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This issue of wives checking their Husbands phones has broken a lot of marriages. If you go looking, you shall find. So what now that you've checked your husbands phone and seen that he's chatting with another woman, you want to pack your kaya and leave? 🙄
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, some that checked have thwarted a haram relationship their spouses were about to start. For men, sometimes it is an innocent gesture that the women take otherwise, or sometimes the women manipulate them, before it turns to a full blown adulterous rltship, if his wife checks and raises small dust, some men that respect their wives would stop. Sometimes mistakes are made.
DeleteIs it only wives that check their husbands phones?, so in the history of mobile phones husbands have never checked their wives phones?, because this is getting ridiculous.
Delete*rolling my eyes loudly*
ReplyDeleteMust women's messages be focused solely on relationships and marriage and phones? Do men hear this in their sermons, too?
Women also need to be taught about sanctification, about walking with God daily, about Holy Spirit baptism. These are unnecessary and trivial and we have had enough of this kind of talk abeg.
Reminds me of a church I used to go to. They'd call for "women's meetings" and will spend the whole day talking about making hair our husband will like and if your husband doesn't like your hair to take it off and talk about learning to cook your husband's favourite meal so he doesn't meet another woman and because of that, sleep with her, and you'd be the one to blame for not knowing how to cook your husband's favourite meal. Very silly and nonsensical preachings. I stopped attending these meetings long ago.
Please, women pastors and women leaders, women also need edification and need to be filled with the word of the Lord. Jesus met the the Samaritan woman at the well and told her about Himself, the Messiah, and she single-handedly evangelised to a whole community. Mary sat at Jesus feet to listen while her sister was cooking, and was commended for choosing the "better part". Deborah was a whole judge who led an army to victory, Esther saved an entire nation from being wiped out... Women in history have done wonders and done greatly, and God is capable of continuing His mighty work through women and please please please give them meat to chew.
Women leaders, do better, abeg!!!
Tell 'em! 🤗❤❤
DeleteThey have reduced the Nigerian Christian woman conversation to just "marriage and s*x". Nothing more.
Dear Kings, *side eyes at Dante* Please note that Sarah for instance was the one who asked Father Abraham to n*ck Haggai for the purpose of recreation. When that one started overstepping her bounds, mama asked Oga to send them away and he obeyed osiso.
Abi when Queen Vashti damned the consequence and refused to come and be displayed like a piece of art to entertain the King's guests. Women of old were no fools and were not a "die there" breed. I don't know what Bible these people are reading chacha.
I understand your point but alot of women are so naive that they don't get to learn these things anywhere apart from the church. They'll think 'oh, am married so nobody is looking at me, and there is no need putting much effort in taking care of myself...'
DeleteTalking about teaching them to be Godly, what about the Godly teachings they received during the other church activities?I don't think there should be any special teaching on 'godliness' for women alone. Such teaching should be for men and women alike. Teach them together so that they will all learn , unlearn and relearn together and nobody will claim that he has not heard.
Religious gatherings shouldn't have heavenly focus alone. There are diverse things we need to learn while we are on earth to promote of lifestyle, values, moral and total wellbeing. I have seen alot of christian girls who don't know how to take good care of themselves , taking care of yourself is not necessarily for the men alone, one can get you embarrassed, underate you or even seclude you from a benefit because you look unkept amidst other people.
On the other hand, there should also be a men's day for the same thing. That day, the concelor will teach them how to love their wives even after motherhood has changed her physique..., teach them other secrets which are for men alone.
Ego won't let some men to visit the hospital for medical checkup when the wife is TTC. They assume it is automatically the fault of the woman once the child is not coming forth. So these things needs to be thought to the men in church because they may have no other place to learn stuff like that.
Madam Enenche please is the not checking of phone applicable when the man has given you reasons to suspect him? You will not check until he squanders the money he is supposed to use for the kids upkeep on another married woman who has kids for her former husband. When he spends the money training another woman's children and telling you to endure that business is not moving... Or what if your checking would have made you know when he contracted a disease and then you stop being intimate with him until he gets treated?
