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HEARTBREAK IS HEARTBREAK

This life o! A non s#xual relaationship breaking hurts as much as a sexual rship breaking. Even if you intentionally go for a celibate relationship but such a ship shatters, you can still get very deeply hurt and scarred.

My story: Na so one of our company doctor toast me that year. He japa'd to Ireland as was the trend for doctors but still kept up with the toasting, dem no born me well if I no pick his calls.

I eventually also went abroad for a course and he was so happy that i was finally overseas. I was based in another country and lived within the capital and he wanted to visit that capital as per bucket list.

I picked him from airport and gave him a clean room (no way would i have slept on same bed with him in my papa house!)
I took time to plan for a few tourist spots for him.

One day, baba doc used my ipad and forgot to log out, I sight one female name, but I didn't read anything deep before signing him out to do my assignments

Na so we dey on our way to one expensive Opera performance, na so he tell me he never knew i was this charming, funny and loving that he felt i was too religiously strict cus i never welcomed sexually charged discussions talkless of heavy petting or any type of sex. That he has to confess that he mistakenly impregnated his then uni girlfriend. He said it was campus chewing gum relationship, and when he tried to break up with her, she wept and he can't stand women tears and in consoling her, things happened and she get belle.

I was so surprised, I managed to ask how old his child is, he said 4yrs old. My people, 3 years is the exact amount of time we met at my workplace and he aggressively chased me and monitored shege out of me..so Tey during one of our long distance calls that year, he was shouting at me that who Is that male voice (na my brothers and dad with football wahala. 

I had to swear and assure him that I no get any bf o) he relocated for better career prospects,, i toowent for studies, and. All. This. Time this man had a child?!...anyway so within that time he don give woman belle, born and she sought refuge in Canada.

I was so shocked. I eventually said in a joking tone that 'you are a doctor, you should advise the rest of us to use condoms, which one is mistakenly, you slipped from her tears and fell into her kpekus? Abi u use prick clean her tears?'... The next thing baba burst into tears, right on our way to the expensive Opera, baba was crying. Oyibo come dey look us. I had to comfort and pet him but my heart was confused. we watched opera and went back to my base.

I asked if he was married, he said not really, I asked If he was single, he didnt give me a straight answer just kept saying he wish he knew i was this respectful this and this caring that, etctera etcetra.

He did his other tourist waka without me...my mind was still in shock and reeling. I couldn't give my all beyond being a great host. He eventually had to fly back to Ireland.

At a point i started wondering if I should fake tears. The shame of my parents knowing one doc used to call me for long hours but they suddenly stopped hearing about him, broke me

My point is that it is not only gbenshing relationship going burst or that is unfavourable to women. Even celibate relationships based on dishonesty cuts and breaks the heart.

We didn't have any s#xual interaction, just hugs. But his secret still hurt me very very very deeply.

Imagine the liar!....I dont even understand why anyone will hide their marital status.. It is good that you dumped but also note that some women are worse when it comes to lying in relationships, they lie about everything.