In the interview, she said, “I have never addressed this issue but I will do now to encourage ladies that are pressured to get married. Please calm down and take your time because if you rush in, you rush out. That is the lesson I learnt. I just wanted to get married then, have children because I was being pressurized by society, here and there, and then it didn’t work out and ended in a bad way. I was filming when the news broke on social media, I wanted to die, I lost some good deals and all but I didn’t let it break me.”
“I channeled my energy into work, made money and I saved a lot, I will wake up early to work. There will always be bad times but you will survive, don’t let it weigh you down because it will pass and because you serve a living God. There are times anger and jealousy will come, but don’t let it eat you up, as a young lady don’t be pressured into marriage, marry because you love him and want to be with him not because the society and everyone is pressuring you to, ignore the naysayers. Do what makes you happy.”
“I channeled my energy into work, made money and I saved a lot, I will wake up early to work. There will always be bad times but you will survive, don’t let it weigh you down because it will pass and because you serve a living God. There are times anger and jealousy will come, but don’t let it eat you up, as a young lady don’t be pressured into marriage, marry because you love him and want to be with him not because the society and everyone is pressuring you to, ignore the naysayers. Do what makes you happy.”
uhmmm, so much wisdom here, she is such a strong woman.
ReplyDeleteHmmm...very very very good advice. Don't be obsessed with getting married. Focus on building a good life married or not. If you marry the wrong person for you, you will be more miserable than you can ever have imagined.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm........ this is a valid advice every single ladies should adhere to. There shouldn't be any pressure whatsoever that should lead anyone into wrong marriage or staying in a wrong relationship.
ReplyDeleteThanks Funke 😍👍
Good advice. Thank you Funke
ReplyDeleteIt's best to learn from other people's stories than let it be you before you learn. Nice one LaFunky.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice.
ReplyDeleteFunke, do whatever makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteMost people asking you why you are not married are just mocking you because any sensible person knows it is a personal question. Except they are trying to hook you up with someone then they are just gloating.
Instead of advising single ladies and guys ( guys get pressured too) I think we should advice the people who look down on them because they are single.
You can't get a house if you are a single lady
You can't even get a shop. They will ask you if you are Mrs or not before they give you or except you go with a man. And the people who do this the most and stigmatises single people are educated people.
Even at some private organisations you can't get a top position if you are a single guy because it doesn't look well to them. No matter how Qualified you are, to them an unmarried, intelligent guy just does not fit that position.
You meet your friends after some years and the first thing you ask is, "Are you married" instead of you to be happy that despite so many years has passed and the person is still alive. If you say no, some of them will see you as inferior and stop relating with you.
In church before they respect you, they will first check if you have a ring or not. Even in the way they address married and single people is different.
They will refuse to call married people by their names and they will add sister and brother as a prefix before mentioning their names but you, they will call you by your name even those who were not born when you were already in primary school but because they are now married sees themselves as having a higher social status than you.
I remember someone that fought my girlfriend when she called her by her name without putting "aunty" in front. Simply because she was married and my girlfriend was single. That particular lady got married in secondary school(my girlfriend was already done with University) and her parent gave her to the man. In our eyes she gave birth to three children. After a few years later, A new church was built beside the estate and they all went to that church. She called my girlfriend's name asked her envelopes as per usher and she got it for her but the noise was too much so my girlfriend called her name to get her attention and give her the envelope but after service fight started.
She said she is married and have children so why would she be addressed without respect and my babe said," but you called me by my name too Nah"
The church took sides with her and my babe left the church.
What the crap is the church and that married infant about?
DeleteYour babe get sense and high self esteem by leaving them. they deserve one another over there.
Good comment. But my, that church story is crazy. Nigerians are show so much anger and resentment toward single people than any other demographic. Then if you are single and have an ounce of success, their anger and envy is seething. How dare you have spare money to flex yourself?
DeleteSee that post a troll made to Khloe.. a single beautiful lady enjoying her money is not allowed, you have to be single and miserable to be "humble" lol
Anon 12:39, you are on point and churches do this the most, they will now call those desiring marriage and it's only females it's targeted at, making them feel as if their lives are miserable. I suffered this as well, left the church after a while. We need a lot of reorientation in stigmatising single people, especially ladies.
DeleteYou sef do fast and marry your babe. Why are you wasting her time? If you are not interested in marrying her, then let her go, stop wasting her time.
DeleteThis stigmatization of single sister in the church is really very sad. You can imagine even when they know you are by far older than them, they still disrespect you , just because you are single and the church leaders keep supporting this nonsense.
DeleteFunke my woman crush of all times.
ReplyDeleteIgnore the naysayers. Do what makes you happy.
Thank you, nne.
ReplyDeleteYou couldn't have said it any better.😍🥰
Maturity, she has attained.
ReplyDeleteSound advice, do what makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteSingle people also put pressure on them selves
ReplyDeleteWestern world everyone is Stella
We should start by removing titles from the workplace and church
funke is not a victim here. how do you open your eyes and enter into a marriage with a man who has 7 other wives.because hes rich right
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