If part of all her sermons were being posted as this, you would have known she covered everything you mentioned and much more.
DeleteBut bloggers know the ones that will stir controversy and generate traffic for them. So, they take a part (usually not all) and most times, a context to suit the narrative they are trying to drive.
So spare religious leaders. They are doing their best and preach balance sermons
How's that her privacy when we're meant to be one? Snooping has been helping me stay at least 2 steps ahead.
ReplyDeleteThanks pastor but do what pleases you and let me do mine.
Da iz all mbok!😂
DeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteIs it my mummy that said this thing? I am shocktalized!
ReplyDeleteI'm a married man. But this one wey she talk no follow. Every married woman should go through her husband phone from time to time. It is not that you don't trust your husband. It is just that you are recharging the trust and removing cobwebs. Yes o!
Oshey, team Nokia charger and APC broom.
Delete😅😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
God bless you sir 🙏
DeleteDog Almighty ehhhh...🤣🤣🤣
Delete😂😂😂😂
DeleteDogA,this shows you weren't in church during the just concluded DRC convention. It's one of the best messages I've heard,kindly download and listen to the entire thing. Some people have amazing testimonies from that day.
DeleteEven you sef,you don't know the amazing maama you get? She no dey ever cap careless
One thing I will say about snooping is that, people should do whatever works for them and makes them feel alright.
ReplyDeleteFor me, I have never snoop and I don't like the idea either. I always have this mindset and would be like ''Why do I even want to see something that will make me stop loving this beautiful person I've known and invested so much emotion on.''
I don't touch my woman's phone and she doesn't touch mine. Sometimes she will give me her phone to watch a comedy skit and after watching, I will give it back to her without scrolling or doing any other thing.
I believe nature has a way of revealing things to anyone in life and let me say this right now. People always have a way of revealing who they are at the long run.
You just have to give them the space and time to do so. Believe me, no mask can be worn forever.
It's the last two paragraphs for me...so true
DeleteMrs Eneche is telling women their husband’s phone is his privacy but the Bible says in marriage two shall become one. Madam if my body is not my privacy to my husband, ordinary phone will never be his privacy as long as we are married.
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Leave her make she dey play.
DeleteThe talk is vexing me.
'shall' means it's a process. The Bible didnt say the two are one. What this means is that with time, the two will fuse into one soul but we should not is that the process takes time and the time taken can't be the same with all relationships cos we all grow at different rates.
DeleteAnother reason to love you Fan! Very practical!
DeleteListen to the whole message. Leave these bloggers trying to generate traffic.
DeleteBtw. It's not my church. But I know how people can always look for what to pin preachers down.
For me o I kinda agree. If theman is a good husband and father, has money and takes care of his family and provides very well then remove your eyes. The only problem is stds😭
ReplyDeleteWhich is even a bigger prblm than not providing for the kids, cos one shot of std from him can make u birth a deformed child God forbid. One yeye small girl he is pursuing, fit mk him throw u out from the house pata pata, yes, the way there is yahoo+, now most of these tooth pick legged girls, add jazz to their waka.
DeleteSo pls from time to time check, fight it out, and continue with your marriage.
Not only stds, many women and children have died or run mad because of spiritual attacks from unknown rivals…
DeleteThe phone should sha be available for viewing whenever I want to. Even though I don’t even check, no time abeg. Plus, I have not had any reason to anyway.
ReplyDeleteWomen Una hear, stop looking for what is not lost except he asked you to take his phone and you can look. Let's respect privacy as far as I don't give you my phone, keep yours. Many are in pains for looking. It is well with men and women
ReplyDeleteSnooping is allowed abeg
ReplyDeleteY'all should check and double check and triple check
Lol, quadruple check self
DeleteThat was how a friend's sister got to know her husband is HIV positive after snooping and the man never wanted to tell her,she went to test and she was positive too, now she is on drugs... assuming she did not snoop, that's how she will continue her life maybe without symptoms till it turns to full blown AIDS. Abeg everyone should do what suits them, except I no see opportunity to snoop oo
ReplyDeleteMehn, how can people be heartless. How do you get STDs and pass it to your wife? 😭😭😭. Now she has tested positive. God please oh. I will snoop, snooper, snoopest.
