Hi Stella and Bvs,
The man that sent the Sunday chronicle inspired me to write my own.
Honestly, men are going through pieces of stuff but social media is not ready to hear them. We have conditioned men to be silent and women are using the social media power to torment men.
About five years ago I sent in a chronicle here, I complained that my wife does not help financially in the house. We live abroad and both have good jobs.
I make 3x more than her but she does not contribute anything to the house. I pay all the bills including the food at 100%. I bear all our kid's expenses. If she takes our boys out and she buys anything, she will come back and collect the money from me.
If she buys me gifts on special occasions, after some time, she will still come and find a way to collect the money. She organized my birthday party but gave me the bill. I cannot remember when she paid for anything without collecting it yet she makes money.
I wrote my chronicle then to seek advice and Bvs insulted me, all the comments came back negative, and the reactions were that men are supposed to be the provider. Bvs accused me of wanting her money, I should continue to be a man. I took the feedback and continued to be the good man that I thought I was I continued to pay all the bills and never asked her for a dime. Even, I bought her a new car.
I have never decided without her, she has copies of all my bank cards, and everything I have is both in our names. I made her a priority in my life. I wish someone would have given me good advice when I sent the chronicle... Now to my story....
One day I found her phone ringing, I have never checked her phone but this day, she was sleeping and the phone kept ringing, so I thought it was urgent and I wanted to help her attend to it. That was when I found the mystery of the century.....my wife has built two houses back in Nigeria, she also has two houses she rents here. She has 5 spiritualists that she sent money back to Nigeria to pray and do propitiations for her.
On one of her trips to Nigeria, one of the spiritualists made the incision charms on her VV. She has been controlling my life spiritually. She uses so many fetish and dubious things to cook for me. Under our bed was a pot of charms..it was hell reading through her phone.
No wonder I was a fool for her. I thought I was being the good husband but she charmed me all along. When I confronted her, her defense was she was keeping her money so that when the divorce happened she has her own money. One of the spiritualists had prophesied to her that our marriage will not last and we will eventually divorce. She was preparing for it.
How could you have been preparing for divorce by using me...what happened to walking away then ??? They have begged me and I have forgiven her but I have my plans... don't ask me for my plan but soon she will be back to beg again...
The lesson here is, please let's encourage men to speak up...not all times are women's rights... many times some women are instigators and are the bad ones... let us be fair and give men a chance to speak their minds.
YOU SAY WETIN??????? PLEASE WALK AWAY FROM THAT WOMAN AT ONCE!!!!!!!! I FEAR FOR YOUR LKIDS AND WHAT SHE WOULD HAVE DONE TO THEM SPIRITUALLY OH MY GOD!!!
Run, run, run oh
ReplyDeleteSnooping and saving lives since 1902
DeleteDear poster, kindly pack your load and run away, like run very far away, you are making plans in the same house and on the same bed with a vajayjay filled with incisions, someone with 5 whole prophets, please stop risking your life.
You can forgive her and chose not to be with her, be a good dad by providing for your kids but please let her go, after all she has prepared enough for this divorce, so she must get it, evil woman.
Yes everyone shouldn’t have a “do or die” mentality when it comes to marriage but don’t even go into marriage planning and executing wickedness to someone who has done nothing wrong to you, a man who has provided your every need.
Dear bvs
Any woman or man who doesn’t do anything for you doesn’t love you, giving is the easiest form of LOVE. “For God so loved the world that He gave”
How can your wife give you a gift and still collect money back, what kind of wife is that? A man or woman who cannot give doesn’t love you.
Push up (original)
I don't know why most women travel to abroad to start mosbehaving
DeletePoster all I see here is that you married the wrong woman. You may have seen the signs but still went ahead to marry. Now see.
