JILTED AND BEATEN UP
I have read stories about jilted lovers but i have never experienced any. I have doubted the authenticity of some sef, well one just happened to my friend lastweek.
They eventually started dating after we were done learning and our madam retained her as her assistant because J was the best among us.
It was all sweet for months until J asked me one day if i knew anything she could do to make her bum bigger, i asked her why. She said she has caught K many times staring at girls with big bum bum so she wants to grow hers. Told her it wasn't necessary since he saw she had a medium bum before asking her out. She didn't listen to me she started ordering bum oils and creams to inflate her bum. Tbh i wanted asking him why he was making her feel insecure but i decided to hold my peace.
The next issue was him sleeping around with rich married women and girls(even J's other friends were not spared). The had issues constantly and i was always called as a mediator.
To resolve this particular issue J felt she was not spending enough time with him that was why he was looking out and even sleeping With other girls, so she moved in with him. She and the boss were coming to work together from the same house. I told her i was not ok with her decision but she said she is seeing changes in K, i just told her if that is what she wants then all the best.
The next issue was K has refused to get a Job, his siblings bankroll him and that made him lazy, she was not okay with it, she spoke to him and he promised to do something about it. He never did.
In 2020 J and i had a misunderstanding, we stopped talking, we didn't talk through out 2020 and early 2021 but she was always posting pictures of K, so i knew they were still dating.
Mid 2021, J blew in our state, she became the most sought after MUA here and i was so so happy for her, she reached out around that time and apologized. I forgave her but never allowed us to be as close as we used to be, she reached out on a good day and started complaining about K, she mentioned a lot of things he has done to her and is still doing. I asked her why she was still dating him with all those things she mentioned, she said she loves him. I just told her if it was me i won't condone those things, we for don break up tey tey.
Plus he was still jobless, still relying on his siblings for everything.
By late 2021 and early 2022, she had made millions from her Make up work, she got a car for herself and K, refurbished her apartment, got a place for her folks and was giving K money.
She called me Feb 2022 to tell me they were discussing marriage, she said the only thing delaying was for K to get something doing, she said she wants me to be her chief brides maid. I told her no problem, when time reach make she tell me.
K lost his mum in 2022, J was suppose to go with him for the burial but he found a way to convince her to stay back, he gave her reasons why she should stay back and she agreed, she gave him stuff for his elder sisters and their kids, called them to explain why she won't be coming. Infact throughout his stay in the village they spoke everyday, i mean every blessed day until he came back.
Some months after he came back he started pressuring her to get pregnant, he said that is how it is done in the west. She refused stating she is a first born child and she has younger sisters, she can't set an example for them by getting pregnant before marriage. He kept insisting even until February this year he still brought it up.
Before i forget, after she started making good money and buying him his car, she started bankrolling him, she gave him money, bought him clothes, undies, and even fuels his car sometimes.
And she never had a problem with it, all she wanted and was waiting for was for him to get something doing then they can get married.
In February 2023, K told J he was traveling to one of the states in the north west for an interview, she was happy, she provided money for the trip and he left. He didn't call when he arrived and the next day and he wasn't picking her calls, she was really worried.
He reached out on the 3rd day telling her network bla bla bla, she asked him when he'll be coming back, he said the next day. K came back after spending 3 more days in kano with a brand new iphone 14 pro max, latest iphone smart watch and a new car, when she asked how he got all those things, he said the owner of the house he was suppose to stay in disappointed him so he met a random woman who offered him accomodation after he explained his plight to her, she told him to forget about the job interview that she has a contract for him, so he agreed to the contract. The contract came with the phone, smart watch and car. She was so excited for him, he even promised her that he'll go see her people in 2 months time so they can finally start the marriage process.
On the 20th of April, she got a message from an unknown number, this was the content of the message
''Hi J, do you know K is getting married next Month in LFC M*****, after all your initial gra gra, he still left you to marry a random lady he met last year. She is based in Kano( the state he travelled to for his interview). I can remember you calling to insult and rain curses on me when i had something to do with him 2 years ago well we all lost him and you losing him is the best news i have heard this year. Welcome back to the singles club. Tueeeeeeeh''
She called him severally but he didn't pick, went to his house but the gateman refused to let her in, sent him messages but he refused to reply.
