MARRIED TO A SERIAL CHEAT
Good day Stella.
Good day Stella.
I just need cool advice on my situation. My marriage is not even up to a year and my husband's attitude baffles me.
Last month I caught him downloading several p#rn to his phone and I was mad. I let him know how bad I felt about this and he apologised and which I forgave him.
The recent one now is that I got hold of a dirty conversation he had with his ex, telling her he misses her and how he wants to make love to her. On this particular one, he said he was only joking but it just didn't sound like a joke at all. Even the lady was stressing to him how she can't have anything to do with him again and she respects the fact he belongs to someone else.
Another is that of a sales girl or whatever she may be in a shop he goes to buy things according to him. They have dirty talks I can't even begin to type here due to how disgusting they both sounded to me. And its so sad to think that when i am home praying for God to guide and watch over my husband, though he gives me the impression of how busy he is but this is what actually happens.
Do I say I blame it on the fact that i am pregnant at the moment? Even at that I have never starved him s#xually but why must he beg for it from pigs?
He has apologised severally but my take on cheating is that if a man cheats on you, do same to him.
The problem now is that I can't trust him anymore especially when he claims to travel for work purpose, of course I now see the work. He just irritates the hell out of me and I can't even see myself making love to him. I have been crying non stop for 12hrs and I have been told this is not good for my unborn child.
What do I do?
I found this in my old folder and dont know how long ago i forgot it there but if you are reading..... Ignore him and focus on the child if you have given borth and he is still a serial cheat.. Men like that hardly change and they end of gifting you a pot pourri of std's.....
Ignore him!
Signs are always there before Marriage though. You don enter, focus on your baby and use protection going forward.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand this your stand of cheat back? So your husband becomes a pig, you will become one too. Wonder will not finish.
All I have to say is, never blame yourself, it’s not because you are pregnant, it’s simply because he is a cheat… simple
DeletePush up (original)
I used to hide my ID but today I won't, Madam you are a very dirty pig that can't caution her horseband. How dare you call other ladies that your husband is asking out pig??? That name suits your horseband.
DeleteLike seriously I'm disgusted at her choice of word. Madam your husband is the dirty pig here.
DeleteYou lack common sense that is why you couldn't see the handwriting on the wall cos from day one this ur horseband has always been a serial cheat.
Rubbish
If the women are pigs, what is your husband?
ReplyDeleteA pig herder or pig farmer, I guess.
DeleteAnd she appears as a person who wants to join them in the sty with her pregnancy or would have since done that but for her pregnancy.
DeleteWhoever told women feminism is being like a bad and wayward man?
The husband na the chief bush pig ..
DeletePoster,wrong choice of words.
Imagine calling her fellow human PIG. That shows how your inside is. One shouldn’t have your type around because you throw condescending names and attitude towards people you perceive to be lower than you. Na wa o
DeleteImagine her calling the women pigs , forgetting that she married the Oga patapata of pigs!
DeleteYou can't change his type o
ReplyDeleteStay focused and do what you have got to do
Don't let anybody dampen your spirit
Poster, tell him to look for a recovery coach to help him control his behaviour. Yes a man can learn how to control his sexual urges. It takes 2years in the programme. He can also use plant medicine and register for a mindfulness meditation group.
ReplyDeleteCan you ignore a pot boiling over and spilling hot water which will potentially cause severe injuries? Can you ignore a burning house and simply hope that the fire will not destroy everything in it?
ReplyDeleteDo what is best for your health and peace of mind.
Be aware that STDs can lead to birth defects to your unborn, including blindness, hepatitis, deafness, and even death.
Make decisions for your safety and that of your child. You only have one life to live, and it is very short.
Your husband still has a lot of growing up to do. Don't think about divorce at the moment. Focus on your coming baby and yourself.
ReplyDeleteIf i tell you your man will change, I'll be lying to you.
Hmmmmmm cheating back I no dey
ReplyDeleteMadam your husband is pig here stop decieving yourself a man telling his ex how he wants to make to her and the woman is even advising him please who is the pig here abeg wake up from your slumber
ReplyDeleteI came her to say this. Which one is "he's begging from pigs"?
DeleteSomeone that the woman he's toasting is begging him to be faithful. Your husband is a philandering swine and that's the truth.
And no, it's not because you are pregnant, don't blame yourself or other women, blame the thing you married.
By the way, do not cheat back or you're reducing yourself to his level. I know that I'd rather get a legal separation or a divorce than to live with a cheating husband.
My dear you are married to a Nigerian man so your expectations should be rock bottom. #facts.
ReplyDeleteIn the meantime, protect yourself from STDs and all types of incurable sexual diseases. Many of these randy pigs that you women are married to are a sewer full of strange diseases and have no shame or self control.
They would gladly share these diseases with their wives. Be extremely careful.
I was so surprised at the number of women whose kpekus he has licked and he doesn't use condoms
DeleteThe same mouth he uses to preach as church elder. Hmmmm
Are you sure you are not just talking about the type of Nigerian men in your circle or those you deserve?
DeleteWhat business there is between a Rock top woman with men at the Rock bottom?
