URGENT ADVICE NEEDED
Bvs I'm in trouble.
Bvs I'm in trouble.
My married boyfriend is so emotionally attached to me......
At my age I should know if someone is faking it,but he's not faking. He's having issues with his siblings and him and the wife aren't in good terms,he shared their messages and voice note with me,madam cheated and has been begging, honestly he's a good guy, nothing s#xual between us...
He discusses everything with me and allows me to make decisions for him,he's rich and buys things for me, the thing is I want him to see me as just a sister he doesn't have, he always appreciate my advice and it always work out for him whenever I advice him.
Yesterday he told me that after God it's me and I felt bad for him,cos I know I'm the only one he trusts for now as he's seen many betrayals and I don't want to betray him..
Yesterday he told me that after God it's me and I felt bad for him,cos I know I'm the only one he trusts for now as he's seen many betrayals and I don't want to betray him..
I love him so much too, but I can't be what he wants me to be, he carried holy book yesterday to swear that come what may, he'll never leave me and I know he's just lonely. Please how do I convert this to just brother and sister relationship without hurting him? I can do anything for him except to get s#xually involved with him.....
If you dont end the friendship, you will end up being his wife..... There is no other way around this. You cannot wat your cake and have it....
How are you even sure he did not make up the stories to get close to you? I have seen men who lied about qarelling with their wives to their girlfriends but thats not the case on ground...
Choi! They never learn.......
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They never learn Anonymous. They never never. Stella you have said it all. You are just a longa throat gyal kpom kwem
DeleteAs in, she was not informed! Should we tell her?😂🤣
DeleteShe cheated, she is begging, after you na God... bla bla bla until madam wifey carry another belle. Na there your eye go clear. Why hasn't he officially divorced her after the "caught" so that you can kuku be his official moon and star? Tell him to call his wife in your presence and put it on speaker and then tell her he wants a divorce because of her infidelity. If the wife does not ask him if he has high fever, my name is not Amebonawork😎. Just dey play with married blokos because of freebies inugo? Dey play!
I follow you 🚶🚶🚶🚶
DeleteLol @your first paragraph amebonawork.
DeletePoster, you better leave another woman husband alone, dey there dey deceive yourself.
Poster this playing naive doesn't look good on you. You know he wants to date you or sleep with you, but you don't want to according to you so what are you still doing there? The money I guess.
DeleteReason people like Dante will continue to insult and lump up all women.
He is married, he is NOT your sister/brother, give him space for now.
@amebonawork, Pls don't let's tell her yet 😅😅
DeleteThere ain't no reason good enough to insult and lump all women as the same. Is this poster all women? Same for men. That is myopic reasoning at best.
DeleteStella this our red pen ink don Dey faint o 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteI will tell u a story. This is exactly what happened to my friend. She dated a married man for years and the same scenario up there played out. He will even swear by the Bible and Koran. She went ahead and had a child for him. Almost immediately her love has left her and is back with his family. He hardly give her a naira. She and the child are totally on their own. Meanwhile she turned down at least one beta toaster for him. Now she is regretting and can’t believe all those things were lies and acting. Continue poster and see where u end up
DeleteHmmmm! If he doesn't see the relationship as bro/sis that you want,why not speak to him about it and if he still doesn't want,then you create boundaries.
ReplyDeleteI also feel like you are enjoying the attention,everyother person is bad except you.what if he is faking it.
Watch out!
Speak to him keh?? Like this Man is only gunning for one thing and the poster will keep entertaining him as per caring friend.
DeletePoster, when you ready, you know what to do.
It is well.
ReplyDeleteOne thing and truth I have come to understand about marriage is that, most people sometimes married wrongly as in to the wrong people and when they eventually come across their compatibility in someone else, they start comparing and contrasting.
ReplyDeleteWhy they do this is what I really can't say or understand.
Pls poster that relationship will eventually ends in sex in time. Leave married brother alone if truly you don't want to have sex with him. Respect their marital vow if you truly want something good for yourself in life.
Is it that single men are scarce or what? Oh I get it. He's rich. If he was poor, would you have gotten this feelings towards him?
