SET UP MINDSET
House I am thinking of doing something bad to one of our company's Director.
The thing is that I have been hearing that this man loves women but I didn't believe cos he is a church kind of person.
When he was working in a state far from my state of resident, I was told he was sleeping with a married woman who he kept on promoting even when she didn't deserve it. I didn't believe that cos I know some people can spoil someone's name for no reason.
Now we work in the same state, he kept on saying that he was always afraid to speak to me cos he tot I was so tough and may be proud to talk to. He didn't know I was so simple, kind and nice. When it comes to work I know my job, I respect my boss but if you try to step on my neck you will collect.
The reason I want to set him up is that he has been making advances on me, one day he try touching my breast but I got hold of hands and throw the hand away. The other day I went to drop some documents at his office, guy man went behind me and held me. Trying to pull me closer to him so that my waist can be touching his something but I left the office in a hurry.
He also trying to kiss me but I ran for my life, I will have to face him from time to time cos of my department. I cannot request for a transfer cos I am doing well at my job.
I told him that what if someone sees us what will he say. He is trying to be touching me or making stupid moves. I think of getting a pen, wrist watch camera to record Him and use it to threaten him to promote me.
I told him that what if someone sees us what will he say. He is trying to be touching me or making stupid moves. I think of getting a pen, wrist watch camera to record Him and use it to threaten him to promote me.
I am not ready to date or sleep with and I cannot report this harassment to anyone cos no one will believe me since no proof.Something is saying this may not end well if I try it, I am beautiful with good front and back that can set your body on fire but I am not sleeping with any of my colleagues.
Will it be okay if I should do what I am having in mind? Mind you I have spoken to him one on one that I do not flirt or flirt with married men. This is not ending anything soon cos Oga will not rest.
You are planning on setting him up because he is a womaniser? How will that make you feel? If you dont want, face front and mind your business please!.Look at your mindset, you are evil and worse than he is!
Leave the man alone continue to resist him if you are not Interested but i leave you to your conscience if you set him up to get what you want...
Don't do it. Continue with your job as you have always done. You can discuss with him that you are due and qualified for promotion. If he agree without any form of attachment, great, if not let him know his place.
ReplyDeleteHas front and back that can set body on fire? ESE fire cracker, go and set your English on fire too. Develop your brain and mindset also everything no be Nyansh.
Delete@15:36 😂😂
Delete@Anon 15:35,thank you oo!!
DeleteHer written English off me patapata..
Bia here poster,instead of you setting up that man,kindly take... the advice up here and try setting up your written English bikonu
To move on as if nothing is happening is not easy, very soon he would try to frustrate her. Been there done that. I lost my Job in march because I wouldn't date my Boss..please if you can gather evidence, do and keep and stay away from him. You will be needing that evidence to save your ass in the future, trust me.
DeleteI won't make the same mistake again of not having an evidence of sexual harassment
Don't mind Stella, you are not evil.
DeleteGather as much evidence as you can and continue to do your job.
If he continues to insist, let him know you have enough evidences to finish him off and make him aware you have the evidence(s) secure with 1 or 2 more people who will bring them out should anything happen to you and watch his madness disappear, some of these useless men deserve all the evil that befall them.
Don't blackmail him for promotion, just continue to do your job diligently.
Dainty, I stan ..with u 100%
DeleteI'll never think twice or even waste 1 second to destroy or delete a womanizer, bigot, misogynist, tribalist racist etc... dem belong to same level of subhuman categories.
Please do what dainty typed. Don’t mind those abusing you. Them no reach. Just obtain evidence in case he decides to mess YOU up
DeleteThe goat harassing her is not evil abi, yet she the victim is?
DeleteVictim shaming is not good Stella, please stop it
Abusing his office to coerce or force her is pure evil , thank you
Some men are bingos. Na the thing wey dey bring dem down be dat.
DeleteSet him up. Which one is ignore?? That’s why men get away with such rubbish in this country
DeleteDon't do what you are planning cos it may not end well.
ReplyDeleteRequest for a transfer if it can be done, you can be good at what you do there.
Then when she transfers to another place and meets another bingo, she should transfer again as per house fly ba?
DeleteNigerian women, you need to be bold. Your timid ways always set you up for a lifetime of failure and several levels below your male counterparts.
Poster, be bold and clip that bingo's balls where it needs to be razored off.
Get a pen Camera and report him to the appropriate authorities. This man is an Onye Apari. This is OFFICE SEXUAL ASSAULT. Seems the man wants to lose his job.
ReplyDeleteGod I'll have reported him a long time ago. No need to use it as promotion. It will backfire. But use it to kick him out, so other women will not go through what you're going through.
Exactly!! Bastard man.
