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A couple of years back, I met this guy in my vicinity, who was after me,calling .I stopped to respond to him only for him to start"toasting me" . I told him "ohaa" that he's not my type oh. Tall and fine but with bad breath and full body odour. He left and afterwards,a neighbor called me and asked what that guy wanted. I told him and he said the guy is a father of all nations and I should be wary of him. I looked at him with side eyes and asked him if he's not aware that I don't do Abuja men.
Anyways,guyman got the drift and even started respecting me due to the way I spoke with him.
Fast-forward to this year,met him again in my church. Was surprised,still greeted him and went my way. ( I rarely put my nose in other people's business) .Saw him a couple of times and finally got to know he has made some money and he's going out with this babe in the choir Dept. Nice young lady in her late twenties, father's got some landed properties, respectful and looks decent.
Didnt think much of it until she came out to announce her engagement.
Haaaa... Engagement to this same guy. I weak( permit my pidgin) .
The reason for this is that,I got a legit gist of this guy being married with 3 kids to a woman in a certain area far from the main town,as if that is not enough,he had another woman who he beats mercilessly then and who has a female child for him in that my vicinity,and another pastor's daughter who was accommodating him too when he had nothing, bore a female child for him as well.
Haaaa... Engagement to this same guy. I weak( permit my pidgin) .
The reason for this is that,I got a legit gist of this guy being married with 3 kids to a woman in a certain area far from the main town,as if that is not enough,he had another woman who he beats mercilessly then and who has a female child for him in that my vicinity,and another pastor's daughter who was accommodating him too when he had nothing, bore a female child for him as well.
I hate poking,I decided not to shook mouth inside .
After a few weeks,I felt uneasy about my initial decision not to involve myself and considered going to tell the pastor to ask them very well oooo, how much they know themselves while undergoing counselling.
Not knowing that this guy was deliberately avoiding counselling,,even the wedding announcement was done without him being shown to the church( so as I nor go cast am)
It was only when I wanted to go tell the pastor as conscience did not allow me rest,that I heard that the wedding will be taking place in a couple of weeks.
Mind you,I still did some investigations so as to be sure that the guy's gist was all lies,only to be told that he still has 2kids from a woman in his village before coming here for greener pastures. I doubt if this girl knows his truth.The guy is from a certain tribe where they are known as the ** "demons"while girl is an indigene and oesnt even understand his language.
I'm contemplating letting the matter slide or should I still tell the pastor? Wedding is next Saturday.
Thank you.
Not knowing that this guy was deliberately avoiding counselling,,even the wedding announcement was done without him being shown to the church( so as I nor go cast am)
It was only when I wanted to go tell the pastor as conscience did not allow me rest,that I heard that the wedding will be taking place in a couple of weeks.
Mind you,I still did some investigations so as to be sure that the guy's gist was all lies,only to be told that he still has 2kids from a woman in his village before coming here for greener pastures. I doubt if this girl knows his truth.The guy is from a certain tribe where they are known as the ** "demons"while girl is an indigene and oesnt even understand his language.
I'm contemplating letting the matter slide or should I still tell the pastor? Wedding is next Saturday.
Thank you.
Hmmm this is really horrible that he is having babies all over..
May be he told her? I cannot tell you to do this or not to do cos if its me, I will act based on the situation on ground.
Ask yourself these questions
- what do you stand to gain?
-will the pastor keep your identity private after telling him?
-will you be safe?
-wont the man come after you?
- will you still be welcome in the church?
Thinki well before you squeal or mind your business cos the consequences might be fatal.....He might be marrying her for the money and might come after you for maing him lose out.....
You can send an anonymous letter to the pastors office if you must do this...Put in all the details they need to know with addresses and names.
Good luck
Do not allow it slide. If you can, send an anonymous letter to the Church, with proof.
ReplyDeleteWay to go
DeleteDo as advised by Stella. It's very important you send the letter anonymously.
DeletePlease tell your pastor, why are some men so wicked? Why try to tie with poor girls life to this level of baggage?
DeleteTell your pastor what you know, let him call them for counseling and make sure the lady knows about his “past” if she then decides to forge ahead, no problem.
The pastor doesn’t have to tell them how he got his findings after all when engagement is announced in church it is so that anyone who has anything against the couple to come forward.
Push up (original)
Like Stella said, e be like na anonymous letter sure pass. Have it typed. At least let her know something make she for no talk sey she been no know anything. God forbid bad thing. That man is not okay.