She finally gained access into his house last week, she saw an elderly woman in the parlour when she entered, she greeted her and told her she was looking for K, the woman said he was in the room so she barged in, she asked him if it was true he was getting married, he said yes and he pointed to the woman on the couch as his fiancee, she asked why he would do that to her? What she got were 2 good slaps and a beating of her life, it was as if he wanted to kill her, he beat her up and at a point strangled her self, she had to use one of the ornaments in the sitting room to hit him before he released her from his grip. When he was done he pushed her out.
BVs you'll should see J's face, i swear it is bad, really bad and his fiancee was sitting there watching while everything was happening. She didn't say a word.
The next day J got a call from a police station, K and his fiancee reported her for trespassing and harassing them, they wanted her jailed. She was questioned when she got there and was told to write an undertaking to stay away from him, no phone calls,no physical contact. She asked for her car back but there was no proof she bought it for him because she bought it in his name.
K met this woman last year, i think 2 months before his mom's death, she is way older than him but she is RICH, it was actually her he went to see in Kano but he lied to J that he had an interview. She got him the phone, car and smart watch and the reason why he convinced J not to follow him to his village for his mum's burial was because that was when he travelled with the new woman to introduce her to his family. When his family asked K about J, he said she has found someone else and is engaged already and she told him to move on. (She heard all this from K's elder brother when he called to console her after the incident)
J has been crying and she is inconsolable, i feel so so bad for her and i am so angry with K(i don't know if i should call him), she has not stepped out since last week because of her black eye and swollen face. She wants to go diabolical on him but i don't think it is necessary, i advised her against it and told her to leave him to karma.
Her pain is that she wasted 6 years with him and in those 6 years she turned down 2 marriage proposals because of him and age is not on her side anymore(she is 35) plus she has introduced him to her family, everybody in her family knows K. Her mum even calls K randomly to check on him.
K's wedding is on the 20th of this month.
WOW.....I am just weak reading this...Let her move on, Karma has his address... How can you jilt someone and still beat her up? wickedness beyond belief.
It has hit close to home.J(my friend) and K(her lover) met in 2018 when she and i registered to learn make-up, K is our tutor's/Madam's/boss's inlaw(her husband's younger and only brother) living with her. They clicked the moment they set eyes on each other but didn't go into a relationship immediately, we were all(5 of us learning makeup at that time) rooting for them to start dating.
They eventually started dating after we were done learning and our madam retained her as her assistant because J was the best among us.
It was all sweet for months until J asked me one day if i knew anything she could do to make her bum bigger, i asked her why. She said she has caught K many times staring at girls with big bum bum so she wants to grow hers. Told her it wasn't necessary since he saw she had a medium bum before asking her out. She didn't listen to me she started ordering bum oils and creams to inflate her bum. Tbh i wanted asking him why he was making her feel insecure but i decided to hold my peace.
The next issue was him sleeping around with rich married women and girls(even J's other friends were not spared). The had issues constantly and i was always called as a mediator.
To resolve this particular issue J felt she was not spending enough time with him that was why he was looking out and even sleeping With other girls, so she moved in with him. She and the boss were coming to work together from the same house. I told her i was not ok with her decision but she said she is seeing changes in K, i just told her if that is what she wants then all the best.
The next issue was K has refused to get a Job, his siblings bankroll him and that made him lazy, she was not okay with it, she spoke to him and he promised to do something about it. He never did.
In 2020 J and i had a misunderstanding, we stopped talking, we didn't talk through out 2020 and early 2021 but she was always posting pictures of K, so i knew they were still dating.
Mid 2021, J blew in our state, she became the most sought after MUA here and i was so so happy for her, she reached out around that time and apologized. I forgave her but never allowed us to be as close as we used to be, she reached out on a good day and started complaining about K, she mentioned a lot of things he has done to her and is still doing. I asked her why she was still dating him with all those things she mentioned, she said she loves him. I just told her if it was me i won't condone those things, we for don break up tey tey.