DeleteOne guy I was dating felt I wasn't slaying enough. I told him I live within my means. He felt also I wasn't rich enough. He started to verbally abuse me and do other despicable things. I can say I did everything I could for this guy within my means, but he never saw it nor appreciated it. When I stood back to observe him, I discovered he seemed to glorify runs girls and slay queens. He was into hookups and he and his friends will be sharing pictures of different girls and ladies on social media. Also he liked big girls with big jobs or businesses, not that this is bad in itself, just showing his criteria. I thank God I dodged not just a bullet but a firing squad. Whichever gender, once your spouse does not love you for you but is after something, you are on a long thing. Not just money, it could be sex, connections, the need to be married, your state of origin, your blood group (important, but marriage is more than that), your family or background, etc.
I am telling this story not because I feel you are like my ex, poster, but probably while you were dating she didn't show any signs of loving you enough to sacrifice anything for you, or treat you better, but you went ahead for reasons best known to you. Also we women have been through it. It is a man's world. You got caught up with a woman that uses juju. You didn't really check the kind of woman she was before you jumped in. Like my ex, after runs girls, will he now marry one and say he is ignorant of the fact that some of them use juju?
And nobody is stopping you men from telling your stories. Most Bvs on the Sunday post were with the poster, as many are with you now regardless of gender. Lastly my story is for the single ladies. Ladies once you know a man does not appreciate you or regard you and is looking elsewhere or has a 'type' where you don't fit in, japa for your own good. I no plan to talk too much, but the lamentations of this bv making it look like women are not going through a lot is not right. You men wrote the book on cheating and hiding things, women are only just learning and mostly it is for survival and not necessarily because they enjoy it. You don't have to agree with me.
Anon 1:57
DeletePlease tell your story some other day.
He is not your Ex.
There is nothing wrong with women with big boobs or small boobs.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
King Xo mystery you obviously did not go through my comment. My story was to illustrate some points to the poster and I already established that he is not my ex. I never mentioned big boobs, whether big or small. Maybe you need a better pair of reading glasses. Lastly you have no control as to how anyone should comment and tell their story here. You that could not take the time to properly go through my comment, should have just skipped it. It is not for the likes of you. So move on with your trolling.
Delete*Mouth hanging open*
ReplyDeleteI didnt see your first post and from what you stated here, i must say You are a very good and responsible man.
DeleteHer actions reminds me of some women like that, please let me ask; poster, are u a hot tempered alfamail? Like when you get in your house, are your kids silent ane frightened? Bcos if you are, u r food for some group of women.
Those women are so good at forming submissive, gullible, weak, and dependent to all those arrogant, alfamail, who don't care for their women's pleasure, awon 'how caniatitledmangiveyouhead!!'
these women kneel to give hubby food, watch him eat, then they only eat when hubby is full, and they only eat the hubbys remnant. They will squander hubbys millions then form demure and helpless. Those women scrape shegey comot for alfamail head.
They get mind to do things that us, vocal women can't even dream of as we have a conscience
You are a good man who dont deserve this and i cant stop you from whatever you do. But please and please keep evidence for your children to understand when they are matured.
These women are so manipulative, and from the kids pov they may look like the victim and daddy looking like a wicked beast. Keep receipts kanji kwo?
18:42
DeleteGod is great. No better evidence of this than the gifting of finding excuses to justify the wickedness our gender in any circumstance.
Anon 18:42
DeleteYou make sense.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Hmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt's better you move away from her now that you know her secrets before she harms you. Your safety first. Fear women who go to spiritualists for help. They have no conscience and can do and undo.
ReplyDeleteNo be lie
DeleteThis got me shook and gobsmacked simultaneously
ReplyDeleteIt's okay to let her go o
Nawa o!
Shebi you men keep saying women should not snoop shebi if you did not snoop or probably picked her call you would have still be living in the dark..May God judge wicked partners and i pray i never meet someone like your wife..
ReplyDeleteNobody said women should not snoop. The thing is if you snoop and behold that you seek, what will you do?
DeleteIf you will leave the marriage, then snoop.
If you will still stay in the marriage to answer MRS after shouting, ranting and making noise, then you have no business with snooping.
But me and you know say 98%(let's leave 2% for the benefit of doubt) of women will not leave that marriage if they find what they are snooping. So for this reason, we advise women not to snoop, for their mental health.
Unlike men, once we snoop and see, we take action. That's why any man that wants to snoop can snoop, because nothing concern me with snooping.
