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Monday, June 26, 2023
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To each his own...there's nothing wrong with this but please don't emotionally and financially abuse someone's daughter because you know you are the only source of income she has. FYI, many ladies don't actually mind this, they avoid this based on negative experiences they've seen others go through over the years.
ReplyDeleteSo true
DeleteThe thing is it’s only already made financially secure and wealthy men that are supposed to be talking like this and expecting this. This one sounds like he still wants a woman to build him up first Before he can even start providing for her. It’s a bad deal Cus at the end of the day this one just wants to use a woman’s labour in all aspects . The one u go work work work to build HIM up at the end of the day u go still come become free maid and nanny for house. By the time the woman is supposed to enjoy fruits of her labour she will be looking so tired n haggard n this one will now be looking for beautiful side chic to spend the money n sweat on. No thanks
DeleteExactly
DeleteBros I totally get you, I am happy you are labeling this out and the woman you want also desires such cus such homes can be really a great experience.
DeleteI also hope you are working on yourself to be respectful towards such a woman and not look down on her and if you are that man who creates a perfect structure for his home then by all means possible.
some days I also want to be this woman who gets her home together, and makes sure everyone is alright.
I think I have nurturing qualities and like to take care of everyone, I enjoy serving my man and he sits and eats like a king, i also love that I am impactful in the routine and education of my kids and create their own schedules outside the educational system so I know what he is talking about, but I also like my own money and space 🤣
Push up (original)
No Big deal,some women are very happy with that arrangement..
ReplyDeleteThat’s women we know as “Nwunye Oga” here..
Their husbands are Biz tycoon while they run the home front and everyone is happy..
There own is to bill Oga all round,run the home and enjoy life..
Tell them to look for a Job and you would have serious issue with them;they believe in “Obiageli” or “Obianuju”;and career ambition or biz of any kind is just not for them..
To run the home self no easy,if you think otherwise try am for five years straight..😁😁
@MARTINS
this anology tho😂
DeleteHi Martin, let me perch here.
DeleteThis type of thinking will fail for a number of reasons. Nobody wants to think about the unknown, but if this man passes away, his 'obiageli' wife would not be ready for the world she would have to face because she has had little to no experience in earning a living.
Additionally, depending solely on a partner for financial security can result in power struggles in the marriage and even abusive situations. In the event of unforeseen circumstances, it is critical for people to have their own skills and resources available.
This way of thinking also reinforces gender stereotypes and the notion that a woman's value is solely determined by her capacity to care for the home. It also fails to take into account the fact that life is unpredictable and that circumstances can change, leaving the woman helpless in the absence of financial security or job prospects.
Ron my Paddy,na “Umu Boy” and sales assistant dey blow in a case where Oga is no more..
DeleteOne happened here some months back self,the Man was into Solar panel/System;you know say na oil money currently😁..
The man while alive was riding a 2006 Corolla and his wife do come once in a blue moon to his office..
When this man died,just after the burial,madam carry better Benz SUV of 2018 enter market,with driver self.
His Boys under him are the ones managing his business;those ones don blow,madam still dey enjoy life and comes to the market for inspection once weekly now..
Me sha I support working from home if you want to be Nwunye Oga..
At least have something going for you;and have an idea of your Spouse Biz plus how it’s managed;cos no one knows tomorrow..
The “Nwunye Oga’s” here self no send me or anybody papa😂,na to chop life and train pikin till thy kingdom come;they no believe say money na visitor..
Stay safe Jare🙌
@MARTINS
That's Ndi Oriaku 😊
DeleteNwunye Oga
Ndi Madame 😁
Who no like better thing na?
But, where the problem lies in is, the Man should never use this against the wife when the going is no longer ...
Martins you sef nah big man jor leave that scope. Until you buy the whole Alaba finish before you send Shoki for us abi. 😂😂😂
DeleteMartins and co… I don’t think that’s the woman he is looking for, there are men who involve their wives in their businesses, my family friend even took his wife to turkey and china as his partner, she runs the home front but is intelligent enough to pick up from where he stops.