DeleteCatholic church will roll out 3 months announcements both in current church and your hometown and you will get clearance certificate from your Village church before you will be wedded.
DeleteDuring the Marriage announcement, everyone is clearly informed of your full name, Father and mother's name and Village information. Clearly asking people if they know why the Marriage shouldn't hold to come forward to the Priest. It will be treated confidently then investigated and cancelled where the girl and her family will be properly informed.
Please go and see the pastor but avoid the he toasted me gist or anything like that and stick to the order of the Day. Tell the pastor to investigate nothing more. Afterwards stay on your lane.
But Na wa for the girl and her family. No more Njuese as our tradition investigates before acceptance abi welcome is done.
Please do unto others what you want done unto you. Most importantly do the right thing
Poster if it were you or your sister and someone hid this kind of vital information from you how would you feel. Would you like an information like this to be kept from you?
DeleteI hope the pastor is mature in mind to be able to investigate before the wedding holds.
Tell the pastor to make sure he introduces the guy to the church before marriage and he should make sure that the man attends the councelling before the marriage proper.
These are the kind of men that would say they don't date ashewo. See them ruining the lives of decent girls.
tell the pastor!!!!
DeleteAproko,amebo,tafia. Drink water and mind your business. She is not your sister. Dey your dey.
ReplyDeleteAre you okay? So you want to watch someone's daughter enter the mud. Mehn you people are not nice.
DeleteWrong advice
DeleteI'm guessing you're a man right.
Delete"She's not your sister", "she's not your brother".
DeleteThose statements kept us where we are.
Poster please do your best to get that information across to the necessary individuals involved.
And God bless and reward you for not looking away.
Poster ignore this anon, find a way to expose that twat anonymously.
DeletePeople are selfish sha.
DeletePlease save a sister. Tell the sister and the pastor. People should stop this mind your business thing. It is evil honestly. You know his ways. You know that he is avoiding due process. Why do you still indirectly cover for him? Tell the sister and the pastor. Because pastor is a human being and may say she is marrying late.
ReplyDeletePlease save a sister. God will bless you.
You have so much time on your hands for you to be fishing for gists of a man
ReplyDeletethat’s not in your class.
Why do you think his wife to be doesn’t know this much?
Sluttychic.
What if she's being used to stop another entering into frying pan?
DeleteThank you Baltika. Poster spill the whole truth and let the devil be ashamed. Yes put the devil to shame abegi.
DeleteWhat if the girl, her parents and thr pastor with the husband to be are full aware ans they have decided to go on and wed? What if the devil is using the poster to disgrace her at the end ? Look it in both ways and make a wise decision.if you can't predict the future it's better you apply wisdom and be careful, you don't know if their future will be blessed regardless of the baggage or not.just use your head oh. Even bible talk am, talk less ! You avoid so much trouble when you apply wisdom and fear of God.now what's God way of handling this as a Christian? If GOd was to be practical do you think he will handle it thew way you want to handle it ?
DeleteAnon 18:06, the will of God and he is avoiding due process. The will of God and he is beating the woman that has 3 kids for him. Make una try reason this thing oh.
DeleteWOMEN HAVE STANDARDS oh. E get why
18:43 Nigerian women DON'T have standards when it comes to men.
DeleteDesperation to get married will see them accepting what should be placed in a trash can. Because you are afraid of 'society' mocking you for being single. Same society that doesnt know its mouth from its anus.
See people reasoning like tots here.
Are you lot even alright?
Another one up there said 'not to help since she is not your sister '.
See how devilish and impoverished some people's mentality is?
This is why that person can be bleeding in an accident on the road and nobody will help, as per not my sister.
This one is not easy cause they say no good deed goes unpunished
ReplyDeleteBut but em I can’t keep calm and let a good girl end up with this
I would spill.
Me too. The allegations are too weighty to allow them slide.
DeleteChristians in the church need to be watchful. Christians also need to have a discerning spirit. Because these last days ehn. See yesterday's poster of pastor being gay right in the church.
ReplyDeletePoster please interfere in this matter. Please do so. This may just be her saving grace.
I tell you........ 👏🏾
DeleteCan you do this anonymously?
ReplyDeleteTry do it with a written note online or offline. Meet dispatch rider with a look that's not your normal appearance and send it with numbers of some of the women he has children with as proof.
The pastor should be willing to share this info with the girl's father if you don't know the girl's family address.