DeleteAhhh!!!
DeleteSome men are evil. Gosh
DeleteEven we wey never see anything strange or suspicious once still dey check. I’m never going to stop. If una like preach privacy from now till forever, e no concern me
ReplyDeleteThank you oh. Even if he's not cheating, we will continue to snoop.
DeleteIt is this speaking from both sides of their mouth that even irks one. She said in one breath that she and her husband have access to each other's phones as they are not passworded; yet in the next moment she is advising other women not to have access to their husbands'. How about preaching that couples should be open about everything including their phones if they really have no skeletons in their closet?
ReplyDeletePersonally, I do not like people touching my phones and that includes my children especially because of the sensitive nature of what I do and certain information I am privy to. My spouse has never given me a reason to suspect any kurukere moves and he asks me to pick his calls when in the bathroom too even though I'd rather not. But then, the day I dream any "cloudy" dream or begin to suspect him, if I no bug him phone, my name is not Amebonawork. (Hi Ladybug onye nsogbu 1 of SDK blog 🤪).
And this is not just a "sidechick" thing. I watch and read a lot of crime stuff and have seen lots of women who didn't know they were married to serial killers, paedophiles, ritualists, armed robbers etc. Like the one who recently found out that her husband impregnated her mom just a week or two after their marriage several years ago. So, the kids she thought were her brothers were actually her stepsons according to DNA. Her own mother was the sidechick! Enemy within. Another found out too late that her medical doctor husband actually exhumed corpses to harvest their tissues and other body parts for sale on the black market. I was so teary when their two sons talked about how the experience adversely affected them.
My only advice to women will always be: Be prepared for both the snooping and the after-snooping. If you no dey work dey make your own money, na the man dey shoulder 100% responsibilities on top you and your extended family head, you contribute nothing because you have NOTHING to contribute and there are children involved, you do not believe in divorce or you'd rather die there, then don't bother to snoop. It's useless. Snooping is for ladies/women who have the wherewithal to start life afresh on their own terms.
This Amebonawork, l pull cap for you. Very intelligent, reasons and writes well.
DeleteI admire you a lot cos I was like you when I was much much younger.
Applauding your last paragraph
DeleteI'll do what works for me. Many women are treating one infection or another because of the wayward life of their horseband, I believe if they had snooped, may be, just may be they'll have discovered early that their horseband is a cheat
ReplyDeleteAnd just maybe after discovering, what next? Pls I would like to know and learn.
DeleteAgain, look up above and see a fellow woman's comment that reads;
''.....If the man is a good husband and father, has money and takes care of his family and provides very well then remove your eyes. The only problem is stds''😭
Suffice it to say most married women that are stuck in their marriage after discovering their husband cheat, do so cos he's wealthy and they're being taken good care of going by the comment in quote above by that anonymous. It means again, broke men can't cheat in peace but rich men can and it will be excused.
Wonderful!!!
Do you see the reason why I said yesterday that not every advice of strangers telling people to leave their matrimonial home should be taken too serious. Some of these advisers and online champions have endured and tolerated way too much and still holding on in their own dilapidated marriages but will lure others to take a walk.
Since you're into scrolling up and down this morning, scroll up read Amebonawork's comment, scroll back down and respond especially the part "If you no dey work dey make your own money, na the man dey shoulder 100% responsibilities on top you and your extended family head, you contribute nothing because you have NOTHING to contribute and there are children involved, you do not believe in divorce or you'd rather die there, then don't bother to snoop. It's useless. Snooping is for ladies/women who have the wherewithal to start life afresh on their own terms."
DeleteThe tables are turned and it's no longer business as usual and they don't know how to deal with what women have been dealing with for centuries.
tj Please do what works for you let Anne and others do what works for them.