DeleteThese women are also set up for life cus their businesses are run as companies, they sit on their beds and create strategies on how the business can be better.
This poster isn’t looking for a lazy woman, he stated it clearly.
Funny enough many Caucasian Americans have these homes and they are successful, the wives know everything about the business, they raise successful kids and enjoy retirement together
The poster isn’t looking for an “obiangeri” he needs a smart woman who takes charge of the home front while he takes care of outside… it also makes a great balance.
Push up (original)
The Book of "ILU 31" has the answer to this guy's post.
DeleteIf he's abusive or a chronic cheat, the woman can't leave because she won't be capable to take care of herself. Second, God forbids he dies or loses his job/business.
ReplyDeleteHe doesn’t look like he can afford to have such a wife sef or is it not meeting her needs and every other household needs, including taking care of her aged parents and younger siblings still in school financially that will keep her happy, relaxed and a beautiful role model to the kids?
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣 had to scroll back to take a look at his pics 😂 bia Eka, iri worski 😅
DeleteAnyone that judges a man’s pocket by how he looks in this age and time should be living where portable recently said he lives.
DeleteNa there gangan I dey live na
DeleteYou don’t even need to look at how he dresses but look deeper at what he said. He said he still needs a woman to build him to that level of being 100 percent. So na really labourer this one dey find. Feel bad for any woman that falls for this trap
DeleteComfort is relative.
DeleteThe man wrote from his comfort view
Is it not ironic that their are natives who enjoy for free the idyllic natural settings some people work hard to enjoy and pay thousands and millions to travel to enjoy? Such is life. Yet some people or some of the natives will not agree they are livi g in comfort. They yearn for the big city life left behind by the tourists.
Some women wear themselves out working outside the home yet they do not contribute a kobo or anything substantial to the financial upkeep of their families.
Wearing employment work work, emphasis on wearing, by a wife is only worth it if it funds 50% of the family lifestyle and adds great value than the husband's income alone.
As long as it works for you and no one takes advantage of the other in the long run.
ReplyDeletePersonally as a female, this is my ideal kind of life. I want to take care of my kids myself. I want to prepare their breakfasts for them, prepare fresh juice that they will take to school every morning. Take lunch to my husband sometimes at work. Make our home very comfortable, look sexy for my husband, plan our family vacations myself and enjoy my husband's money
ReplyDeleteI love this. Please add "own a supermarket" or "own a side business" to the list.
DeleteI imagine your "ideal" life and wish that it could also be mine. Sadly, some of us have received a basketful of lemons from life, but I'm really enjoying the lemonade I made with them. #Smiles
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DeleteI like this too. My dream life. Bet I’ll have a big shop I’ll sit and gossip about fellow nwunye ogas 🤣
DeleteHeavy on the side business or working from home. I really hate office politics and ass licking n backbiting. Most corporate roles involve that to some degree. I just want to be rubbing business or working from home being provided for by my husband taking care of the kids n home affairs without having to worry about one yeye oga or rude coworker.
DeleteI detest such arrangements but it's his choice, many women find this exciting and a good thing, but me i find it tiring and degrading to sit at home all day cooking and cleaning without engaging myself in a business or work that will bring in my personal money.
ReplyDeleteSome women don’t do businesses or work but are investors. They understand the power of compounding and are balling.
DeleteI’ve not done any visible business in 10yrs but have ROI from mutual funds and rental income running into millions of Naira yearly. I don’t even touch these but re-invest.
Not everyone has to go out daily to earn because some have generous husbands who create the enabling environment for them to make money and keep their money.
You can work from home dear
Delete15:00, u just said it for me.
DeleteHis choice
ReplyDeleteIf you met me a working class lady and then you come up with this talk of becoming a stay at home wife, you should be ready to pay me salaries.
ReplyDeleteSimple. It’s only a wealthy and generous man that can open mouth to request this kind of arrangement. This one that is still expecting a woman to help build him up, na suffer the woman go just suffer. And end of the day one smallie go enjoy her sweat. God forbid
DeleteThe only issue with this arrangement is if the man die or if there is divorce
ReplyDeleteThat's his personal choice and he is entitled to it. God bless him for putting it out there too so that Eve's daughter would not submit chronicle 5 years into marriage and be forming she didn't know the 411.