Poster, please stay away from her immediately. You can carry on your plan but safety 1st.
He didn't snoop. Picked phone that reveals the secrets it is has been hiding is different from a locked phone "forced open" to reveal any secret in it.
DeletePicking a phone to give it to a wife or to tell the caller she is busy or gone to the market only to find it is a call from her extra marital partner is not snooping.
Spouses have found out the truth this way. It is God at work or "a cup of evil being full for the evil doer" whether man or woman.
Is snooping not an English word again?
He still snooped. Fine he mistakenly picked the call, but that led him to snooping. Abi was the wife in the know that he was checking her phone and discovering all her secrets?
DeleteSnooping saving lives since 19kpichikom!
DeleteYou are a good man even if she tried to manipulate you. I don't think it worked but this is a sign that she is evil and is capable of anything so please plan your exit.
ReplyDeleteNB: not all women are like this sha.
Oga, walk away from that marriage. God has exposed her so move on.
ReplyDeleteFor her to have an incision in her VV, she is sleeping with that spiritualist. Some women do this so they can control their husbands. These set of women feel they own life and can do whatever pleases them. Na them too dey sleep with other women husbands.
For some, they will defend everything when it comes to their gender.
You have brothers, sons. Would you cheer your gender on when they treat your brother/son in such a wicked manner?
Oh well, the wise ones know they can’t take everything they read here and practice it.
Keep thanking your God for the expose and move out of that house before she kills you.
Sluttychic.
Exactly oh. She may have done one or two ta ta ta ta with the spiritualist.
DeleteI wish I can walk away from mine cos it’s the same situation with the poster but my problem is my kids.I travel for work sometimes and when I return,I don’t always like the state my kids are in,they look scruffy and dirty,dresses for them shabbily and feeds them noodles because she can’t be bothered to cook.She doesn’t know how to take care of them and is very nonchalant and I won’t be able to care for them properly cos of the nature my job.
DeleteNa wa oo. Make your kids your priority Oga. Start searching for a job with better balance asap. Be the mother and father to those kids until you man up to separate. It’s not your kids fault you married what you married oo
DeleteAnon 16:42
DeleteHow would separating solve the issue? You want the kids to grow up without their mother.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
This is a terrible woman.
ReplyDeleteLadies listen,
Not all advice is for all situation ooo.
Don't enter into marriage prepared to divorce.
Some men are angels too. So know your man before you destroy your home because of someone else's experience.
Sorry poster.
Exactly oh. She listened to fake prophecies and now she has finally used her own hands to destroy everything. Talk about self destruction. Chaii 😪
DeleteKindly change documents to your name Asap.
DeleteSeparate from her immediately.
Before thinking of a final decision.
Be prayerful because there's gonna be a spiritual battle. Shr won't give up easily except she's already cheating on you
It's really shocking how someone will be in a marriage but her mindset is that will divorce one day even when things are playing out according to hr wishes.
DeletePoster, make your moves, change the documents back to your name alone , keep all your evidences and exit that marriage....
15:32, the posters wife is not a good person to begin with. Some of these women just want to be in control of everything and would do anything to achieve that. That is how they invite evil people into their lives. There are many like her out there, I pray God expose them.
DeleteWhat they don’t know is that this their waka waka nor dey ever end well.
15:32
DeleteDestroyed everything?
With 2 houses in her home country and 2 in her country of her residence abroad?
Is that not what is regularly preached by some female Bvs here in addition to the sermon not to help any man as diligently followed by that Bv who refused to help her fiance get a job?
For the extreme the wife went to, it shows you that something went deeply wrong with her somewhere. She seems not to trust men generally and her husband in particular. Which kind of relationship will survive without trust? And it appears her bad self prophecy is about to be realised. She actually does not feel like she has done anything wrong, but that she is protecting herself.
DeleteIt was on this blog you people gave her wrong advise.
DeleteHow can she not contribute to her house?