Single women though not all, loves going after married men and it's becoming a normal lately.
Biko jukwa ya! This is just pure longathroat vibes..Carry go and keep being the second fiddle.
DeleteLong throat sisi..Go and find your own man and stop being friends with a married man that is emotionally attached to you
DeleteDesirable single men are scarce but e no mean make ladies dey follow married men.
DeletePoster, go and find yours or wait patiently for yours.
Abeg, desirable single men are not scare. Except if na only money make single man desirable as Portable talk yesterday.
DeleteBee
DeleteI like your choice of words
Desirable
Poster,what you are doing is way worse than sexual cheating. You are proud to say you are the one controlling the emotions of a married. You are even seeking for advice on how to continue your friendship with him. Sorry to say this but you are wicked and selfish. How can you be so comfortable doing this to your fellow woman, cheating or not? It might have been your relationship with him that forced her to seek for rubbish outside. All the single guys out there looking for a shoulder and listening ear but you chose another woman's man. Keep enjoying his money. Your own dey wait for front.
ReplyDeleteThank you 👍
DeleteMany single guys are FAKE oo!!
DeleteAll she needs is just one single guy with a correct head
Everything now that you've written, what I don't understand is why you're sorry to say she's wicked and selfish? She nor wicked and selfish before? Dey do bestie with person husband. Silly people!
DeleteAk be warned on this blog o😏
Alli can see is MARRIED BOYFRIEND!! That kinda sums it up. The only thing that in quote distinguishes you from a side chicken is that yall are not sexually involved YET and that's what you are holding onto to ease your guilty conscience. Well done... Pls carry on.
DeleteMummy Andre, no vex biko. She is a very anyhow and nonsense person. 😁
DeleteLol
ReplyDeleteWhy not look for your own man instead of getting all time entangled with someone else's husband?
Take your time abeg
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ReplyDeleteYou can roll eyes ehnn😂😂
DeleteEverything dey stress you😂
@Fidel, wetin happen to your blog ID?
DeletePls you have to discuss with him on your stand.
ReplyDeleteLet him know your close proximity can disrupt that.
Then avoid seeing him as much as possible, while you reduce your communication.
Offcourse, he is going to be hurt about this, but that's the only way you ain't gonna be the side chick that destroyed another woman's home.
I agree with this.
DeletePls talk to him. And draw a line. Sometimes people come into out lives so we can influence them. And yes God sends people who become like family to us. Tell him you don't see him in any other way other than a brother. And if it's not okay with him, too bad that's all you can give. Extending it to something else will spoil it for you.
Problem with all these conversations ya'll suggesting is that babe has admitted she's in love too. If she's serious, she should just cut off. Cold turkey.
DeleteLol..
ReplyDeleteYou want to enjoy boyfriend benefits from him but want him to see you as a sister..
Oleeeee
Well deserved, recognized and certified oleeeee.
DeleteYeye dey smell
Gatz to agree with you here.
DeleteBabe, forget it,it's because he's yet to get you to have sex with him.
ReplyDeleteAs per the Holy book he swore with,forget it. Like Stella said,he could be using deceit tactics to get to you,and if you be Dem babes with a soft heart,that believes just about anything ,he don catch you be dat!
Stop this your relationship immediately.
Bible says,flee from all appearance of evil.
If you check well sef,she might be pregnant and he's just looking for someone he's going to ride temporarily.
Leave married man alone Biko.
If he wants you,he should go get a divorce with complete receipts to show for it shikena!
He also took vows before God to marry, abi poster you forgot that one......
DeleteDJ play me "If I start to talk" by Tiwa Savage.
ReplyDeleteThe things I read these days ehn 😳😳😳.
My sister in the Lord Jisike 💪
Make I dey go biko! Nothing person no go see here.
ReplyDeleteDo you like him
ReplyDeleteIf not then stop holding out false hope
Stop talking to him
If you like him, then tell him to get a divorce when’s marry you
Then you’ll know if his wife is that bad
🥱 same old tale.