Delete👉👉👉 you are ✅💯 correct anon15:11... She needs evidence to nail that man in future because he might want her out of the job/department because she turned down his advances. Smart girl.
DeleteExactly! Please do what you have to do to get this man off your back else he'll frustrate you to resignation or transfer.
DeleteHe's a stupid old fool if he can't keep his d**k in check.
Twins ♊ Squared.
Don't give the devil a chance.. Warn him very well to keep his hands off your body.
ReplyDeleteStella, read again. she said she wants promotion. That means she wants to capitalise on the situation to get her promotion. If the man continues to harrass her despite her warning she should set him up to teach him a lesson.
ReplyDeleteAnd if she is due for promotion and not given then it's game time.
Sometimes self I no dey understand Madam Stella's advice. Poster you are not evil get enough evidence and report him, let him know that there is 2 or 3 more persons that are holding the evidence as well.
DeleteRecord him since he doesn't want to respect his old age. After recording him, send it to him and warn him seriously to act his age or else...
ReplyDeleteIf you continue keeping quiet, he won't stop and someone might see that and blame you that you're seducing him.
Preach to him to consider his kids esp his daughter. What kind of father do they see him as?
Poster just do the recording for future evidence sake. He might want to victimize you in future for refusing his advances, so just gather your evidence and keep for the rainy day. Forget setting him up, just face your job and keep reprimanding him. Be firm and stand your ground dt you ain't interested. But please hold your evidence tight,he will want to deal with you later
ReplyDeleteYes, same thing I typed above, poster keep the arsenal for when you'll need it.
DeleteYou want to get evidence to set him up but that same evidence won’t be enough to report him? Lol…
ReplyDeleteSee me looking at Stella's advice 😏
ReplyDeleteShe has done everything possible for that man to stop but he won't and is not planning to.
Maybe you have never been sexually harassed by your superior before, that is why you don't understand her.
Poster, don't you have a HR you can confide in and ask for another department?
I am afraid that this man will succeed one day oh, even if it's rape😫, he might.
You are been sexually harassed at your work place and the only thing in your mind is how to get a phony promotion from it.
ReplyDeleteSo You want to set him up and then blackmail him into promoting you????
That’s disgusting actually.
From the way you are going you would soon be on his bed as this your excuse of ‘what if people see us’ sounds more like playing hard to get than actually telling him off, reason he keeps making more attempts of his sexual harassment.
You can’t eat your cake and have it, if it’s promotion you want you know what to do but if you really want the abusé to stop you also know what to do.
Blackmail is a crime and you could end up in jail for it plus that man could end up hurting you if you go that route.
💯 gbosa. This is sexual harrasment that's leading to rape. Poster RECORD him and REPORT him. It might be too late. This is obsession that could lead to rape. Please report him oh.
Deletesave you and other women in that office. Please don't use it to get promotion. Because other women coming into that office will be sexually harrased.
Poster, please set him up but be careful not to get burnt. Set him up very well self make he learn to keep hin blokos to himself.
ReplyDeleteIt might not end well o. Please just keep telling him off
ReplyDeleteYou want to set him up for being a womaniser?
ReplyDeleteLol
How funny can one get?
Leave him to his games and keep being absolutely resistant as usual since you are not into him
How does that make sense. Madam Stella isn’t perfect and has given a wrong advice, kindly don’t concur. Do you know how it feels to be sexually abused a day not to talk of daily. Why the fuck is he a womanizer, don’t you see how damaged he is and will take women who are just wanting to earn a living down. How long can you resist someone. Stella’s ass licker. Mthewww
DeleteNo offense to you Stella. Love you still but naah! Please reread her story so you can understand her better
You said you don't want to report him because you don't have a proof, but you want to get a proof to threaten him, c'mon what's the difference. You better do something fast before he'll be threatening your promotion or victimising you, be two steps ahead of him girl
ReplyDeleteStella this your advice no gel today
E no gel at all, like say the boss na her brother
DeleteStella's advice gel.
DeletePoster asked whether to gather evidence for blackmail to get a promotion at work. She had not been denied the promotion because of her objections to the harassment.
A blackmailer commits the same crime as the blackmailed.
A victim of a crime or the witness to a crime should speak up with verifiable facts. He/she is not permitted to blackmail the offender with the facts.
TheLegalTrainee
Lol @no gel today!! Your last line cracked me up @pearl
DeleteMs K.
