritual issue, rather age factor. But God came through for her, and it was her 2nd after 8yrs of trying for it.
DeletePoster you is a wicked woman.. Aunty adugbo of all men you got pregnant for a married man..why did you choose to date a married man in the first place? May God forgive you and pray that your future hubby does not impregnate a woman while married to him..pray ooooo
DeleteThe poster willingly got pregnant for that man. And I can also state categorically that she also threw herself on that man. Is it not this same abroad that me and hubby had issues and a whole medical doctor was begging him to father her child. I wanted a divorce and my hubby too was talking to various ladies. This one did not mind at all that the guy was looking for rebound despite the fact he kept in telling her he wanted to keep his marriage. Babe was begging to get banged. I saw messages after we reconciled. We reconciled after 1 year. And I just kept on wondering how I would have left a good man for vultures. Madam poster keep the baby and do what you like. Don't look for pity pls. Abroad single ladies are so desperate. Not everyone oh but most of them simply don't care.
DeleteOge even a 22yrs old can have complications during child birth, not because she was 37. Child birth is a mystery that only God knows. That’s why a woman can give birth to her first child through CS and give birth to another through V. Stop capping
DeleteAnon 21:42. You and your husband are idiots for you to generalize abroad ladies.
DeletePlease whatever you do, don't touch that baby!
ReplyDeleteStop being confused and be happy. Since he's out of picture, it's all your gain, even though I know he will surface out of nowhere to be a part of the child in the future.
The good news is that you live in a sane country, so you go dey okay.🤗😍😎
Please I go with Stella advice. It shouldn't have been a married man but shit happens. Just keep the baby
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster. Pls, keep the baby and nurture him/her well. You might even get married after having the kid. Who knows?
ReplyDeleteDear poster
ReplyDeleteI wont judge you for what has happened, God may have allowed it, cause of your desperation and weakness of mind, and children are truly blessings from God.
But if truly you want to bring God along in your decision to continue this pregnancy to full term, then dont you think you should do the right thing before God?
Why continue to cover your sins, when the scripture says that He who covers wrong doing will not prosper?
1) Do you think it will be fair to the child if that child does not know who its father is? Even if the father chooses not to engage with the child, you, not telling the child at an early stage is very cruel
2) If truly you are repentant, I pray God will give you the grace and wisdom to do the right thing before God and come clean to the married man's wife, whose marriage bed you contributed in defiling.
Yes, the husband is more at fault, but when you learned he was married and went ahead to sleep with him, you became complicit in his wickedness to his wife and his sin against God.
The goodness God has shown you in giving you this pregnancy, I pray will convict you to be a person of integrity and to do the right thing
God help you
But the father doesn't want to be identified with the child and it's going to be more traumatic for the child to know whom his father is but can't access him. The father has made it clear to her that he doesn't want anything will cause problems between him and his immediate family
DeletePlease keep the baby.Aborting is not only a sin but could also damage your reproductive organs,making getting pregnant in the future difficult.what if that's the only child you will ever have?
ReplyDeleteEmpower yourself and hope for the best.
Poster keep the baby you will be so happy you did. There will be difficult times, don’t mind stella saying single mothers have pitiful stories, doing it alone is not easy. First while pregnant you will need a little support not just financially but emotionally, physically and otherwise. If you have a good friend or family it’s important, also after birth you will need support and until that child is in he/her teens. Otherwise it’s daycare, school runs, healthcare etc. Forget it’s not easy but all in all God is your strength. Congratulations
ReplyDeleteI would say get an abortion
ReplyDeleteHeal then freeze your eggs and find your own man
I am with you on this, but this poster sounds like she already has her mind made up. Looks to me like she deliberately got pregnant for this man, just to have a child of her own. No pregnancy is a mistake
DeleteI have two single mothers in my life, and I will never advise anyone to tow that path…
Which one is no pregnancy is a mistake again. Oh, you deliberately got them pregnant?
DeleteThank you! I can't believe people are actually advising her to keep a married man's child
DeleteThe poster obviously got pregnant on purpose.
DeleteAs in kidjo na wa for na waya, when grown ups like this do this I wonder what they will advice teenagers, ex left you you went to be in a toxic rshp with a man that doesn't respect you , bikonu how una dey get mind carry pikin for somebody that have a kind of bad traits ok oo
DeleteKeep the baby poster,when having an unprotected sex,I dont know what you expect? Pregnancy is the least of what to expect.🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeletePoster you have nothing to worry about. You are lucky you are not in Naija where people that know you from home with badmouth you. They say abroad is a place where everybody minds their business and that will be very good for your situation because you don't get to worry about what people will say.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to financial capability, you are very capable so brace up. Don't stress your mental health because of situations of life because these bad situations won't last forever. You don't know what plans God has for you through that Child. Abortion shouldn't be an option here Ok?