ReplyDeleteAs a lady, if a man puts this on the negotiation table, tell am say make una first sign prenuptial agreement (especially in countries where it obtains) say half of him property goes to you if he cheats, you agree to/want divorce or he suddenly dies. Make sure he pays you a monthly salary/allowance commensurate with your qualifications and duties. That is, if your mates are earning 15m annual salary, let him pay you that at the minimum which means there should be periodic reviews too. In this kind of arrangement, there is absolutely no need for joint account. Keep your money and/or invest wisely.
Ask for a month's paid leave too to any destination of your choice and go alone if possible. You need personal space too every now and then (even if it's 2 weeks in a year) so you don't explode or implode due to a monotonous lifestyle. You can write/publish Ebooks or start a YouTube channel from home just to exercise your brain and social feathers. Don't go and be doing love-killi-me-a-die for any man who wants you to be a full-time housewife. Chronicle go tire you o. Don't say we didn't tell you.
With these few points of mine, I hope you are convinced that the man must be "rich" as in really rich to make such demands. No go follow I-never-chop wey still dey sag jeans negotiate suffering o. See you, see SAPA. Marriage na love and brain. Apply the two. Can never be me sha.
Q: What do you do for a living ma'am?
A: I be Oga wife😊. Full time Oga wife.
Me: In 2023 AD? 🤔😢. You get mind o! In fact, I
digwe for you 🧎♀️. You are the real MVP🙌.
I couldn't stop laughing when I read this. Hahaha hahaha.
DeleteThe ideas are sound!
For the life of me, I don't know why some women would decide to be housewives FULL-TIME with NO side businesses! It's important for women to be financially independent and to follow their own interests and passions. Being a housewife is a noble choice, but it shouldn't limit one's potential and opportunities.
I couldn't stop laughing when I read this.
DeleteHowever, the ideas are sound.
For the life of me, I don't know why some women would decide to be housewives FULL-TIME with NO side businesses! It's important for women to be financially independent and to follow their own interests and passions. Being a housewife is a noble choice, but it shouldn't limit one's potential and opportunities.
This is a very smart arrangement and the only way such thing can work.
Delete@Amebonawork i salute you, you hit the nail on the head
DeleteThis arrangement of course will take into consideration having about 2 nannies to assist the woman. Otherwise that woman will only exist in your dreams. You think being a housewife is beans
ReplyDeleteAsk those that are doing it
Zendaya
And he must also be paying monthly salary commensurate to what she would be earning at the office, as mentioned above. Sounds like a good deal to me
DeleteNa previous generation enjoyed this life. House wife that earns from the husband monthly salary is being paid.
ReplyDeleteIf the husband is open with his finance, they will live peacefully.
If the woman can manage money judiciously, the man is made. Happy home comes with enough money.
There are many women who desire the same, all he has to do is find someone who shares his dream.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteIs what, I am even looking for sef! I am not a domestic person though! So I am not sure, as me I nor want stress or drama in my life. I am living the Paul way, if you can be on your own, be on your own. No drama since in my life, since, I adopted that policy.
ReplyDeleteIf the man loves you and is wealthy enough you can get a maid
DeletePersonally I don't mind this type of life. But you have to put me on a substantial monthly salary, accompanied with house help and a prenuptial agreement...
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, I will be running online biz at home while fulfilling your dream home.
I also like the baby girl life jaree. Hustling no easy
Any robot that doesn't have a mind her own can go into this, not ambitious ladies like us. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteMy goal is to be a sit-at-home husband. God when?
ReplyDeleteI don’t think I could trust another human being so much as to become totally financially dependent on them. I grew up seeing how this sort of arrangement can turn into a mess and promised myself that I would never place myself in such a position. The power dynamics and the resulting potential for abuse of power is very high. Each to their own but a woman going into this sort of arrangement must do so with her eyes wide open.
ReplyDeleteWith the rate at which men cheat without remorse and even end their marriages for side chicks? Nah!
ReplyDelete