Plus he was still jobless, still relying on his siblings for everything.
By late 2021 and early 2022, she had made millions from her Make up work, she got a car for herself and K, refurbished her apartment, got a place for her folks and was giving K money.
She called me Feb 2022 to tell me they were discussing marriage, she said the only thing delaying was for K to get something doing, she said she wants me to be her chief brides maid. I told her no problem, when time reach make she tell me.
K lost his mum in 2022, J was suppose to go with him for the burial but he found a way to convince her to stay back, he gave her reasons why she should stay back and she agreed, she gave him stuff for his elder sisters and their kids, called them to explain why she won't be coming. Infact throughout his stay in the village they spoke everyday, i mean every blessed day until he came back.
Some months after he came back he started pressuring her to get pregnant, he said that is how it is done in the west. She refused stating she is a first born child and she has younger sisters, she can't set an example for them by getting pregnant before marriage. He kept insisting even until February this year he still brought it up.
Before i forget, after she started making good money and buying him his car, she started bankrolling him, she gave him money, bought him clothes, undies, and even fuels his car sometimes.
And she never had a problem with it, all she wanted and was waiting for was for him to get something doing then they can get married.
In February 2023, K told J he was traveling to one of the states in the north west for an interview, she was happy, she provided money for the trip and he left. He didn't call when he arrived and the next day and he wasn't picking her calls, she was really worried.
He reached out on the 3rd day telling her network bla bla bla, she asked him when he'll be coming back, he said the next day. K came back after spending 3 more days in kano with a brand new iphone 14 pro max, latest iphone smart watch and a new car, when she asked how he got all those things, he said the owner of the house he was suppose to stay in disappointed him so he met a random woman who offered him accomodation after he explained his plight to her, she told him to forget about the job interview that she has a contract for him, so he agreed to the contract. The contract came with the phone, smart watch and car. She was so excited for him, he even promised her that he'll go see her people in 2 months time so they can finally start the marriage process.
On the 20th of April, she got a message from an unknown number, this was the content of the message
''Hi J, do you know K is getting married next Month in LFC M*****, after all your initial gra gra, he still left you to marry a random lady he met last year. She is based in Kano( the state he travelled to for his interview). I can remember you calling to insult and rain curses on me when i had something to do with him 2 years ago well we all lost him and you losing him is the best news i have heard this year. Welcome back to the singles club. Tueeeeeeeh''
She called him severally but he didn't pick, went to his house but the gateman refused to let her in, sent him messages but he refused to reply.
She finally gained access into his house last week, she saw an elderly woman in the parlour when she entered, she greeted her and told her she was looking for K, the woman said he was in the room so she barged in, she asked him if it was true he was getting married, he said yes and he pointed to the woman on the couch as his fiancee, she asked why he would do that to her? What she got were 2 good slaps and a beating of her life, it was as if he wanted to kill her, he beat her up and at a point strangled her self, she had to use one of the ornaments in the sitting room to hit him before he released her from his grip. When he was done he pushed her out.
BVs you'll should see J's face, i swear it is bad, really bad and his fiancee was sitting there watching while everything was happening. She didn't say a word.
The next day J got a call from a police station, K and his fiancee reported her for trespassing and harassing them, they wanted her jailed. She was questioned when she got there and was told to write an undertaking to stay away from him, no phone calls,no physical contact. She asked for her car back but there was no proof she bought it for him because she bought it in his name.
K met this woman last year, i think 2 months before his mom's death, she is way older than him but she is RICH, it was actually her he went to see in Kano but he lied to J that he had an interview. She got him the phone, car and smart watch and the reason why he convinced J not to follow him to his village for his mum's burial was because that was when he travelled with the new woman to introduce her to his family. When his family asked K about J, he said she has found someone else and is engaged already and she told him to move on. (She heard all this from K's elder brother when he called to console her after the incident)
J has been crying and she is inconsolable, i feel so so bad for her and i am so angry with K(i don't know if i should call him), she has not stepped out since last week because of her black eye and swollen face. She wants to go diabolical on him but i don't think it is necessary, i advised her against it and told her to leave him to karma.