ReplyDeleteIf he was a broke married man, even if he follows you everywhere and licks your toes, I’m sure you won’t be sending this Chronicle. You wouldn’t need BVs to advise you on how to discharge him quickly.
ReplyDeleteHope you won’t mind when you get married tomorrow one smallie side chick will proudly be boasting of how she is the one controlling your husband’s emotions.
And If indeed he’s done with his wife, he should honorably divorce her for cheating and marry you, instead of the stupidity of whatever you two are doing now.
And What’s with swearing with holy Bible?
Hope it’s not mental disorder. obsessive love disorder
Well the lady cheated
DeleteShe laid her bed she can lie in it
Anon 16:12 and you have proof she cheated on him? Or you believe the words of a desperate horny married man
DeleteSwearing with the holly bible. Na them🤣 She has not met the ones that could go to the extent of fainting . How about politicians that swears with the holly bible
DeleteShe saw his phone and heard voice notes
DeleteThis is not a hard story to believe
Women treat men badly too
If he wants out then that’s up to him
If he wants to forgive and stay, that’s fine too
Controller of married men, leave him alone and find your way. You are destroying and putting asunder. You think you are better than his wife😂😂😂. She cheated, maybe she saw the chats between you two. Continue, you hear. Wicked girl
ReplyDeleteAre you minding the silly girl. They always feel there’s something more special about them.
DeleteWait till he sleeps with you and probably starts living with you.
You ll be shocked to read chats with his new side chick that would have replaced you, telling her you are a whore and he doesn’t know or remember how he ended up with you.
Emotional controller, stabilizer of married men. Well done o
We believe all you wrote is the truth.
ReplyDeleteBut his wife knows about you and don't so believe. What if you were told that is why she is cheating. How does that make you feel. Remember some Bvs advise revenge cheating here too..
You cannot hang around him for longer without becoming his bed partner.
When a man sets his eyes and heart on a woman, he observes her and asks around about her. If a suitor sets his eyes on you today, he would ask about you and be likely told you are in a relationship with your married boyfriend. Have you considered this. Or you don't want to be married - you want to be a comforter advisor of a married man? Or would you continue being the good advisor after you marry?
Do you know that so long as you are around this man or he is around you, he would not focus on his marriage and on repairing his fractured family affairs?
You even called him boyfriend. Today, that word has acquired a romantic meaning. You know the roots are there for a romantic relationship. You are in denial. One day it will surprise you or not when you find yourself tidying after the act or come to your senses the first two seconds after it started.
What to do?
Pull the roots, pack and leave him. Stop baby sitting an adult male. Politely explain to him that it is for your both good that the relationship ends. If you must continue minimally, limit it to tele means. Advice and counsel can be given over the tele modes. But it is better you end this freindship
Thankfully, the relationship has been mutually beneficial to you both. Stop it.
Poster oga is trying to make you 2nd wife.
ReplyDeleteIf you are game then go ahead.
I can't say if he is lying or not.
But look clearly b4 you leap
Do you think you are special?
ReplyDeleteDo you know how many married men that told me they were divorced, their wives are dead, they are single, the wife cheated and I respond like I always do? By advising them in a rude manner to stop telling cheap lies and go and take care of their wives? One even cried and was begging and begging. One knelt down and promised the whole world. I can't stand rubbish.
Mind you
The woman didn't cheat. He is the cheat. What is wrong with you. Is it poverty? God will bless you with your money and your man.
How can you leave all the single fine men and be following another woman's husband. If a woman can get a man to marry her, why can't you?
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Poster he is cheating with you now. When you enter he will also cheat on you.
DeleteStella you didn't lie. I have seen men who lie about having marital issues. Many of them do that. I don't know how they make up these stories in a way that you will feel pity for them.
ReplyDeleteA good number of men do this. Poster forget; these are cookup stories that touches the heart. You are not a life saver. Leave him alone and look for your own husband that you can share this bond with. Just forget the brother and sister zone that you want to keep the relationship in.
Again, why has he not divorced his wife yet if he loves you this much and can't do without you. The wife may not be a good advicer like you but there are other areas where the wife is good in and those are the things he saw and married her.
