Hmmmm....
DISRESOECTLESS BORTHER IN LAW
Good afternoon Stella and bvs.
Please, if your teenage brother in law is behaving inappropriately towards you i.e trying to touch your breast while hugging or trying to rub his dick on you, should I let his brother, my husband, know?
He’s leaving soon and I’ve warned him not to try it again. Should I still let his people know? Thanks guys.
OMG!!!!---WHAT!!!!!!!!
Its the disrespect for me!
Wait for him to leave and tell his brother at once....The reason you should wait for him to leave is that it might turn into an altercation that may go wrong if you do it when he is still around... Please avoid him while he is there...
Wow what an evil boy
ReplyDeleteReport him like Stella adviced.
What is wrong with people these days
Record him when warning him next time.
DeleteThere are things in life that are very hard to prove and the victim will be looking like the villain
What😳he would have chopped better slap from me before reporting him....arrant nonsense.
ReplyDeleteSerious slap oh, a teenager for that matter.
DeleteIf you slap and he beats the crap out of you
DeleteKeep your hands to yourself f
Anon 15:20
DeleteDid he keep his hands to himself in the first place by touching her?
Wow. Warn him, avoid him and stop playing and laughing with him too much just because he is your brother in law. Tell him that you'll report him to your husband if he tries that again. Nonsense
ReplyDeleteYou wouldn't have tolerated such disrespect,two resounding slaps would have resetted his brain, don't let him get close to your children both male and female, infact at the instant it happened your screams would have been enough to inform your husband, what manner of see finish is this?
ReplyDeleteI concur. He may abuse your kids if you already have.
DeleteYou, your children and him permanent parallel lines. Such a disrespectful perverted boy
DeleteWhile @ it, pls remember to keep ur kids away from him. Both boys n girls.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteOgaoooo, the boy don learn bad thing..He should be oriented and be told why it's bad to act in such manner.
I would have advised you to let his brother get to know of this. Provided of your man can make things calm. He should be able to call him to order and correct him with love.
Hian! Tell his brother biko.
ReplyDelete"I fvckd my brother's wife while he was at work, I grouped on my brother's wife's breast while she's cooking, Teenage boy grinds his d!CK on his brother's wife when she's cleaning".. etc etc
ReplyDeleteE no go better for xvideos.. see this stupid boy don damage finish... I don't support brothers or sisters from either partners to live with the couple, it's always so complicated most times.. wife might dress down at home, brother might start looking, sister might wear see through nightie, Baba no go know how to tell wifey to tell his sis to cover up to avoid ish.. husband might have morning wood when he wakes up while going to per he jams wife's sis, that one see strong thing and think oga is lusting after her ... Etc etc..
Abeg, make everybody just visit and go to avoid issues.. I'm in support of being open so I would say you should tell your husby, if you can get evidence to support the claim.. better,. Before he'll go and say you were the one seducing him..
Also check your ways, make e no be say you send don do some stunts for attention wey send am that signal say you want make he make a move on you
True oh. Porn addiction is real. Very dangerous. It's now a pandemic. He needs counseling.
DeleteThis was what first came to my mind. Porn has messed up the young man. And porn is free on the internet with the exact scenarios Dante has expressed.
DeletePoster you have to be very firm with that boy. Only you know your husband enough to tell him or not. It would be good if your husband is the understanding type, so that he can talk to his brother about porn and help him.
It’s not everything you will be waiting for husband;two heavy slaps front and back would have solved this..
ReplyDeleteThen one heavy one on his face so he would feel very dizzy and scream;then when your husband or anyone around gather;he will shamefully explain himself there and then..
Sometimes understand that certain situations require that peace is not an option😉
Your husband is not related to you by blood,for him to ask his brother to come live with you means trust;so you telling him without evidence can lead to unnecessary argument;but your actions? E go loud!!
@MARTINS
EXACTLY. The warning should have come after the resetting slaps.
DeleteI told a guy I was dating that his friends can’t stay with us. He acted like I was selfish and wicked
DeleteSome me don’t understand
A guy of a certain age shouldn’t be left alone with your wife unless SHE is sure it’s ok
It’s not just about whether you trust your wife. You are putting her in a potentially uncomfortable position if the guy tries anything
Well said Martins! I feel annoyed that you are being too lenient with the matter.