Her pain is that she wasted 6 years with him and in those 6 years she turned down 2 marriage proposals because of him and age is not on her side anymore(she is 35) plus she has introduced him to her family, everybody in her family knows K. Her mum even calls K randomly to check on him.
K's wedding is on the 20th of this month.
WOW.....I am just weak reading this...Let her move on, Karma has his address... How can you jilt someone and still beat her up? wickedness beyond belief.
She wasted 6years of her life by herself. If you see red flags and ignore it, karma self will deal with you so that you'd have sense Nd leave.
ReplyDeleteChaii 😂. "Karma self will deal with you"
DeleteEasy sis
DeleteIf all you wrote is true, him leaving her is the best thing that could have happened to her.
DeleteSaint Obi loading
DeleteThey always, always see these red flags but choose to ignore their intuition/inner warnings/checks/unsettling feelings/Holy Spirit, whatever they choose to call it.
DeleteIgnoring such warnings always end in bitter tears and broken heart. She should take her time to heal, let her cry all the pain out, and accept responsibility for the role she played in it.
Going diabolical will make things worse for her. She shouldn't try that route, satan has no free gift, yes, she wants revenge badly because of the wasted years, but God is Merciful and will restore in manifold if she turns to Him instead. It was the love of God that delivered her from a horrible future with the guy, there was no other way she would have willingly leave the guy because she was blinded by love.
The greedy and lazy guy is in this next relationship because of what the woman offered him, plus enough jazz that will keep him bound for as long as he is useful to her, that's all. A lot of such relationship abound - parasitic in nature.
Abeg na Kano dem wan do wedding, make I go see. Answer me poster fast. Which church if it's Kano.
DeleteShe Should move on. May be na jazz the woman used on K
She should move on. No need going diabolical. I hope this sends a lessons to other women who live their lives for men and not themselves.
ReplyDeleteThe guy musto dey very tall (6ft plus) and handsome ( RMD, that Nollywood acto aka colorless prick (in SDKs sexy voice) tuface sexy brothers, derenle, uti, Michael Jacksons NEPHEWS fresh Prince, Will Smith,
Deletearmie hammer, George Michael,
ZACK OWEN level of handsome IN THEIR PRIME Ooo not now)
With functioning waist and protruding cucumber for all those girls to crase for him all these years.
I, as a bossladyand guy babe, go personally like inspect this guy wey una wan die for...
Life happens.
ReplyDeleteThe highest bidder won.
I hope she will not try buying a man next time.
She should move on.
The worst part would have been having a lazy liability/parasite for a husband and carrying the family load for the rest of your life. Plus plenty infection or diseases from his numerous flings as "thank you"
She dodged a bullet
As for age, in marriage it's not how far, but how well.
@HF Beddings, please don't take this reply personal. I am not in anyway attacking your opinion, I am only juxataposing the message comically.
DeleteLol @I Hope she will not try buying a man next time. Let's come to think of it, isn’t it what most men do, buying most women?
And if it's a baby-girl life for some of the ladies, it can also be a baby-boy life for some of the guys too. What are the antonyms of 'feminism and feminist'?
Again, I laugh @The worst part would have been having a lazy liability/parasite for a husband. Some women also sits comfortably on this seat.
Don't get me wrong, it's was a wrong match from the word go. But my issue is if we hail and embrace this for the female, why frown when a guy is doing it? Since we recognise it is a wrong lifestyle, we should rather encourage the girl-child to stop living off males because this generation of males believes two can tango by living off women too.
Dear Poster, allow your friend to come to terms with her reality. Until then, nothing will change for her. Apparently from your narration, this was who he is when they met. So let's not blame the guy, a child will remain a child even in an advanced age. Sometimes life will keep giving you the same test over and over, again and again, until you learn the lessons there is to learn and apply them in your life. Otherwise, you'll keep carrying over the course.