DeleteWhy are you referring her to what the other person wrote? The space is enough for everyone to air their opinion.
Please learn when to shuush it okay, it will help in your new relationship...okachamara
Lord have mercy, very wonderful indeed- out of all the comments on the page that is the only one he singled out, even the commenter ended the comment with scepticism of what they just said because the ended it with std's which is a serious issue and a reason to snoop if cheating is suspected.
DeleteThen went totally out of point to backup his- Do you see the reason why I said yesterday that not every advice of strangers telling people to leave their matrimonial home should be taken too serious.
Very laughable as you can see.
Teejay, the fact that a woman made such comment doesn't mean we all reason and act same way, not all women are swayed by money you know. One man's food is poison to another.
DeleteNow back to your question, if a woman discover her husband is cheating or having extra marital affairs, it's left for her to know the next step to take like protecting herself against any STIs, sitting down the man for a heart to heart talk about how hurtful his infidelity is, or take a break from him if he refuses to change.
Why are these women crying on my rejoinder on Anne's comment? In my first paragraph, I said I want to learn before proceeding to state the obvious you women often chant here. What have I done bad? Not as if I countered Anne's comment. Rather I asked a question that an answer wasn't given.
DeleteIs it not here on this same blog I read a thing for the first time as 'wasted sin' implying when a side chick sleeps around with a broke sugar daddies😂😂😂😂
Whoever takes some of you women here, supposed mothers seriously, I only but have pity for such fellow.
I know the kind of women and mothers I will desire and look out for their comments here anytime any day.
So the fact cos a woman is poor and her family too, she should remain with a wealthy husband that cheat and capable of transferring STDs to her simply cos marriage is all there's to life @ Anon 11:31.
Wonderful!
Where then is a woman's dignity? So poverty should erase one's senses and dignity?
So if she wasn't married, would her and have family not had survived in life?
Thank You Anne,
DeleteYou're intelligent. You're one among the few married women here I respect a lot and love reading from.
Your answer is quite appreciable.
Teejay it is not all about poverty for a woman which seems to be the basis of your argument, there are so many other issues involved. Children, religion i.e they don't believe in divorce etc. Multiple people cannot be wrong and only you are right. Suck it up bro.
DeleteAnon 13:18,
DeleteYou still don't get it and I'm sorry, I don't have strength anymore to explain.
Onye agwara amarago 😡
I made that comment and YES, you cannot be broke and cheating, abeg pick a struggle!. For me cheating is not the worst thing in the world, na you get your blokus. Do what you want with it. I cannot be stressing myself trying to get someone to stop cheating. I guess I am emotionally disconnected. I think most women have to emotionally disconnect from these men to maintain their sanity. I can never depend on a man emotionally again.They are always gonna do what they want. As long as he keeps his shenanigans far from home, he should continue! Na he go tire. As I said the only problem is how to avoid stds. For me its not actually an issue as I am divorced and celibate!
DeleteIf I can't check his phone, he won't check mine too. If he is always 'busy' on his phone, I will try to be 'busy' on mine too. If I have to treat STDs every now and then, I will sit him down and ask questions. If he is found wanting, na there wahala go dey.
ReplyDeleteThey are entitled to their opinion,me I check Wella, he has my password,I have his including email and ATM na so.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand how these people interpret the Bible, I thought when two become one there's no privacy again and no secrets between them? So how am I invading my husband's personal privacy by touching his phone when we've become one?🤷🏽♀️
ReplyDeleteAs long as we see each other's nakedness everyday, God punish that thing called privacy
Thank goodness I don't really listen to these online gibberish cause eh, most re IQ reducing and capable of making one act stupid at times.
God bless you. How can you be asking for privacy when you're seeing each others nakedness and also sharing body fluids. It is well.
DeleteMen know this and no peace, it is the 21st century. Women are stepping up and breaking boundaries in their careers, earning huge amounts. Anyday you cheat, you're gone.
Don't worry you're also are wealthy as a man, but don't expect the woman to stay in that marriage.