When a woman is at the Rock bottom. What kind of men does she expect to find there? Rock top men?
Dey play urself.
Ah tor, thank God you have confirmed it. Please protect yourself completely. Many of these diseases have no cure plus the foul stench that comes from your privates and the clotted substances.
DeleteThe ones that they say have a cure require that you will spend the rest of your life swallowing pills every single day.
Nothing concern me with swine.
you have entered one chance...women your prayer before marriage is very important....singles give your life to Christ and do serious prayer and fasting before marriage, yes it is that serious. there are men who do not cheat....i agree some make mistakes and cheat, that you can manage but the one like this posters husband should not be marrying anybody's daughter....
ReplyDeleteposter try keep calm for the sake of your baby. go and know your health status and dont let that man sleep with you without condom...let him know you do not trust him and you need to protect your life too...your husband is very promiscuous and only God can change him at this point. no be nagging and quarel because he obviously is an addict. if he doesnt change and you are pushed to cheat then honourably leave the marriage. dem no dey use marriage certificate go heaven
Abegiiiii rest with this headless advice, who pray pass Osinachi? You've not seen some virtuous women married to the most useless beastly Nigerian men. Abegiiiii afi pray before kini kan kan kan...mtshewwee www
Deletedon't let anyone deceive you, any man who cannot control himself because his wife is pregnant is a dog....there are different ways your wife can satisfy you sexually if she cannot have sex due to pregnancy...never blame yourself for a cheating man. cheating is a CALCULATED CHOICE
ReplyDeleteDo what's good for your health, ensure he doesn't transfer STD to you
ReplyDeleteYou call the ladies pig, but your horseband is no way better. Let me not go through the regular chant of didn't you notice the red flag?
ReplyDeleteMy advice ... Focus on your unborn child, protect yourself while at it.
Poster your husband will never change cos is already in his blood. A man doesn't cheat cos you are pregnant but because he want to cheat. Stop making excuses for his cos he is your husband.
ReplyDeleteYou called those ladies pigs when your husband is a dog and a pig at the same time. Face your husband who will not concentrate on you but flirting with girls. Those girls are not your problem at the moment but the thing you married. You can't believe what your husband would have told them about you, he may claim you are dead or you cannot perform. Some will tell girls they are divorced just to have a cookie. Go fix your man and stop insulting girls. I felt bad with the insults cos you didn't include your husband to that insult.
The woman encouraging him is a part of the problem. We should stop excusing women who sleep with or urge on wayward men.
DeleteYou have two options girl. Stay or leave.
ReplyDeleteStart by asking him to use condoms
ReplyDeleteNa another human being you Dey call pig so o..I nor get advice for you
ReplyDeleteYour mindset towards the ‘other woman’ is stinking! Excusing your philandering husband and calling the women who are even rejecting him pigs .
ReplyDeleteYou’re on a long thing , dey play .
Well, this is certainly not rare. Many women get cheated on when they are pregnant. It seems your husband is a hyper sexual person or a downright scoundrel. If he is an extremely sexual person some discussion and preparation should have been made on how you would both navigate the pregnancy. It doesn’t appear that any conversation was had. I am not sure why couples think these conversations are unnecessary and things will just fall into place. If you have a randy man or woman on your hands there has to be certain discussions that must be had.
ReplyDeleteIf your husband is just a dirty rotten scoundrel, then you will have to decide how much you can take. Folks who are entering into marriage to please the society or their parents should find someone on the same path. Deceiving someone with the illusion of love where none exists is an abomination. Your husband has no intention of stopping. You married a man you knew nothing about and he is beginning to show who he truly is. Again, only you can decide how much you can take. He is obviously not a monogamous minded person. Sexually, you are unequally yoked .
I'm sorry to say this, 98% of Nigeria men are cheats. Believe it or leave it
ReplyDeleteWho do they cheat with? Alaskan women?
DeleteI feel so bad for you. It's not so easy to ignore as people are saying. You'd break finally especially if he doesn't stop. It's with you give him space for your peace of mind or you actually manage living with such a man
ReplyDeleteThis is so very sadðŸ˜. They go into marriage fully intending to cheat and treat their wives bad. Horrible
ReplyDeleteAlways pray for your husband ,the sings were there but you didn't notice it
ReplyDeleteThe problem with the world, both men and women, married and single are addicted to porn due to easy access to it on the phone... this addiction is insatiable... it will continue to burn out of control and in the process destroy everything those involved. Today the world worships sex in various forms, from those who sell it, to those who consume it, in form of entertainment, music, video, jokes, dressing, food, medicine, dressing, discussions, and advice. Many souls rush into hell because of this than for other sins. Countless big men and women, celebrities, politicians have been ruined by lust and eternally disgraced. Purify your thoughts and censor your choice of entertainment... only the pure in heart shall see God is not an option but a certainty.
ReplyDeleteStop glorifying carnalality... the devil has polluted mankind that many seem to depend on sex like the air they breathe...
Mankind need help... repent and call on Jesus Christ, the victorious One to deliver you from this today.