Again @HF Beddings, kindly forgive my use of your view as a basis for my sarcasms. The idea wasn't to attack, criticise nor condemn your position. Your view is nothing but the truth. I was only critiquing the social bias, we have failed to re-represent and realise presently lives among us - badly re-raised male adults.
Ebony men and women are not the same , provider role is masculine, nurture is feminine, support can be provided by both but when the role is take over by the other, it is not normal
Delete@Ebony: Men don't buy women with their money, they impress them with their money because of their provider's instict, it's not the same when a woman uses money to buy a man's affection. He feels caged, asked any real man he will tell you that it's a red flag for them.
DeleteYou can hardly tag a married woman/housewife/kept woman lazy, with all the house chores, child rearing, aside a career or business, etc. I don't think a woman can be term lazy. For a man apart from providing money, what other thing does a man do, that is, from a Nigerian cultural perspective.
There are natural roles that instinctly belongs to men and women. Men are natural providers, they derive their essence from being able to provide for their loved ones, without denying the fact that some depraved ones, use money to control and manipulate their women. When a woman who is financially bouyant meets a man who isn't, try to restrain your 'generous fingers', giving him everything, emasculates him, he will hate and resent you for it. Allow him to be a man and make his own money, you are not being stingy, you are helping him. If he continually ask you for help, then he sees you as an ATM, run, leave love and run, it won't end well.
The guy is a golddigger/gigolo. Tell your friend to wipe her tears. He will will surely reap the fruit of his wickedness.
ReplyDeleteYou are very right.
DeleteShe should take heart and move on. Good deeds never go unrepaid.
Una go see many red flags and still stay grounded in the relationship like a tree planted in the rivers of many waters.
ReplyDeleteImagine moving in with a man because he was sleeping around.
Even if he ended up marrying her she would still not have had a peaceful marriage.
I don’t know why some people don’t value their lives and mental health all in the name of ‘I love him’.
If she likes let her go diabolical on him, just remind her the devil never does anything for anyone for free.
She would be opening a whole new portal for demonic access into her own life.
What a tale🙆🏾♀️ May we all seek wisdom in every situation and not lean on our own understanding.
ReplyDeleteTell your friend to go work on her self esteem and standards
DeleteShe has no self respect and dignity
There are resources online
DeleteTrue. She has zero self esteem and respect. With so much working in her favour, she should have any man she wants. Let her build her self first before any relationship again.
DeleteSelf-love, self-care, self-esteem, self-respect, self discovery and self awareness are the keys to building an all round successful life.
Dating for 6 years? That means the lady in question started dating K when she was 29 years old. That's madness! How will a woman allow any man waste 6 years of her life like that? That is madness!
ReplyDeleteDefine your relationship early and on time! The purpose of dating is marriage. If you are not ready to marry, why are you dating? Any lady above 25 that still spends time in extended dating is a fool. You will keep that man for a smarter woman to snatch off you.
To the lady in question, as much as not sympathizing with you, l'll say you dodged a bullet. You would have married a wife beater and your marriage to him would have been hell! Don't feel bad about what has happened. Pity him actually and also avoid his family. They choose to believe his lies instead of verifying from you. If they really wanted you, they'd have informed you about the second woman right away.
For your ex...hmmm! That his wife will deal with him. He will see hell and taste it. That car and everything she has given him, he will write for it. He is going to call you sometime shortly asking for forgiveness. You will be a bigger fool to entertain him.
When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them. - Maya Angelou.
Women like that that bought him with a brand new car, watch and latest iPhone, already knows what she's after - his sperm, for children, after that she will use him some more then throw him away. I hope by then the poster's friend must have rebuilt her life and love herself better not to ever date his kind again.
DeleteThis story peeves me,why would you dump somebody and still beat the person up pourquoi? This guy is heartless,she saw the red flag and still decided to stay with him hmmmmmm thank God he didn't marry her,any guy that can date a married woman is a gigolo,please console her and tell her to move on,though she did it from the goodness of her heart but this guy is an incurable Playboy.