Poster, please forgive
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Women are not really ready for this conversation.it’s happening a lot more abroad and it’s just crazy.I also feel like my wife is preparing for when we leave each other and I told her about it.I specifically told her that I can see all her game plan but it won’t meet me unawares.she has taken advantage of me enough and I am ready now.Iv started playing her game and keeping money somewhere too.i started with putting her name on all the debts,car note,bge,insurance,etc and she thought I was being more inclusive but she didn’t know it’s a plan,if I no pay and I no pay,my credit spoil,your own too go spoil so she’s picked up the car note payment for now and we move from there.
ReplyDeleteMost women prepare to leave when you show them signs, when you cheat with reckless abandon and believe they should keep forgiving
DeleteThey slowly prepare to leave when they are tired of shouting up and down
Now instead of sitting down and discussing you have decided to turn your house to Mario video game.
Stop taking every chronicle and applying to your own family. Talk to her, if she doesn’t agree, leave
20:14
Delete@15:23 was already tired of his wife's conduct and had started taking steps before this chronicle.
We have read chronicles and comments here advising wives to do what Poster's wife has been doing. When the next one comes, we expect to see your comment repeated against it.
She is preparing to leave and you failed to say why. You now feel you are wise by treating her the way she is treating you, instead of you to get to the bottom of her insecurity and fix it.
DeleteOn this blog when a husband cheats they tell the wife to either leave or stay, but she shouldn't copy her husband by cheating, but instead get divorced. Why not apply the same to yourself? Either you endure or leave the marriage, rather than copying her. This whole thing can boomerang in a way you don't expect and everything falls like a pack of cards and affects both of you and your children. Instead stay to try to resolve things or leave if it is too much for you.
Never been an advocate of women supporting women especially when they are doing nonsense. Everybody collect their wotowoto when they fuck up. Whether man or woman.
ReplyDeleteAs it should be 😂😂😂
DeleteExactly
DeleteEvery reasonable person should walk away from a bad spouse oh...ahhh, imagine!
DeleteOver to team #nosnooping and no sharing bills or chores. This is ur member
ReplyDeleteWhat about %80 to 20% sharing of bills?
DeleteYou won't see them here na.
DeletePoster, I’m sorry you went through this. Hopefully you are still young and can get out of such a demonic situation and start your life afresh with someone who isn’t fetish. You also need deliverance. You have been joined to a woman who had incision in her privates which means spiritualists may have sl*pt with her. Get evidence of the properties because chances are she is hiding the rent revenue from tax authorities here, planning to still split the little you have with you as alimony! Some judges will hesitate to even give her child custody based on what you write here.
DeleteRun for your life, look for an mfm church and after giving your life to Jesus Christ, attend their deliverance session. You need it.
To the advocates of “men paying ALL bills”, it’s not possible especially in the west especially if your wife makes good money. It’s sheer slavery and wickedness to expect to keep your earnings to yourself while spending only the man’s money, I am a woman.
Women remember you have sons or will have and you have brothers and nephews. God says vengeance is mine, I will repay. If you advocate such evil against men or if you are a man you advocate such evil against women, remember you will have children and relatives of both genders. Be careful what advice you give online so you may not be judged by God.
Poster your life may be in danger. In a world where 50% of physicians, pharmacists, corporate professionals are women, 75% of nurses are women, about 30% are engineers etc, is it not wicked to expect the woman to pocket her own salary and spend only the man’s money? People should fear God in all they do! I made more than my husband for a long time and covered expenses for us! Why do folks worship money/mammon?
Awon team Ada Ada, my money is my money, shior.
DeleteBut your'e also a member na. Aren't you the one who said abroad hubby must place you on salary, and your money is your money?
DeleteWonders shall never end. This is why I don't trust all these prophets, prophetesses and all. Just imagine what one just read.
ReplyDeletePoster, how you have continued living with such a person after everything you found out is what I can't fathom
Over this weekend I saw this movie 50/50. you should see it too. Jessica Nze and K. Nnochiri.
ReplyDeleteHmmm....o ma se o. Women i carry yansh for una. My gender in the name of God i beg of you please make sure all your plans does not link to her before execution. I wish you best of luck.