Jeez!🤦 I remember when I met one of my toasters then and he was complaining about how he regrets marrying the woman he married. Poor me. I believed him. He told me alot and I felt pity for him and even saw myself as a wicked girl because he really tried toasting me for that long.
Then one day I bumped into him and his wife in the market buying stuff and looking happy together... Long story!
Poster run! Destiny killers
Let me answer the question no one answered
ReplyDeleteYou don’t owe him comfort
If the friendship is making you uncomfortable and you think he’s too clingy, just stop taking his calls and face other things
Some people can be a drain on your energy and I think that’s what you’re feeling
Poster please waka from this man if you want to get your own husband because as far as you are with him, your own husband wouldn't locate you unless you want to marry him.
ReplyDeleteI don talk my own
Not only that. I have seen alot of men like that. God! They can go any length to tarnish their wives image inorder to have you in bed. He is taking is little by little and making you feel very important. Now you are feeling like you are saving his life and you are way better match for him than his wife. Don't start what you can't finish, don't start what you will regret.
ReplyDeleteHe might even be HIV hence his wife not wanting to sleep with him anymore. (Just saying)
He might have vowed to transmit the disease anyhow🤔 yes, you may never know.
You may not be the only girl in his life. Monitor him well if you have the strength but by best advice is this; just pack your life and flee from that man. Forget what may be and what may not be and flee.
C'mon, this man is still with his wife. If he hates his wife that much he would have separated from her. She cheated and he forgave her and is still with her , yet asking you to marry him. The lie no enter. The wife's cheating would have been an avenue to breakup with her and marry you
Hehehehe, Sisi Eko/Special Adviser dey there dey play... My people say if you don't want to eat something don't bring it close to your nose and claim you only want to smell. U Gerrit???
ReplyDeleteKeep loving another woman's husband until age passes you by. Then you run from pillar to post.
ReplyDeleteHmmm if I share how one married man deceived one lady Hmmm you go faint. Some married men are devilish. And is not that the girl do married men but a man the lady respects introduced the married man to the lady as a man the his marriage has collapsed & that the lady can get married to the man. If I tell you what the man did to this lady you go faint.
ReplyDeleteMadam flee from the man immediately he's a fraud & you will not like the end of it
Poster have you seen that all of us here know their scope this will tell you that it's either you run or he chop you , there is one married man I met during nysc I was selling boxers and quality singlets then omoh you need to see love ,gifts and co I checked his Facebook saw where he was praising the wife sotey he said in his next life she will be his moon and star I awwd o 😂😂 na there I know say nothing good will forever come out of rship with a married man.
ReplyDeleteAfter that night I told God pls give me a single guy that will love me and sing my praises I left and got my married to my hubby, I block the werey married man . So poster to be a man's wife no dey hungry you na to be adviser General without certificate, your talent dey waste o , see your mouth and the advice dey work for him
Easy ooo before it leads to something else. Ask him to make peace with his wife
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ReplyDeletePoster, can you see that almost no BV is on your side? Learn from other experiences, my own was even girlfriend, guyman told me all sorts about the girl, I was so sure they were breaking up. I noticed he wasn't interested in relating with me besides asking for sex (which I was reluctant to give), like someone is coming to my house for the 1st time, told me ahead of time not to inconvenience him as he isn't too buoyant but bought condom to have sex, I didn't agree to do.
ReplyDeleteNext time I visited him, I was sent a text that I should let him enjoy my visit to him and not punish him, I still didn't do that time, till we had a misunderstanding a few days later, this guy poured all sorts of insults on me and said so I was thinking he will leave his angel for someone like me, hmmm... A man that strings you along with his wife isn't genuine, I can bet with money that this will go sour, pick your slippers and run. No road that side at all!!!
Why will a married man keep the opposite sex as bestie.una go just they deceive una selves.
ReplyDeleteIf you are in the wife's position,how would u feel.
You even know that he is married and your still with him
ReplyDeleteBetter leave person husband and pray for yours