People still mind your business abroad unless you take yourself out of those groups which can be lonely
DeleteEven then they’ll still talk but you won’t hear
She no get office? She no dey go church?? Dey play. Make she sha comot her mind from gossip cos they must gossip her.
DeleteThat’s how I was thinking that once I leave Enugu, no more gossip and neighbor gossip. I came to this town and realized they gossip more than me that was raised in the village. Educated people gossip pass!
My little niece that comes from Enugu to visit me here, these people have concluded she’s a child I had out of wedlock. Someone asked me in church what about my first daughter, has she traveled back. I told her she’s my niece that comes for holidays,only for another person behind to tell me Arrh , that she thought the girl is my child that lives with my mum or my people because she looks like me😳 the first woman said she too oo, that she thought I had her before I got married, I just open mouth. These women that I’m not even close to don gossip me tire. People gossip everywhere! Abi some of our amibo blog visitors no be abroadians?
Fan Emmanuel
😅 Fan the way people spread rumor on what they don't have first hand info about eh.
DeleteNa wao for those your church members o.
DeleteFan my own, they say na me born our last born
DeleteI don explain tire
I no dey explain again
I don accept na me born am
Since you're old enough and seemed financially capable..just do you.
ReplyDeleteSafe delivery in advance.
ReplyDeleteLove your baby or yourself, this is not the time to blame yourself,just zero your mind and carry your pregnancy with joy and smile..
May God see you through..
Congratulations in advance. Nothing more
ReplyDelete"...so i LEANED on him..." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteWomen!
They'll use every and any word but the real actual word to look innocent and not be accountable..
Aunty use the right words..
"So I agreed to date him"
"So I banged him" etc etc
You bang person husband come dey tell us say you lean on am😂😂😂
When leaning begin dey cos belle? 😂😂
Una even dey bang raw like sex starved horny goats 😂😂.. I'm not judging you oh.. I'm just asking you to say it as it is.. You are a baddie.. you knew what you were doing, you wanted a child, you're only confused now on what the future holds now that you've gotten what you wanted
Let her use her own words na
DeleteNot everyday fight
I’m still searching for where she wasn’t accountable in this chronicle. She took full responsibility and explained the circumstances leading up to her mistake. She even exonerated the man and hasn’t blamed him for anything. It isn’t her fault your vocabulary is lacking and you would prefer vulgarity.
DeleteHi Dante. I am the poster. Honestly, I'm not offended one tiny bit by your words and I take all the blame and shame that comes with this. I truly didn't know he was married. His family lives in another country and a lot of people from work, church didn't know him to be married. Never wore a ring, practically lived like a 37 year old bachelor.
DeleteDante😂 this your first line cracked me up
DeletePoster 18:16 but when you found out you stil continued
DeleteExactly what I'm saying how can an adult that left a messy heartbreak not ask a new lover are you single, divorced, or a single father , yes you were in a bad place but that does not exonerate the fact that as an adult who is her mid thirties dis this mistake, pregnant for a married man , foee me you shouldn't have told him you would ve zipped your mouth and continue with your life.
DeleteYou see that man a time I'll come when he cannot leave his child alone, not minding if he has hundred with the wife I pray it favor s you , it would ve been better if this guy is a single guy.how una dey get mind do una fellow woman strong thing amazes me
23:13 the guy lied about his status
DeleteNo one in the church knew
This seems deliberate and she probably will still put the man’s name on the BC & go after him later for child support. The man is a fool & a cheat to leave his wife @ home & be chasing skirts!
DeleteI was telling a friend the other day that ALL the couples I know that went to “HTX” from Naija ended up divorcing & are either single or on the nth marriage. These are folks from 45 to 60yrs +! I wondered what was in the water in Hx but it’s women like these looking to just have a baby with married men with no self control. They will say “they don’t mind” the care alone but turn around after a couple of years to sue him.
That man better tell his wife because this poster is going to turn around & sue for backlog of child support. It’s not always about you making your own money, daycare, after school care can run you over$2k/month of after tax income coupled with your regular bills. You don’t really have a life until kids grow up with no relatives here. Good luck with the pregnancy you set him up for. I always say raw sex is NOT =pregnancy. Women will use plan b, postinor etc up to 72 hours after sex if it’s a guy whose child they don’t want. ✌🏾
Please don’t take it out. I wish I was in your shoes. I would keep the baby and leave my life. Ignore the noise. People in the society will take on the role of God and judge but God himself will forgive you and keep you. Remember also that sometimes good things come from the birth of a new baby. Please also ignore that man. Stay far away from him.