ReplyDeleteA woman I know will collect N100 she bought sachet beverage for her daughter from the husband. She buys fuel she uses for herself and her children, oga who travels a lot, comes back, she sends the children to collect the money. She buys nothing in the house. She sells cosmetics and when the children collect sanitary pad or hair attachment from her shop, she tells the children to collect the money from her husband. Oga buys everything in the house from matches, pepper to food stuffs. Oga pays her shop rent. Fills the shop when she starts giving attitude because of reduced sales. Madam on the other hand can have different colors of same material. Her's is all about what to wear. No savings. Owes every tailor in the neighborhood.
ReplyDeleteNow, oga is dead. Friends and family are looking and watching how she's going to manage.
Bros, upon all you have written, you will still see some bvs supporting your wife. What ever your plans are, hasten it up as she is equally planning having been busted. I hope she does not frame you one way or the other. Start moving out precious and important stuff/documents out of the house. Tell your family or confidant what's going on.
Sometimes, make recordings of your conversations and send to a number she can't reach.
It's better to marry a prostitute than a diabolical person, man or woman.
Take care and good luck.
Seriously men aren't given the platform to talk and are being sidelined.. God give you the wisdom to salvage this situation...
ReplyDeleteThe men who comment / talk here, how are they treated by female Bvs?
DeleteAnd how do the men who comment treat female Bvs? The ones who are respectful and realistic are commended. The abusive ones will definitely garner less support.
DeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteDante please get well fast. I miss you
ReplyDeleteEvil woman
ReplyDeleteI wish you didn't confront her when you found out her secrets. You should have just planned your immediate exit after telling a trusted relative and friend or lawyer about your findings. I say this because she will now go and re-fortify herself with juju or simply waste your life. You married a dangerous woman and your life is not safe exceptyou hold on tightly to God. I really pity your children.
ReplyDeleteWhen we condemn many of these yahoo prophets/spiritualists, their followers and patrons will not allow somebody to drink water and drop cup in peace. They have destroyed many lives with their fake or wicked prophecies and works There is no marriage between humans in heaven sir, so leave NOW! Ask for joint custody but if she begins to make trouble over that and the kids have SM accounts or phones, let her have them and make sure you reach them regularly via SM/calls. There is no point asking you to be a responsible father to them since that's all you've ever been. May God direct and keep you.
He should not "leave them ". He should apply for 50/50 custody and he will get it!
DeleteShe was not controlling you
ReplyDeleteCase closed. Poster accepted the lie told men by society - that a woman sent to school like a man and earning more than all her colleagues at work should be kept by her husband otherwise, the husband is lesser than a man.
DeleteShe makes three times less than you make
DeleteAs long as she’s not asking you for pad money, I’m not sure why you need her money in the house. You don’t.
19:40
DeleteShe makes 3 times lesser. But she has 4 houses in her name or ostensibly in her paternal family name 100%.
Poster makes 3 times more. Everything he has in their both names 50% - 50%.
In addition, he is responsible 100% for the children of the marriage who she in her heart claims as hers 100% and would ordinarily get custody of in case of the divorce she has already fully prepared for.
Can you pray for this type of marriage for your son or younger brother or nephew.
Is your comment borne out of misandry?
Some women will let spiritualists or pastors or seers destroy their beautiful life. This is why it's wrong to live your life based on what's happening to another.
ReplyDeleteOga, leave now that you can before it's too late.
Where is our archives person, I need the link to the first chronicle.
ReplyDeleteShe showed her hand from the very beginning. She was never invested or interested in the marriage, just saw financial opportunity. If there are any children involved please get DNA test done, do not trust that you have fathered any of the children. Document everything and use the witchcraft in your divorce proceedings. Try to get a recorded confession as well. This may help you if she seeks alimony. Also get records of her real estate holdings that she did behind your back. They are community property and you are entitled to half the value. Since she is a diabolical person it is up to you how far you want to go, but use the info to avoid alimony payments at the very least. Get the paternity results. You have to build a good case against her character and you need receipts. All the best to you. The God that kept you to reveal the deception will continue to keep you. Get some therapy, you have been through hell, there is no shame in talking it through with someone. If you do go to therapy let your lawyer know, so they can show the emotional damage that has been done to you by your wife.