ReplyDeleteHe isn't a playboy, he is a gutterlevel incredibly selfish liability user
DeleteHe isn't a playboy, he is a gutterlevel incredibly selfish liability user
DeleteA useless, gutter rat. His family enabled him and he will go back to them when the so-called fiancée finished with him. They will continue to carry him as their load.
DeleteJ seems you are the poster. Baby girl . Cry, wail, beat yourself if you can. Do everything that someone going through pain does. After that look at the mirror and tell yourself you dodged a bullet. You deserve better. A man who can do all these can kill. The worst human to associate with are jobless and insatiable men. Men who do not have a source of income but always want to live "a big boy life". Clean your tears. People marry for years with children and divorce. Your own husband is just by your doorstep. Don't worry about what people will say as they will say more if you had married that guy and he kills you to acquire your wealth.
ReplyDeleteWhy will you go diabolical when you can wake up at midnight and call on God to.fight your battles.
Poster is most definitely J. Though she tried her best to divert the bashing from BVs.
DeleteMany young ladies are on this table. Taking shit and hoping for wedding bells. That's when their eyes will clear.
Since you all love to form ITK. You mean to tell me you would have the presence of mind to narrate all she did without mistakes? Wow! Then you are ok. This chronicle is ongoing it's not the past. Wedding is this Saturday and as you are dealing with this level of heart break the first thing you will think of is SDK. Have you had your heart broken before? If you have I doubt you will ever come to this conclusion. Anyhoo whatever makes you sleep easy is welcome. BVs bashing an Anonymous poster must hurt like hell oh dear you guys are beyond hilarious!
DeleteTell your friend that she dodged a missile, the guy was thrash, ask your friend if she is a refuse heap
DeleteYour friend has NO SELF ESTEEM TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH SUCH A GIGOLO
Also SHE MUST NOT TAKE HIM BACK WHEN HE GETS THROWN AWAY, HE IS A USER
Hmmm..in kunle remi's voice..fhings dey happen o
ReplyDeleteHmm I will advise her to move on and leave everything to God he will come and beg after he has suffered
ReplyDeleteNo need having anything to do with that type of human. It should be good riddance to bad rubbish.
DeleteEven if he begs and cries blood, he is worthless as a wicked, selfish user
DeleteShe wasted her own life because she decided to hold on despite everything she saw. Going diabolical will not solve it and do you want to tell me the other woman too is not diabolical?
ReplyDeleteThings human do for love
ReplyDeleteNo need to go diabolical, she be alright laslas, she should focus on her profession and I pray a better man finds her
It had to take beating, police and wedding to another woman to force her stubborn foolish self to go, she had no value for herself. She must move on na GOD save her, she must remain saved
DeleteMy dear, dust your feet. Cry it out but remember he was never good for you. Your husband is ahead. That man would receive his payback in future
ReplyDeleteJ has got to be the most senseless woman in love. Wetin be this abeg? What stupid love? How can she be so foolish at her age.
ReplyDeleteWell God saved her, it could have been worse had it been they married. She should count her losses and move on.
Please poster continue to encourage her to move on quickly, let her not be like some broken hearted people that take forever to move on, not giving someone's else a chance and being miserable.
Let her not sha fall in love with the next available idiot.
God saved her true true.
DeleteGod was tired of showing you the red flag and since you were not ready to leave,he practically dragged you out. Cry it out babe, with time you will get over it and when that happens go for Thanksgiving cos God loves you too much that he saved you from marrying this guy. No need going diabolical on him, karma has his address. God will give you your own man that when you look back at the situationship you had with k you will just kneel down and give God thanks
ReplyDeleteWhat love does to people is unimaginable. Love is really blind for some people. I feel so bad for J. She should count her losses and move on
ReplyDeleteThere’s no karma anywhere. You wait tire. You better go any length to deal with him. Very wicked and heartless mf. F him up real bad . Demon
ReplyDeleteNo need, no human knows how to reward like GOD
DeleteJ has a problem. A very big one. What sort of liability relationship was she in for 6 years.