I feel you should give him a strong warning, if he doesn't, you should report him and get good evidence. What if she doesn't report on him and he sets her up as well for not dancing to his tune
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteWetin u wan gain ma? And have you thought about the outcome? Can you stand whatever happens thereafter
Outcome may not be what you pray for instead of promotion it can end in sack because other directors might be doing the same and want to protect their own
ReplyDeletePoster use diplomacy to win this battle
ReplyDeleteStella do you understand what she’s saying
ReplyDeleteHe won’t stop
What do you mean face front
Is that how easy we take sexual harassment
Sister record him
If not for today, record for the day he sets you up cause you have rejected his advances
Someone grabbing for my breast makes me want to go home and cry so not everyone can face front with unwanted touching
Come on. The guy grabbed her from behind
Is her body a joke
I just wonder... Is her body a JOKE?
DeleteA pig walks into your parlour. Would you lie with it to record it for compensation in pork?
DeletePoster appears to work in a Federal ministry or agency. There is room for her to move laterally. If there is none, she should record as protection and seek help from third parties who can talk sense into the man, or bite the B and report to some seniors with a caveat that it is for her to be left alone and not for disciplining of the man.
She should not record for blackmail.
Is Stella serious with this advice at all? This is sexual harassment na. Is it until she gets raped??.. God,what is wrong with pple self???.
ReplyDeleteBut the boss is harassing her already and she has been warning him off.
ReplyDeleteShe needs to get an evidence first since he isn't stopping.
Get something subtle and record him in the act.
Then do what you have to do.
Foolish dog
You are giving that man signals. Cos I don’t understand how that man, out of the blues started touching and trying to kiss you.
ReplyDeleteYou obviously want promotion which is a good thing but the way you want to go about it, it won’t end well.
Sluttychic.
Absolutely!
DeleteLicious babe
Oh pls stop it
DeleteSignal ko
Do you live in the real world
Thank you, SC.
DeleteShe had heard of the man. He too has heard of her.
Na two hungry people jam.
Hunger for kpekus jam hunger for quick promotion.
Poster, don't forget to update us how far it goes. You know we like sweet gist's here.
What do you mean by "giving signals". This is all part of the victim shaming we all condemn. Are you making excuses for the aggressor? Even if she is giving off signals can't he approach her in a decent manner and accept no for an answer?Majority of Nigerian women have experienced this in one way or another...so we are all givers of signals. Someone was trying to shame her for saying that she "set". What's the issue with that. If you've got, you've got it...so she should drape herself in sacks. Some women are shaped in a way that nothing can hide their curves. Men like that, even if you are a "figure 1" they will still try. She should record his every advance and keep it.Not to force a promotion but for the day he will want to frustrate her. The irony is that such actions are atimes perpetrated by those you least expect.
DeleteSometimes you don't have to look for the bee before it stings you
DeleteSignals like satellite dish?
DeleteThe only signal the goat is hearing and receiving is inside his trousers, that is why he is ready to disgrace his gray hair
Entitled fool
Me I have a recording of one useless man like that who didn't want to respect his age. He knows that I have it saved somewhere.. Let's just say that I have had him by his balls for years now and counting. Poster, do what you have to do mbok..
ReplyDeleteObi for president
Wizkid FC
Proudly Tiv
This is serious
ReplyDeleteIs he in a position to make your working conditions hell for you or fire you or influence the decision? If yes, find a way to record his advances towards you. Keep it as your evidence just in case. Don't use it against him unless it's very necessary.
ReplyDeleteCorrect!
DeletePoster tell him have you heard of will Cosby yes that's him , tell him boldly how the mighty has fallen all because of a woman shout tufiakwa ,believe me he will run . One of my antie said she told one of her boss then to watch one film like that ,she said the next day the man passed as if he don't know her case closed,
ReplyDeleteFrom the doctor’s perspective
ReplyDelete1. Poster you are one and same as or worse than your boss. You only sin differently. The one who uses his position to get what he wants (getting laid) in this case, your boss or the one who uses her body to get what she wants (promotion) in this case, your mentioned colleague or the want who uses blackmail to get what she wants, in this case you are all morally bankrupt. Same people, just doing it differently. Right is right and wrong is wrong. None can ever be the other.
2. You really seem not to have a problem with workplace sexual harassment. Matter of fact, you think it’s a plus being that you can leverage on it to get ahead. Please look closely in the mirror and address yourself properly.
3. Blackmail is like malice. Morally, it hurts both parties and legally, it’s a felony or at least a misdemeanor depending on state laws
I wish you a better morality, standards and contentment
Pls, DO NOT LISTEN TO STELLA'S ADVISE! Record the idiot for future reference. Sexual harassment in the work place must/should be recorded. If you've ever been a victim of sexual harassment, you'll not tell her to face front. In Nigeria, failure to yield to sexual demands of senior officers can damage one's carrier regardless of how good you're, your organization can make you train younger staffs so they can easily replace you. Abi should you die today, wont someone else be given your position to handle temporarily?. RECORD THE IDIOT AND BE CAREFUL ABOUT IT!! Let him learn and seek help
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