It's very certain that woman can kill, please poster, move out of the house for your own safety, and I totally support whatever plan you have as long as it's not life threatening. Thank God you snooped.
ReplyDeleteJisos😲😲😲😲some women get mind o, with this wickedness,she never loved this guy one bit,oga, just be more prayerful,cos,she will go tell the spiritualist about the expose,he might
ReplyDeletedo the unexpected,may ur plan turn out for good, watch ur back.
Ada ohafia
I hope what ever you have planned is to dump her? Cuz you have mind to still be in the same house with that Jezebel.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt's well
So.many things are going on in marriages. Devil is seriously fighting the institution of marriage especially where he notice there is peace. Satan did not marry so he hates to see people happy in marriage as marriage is the only institution God is using to fulfill his word of procreation. No matter how hard he tries. The word of God stands sure.
ReplyDeleteOga life happens. It's time to move.
Poster, all I can say is God will help you just like He has been doing. Just keep being you. I know its not easy but ask for wisdom in treating this issue.
ReplyDeletePlease end the marriage before she kills you,infact you should be very careful and take your spiritual life serious...I would never trust a spouse like this even with our children.
ReplyDeleteI also don't believe she is being manipulated,na Waka Waka woman before marriage.
Eggzactly. She's used to going about and seeing seers.
DeleteCan you imagine?
ReplyDeleteJust walk away cuz if I tend to type what I have at heart, infact, I go cause wahala.. so painful Dante is not online to read this.
She is nothing but evil
Men, snoop o. Most of y'all are zombies, so snoop
ReplyDeleteThat's why the comments of our Bros provoke some female Bvs here to no end. Left to them they would have had him censored out of the blog. How dare him expose some of the world's best kept secrets?
DeleteWhere are those who always say no to snooping. If this man had snooped all those while won't he have had few knowledge about his wife's plans?
ReplyDeleteAsk them
DeleteWhatever plan you have run away from that woman first
ReplyDeleteI hate this no snooping, that wa how I snooped and found out that my husband is having an affair with one lady when he traveled to d village, nobody shld a partner not to snoop husband snoop , wife snoop everybody should snoop be
ReplyDeleteObservant , confrontation straight up cos I no dey to guess wetin dey sup.
Poster change your documents name, get evidence by having a recording if you don't have put your phone in a recording mode ask her whatever you can lay your hands on ,
Somebody will marry for peace of mind and yeye partner will come and be stressing person up and down
Take advice here on behalf of good women I no dey support rubbish
Snooping saves life since 1900 , if your spouse gives you a reason to Snoop. OGA RUN RUN away from her before it will be too late.
ReplyDelete"let us be fair and give men a chance to speak their minds."
ReplyDeleteI don't recall anybody at any time holding men's mouth and stopping them from talking.
As in a whole alfa malus? Lion of the king of wakanda? How can?
But as always, men will always find a way to blame women for everything and anything.
Thank you jare.
DeleteAnon 17:52, Stop with the sarcasm. There is time for everything, and this is not the time for such childish display.
DeleteThere is fire on the mountain
ReplyDelete, Run Run Run
I’m so sorry but I don’t pity men that marry women like this because when you marry for the wrong reason this is the result.
ReplyDeleteDid you actually pray to God to ask if this is your destined wife or you just married because of fine face, back and front? Or good in bed? Or slay queen.
I’m sure you had the option of good women but she was boring and Mary amaka righ.
I’m sorry but I can never ever pity any man or woman who find themselves in this kind of situation because if the foundation is faulty what does the righteous do?
Regardless, don’t blame the victim. Even if her beauty and figure mesmerized him into marriage, he did not deserve what he received. He was doing dutiful husband and reaped ashes, nobody deserves that. He got much worst than even wicked men get.
DeleteWhat I would agree with you on is that if a person gets married for superficial reasons, they should not be surprised if there is no beauty to reap in the end. Love is free energy powered from the divine. You cannot buy love and adoration. What you can buy is attention and conversation, and sometimes barely that. Many better and well off men know what they have, but they accept it because it is better for them than being alone, especially if they have a stunner for a wife. I bet this poster knew something was off and did not feel right with the marriage’ and ‘love’, even beyond the money issue but he stuck it out for whatever reasons.