The level at which black wolves enter the church currently is alarming. So many church ladies are naive about how dangerous the outside world is. They seem to be restricted. God help.
ReplyDeleteSo alarming. The church has a lot of work to do ooo, a lot. It is not just about filling seats but making disciples for Christ. Pastoring is a very large responsibility.
DeleteChristians are told to be one another brother's keeper ,pls tell the pastor even if it is anonymously,it could be your sisters tomorrow .Evil men are out to kill and destroy pls let us do our own part
ReplyDeleteNah waaa ooooo. This is entering a marriage with a lot of baggages. Find a way to let them know what they are going into.
ReplyDeleteSince he attends the same church with you. Write his full name, everything you know about him including the fiancee name and choir member. Put it in a sperate envelope or offering envelope and put it in the offering basket while giving offering. The ushers who count money will help you spread the news. Or get the ladies phone number. Get a new sim. Type everything and send it to her as text massage and discard the sim. If you are a Catholic, biko tell the Rev Father as you are sure he will not reveal his source. If your church is one of these privately owned churches, trade with care as the pastor might reveal his source to please and retain his member.
ReplyDeletePlease in everything don't keep silent
God luck dear.
Dangerous
ReplyDeleteThis could happen to anyone close to you. Please spill oh. Let anyone that wants to be angry be angry.
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and let the church know. Not only the pastor as he might be swayed one way or the other to look the other side and claim ignorance. Do it anonymously and alone. Don't let any church member know about your plans lest it leaks now or in the future.
ReplyDeleteMaybe letting her family know would be a better option.
DeleteIt's better you let the pastor know stylishly without anyone suspecting. A cancelled wedding is better than a bad marriage. Before she end up marrying father Abraham.
ReplyDeletePlease find a way to inform the lady in question or someone in the church that can help pass the news to her.
ReplyDeleteWe are talking about life here.
God bless you as you find a way to handle this.
Another KNACK-A-TON participant. 7 kids outside. Davido are you seeing your disciples. What a FIANCE 🚮🚮🚮
ReplyDeletePlease do not mind your business in this case before this sister will enter one chance. You need to write a letter to the pastor, address the envelope to the senior pastor and the will think is a seed for him. Put it inside the offering basket, write down all you know about this dude plus details where they can make findings. Do not show your face before it will turn out to be bloody.
ReplyDeleteBetter to be single than to enter this kind rubbish.
DeleteBlow that whistle as though it is the only way you will ever experience an orgasm. Blow as if thunder wants to fire you.
ReplyDeleteBecause if you don't, you will see that innocent lady tomorrow and you will feel responsible for any disaster she gets into with that irresponsible young man.
If you know the father of the girl send and anonymous note to the father the daughter might not listen because of love and the pastor might think you are sent from the devil to stop a good think, but the father would be neutral and be forced to conduct his personal vetting.
ReplyDeleteThis is what I was thinking too. That young lady is entering one chance. It cannot be kept a secret. But please keep your identity a secret.
DeletePoster another way
DeleteWisdom is profitable to direct...if you don't mind your business..hope you are ready for thr consequence.just as you are desperate to spill....on what's not your concern...so also know others are ready to fight when you cross their path.some troubles are best avoided when you keep calm..close your mouth and mind your business...lastly, we all have baggage snd no one is perfect,some have genuine moved on..same as you ..so imagine if you thr one and someone is coming to spill your negative just to make sure you don't go ahead with your happy days..you yourself...are you sure you too clean ? The same blog some ladies advice other ladies not to tell their men about body counts and countless abortions and here you are because it involves a guy..I feel you pained and jealous that you miss out on this guys because he is big now and doing well..you ladies always feel some funny way...you expect to see a guy you rejected dp bad so you feel yourself but guy man is improving and doing well..I hope men on his blog are learning from this .these girls no rate una.
ReplyDeleteI am guessing you're a man. Always telling women to handle your bullshit. Just imagine it's a woman that has 7 kids outside, will you tell the MAN to go ahead and marry her? No!
DeleteAlways pick the RATIONALE instead of sounding like an old musical instrument. This is B.S Someone is about to make the life of a lady miserable by having 7 kids outside. WOMEN have standards oh. Have standards oh.
Some people won't even date someone who has one child outside. Not to talk of 7 😱😱😱. This one is from Odogwu to Odiegwu.
Poster spill. Yes she will hate you. You may be an enemy to her. But the day she'll come to her senses, she'll understand.