ReplyDeleteIt’s not all about society
DeleteThis is not the path she chose for herself
16:44 what part did she choose for herself. Is it to represent Christ. If that's the part you mean then don't mind the abortion because if she makes peace with God God will see through her heart and turn all the shame into something more beautiful. She will even provoke God the more if she aborts because she is a Christian/bornagain. God may not deal with other people who abort but a dedicated christian will definitely receive some discipline/punishment. It's not everything consequence of our action that can be concealed.
DeleteIf it's career part you are talking about then don't worry, having a baby can't stop her from attaining greater heights. After all she has achieved something very reasonable career-wise.
17:55 that statement wasn’t that complicated
DeleteShe didn’t plan from the beginning to be pregnant for a married
And when you found out you stayed put. Thinking something will come out of it? If he was very nice to you, will you be here claiming born again? Ajuju na ese okwu!
DeleteFan Emmanuel
Single women being 'friends' with any man is always a risk. See where your 'friendship' took you. It didn't help you to find the cure for cancer, start a business, improve yourself in any material way or made you meet the love of your life. This your 'friendship' did not take you to the next level of life spiritually, emotionally, financially. Now you writing chronicles because you in a jam, found yourself on a road you never thought you would ever travel down. I bet in all your years you never thought your pregnancy would be for a married man. You probably saw yourself as a beacon of morality and uprightness, but here you are. All because you thought men and women could be, just friends. Good luck to you and the unborn.
ReplyDeleteMarried women being friends with any man is always a reward then, by implication of your really shallow statement.
DeleteRaw truth
DeleteKeep the child and don’t harm him or her. I wish I know where you are. If it is in south jersey . I can be a friend. A friend of mine not married had ivf and delivered twins. She is doing fine.
ReplyDeleteWho are you impressing saying you are a christian?if you are really a christian are you suppose to even have sex ?anyway choose your choice it is your problem but don't go from sin to sin you might not come out of it
ReplyDeleteWe know she's not supposed to have sex before marriage, but nne...... Calm down 😩😩😩
DeleteShe said she derailed. It's stated there. People derail and still realize themselves and come back to God. The bad part of it is when you are swimming in the ocean of sin and still trying to lure people into the act or you don't put any effort in fighting the temptation or you try to twist the word of God in a way that you will be able to make babies-in-the-christendom believe that it is normal to fornicate just because you want to go down with them etc. In this case the poster was fully aware that she derailed but she was just too weak in the flesh to be able to resist temptation and now she has to bear the consequences of dancing to the tune of the devil. But still God that searches the heart of men knows how much she is sorry for her wrong. Since she sincerely wants to serve God fatefully then it's fine by God.
DeleteGoke have you tried to stay celibate ever in your life? Like; have you ever tried serving God genuinely?
17:07 did you say Nne? he is a guy oo
DeleteAnd people having premarital sex always gets him upset😅
Goke be calming down
DeletePoster, keep the baby. But stop making promises of not revealing the father. Though you may not disclose his identity now, but it might become necessary in the nearest future.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby, keep the baby, nobody is thinking of when the baby would no longer be a baby. What do u intend to tell the child? Cos they would dfntly ask of their dad at some point.
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn’t be asking what baby mamas’ think, you should be asking the kids from a single parent home think and feel while growing up. Single mother, i mean baby mama not those who lost their dad at childhood, do ur research.
What will In Edo's daughter ask her. What will other kids adopted by single parents ask
Delete"He said he can't live with the guilt of his wife not knowing he has a child outside, but can't tell her either as it would kill her."
ReplyDeleteBut he can live with the 'guilt' of fcking around outside his marriage. Perpetual empty headed lowlife nigerian man. Suegbe.
Whatever decision you make is on you. After all, you didn't ask for advice when flinging legs open in 3 months.
People!!!! Listen up!!!! When you fcuk, the likely output is CHILD or CHILDREN!!! I know right, isn't that astonishing??? Not mac n cheese. Not plasma TV. Not bicycle. CHILD OR CHILDREN.
He is thinking of how bad his wife would feel? or how his fake clean image will be exposed? No fear of diseases too. Poster before you slept with him did you both do Tests to figure out if he is free from Stis? You are both Nigerians did you know his genotype?
DeleteHe pretends to free his wife but not God. People don't fear God anymore.
Please go ahead and have your baby. You will be fine on your own. I am speaking from experience as a single mother. Putting his name on the birth certificate will even complicate matters for you as you will require the father's signature to apply for the baby's passport, renewal etc. You dont want to go through that battle with someone who prefers you to abort. You also don't have to lie to your family about the child's paternity because of the future or if you are not there. So the child will know his roots but the father's does not have to be q fixture in his life . You will be fine my dear
ReplyDeleteOne of the good things that come out of bad situation. Keep the baby and don't bother about the future now. Everything will fall in place.