This point of view is wrong, the poster didn't mention if that was his case, paint it how you want, there are many good and genuine people, both male and female that have found themselves with the wrong partner, you ended up not giving any advise but just gloating over his problem.
DeletePoster, whatever you have planned, inform your family members of what is going on ASAP and get a spiritual backing cos trust me, she started repackaging her jazz the moment you caught her. Get good legal advise and plan your divorce...Yes, there's nothing to save here. All the best.
Anon 18:35 where in my comment did I blame him? I simply asked him some logical questions to understand how he fell into her hands.
DeleteBible says for we wrestle not against flesh and blood but……
Most not all men marry for the wrong reasons, most people do not seek God’s face before marrying anyone to know if they are the right person for them.
Anon 18:47 we don’t know what his case is as he hasn’t answered my questions so why assume for him. I simply asked questions that need answers to before I waste my pity on his case.
Genuine people need to learn to seek their creator to make sure they are marrying write, genuine people also fall into the wrong hands when they do not seek their creator to make sure they are going down the right road. If you like be good and genuine as long as you don’t seek the face of God before you marry as marriage can make or break your life and destiny then whatever you see there just hold body!
You blamed him. You didn’t have to state it openly word for word for your views to show it’s true meaning.
DeleteAlso, don’t go through life without pity and being too sure of yourself in comparison to others. God has humbled many ppl just to prove that it is mercy and grace that rules so that no one will get too lofty in their spirit.
17:58 I just made my comment and only going through other comments now. If I had read yours initially, I would not have bothered with mine because you said most of what I wanted to say. I agree with you. If poster does not look inwards he can still repeat the same mistake again.
DeleteAnon 22:19 I’m never ever sure of myself I seek my creator in every step I take and when I’m going off track as a human being I retrace my steps because He warns me. I’m human and we are all humans but having a relationship with God and listening to Him is paramount.
DeleteShalom
Hmmmm.. naa waah oooh… some women sef when they see a loving man, they will take advantage. The same for some men too, we should always pray for a life partner that has the same heart as ours…..Please and Please if you leave this marriage, take time to heal through therapy and God before you start any relationship again. I’m here in USA Maryland specifically, and met a few of our Nigerian men who are still so angry and bitter.Just a first date they talk about women with so much hatred and bitterness, they expect the next woman to heal them, they dump so much emotional baggage on the next woman. I prayed so much not to attract these kind of men anymore because I’m soft hearted.Amen
ReplyDeleteWhen you see those types of men always run. Nothing you do will be good enough for them.
DeleteYou better run
DeleteSome of those men mistreated their wives and will mistreat you too.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Sorry Poster, But did you use your two eyes to go for this type of woman? Truly a case of marrying for the wrong reason. That woman is more deadlier than living with a snake. Most cases like this the Man can do Nada !!! Except you too are spiritually strong. That woman go don cook concortio. give you. Best for you is to SEPARATE FROM HER NOW .
ReplyDeleteI have an uncle who sent the lady he intended to marry packing, Why ? She is too local, no rush and all . Before we say jack he has brought in the slay queen wey sabi, open eye , tush . Today he's suffering HBP 😢and all sorts. The woman showed and still showing him Shege banza. Very fetish, and evil. She said no retreat no surrender, she's going nowhere. Uncle has planned many time to abandon her find way which side ? Once he chop her ogbono soup all his plans don yamutu. .
ReplyDeleteI'm a woman but you see my "Gender" I fear Some,
See your story, I didn't have to bother with mine. Next time I will read through before I comment.
DeleteWhich fictitious uncle?
DeleteNK, leave tales by moonlight stories
Do you know if Posters wife is local and pretends to be submissive?
What did slay queens do to you people?
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Na wa for wetin man pikin dey see for this life o.
ReplyDeleteSome humans are pure evil.
Oga please put all your properties in your name and leave her if it's still possible.