DeleteYou suppose break him head.
Martins on point.
DeleteThe time to report or take any action has passed.
Since he is leaving the home, let him go.
If he returns and tries it again, then take action. If you are not sure you are strong enough to beat him, and he obviously believes so, please quickly grab something you can use as a weapon.
Then check yourself. We can assume you have stopped hugging him and giving him opportunity to walk near enough to rub himself on you. People may say don't blame the victim, but some victimhood are caused by our actions and unintended signals.
Again, since he is LEAVING your home, no need to report to your husband. Some families are not very understanding with SILs. But if he tries it again before he leaves ....
DATS IT. U SAID IT ALL..
DeleteI should add a good hausa cane.
Me I would have even slapped him through reflex action sef before realizing what's happening. Radarada
DeleteThe way I go push am ehn, body go tell with better quality nerve deleting choice insults to water his soul, porn addicted swine
DeleteThe way I go push am ehn, body go tell with better quality nerve deleting choice insults to water his soul, porn addicted swine
DeleteTell who first? Big slap!!! A teenager! Big slap! Talk too much, use he head nak wall. Ahn ahn! Then later, after the slap, his brother should handle him too. Then he leaves your house. He dey mad!
ReplyDeleteNothing like report to his brother ,there and then a good slap would have reset his brain arrant nonsense that is the result of xxx
ReplyDeleteOr set up a hidden camera to have proof because you never know how it will all go down when you report him. NA WA!!
ReplyDeleteWhat happens to giving him a hot slap and allow his brother ask what happened?. Babe you fall hand. You are encouraging him joor. Woozz am slap with serious warning and walk away. No time to report to anyone.
ReplyDeleteHmmm na wa oh What a way to end the last week of June...Hmmm bad company and porn is the bane for this generation. What will have given him that effrontery. Tell your husband immediately. What insolence! You for give am a very stern warning...
ReplyDeleteReport to your hubby immediately before your brother in law changes the narrative 'saying you were the one seducing him'.
ReplyDeletePlease if you have kids protect them from this horny dog and I don't know what he is still doing in your house
ReplyDeleteTell your husband while he's still there to avoid him denying. If he goes, he will deny and say it never happened, accuse you and make it look like you tried to seduce him.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you not give him head turning slap when he did that first time? You kept quiet and he mistook it as you liking it.
If you tell your husband in his absence, your hubby will ask you why did you not say it while he was there. That might create doubt to your accusations.
There are things you tell a woman not to tell her husband and this is not one of them. You played too much with him and the age difference is not really big.
If you don't make it open for your husband to put boundaries, he will tell this tale in his own way and each time there's family gathering, you will be under observation from their family without you knowing and innocent but careless moves of yours will be misunderstood.
Tell your husband while he's still there!!!
Tell your husband that he should tell his brother to browse about porn addiction.
ReplyDelete1. He should download podcast addict on playstore.
2. Should search about "porn addiction "
3. He should find a podcast that speaks about how to rewire your brain from the addiction.
The podcast currently has 501 episodes.
Goodluck
The name of the podcast is "The Porn Reboot Podcast". If he can, he should get a therapist or recovery coach. This addiction is on the same level with drug addiction.
DeleteAll this big slap advice
ReplyDeleteY’all think a teenager versus a woman is a fair fight. Ah don’t let a big teenage beat you oh
The guilty stays dumb, especially in this kind of case.
DeleteComment I've been looking for. Is it the calibre of teenagers I've been seeing of recent wey fear no dey their eye? He might actually beat you silly and wait for his brother to send him home. Poster, you acted right by warning him, tell your husband when he leaves so he knows how best to manage him since it's his brother.
DeleteIt might actually be porn addiction or rumours of married women fooling around that is pushing him, plus a teenage boy is high on hormones and probably not thinking through his actions. This is one of those cases when having a good track record and an understanding partner can't be overemphasized.
Something that brain resetting slap would have solved, you're asking if you should tell your husband. I'm sorry to say you encourage him, because what you described up there is not a one time thing.
