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LYING GIRLFRIEND
I need serious advice on what to do about the situation i find myself in irght now
The person i am dating does not know that i have just found out that she is AS but she lied to me that she is AA but i have just seen two old papers that are tests conducted years back that contradict the recent one that she showed me....
This is scary as it means that she would do anything for love, including being ready to birth sick babies.
I am AS na d have always made it known to anyone lady i want to date and always ask for her status in case we decide to take it to the next level.
I have already proposed to her, did that a year ago and we are looking at doing the wedding proper in August but i got an anonymous tip on the situation and where to search.
The note which was dropped on my car at work begged me not to show her the note or let her know how i have seen copies of her old tests done years back because it would cause problems...
I didnt want to believe the report but made an appointment to go and do a proper test with her but she has been coming up with all sorts of excuses and now she is curious and asking me if i dont trust her...I told her its just for routine check and to be sure cos some labs make mistakes but she has totally refused and i am about to call off the wedding and return to my ex who is AA...
I am desparate to marry and start a family but i wont be stupid to open my eyesand make this kind of mistake..
She is also desparate to start making babies so i am thinking of telling her that i want to call it off cos i found out that i cannot make babies...
Is this a good idea? I am exhaisted emotionally and just want to get on with my life...
Please advice.
If by end of June she still refuses to go for a test with you, then please by all means call of the wedding PLEASE!!!:.... It is not worth it at all... She may be lying or she may be upset that you dont trust her but if she is still not agreeing in a month then call it off... dont take this kind of risk for love, e no worth am...
Abort mission Brother, breaking her heart is a small price compared to the pain of continuing this sham, abort mission! #ThankYouStella
ReplyDeleteAbort mission Brother, breaking her heart is a small price compared to the pain of continuing this sham, abort mission!
ReplyDeleteJust say to go back to your ex dey hungry you! No need for dogo turenche
ReplyDeleteJust say to go back to your ex dey hungry you! No need for dogo turenche
ReplyDeleteAproko, rest
DeleteSickle cell Anemia is not a joke. Please do not marry her except you both decide not have biological children and just adopt. My cousin is 37. He is still wearing diapers and he is currently on a wheel chair. All implications of Sickle cell Anemia. There is no love worth that amount of pain.
ReplyDeleteWhoever ratted her out tho
ReplyDeleteThat's you concern? And not that future babies they will birth are at risk and will spend a lot of their lives in and out of hospital?
DeleteThat person is a God send if you think otherwise you’re evil
DeleteThe person isn't a godsend but then, sometimes, it's necessary to go that route to save a soul from what maybe a terrible mistake
DeleteA blessing in disguise!! One of my family friend is SS and always in serious pain and needs blood transfusion whenever she gets really sick. It’s not worth it!!!!
DeleteHonestly I think you don’t need to lie to her again about the reason why you want to break things off with her. Plainly tell her your reasons which is because she LIED about her genotype, birthing and taking care of sickle cell babies no be beans oooooo. So call off the engagement now so y’all can move on.
ReplyDeleteAgreed.
DeleteYou want to go back to your ex that is AA cos you are desperate to settle down. Why did you guys break off the relationship?
ReplyDeleteAs for your GF, let her know you are aware of her real genotype status and if she insists it’s not true, let her prove it. If she refuses to go for another test, break off the engagement.
Sluttychic.
Gbam. Even if she agrees, that should still end the relationship. Sickle cell Anemia is no joke! I’m AS and some days, I get so tired easily and just sleep all day to rest my body. One can imagine an SS. Hmmm e no easy at all.
DeleteYou don't have to tell her that you found old test results or someone hinted you. Not necessary.
ReplyDeleteRunning this test and many more is very important and should not be ignored.
If she eventually agrees, ensure you follow results through to ensure she didn't bribe lab centre to change it.
Also, make her understand that it isn't about trust as many labs have made mistakes.
It is even required from standard churches, to run this test and many more before marriage.
Lastly, don't desperately marry ooo. If not, you will run out.
Take your time and study your partner. Marry someone you are compatible with, you admire, you are attracted to and you love. Having children is toppings on the cake ooo.
You can't wait this long and get it wrong nah! Calm down.
If your soul aim of marriage is children, you might get them and be frustrated. Note also that children are a gift from God. Both parties Can be AA and everything right, but delay will set in. In such cases, what will you do? Will you chase your wife out and start sampling every AA lady so they can conceive?
Marry for the right reason..
Why go back to an ex you left because she is AA. Is that the only good thing in her? If she wasn't qualified before, why now?
Lastly,have you sincerely prayed about this? You can't leave God out of marriage choice ooo. You need Him to lead you aright
Call it off obviously she's not being honest.
ReplyDeleteI hope your ex does not take you back though cos omo your reasons for going back...All the best to you.