This is a man talking. Go into the corporate world, then you'll know it is best to control your sexual urges.
Women especially the high earning, won't condone your indiscipline. Same thing I tell my daughter's.
Moral is : CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL URGES. IT PAYS
Listen to the whole sermon before drawing your conclusion
DeleteBy the way, where is it written in the Bible that 'Wives should not check their husbands phone?', The Bible told us to be submissive, respectful,loving towards our husbands. The Bible didn't ask us to act like dundee or mumu towards our husbands. Mtcheeeeew
ReplyDeleteIs this applicable to a man who has given you reasons to suspect him?
ReplyDeleteMy own is that, please check his phone if he has given you reasons to suspect him.
ReplyDeleteMy own self na them still they check my phone all the time even though I don't give them any reason to suspect. I have never picked up a guys phone to snoop. Until I fall in love then I will know if I will be a snooping partner or not. My phone will be with them for the whole time we are together. They'll say ' let me see your photos' from photos, they proceed to Whatsapp, mail... It doesn't get to me anyway. As they hold my phone I don't even have an iota of interest in their phone. What do I want to watch in your phone that I can't have on this Internet? Is it comedy, movie, I don't care about your pix. It's the you that am seeing right before me that I care about; except you decide to show me the things you consider interesting in your phone. Make I love firt, maybe by then I fit dey check their phones.
Exactly, they will make it seem as if its only women that snoop or its only women that are interested in their horsesbands phone.
DeleteMen are the biggest snoops and gossips you can ever come across, when it comes to nagging its them because half the time women just switch off and stop listening to their rants and keep quiet for them until the man gets tired and shuts up.
Money nko you will hear women love money too much so men don't love money, they don't love money and one man will have 40 houses in different countries and they keep looting countries and the masses' wealth all over the world and they don't love money, they just do it for fun because their bored.
Women are ashawo and oloshos but we all know without even any statistics that men are the biggest cheats, bigamists, adulterers and sexually perverted on earth.
They will say fear women, women are dangerous but facts and statistics also show that when it comes to crime men have the highest crime rate more than women all over the world. They commit the most violent and most despicable crime you can ever think of.
Women also commit crime but most of the crimes they commit always involves a man, or it is because of a man, or they committed the crime because of a man. Men can freely commit a crime without the influence of any woman, male serials killers have said they killed just because they wanted to know how it felt like to kill a person.
But the same men will boldly tell you to fear women. I have never seen a specie on earth that is as dangerous as men.
13:50, truly, I am surprised people are not talking about how their men snoop. All the men I have something to do with always go through my phone...
DeleteYou see that gossip eh? Give it to them. I am currently doing something in a place where am the only laddy. These guys surprise me with the way they gossip any lady that passes by chai!
On the issue of checking phones, both partners should snoop o, e get why. If you leave your husband or wife to chance, based on trust, then you are on a long thing.
ReplyDeleteMy husband doesn't check, but his phone is at my disposal. He doesn't even call if I stay out late, he will just buy food and eat with the kids, and sleep off. In the morning he'd say hope my outing was cool. I asked him why he's nonchalant about my whereabouts, he said I'm an adult, he cannot tell me what or whatnot to do. If I go on official assignment, he won't call, just text to find out how I'm doing. He just isn't bothered and it bothers me. I have deliberately stayed it till 1am, he and the kids slept off like I don't matter .
ReplyDeleteMy husband is almost like urs. I have asked why he doesn’t check my phone and he will just shrug it off and say ‘I know you’. I’m not sure I like this behavior.
DeleteIf I go out and I stay out late, he will only call to ask if I’m coming home soon and if not, I should tell him what to eat.
Guy is super unbothered and believes we are all adults that should know right from wrong without any policing.
He will just focus on his PS 5 and movies when I’m away.
I’m just glad he’s married to someone like me that is so not interested in taking this freedom for granted and abusing it because if not ehn, na him kind e go easy women to betray
Chai. This one can pain o
DeleteThere is a level you get to mentally,and that makes you see “Humans” as humans..family,friends,enemies,husband or wife not exempted..