ReplyDeleteThere is no difference between J and the sugar mummy he married.
She was keeping him with her money, another woman with more money out bid her and is keeping him.
I’m tired of being shocked at some women! How do you keep a man with your money?
What is she going diabolical to achieve?
So if this man returns back to her she will collect?
I will never understand the hunger and thirst to train a jobless man endlessly.
It is zero self esteem that caused it and premium stubborn foolishness
DeletePlus being a little dense
DeletePlus being a little dense
DeleteGo diabolical ke?
ReplyDeleteShe better move on. Does she think that Rick woman is going with ordinary hand?
They will just useless her destiny.
She better leave vengeance for God.
Beside she bargained for this somehow...
May God heal her. How can you reject two correct suitors bcos of a jobless man.
Were did the 6 years come from?
ReplyDeleteYou said they met in 2018 during a make-up training course, and they didn't start dating till after the course was done. Depending on the date of completion, they wouldn't have been together more than 4-5years.
Are you 'J'?
If you aren't, why did you feel the need to share her story, and within days of her lovelife crushing down on her?
Was this story written from a place of genuine concern, or do you still habour some ill-will towards her, since the fight?
You've given enough details to let your friend get decoded, including the man's wedding date. Should something happen to him...you've alerted his friends and family that she is the cause, since you've told us she wants to go diabolical!!
Tbh, I really feel bad for J...
ReplyDeleteThere's no need going diabolical on him. It's not worth it at all. Trust me, you don't want to see yourself in a compromised place because of a dickhead. IT'S NOT WORTH IT
Count it a blessing because you dodged a bullet.
K has sowed his seeds and shall reap his harvest when the time is right.
ReplyDeletePls learn from this and move on.you will find love again.God watches us all.he is still the ruler of the universe.
Nothing like Karma has his address cos that lady is so stupid. The red flag was all over her face but she decided to be stupid about loving an idiot, jobless and lazy broke ass. I was angry reading this chronicle.
ReplyDeleteWorthless man
DeleteJ dodge a bullet. That elderly lady he married took the bullet. She will have overdose of K's red flags.
ReplyDeleteIT MIGHT SEEM IMPOSSIBLE, IT WILL FEEL LIKE HER LIFE HAS COME TO AN END, BUT LET YOU ALL RALLY AROUND HER AND HOLD ON, WITH TIME SHE WILL HEAL. MEN APPRECIATE WOMEN WHOM ARE VERY MEAN TO THEM, TRUST ME, THE MOMENT YOU START MAKING SACRIFICES FOR A MAN WHO ISN'T YOUR HUSBAND YOU LOOSE YOUR VALUE. IT IS WELL, MAY GOD CONSOLE HER. PLEASE HER FAMILY AND YOU HER FRIEND SHOULD BE WITH HER, SHE NEEDS YOU ALL NOW. MAKE SHE NO GO KILL HERSELF. - MADAM CAPS.
ReplyDeleteShe kept him by her money so another higher bidder came and bid more and won the contract so what is karma here I don't understand oh ,better move on ,he was with you for your money which you knew and so he left for another higher money spinner so good luck next time by going diabolical on what basis ?that he or the wife jilted you?did he promise you anything
ReplyDeleteHeadache oh 😭😭😭
DeleteMehn, that guy issa beast, like who does that gosh.
ReplyDeletePart of the blame goes to u, u saw all the signs yet u kept believing that he will change, now see nah, move on
Going diabolical is not worth it atall
They are plenty that do that.
DeleteThey deceive and fool themselves
DeleteThey deceive and fool themselves
DeleteOk no offense but were you jazzed???
ReplyDeleteMay the lord console you
Na wa this kind story! It is well with her
ReplyDeleteAnyin…….
she saw the red flags. I cant pity her. she has low self esteem
ReplyDeleteFor 4 or 5 or 6 years as the case truly is, J too chop benefits inside the relationship too. Didn't she?
ReplyDeleteIt seems if K had taken another 5 years to lazy around and about, J would have waited for him? Wonders of wonders.