Poster save a SISTER. Please don't ignore this. Be the saviour of this sister. Save her from the crisis she's about to enter.
Please poster don't ignore your conscience. Please 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Lets assume all you wrote about everyone having negative past is true. Why is the said guy hiding to be introduced as the groom to be???
DeleteI agree that spilling his secrets is risky but it'll be easier if she can do it anonymously.
Please we all don't have baggages, I don't have any nonsense baggage or secret that can't be shared with an intending spouse or the world, make una no dey generalise.
DeleteYou can a random price and having 7 children as past baggage? Gosh, some of you are unbelievable.
When you hear from an anonymous 10 years after you've been married to your wife that she has 3 children you were not previously aware of, you can choose to give her a hug.
It is like you didn't read guyman is already married sef, apart from spreading children everywhere. Is like you don't mind this happening to your sister, daughter or relative. Humans can be wicked sha.
DeleteDainty T, there's another comment down there 👇👇 saying that what if God want to use it to start a new beginning. Omo I weep at how some People's standard have fallen. Chaii, someone has 7 kids outside, and then he is avoiding due process, so you're telling me that that's GOD'S WILL 😳😳😳.
DeleteChaii women have suffered. It is well.
16:27 I am just wandering the type of secrets you have at the moment. So you see nothing wrong in what the deceitful man is doing. If this means nothing to you then your life will be a very dirty one.
DeleteYou mean you have done evils that are close to this or even worse things than this? Shame on you!
Poster you foolish but you no know.take some time and think through..you will realise how foolish and evil you are.
ReplyDeletePut yourself in the woman's shoes and ask yourself if you'd want to be warned about such an individual before taking such a huge step.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, "drink water and mind your business" type of advice is not the way to go.
God I weep at some comments I read here. Women are truly the enemies of women. A woman is about to be deceived and you people are saying she should walk away? Gosh 🤦🤦🤦
DeleteI beg speak o, before another woman will enter gbege, but wait, what if the lady knows all his baggages and decide to cook head ? So many desperate ladies out there nowadays that won't mind to marry a man even with multiple kids from different baby mamas .
ReplyDeleteChaii true 😪. Women have standards oh. Have standards oh
DeletePls Spill!!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, pls write an anonymous letter with all that you know about him and drop at the Pastors office asap. He is about to waste someone's life because of his selfishness. And that is a wicked spirit.
ReplyDeleteYou will not forgive yourself if things go awry in the end because of his lies. Pls speak out. And save the young lady from this horror. Pls i beg you in the name of what you hold dear.. Pls save this lady from this horrible man
May God give you the wisdom to go about it. Pls don't keep quiet.
I support this but I will encourage you to type it or if you have siblings they can help you write it, because if it's a small church and you are popular, someone might tell it's your handwriting.
Delete
ReplyDeleteDIVORCE HIM.
Poster, follow Stella's advise.
ReplyDeleteYou better take Stella’s advice on this one and mind your own business! Even if you write an anonymous letter like some people advice he will still know you’re the one since he has seen you in the Church! Is the Girl a Child that she can’t do her due diligence before agreeing to marry someone??! You better stay off as the consequences might be fatal as the Guy sounds like a very bad person! I have said my own o!!!!
ReplyDeleteNo matter how careful you you might still misss something
DeleteYou humans needs to be careful and apply wisdom in all you do.
ReplyDeletePoster pause..what if thr devil is using you to thwart a process? What if Gpd knows his baggage in he plans to use this marriage to begin a new thing and the devil is using you unknowingly to you ? What if the lady and the pastor are aware and they decided to carry the cross? How would you look like ? Pray for them and trust God..if it is not meant to be it won't be, it will end but don't be seen as an instrument to end it...that's why GOd says don't judge...don't beer false witness..you never know what transpired between them, you might end up degrading yourself ..simply pray for them and God knows how to separate them if they are genuine or have wicked intentions.pray for them..that's how you all go about to invite problems into your life.simple wisdom..nop but you want to form thr protector and defender..you will just put yourself in trouble.we never learn..we just never learn.!
What if God is using her to a prevent an innocent lady from making the biggest mistake of her life? What if she was meant to know all this, so that she can thwart the devilish plans of the man? What if God wants to use her in a divine way to help his child?
DeleteIf you were the woman, wouldn't you want to be informed? You are accusing someone of being a protector and defender, but if you had a protector and defender in your corner, wouldn't you be happy?