DeleteAnything can happen and nothing would ever come as a surprise,you live without expectations from any and everyone;hopeful for the best but always prepared for the worst..
It doesn’t mean you aren’t loved by your husband or that he doesn’t care,he is just giving you a long rope to be free and hoping you have enough “common sense” never to take his nature for granted..
The day you ever cheat,he would be the first to know cos such people have a very active instinct;and truth is they are unforgiving when it comes to betrayed love and loyalty..
Mess it up once,just once and you would wonder if this your husband or wife has ever loved you all these years..
Your husbands are one of the few good ones;God bless your homes and here is wishing you all the best..
@MARTINS
Martins,
DeleteI'm not sure you take alcohol or do you?😂😂😂😂
I for say make I run you some liquid on green bottles. Your comment is so apt on this.
Spot on!, you sound like you're such a man as well and thats why you got it locked. God bless you.
DeleteTeejay
ReplyDeleteYou keep asking if some women snoops and find out their man is cheating what next? Yet you haven't gotten a satisfying answer. You are starting to think the reason you are not getting an answer is because some of these women don't know what to do but na lie.
Don't be deceived they just don't want to let you in or give you the answer you are looking for because most don't want to reveal it to you.
There are different categories I have noticed o
1) These first category are ruthless
They cut off their men's privates due to unbridled anger and jealousy. Some do it slow poison. They won't divorce the man but make him useless.
I remember my friend telling me that he would never cheat in marriage but if at all he cheats and his wife finds out he will never eat her food again or sleep with one eye open.
I am sure you have read countless news headlines of men whose private parts were cut off or men who were stabbed in their sleep because of cheating. Na dem dem
2) these second category cheat back. They engage in revenge sex. A larger percentage fall into this category don't let them deceive you
They have past ex-boyfriends who are still giving them the green light and current sexual partners who are also married so the husband will never find out because their married lover also has his own home to protect. They are what we call"two can play the game" gang.
They are the ones that will come out and say all men cheat because they have married men they are *****
3) This third category will not cheat because they don't want to stoop low to the level of the cheating partner but they are not entirely harmless. They have their plans cut out for. They are the ones who are waiting for the children to grow up and then suddenly leave the man in old age. We have read many stories like these here on this blog. some of them relocate without divorcing the man but live their lives as they want away from their marital confines.
4) The fourth category is what most men that cheat believe their wives fall into because they feel their innocent wives don't cheat. but it is a lie that these women have made men believe. This category only stays back because they have no means to leave. The man is their source of livelihood if not for poverty or financial lack they would have japaed since even Usain Bolt has got nothing on them.
Wow!!! Thanks for this. So understandable and explanatory as well.
DeleteWahala for cheaters 😂😂😂
LOL good explanation. I would fall in the third category.
DeleteWow times 2, please also post your analysis on the husbands and how they operate.
DeleteAnon 13:18:, this number three looks exactly like what I can do
DeleteMy aunty is 3, her husband got another woman preggy, went ahead and married her, she no do pin, jejely relocated abroad, its been over 8yrs she left. Her kids are grown mostly, the last is in university. Funny enough the second wife also left him, now he is sending emissaries to beg the first to come back or he will come over and join her.
DeleteYou can't eat your cake and have it back, which is what most Nigerian men do
I dey check from time to time o. Men too are smart now, some remove exhibits from their phones regularly
ReplyDeleteThis is a case of "Tell us your husband is a cheat without saying your husband is a cheat"
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeletea member of our church too is number 3, she left the man when her last child gave birth, stayed before, after and all through covid even when people called her that her husband was ill. she told them that she was taking care of her grandson. the husband's aunt came to take care of her husband. she came a month after the husband died for the funeral with her children and left two days after. i think her kids aided her and wanted their dad to suffer because of all he made their mum go through. i heard she told her husband to call all his girlfriends to come and take care of him.
ReplyDelete