ReplyDeletePoster, don't play into your conscience trying to guity trip you. Sometimes thing good things happens the wrong way, and it does not mean that we should condemn it. So nurture your pregnancy to full term and welcome your child with pride and joy.
ReplyDeleteOne lie you mustn't indulge yourself in, to take the father's promise hook, line and sinker. If he doesn't come looking, the child would eventually. There will always a bond of guilt that will necessitate that, its natural.
But until then, you have to decide the kind of boundary you can truthfully uphold. To not turn you perpetually into his playground.
Enjoy your pregnancy, motherhood is a joy to behold.
Poster I am a single mother and my life truly began the day my child was born. The beginning will be hard but trust me it gets better. You will find yourself rushing home just to be with your baby.
ReplyDeleteYour career and finances will grow because your brain will then be focused on giving your child the best future and not on depressive thoughts of not been married, time is ticking for children.
Honestly it is everything. You will wonder why you didn't do it sooner because it is such a wonderful experience.
Have your child.
1 million likes for this comment. Poster listen to this comment.
DeleteThis poster knows exactly what she is doing, from getting pregnant and staying pregnant, some of you come here to either test us or gaslight us. Your conviction about your condition is visible beyond your feigned ignorance here biko. Weldone for planning effectively to get pregnant by a married man and congratulations on your babymama ship, we move.
ReplyDeleteI smelt the rat too o
Delete" I haven't mentioned it to a soul except my pastor friend that said not to touch the pregnancy. I told the guy and he initially said he was okay with whatever I wanted to do, but when he came to see me he said I should have an abortion to avoid complicating lives"
ReplyDeleteMadam go and sit down. You got pregnant for a married man and you are here pretending like you didn't plan all of these.. why didn't you sleep with a single man, why a married man? You thought he would leave his wife for you...you are both shameless
DeleteYou have not mentioned it to a soul, but you have told your pastor friend, oh and you have told the guy too, abit these ones dont count as souls?
ReplyDeletePlease don't abort this baby. I took that decision few years ago when I was pregnant with my girl, and today it's the best decision I took in my life. Please you'll be forever grateful you kept the baby
ReplyDeleteWas it for a married man?
DeleteYou are calling an act you opened your eyes and legs to do a mistake... you made it seem do cool and normal to be commiting sin and after you got pregnant, it became a mistake.... you now told a pastor friend to help you beg God abi? Zeeworld drama...
ReplyDeleteAll of you egging this mean poster on, my prayer is that your husbands will have illegitimate children scattered everywhere, let's see how that breaks y'all. So much for women supporting women. Too sad!
ReplyDelete@Shooter Gyal the deed has been done. Let her have the baby and later sue the man for child support.
DeleteAmen!!!
DeletePoster, what gives the most peace in all of the options you have? Go with that which gives you the most peace about this. That would be my advice to you.
ReplyDeleteIf your decision happens to be keeping the baby, and you do not want the father involved, then be sure to move away from where he is so that you can bring the child up the way you intend to. Having the father around would surely complicate things, unless he is ready to let his wife know. In the abroad, he can wake up tomorrow and decide to lay claims on that child ( I mean in a way to prove that he is the father). And there is nothing you can do about it. This path requires some serious thought. When I was reading your story, I was wishing you would not tell the guy. It would have been much easier for you.
All the best.
Before nko once a baby is involved so you want us to tell you to abort,if you want to you would ve done it without seeking our opinion,
ReplyDeleteHow can an adult have sex without condom and not take 72 hrs prevention, the fact that the pregnancy is for a married man shld ve promoted you to do the needful a child is involved with a man that has a family and a wife if na you be the wife how you go feel. The child will grow up and ask about his father it's left for you to package how e go be .
Exactly
DeleteMao Akuh
Congratulations dear,God answered your prayers, you made mistakes telling him of the baby in the 1st place, pls make him sign an agreement never to show his face forever in your babies life, God answered your prayers, safe delivery, for people that want to blame you for sleeping with a married man, she got no vow to keep ,the earlier women start holding men responsible for their actions men will start behaving better, the man violates his vow and you all are here blaming a woman that got no vow to keep, may God deliver you all from sprit of low self esteem
ReplyDeleteQuick question single mother here (sounds like we have the same history ) - are you going to be okay if the child has a medical condition e.g autism? How are you going to manage the question where is my dad? Are you going to be okay without a relation 10 years from now? I mean it’s possible to have the baby and meet someone to marry you but are you going to be okay if you don’t and not blame the baby. You feel extremely grateful and happy now. Carrying the baby is the easiest of it all. Real life happens 2 days after leaving the hospital
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