Let all of us do as we would be done by.
Smh at some comments 🤦
DeleteOr perhaps God is using the BV as karma so the man gets punishment for the things he has done, by not giving him this young woman, perhaps the relationship he wants the most.
DeleteWho is this preacher nitori olorun?
Delete17:59 you really misquoted the word of God here. Please learn to study your bible well so you will understand the context where you are supposed to apply each word
DeleteA tiny servant girl, a slave, saved an army commander and helped him locate the prophet that would heal him of leprosy (when there was no cure), all because she did not close her tiny mouth. She could have shut up and allowed her oga to continue to suffer, but she didn't. And God got the glory. Yes, the story of Naaman in the Bible.
DeleteYou're evil.
DeletePlease let the girl know asap. Save her from this scam of a marriage but let her know anonymously and also let the pastor know anonymously. God bless you as you do that.
ReplyDeleteIf after knowing she chooses to go ahead, then it is on her. But it is doubtful she knows anything about it now.
DeleteMost of you think like kids.advicing the poster to drop and anonymous letter..who take anonymous letter serious when heart and emotions are involved,? They might waved it off...if the poster truly thinks she is doing the right hing why not face the church boldly and tell em ? Nop because you know you not going about it the wise way and you think dangers might ne inherent thats wh you thinking and been advised of anonymous letters .
ReplyDeleteI agree that the anonymous letter won't go well but you saying she is not doing the right thing by spilling a secret is not true. I don't know if I get you right on that though.
DeletePoster I would prefer you meet face to face with the pastor and her parents and tell them about it but don't tell the girl because by now she must have been blinded by love and there is nothing you'll reveal to her now the she will believe and she will will definitely download what ever she hears from you to her fiance.
Tell her pastor to call the parents and you all will talk about it together and before the meeting please tell the pastor to warn her family to keep you anonymous because the guy has seen you in the church and he may suspect that you are the brain behind the revelation.
Poster if you are sure that you truly want to protect a sister and you are doing the right thing, go to thr church and tell the pastor face to face, after all you will be applauded and celebrated for saving a sister and taking a part of bravery.sister saving sister. It is never a bad thing to save a sister from a scam marriage so be bold if you think you are doing the right thing with the right and genuine intentions otherwise use your headpan
ReplyDeletePOSTER, send anonymous letter with details of how to reach the wife in town, the woman in the street. In fact, get all the addresses of thee affected and send them to;
ReplyDelete1. THE FATHER FIRSTLY : He is able to do his findings and advice his daughter from a honest and neutral ground.
2. THE PASTOR: Hopefully there are no sentiments here.
3. THE LADY: She's may not be in the right state of mind to say no to the man.
Please spill, but honestly you have to be extremely careful……..
ReplyDeleteA neighbor gave me hint about my ex fiancé who poured acid on his then girlfriend!
She told me the guy spent only 3years in prison because the Lady’s people decided to withdraw the case since the damage wasn’t much…..
He was in a hurry, and didn’t get the face.
It touched her hands, breast and stomach!
I was shocked 😮
I started my investigations, and it turned out True…
I jejely took my exit, but somehow the guy got to know my reasons!
This guy trailed this Lady for months to get at her for not minding her business!
The story long ohhhhh, but I am glad the Lady’s husband was a military guy, so he couldn’t do Much to her
Just imagine having an argument in the future and the guy pours acid on you. God saved you oh
DeleteThe guy got to know of you told him
DeleteSave a sister poster.
ReplyDeleteDrop letter in Anonymous mode in an offering box and make sure nobody sees you when dropping it and remember to change your hand writing when writing ✍ the letter..
Put all the receipt about the guy..
Wicked man
Evil and heartless 💔 😢 man.
He wants to marry all the ladies in Abuja..
All of you advicing the poster to mind her business, I hope you will be happy when people mind their business when someone is working against you in future
ReplyDeleteE be like sey the man don enter this post sef.
ReplyDeleteAbi? E be like true true.
DeleteMy own is give us update when you fi
ReplyDeleteYou should have spoke up from the beginning. However, speak up now, not anonymously.
ReplyDeleteDon't tell any pastor.
ReplyDeletePastor that must have gone behind to collect money and close eye.
I don't trust any of them.
Who weds peoole who havent gone through counselling in church and is blatantly avoiding due processes?
Find a way to tell her parents siblings etc.