Call it off obviously she's not being honest.
ReplyDeleteI hope your ex does not take you back though cos omo your reasons for going back...All the best to you.
You don't have to tell her that you found old test results or someone hinted you. Not necessary.
ReplyDeleteRunning this test and many more is very important and should not be ignored.
If she eventually agrees, ensure you follow results through to ensure she didn't bribe lab centre to change it.
Also, make her understand that it isn't about trust as many labs have made mistakes.
It is even required from standard churches, to run this test and many more before marriage.
Lastly, don't desperately marry ooo. If not, you will run out.
Take your time and study your partner. Marry someone you are compatible with, you admire, you are attracted to and you love. Having children is toppings on the cake ooo.
You can't wait this long and get it wrong nah! Calm down.
If your soul aim of marriage is children, you might get them and be frustrated. Note also that children are a gift from God. Both parties Can be AA and everything right, but delay will set in. In such cases, what will you do? Will you chase your wife out and start sampling every AA lady so they can conceive?
Marry for the right reason..
Why go back to an ex you left because she is AA. Is that the only good thing in her? If she wasn't qualified before, why now?
Lastly,have you sincerely prayed about this? You can't leave God out of marriage choice ooo. You need Him to lead you aright
Brother since you want to be double sure that you are not making the wrong choice, please give her some time. Like Stella said end of June if she does not agree to go to the hospital with you just call it off. Nothing like you don't trust her in this case, if she was the one she will also do the same thing. If she is not hiding anything and she will not be the one to pay the bills what is the need of delay or refusing to go to the hospital for a test? Someone you want to marry this year is having cold feet to follow you to the hospital for a test, please walk away and go stay with your ex. She is not ready to marry or start making babies this year.
ReplyDeleteRed flag already that she is refusing to follow you to a hospital of your choice for a test. Make sure you do not tell her about the hospital you will be going to till you get there. Make sure no one will change the result, we don't want to hear they played you oh. Shine your eyes well well.
If you want to go the whole 9 yards with her ...
ReplyDeleteTell her you have a hunch she is not being truthful ,tell her its an uneasy feeling you have been able to shake off.
Tell her that irrespective of the genotype results you are willing to stick by her and you don't mind birthing children through an IVF Process and you are willing to pay for an egg donor whose looks match hers and try to have multiple kids at once.
Watch her reaction to this...If she is pure hearted but just plain fearful she will tell you the truth and if she does open up and you think she is a fantastic kid please go ahead with the union and stick to the IVF plan.
Best of Luck!
Why go through all of this when he can just call off the relationship and marry someone who’s compatible with his genotype and in this case they’re not compatible at all. Ivf money nko? You think it’s cheap??? Poster please, time to call off this wedding.
DeleteYes, that wedding is a no go area. One, because she’s a liar and two, because AS and AS should not marry.
ReplyDeleteBut why are u returning to ur ex? The reason for your breakup doesn’t matter anymore? I’m left to believe you probably left that lady for no just reason, probably to run after this one.
If that woman never hurt you, I hope she never settles for second best 🙄
The love will disappear fiam when you birth sickle babies. Their screams in pain will kill your blokos
ReplyDeleteNo she don't know the implications of AS+AS match, if she does she won't be hiding vital information like this..... Take her to counselling first. Pls make sure you conduct the test before walking down.
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you how it is done partners that wants to take the future to a higher step goes to hospital together which time will she even have to go and meet a lab attendant to doctor result, hospital visit shld be a neutral one and trusted , you wait together and the test result explained together I don't know how una dey run una rship o.
ReplyDeleteMy fear is that she is desperate to marry and go to to.any Length to do that are you guys cohabiting ,I hope she is not capable of harming you with what is going on in this life I dey feat the length pple can go .but why return to your ex though if you re desperate to start a family have a clear head sometimes you get your answers from a new person who will take the stick the lifetime with you, who even ratted her out o boy eicth the two ,the current and ex have a clear mind before venturing into marriage it's not a game you ditch and go back to forner
Don't do it pls
ReplyDeleteLet her know you found out about her genotype but please be in a safe place. This girl can go crazy on you as she’s desperate for marriage. Some women would damn the consequences. End this relationship and you self stop this damn desperation and relaxxxx! Marriage is hard workkkkkk! Whatever you do, sha Please don’t add a sick child in the mix. Especially God is merciful enough to reveal this to you before you marry her. If you end up with this girl, You will forever regret your decision and dealing with a sick child. Una eyes go clear but the child will be stuck with you guys. Go to one of that clinic and see how these children are suffering. Biko I take God beg you, cut off this relationship asap. Don’t even wait until end of June. It’s a done deal relationship. That’s it. And don’t ever expose the person that gave you this info. He or she is God sent. You don’t know what some people are capable of doing when they’re desperate. Wishing you all the best.
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