Lady J, you want to go diabolical for a man you were feeding? When you ought to be celebrating your freedom from his hold on you or your hold on you.
And please don't go fetch blood with your hands by going diabolical. Know that Diabolical pass diabolical. And all diabolical have boomerang antidote. It is on this blog a female Bv commented on how madness was sent back to a married woman who first attacked a woman by just seeing her husband in a picture with the woman.
Above all, wetin be man sef that women fight this much over them. The question is asked here again especially because of the way some (or most) female Bvs always deprecate men in their comments here.
Many women were taught to think marriage and child bearing were the highest ambition in life, not following GOD ooo but idolizing an imperfect often very stupid and confused human
DeleteMany women were taught to think marriage and child bearing were the highest ambition in life, not following GOD ooo but idolizing an imperfect often very stupid and confused human
DeleteMany red flags dey oh, she should let him be, may the good Lord console her.
ReplyDeleteWomen are funny creatures. You see a man living the baby girl life and you want him to stress his life working a 9-5. You must be living in El Delusion. My take on this is he is the last born and they have wrecked his life by making him lazy by dumping free money on him. That woman he is with is very calculative and evil, a woman that will sit pretty and watch a man beat a fellow woman to a pulp without flinching is on an evil mission. My bets are her killing off K's Mum cos that would have made their marriage near impossible.
ReplyDeleteNow K on the other hand might be under some sort of spell or bewitchment, cos he knows that the grandma he is marrying will not give him kids hence the pressure he mounted on J to become a baby mama but her principled nature saved her. She would have become a single and desperate baby mama with nothing but bitterness to keep her company the rest of her life. She should go for Thanksgiving, make peace with her foolishness. Travel out of the country for a vacation and breathe some air. Any man that is comfortable freeloading on you will dump you for a higher giver. Learn to value yourself as a woman, you are the price. If you allow societal pressure push you into a marriage of let me manage you will die young from the challenges of the so called marriage and this same useless society that you hold in so much of a high esteem will come and eat free food. Shed some fake tears and move on.to the next interesting thing. Learn to live your life on your own terms and do what makes you happy. A happy woman will attract a husband material. Men smell desperation from a far and use it to deal with women. Pick yourself up Jay invest in your beauty dress to kill and come back and thank me. I will be waiting.
If I advice her make I bend
ReplyDeleteStill wonder how she was able to achieve so fast and even buying car for a boyfriend as a makeup artist. Maybe your friend was also doing coded runs at the side and the guy knows,so it's just like a game to him
ReplyDeleteAlways quick to label women runs girls. Go and see how much people that really really know their craft are charging for makeup then come back and correct this insult.
DeleteLet me understand, according to your IQ the only way to make a good amount of money is prostitution, na im those zone 4 girls never dey Forbes richest in Nigeria list.
DeleteWhen I tell guys my name is not bob the builder,most of them say I am stingy,I always loud it marry a man that is hardworking with tangible results,women are not Bob the builder,I will not look at any man without a tangible, verifiable,and secured sense of income,self first is not selfishness,people say I am heartless,why don't you date a man with potentials,potentials won't put food on the table,neither will it pay house rent,madam J, soorryy oohh,next time buy house for him so he can marry u.
ReplyDeletePlease tell your friend that she cannot buy a quality man or use money to keep a quality man.
DeleteRespect comes from him providing and she supporting, tell her to go and do deliverance from stupidity, chronic low self esteem and rubbish upbringing
Say no to manage manage, liability men
Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteShe's not entirely innocent, she was also using her money to control and manipulate the guy and he knows it, that is why he went for the highest bidder. He covertly resent and hated her for always using money to keep him. A lot of people, both men and women, have this type of mindset. To use their money to control and keep friends, lovers, etc. It always backfires, nobody wants to be controlled using money.
ReplyDeleteFor her friend to have details of her relationship to this extent, says a lot.
ReplyDeletePeople who use money to control and manipulate others never ever experienced true friendship and love. Generosity is different from using money to buy friendship and love. People being used know and they will hate you for it.
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