Very scary chronicle. Don't go and turn to the dark side because you want to get revenge o. She is already diabolical so just let her go. Quite a lot of people have given you good advice. Don't go and serve strange gods. Save yourself and flee.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis is written with the hope you would still return to read comments.
You were not under any spell or spiritual spell or oppression. You wanted a good marriage as it is said it should be. But as described, your wife had decided on a marriage for her benefit alone.
Your wife prepared for divorce before marrying you and has continued to financially prepare for it while in the marriage. This is commoner than believed by men. Some women justify it by the fact that women have been known to leave marriages broke especially in the polygamous setting. Only Very few daughters of polygamous fathers fail to acquire personal properties in marriage). Your wife's claim of a prophesy is most likely bull.
Your wife's desperation to be ready for divorce drove her under the oppression of deceiving shamans masquerading under different names. She would have built more houses off you and from her salary if she had not been paying them for the portions she has been serving you.
You have not been under any spiritual oppression because you have been conscious of your wife's selfishness and was dissatisfied with it enough 5 years ago to write your first chronicle. That means you knew from the outset what your wife was doing is wrong. A person under a spell does not know about it or complain about the evil acts of the spellbinder the spell is broken.
Even if you were under a spell, it got broken 5 years ago when you wrote your first chronicle.
Since then, you were only labouring under the society lie (as jangled by majority of the Female BVs on your chronicle 5 years ago) that God says ONLY a man should provide for his family. This lie is founded on an evil twisting of the word of God the way Satan twisted the word of God to Eve at the garden in Eden.
Please liberate your mind by reading again the Bible passage often cited in support of the lie. No where does the passage say ONLY a man should provide for his family where the wife is capable of providing or co-providing.
Please read the Bible stories of women who were earners and paid workers. One thread runs through the stories - they provided for their families. The exemplar woman in the Bible is described in the Proverbs 31 v. 10 - 31.
Hear the word of God at Proverbs 31 v. 10, 14, and 15
"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies ... she brings her food from afar...and provides food for her household." NKJV.
Note the Bible does not say she cooks for her household. The Bible is clear - She PROVIDES food for her household.
Going forward do not run in a stampede. You will trip and fall.
If you choose to leave the marriage, plan in ACCORDANCE with the laws of your country of residence. Seek sound proper and expert advice on what to do to achieve the result most beneficial in the circumstances. Your wife is already ahead of you in any divorce race at the moment by all of her properties and half of your properties .
Do not smack with maximum force the fly on the testicles.
Use wisdom. Since she has so much rental income, she may now be earning as much as you do or just a step lesser. Therefore quietly ask her to join in the provision of family maintenance.
It may be better to negotiate your way out.
Hopefully, she may be a BV here, she may read the comments today, and she may make a change for better.
Too long.
DeleteMaybe you should start your own column.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
You are still with such a terrible woman and said don't ask me for my plan. The more you waste time the more she renew her charm on you. Please walk away now that you still have yourself intact.
ReplyDeleteSome women are from pit of hell, please no one deserve to be treated like a piece of shit.
This chronicle is indeed shocking. It tops the charts. The part about the incisions is something I am hearing for the first time.
ReplyDeletePoster, sorry for what you found out about your wife. She has not been your helper. She has allowed fear take over her thinking and her actions. She has absolutely no faith in your marriage or union. This is not a wife material. A woman who does not see a future with her husband has allowed the devil take over. People always always underestimate how powerful it is for a man and woman to be together. No one is perfect - there is no perfect man or woman out there. Everyone has comma - but for the union of marriage to work, you have to decide to love - to over look the shortcomings. It is not easy - requires the grace of God. With God, all things are possible.
What you do from here is up to you really. Whether to stay or to leave. My uncle never left even after his wife used juju on him - he did not speak to his family for over 15 years. After it cleared, he desperately wanted a divorce but he could not leave because of his kids.
I wish you the best in whatever decision you make. May the God Lord who revealed this to you, be with you.
Poster, she did wrong.
ReplyDeleteShe listened to the wrong advise
Talk to her
Have a heart to heart
You people should share the bills
Then forgive her.
This has not reached to the point of divorce.
KING XOXO MYSTERY