ReplyDeleteI want to know how old you are and your body structure.
ReplyDeleteWhat might have caused this disrespect? Are you small in stature or short?
I don't even understand how a teenager will try such with his SIL. SEEMS weired to me.
The boy is actually very big. Over 6ft2. I, on the other hand am just average sized.
DeleteAnother angle is Covetousness of his brother's wife, there is jealousy and competition in the little turds mind . Tell your husband ASAP, he isn't safe with his brother, the darkness that can inspire him to try to take his brothers wife isn't a small one
DeleteNo doubts, the Lady and the Guy has been in this kind of inordinate play while she was still dating the husband. Also, they were like leaving in the same community. The Lady is now being afraid of it degenerating into the unexpected. Such move of the Guy will never just happen in just a visit. She can't just slap him either. What she can just do is to let his brother know that she's seeing too much of familiarity between her and his brother.
ReplyDeleteShe should let her hubby knows that if he continues in any form of inordinate play with her that she will surprise him. The husband will understand the remaining part of the gist.
@KSB Truth.
Hmmn.....this is deep.
DeletePoster you sure say you no dey exonerate yourself 😏😏
Please I’ve never met this boy in my life. The marriage is just a month old. This is the first time he’s visiting me. Please don’t say what you don’t know
DeleteYou should have slapped him immediately. Then if he reports you, you tell them what he did. If your husband gives you issues because you slapped him, he doesn't respect you and will allow his family members disrespect you too.
ReplyDeleteE dey craze? Do you like it? My friend will you get his brother involved so his brother can checkmate his attitude. It's not just about you but about other women that'll come across that upcoming hormonal agbero with the tendency of a rapist.
ReplyDeleteWait for him to leave he won't stay another night in that house,I don't understand are you that friendly to the extend of him hugging you.
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Thanks a lot Stella and bvs. I’m the poster, and I agree with all of you, I should have slapped him. My fear was that he’s on the big side and I didn’t want something that will lead to fight between both families. He’s left my place and I’ve told his brother. I was stupid to have not listened to his brother when he warned me not to allow him come stay with him. Thanks again guys, I really appreciate your advice. He’s never coming close to my kids if God mercifully bless me with children.
ReplyDeletePorn addiction?
ReplyDeleteMay not be. You guys would be surprised at what age young men and boys are starting to gbensh and the ages of the women they gbensh.
Younger men and boys are making money from yahoo and crimes. They are spending these money on girls their age or younger and older women in this society where almost all things and values have been summed up in money and how much or less of it a person has.
So the traditional moral barriers are falling all round. Women who used to be the gatekeepers are fighting and winning the fight to do as the men.
The boy may already be gbenshing women Poster's age or older. So the fear and taboo factors are not there.
Plus in this case, Poster enabled him. What is it with the repeated huggings in the first case? Did start the touching from the for hug? And what is about the leaving of body in the way to be rubbed?
Here the primary school adage rings true. Over Familiarity breeds contempt.
It is been said twice above. Poster check your ways. Draw boundaries. Let him appear to cross them in hot pursuit before you act. Otherwise, you may be courting family issues. Your husband may support you. But men in their hearts h#te or dislike women (wives)w fraction their families
You have to be very careful when you are alone with him. He can rape and kill you
ReplyDeleteJust do as SDK said, if you tell your husband while the boy is around. Your husband may hurt him badly.
ReplyDeleteYou had better find a way to record him acknowledging that he does it BEFORE you mention it to your husband.
ReplyDeleteRemember Nigerian men have said wives are not their family and they mean it.
Before you know it, they will turn the story around and say na you dey seduce am.
Do it quickly, before the boy will run home and say na you open nyansh down dey tempt am. Na the inmmonly thing wey una men sabi be dat.
Poster I get is see finish, you cannot tell me you didn't give him this access to you else how can he play such play with you. You have not warn him or you are enjoying it but acting like you don't want it. That boy might have seen, heard or caught you doing something that made him disrespect you so much.
ReplyDeleteI hope if you tell your husband he will believe you, you need to get a proof of it so that your husband can believe you