VIOLATED BY A STRANGER
Please, i need urgent advice, i was r#ped by a supposed boyfriend on Sunday, i didn't go to his house or visit him at night just because i didn't want s#x to happen.
I noticed the red flags many times but i was thinking of giving him another chance because i thought i wasn't patient enough.
Long story short, i went to visit him and he said we should hang around, he even collected money from me telling me he forgot his atm at work and promised to transfer it which he didn't do.
We went to a hotel and i thought he couldn't have his way if i didn't give him consent. He forced himself on me and overpowered me, i couldn't run outside because i was half naked and i didn't want people to see me naked for fear of putting it on social media, i was very scared to scream so that he wouldn't strangle me.
It's only God that made me not to be embarrassed by driver and conductor because i thought i still have some change with me not knowing he had collected everything.
While i was in the bus, i called him several times to know what i was facing because of lack of cash inside bus before he picked up, i even called him after i alighted from the bus and he promised to transfer my money, since that day he doesn't communicate with me again, i even sent a text message to him to return my money, he called me a fool and blocked me everywhere.
Please, should i take legal action against him or leave him to God ?
Note that i don't know where he stays and where he works but he gave me a hint. We met online.
I'm seriously sad right now.
* Hmmmmmm...... I dont understand why you didnt want to go to his house but you went with him to a hotel and even paid for it...what was on your mind when he was paying for the hotel room? what did you think would be the topic of discussion?
And you kept calling him to send you money or to explain that what? Why didnt you make a scene when you came out of the hotel room? You walked away and went home and now you are asking if you should report? I am sorry but i never thought i would be telling anyone this but you enabled this R#pist !!!..
I am o angry reading this Chronicle..... I dont know what to advice you I AM ANGRY!!!!
Sorry about that but you caused everything that happened to you. The signs was everywhere. Also, you don't need a card to transfer money. Visiting him for he first time in a hotel was another red flag. Kindly take the issue up and report to the police at once.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about what you have to deal with, please start by deleting his number, don’t call him about the money, just forget about it. How much is the money?
DeleteFirst of all that wasn’t a “boyfriend” cus he wasn’t even your friend, he is an evil person who never cared for you but waited like a lion to pounce on you.
Seek therapy if you must and please hope you went to the hospital afterwards to get treated for any form of infection if not please do so.
I am really sorry for your predicament, do not blame yourself in anyway. If you also have any form of evidence you can take it to the police, but in Nigeria that can be stressful.
Also get someone who you trust to be with you through all forms of emotions.
Push up (original)
This your story sounds like those of white girls who accuse black men of rape, only if they realize he only used them for sex and didn't want a relationship. Everything was consensual until he refused to communicate with you and to return your money. Which rape victim pays for the hotel room and worries about being half naked or social media? Mtcheew.
DeleteI won't be hard on you cos I already see how hurt you are.
ReplyDeleteAny man who decides to take you to a hotel instead of his house isn't one to date or even contemplate marriage with.
When I was with my parents, I know a lady I wanted to take to a hotel but she refused. In fact, it runied our relationship. We ended as friends.
I strongly don't think a man can rape a woman alone without gun or object. What happened to shouting in the hotel, creating noise for the staff to come to your aid? He will even be afraid seeing you shouting.
You should have taken a legal action immediately by reporting to the police immediately.
What do you mean by a man can’t rape a woman alone? Please don’t ever say something you don’t know. Don’t even!
DeleteIf you have never experienced rape or understand… don’t say what you don’t know.
DeleteSome people even go into shock during rape, some people can’t move, some can’t scream.
Don’t ever say you don’t think anyone can be raped without weapons. It’s annoying
Also I think you should ncis (special victims unit) to educate yourself on the different forms of molestation
Push up (original)
@Teejay, on this one i disagree with you. You just made a wrong assumption. Never say never. You know yourself. Don't vouch for another person no matter how much you know a person. Pls.
Delete@push up exactly. The lady was in shock. The brain couldn't process what was going on.
DeleteSome may not scream because of fear of not being recorded and posted on the internet. And when things like that are posted , naysayers will say 'wetin cary her go man house or wetin make her follow man ...'
DeleteSecondly, one can actually be overpowered without a gun threat.
Anon don't get me wrong here. I know a man can overpower a woman especially when he's that huge or muscular in size. In this case here, poster is already naked or should I say, half naked or so. The question is, how did she get half naked? Was there any effort to raise alarm? Do people hang around in a hotel room?
DeleteAccording to you, the guy said you people should hang around. So what happened to the bar or lounge? Why inside a hotel room?
I still think there's more you need to tell us so we can advise you proper. How did you conveniently got half naked in just a hang around meeting?
Going to a hotel you already sensed a thing as such could happen, you should put on a jean trouser or did you went there to pass a night with him? Cos if you do, definitely you will shower.
Okay that's aside. I believe she couldn't scream or shout cos of her being unclad according to her narration else she should have put up a resistance first and let's see if the guy would have stopped.
I don't mean to take it lightly what victims of rape undergo but then, I have read stories how some women successfully escaped rape attempt from a single idiot.
I feel so sorry for what you went through but it could have been avoided.
I wish others can learn from this. Just last week a vendor was murdered in a hotel at Ibadan.
Women should apply wisdom and caution when meeting strangers they met online.
Teejay see the nonsense coming from your mouth, just imagine,I pray it doesn't happen to someone close to you,maybe then you would change those archaic words of yours.
DeleteSad she was raped physically and financially. Sorry babe, please be careful and don’t let your guards down so easily. Hope he didn’t record the act? If he did, then you have every right to get him arrested. Also, we’re you able to visit the hospital after the incident because if you did, the you have the report to backup your request for police report for forceful penetration.
DeleteWhy dint you think “oh maybe her clothes were torn off in rage” rather your brain thought towards the negative aspect (probably her taking her clothes off).
DeleteA rapist is a monster and there’s no reasoning with a monster.
Your question shouldn’t be “why was she naked”? cus he knew her stance of sex, she never gave him consent, even if someone is naked before you… NO means NO and remains NO.
You are funny o, she should come and tell you how she got naked 🤣🤣
Walahi you are not serious
Abeg stop victim blaming
Do you think she hasn’t put herself through all these questions (going there, not wearing trousers etc)
And people have been raped even while wearing trousers
Some womens heads have been hit on walls and the floor until they eventually give up for fear of being killed… which the posted told you by the way. A lot can happen in a second which your brain may be trying to process.
Wo
Push up (original)
Push up,
DeleteUnless this lady is 17 or at most 20 years. What rage? Her cloth torn apart and she couldn't shout to a one man without weapon to raise alarm? Why then did she chose hotel instead of his house if she couldn't shout or create scene at least let it be that she tried and was overpowered.
She saying she was still calling him inside the bus on her way going home for money speaks volume. What woman will be raped and dehumanized that way will still be calling after money?
So what if he had given her the money she requested? Would she has come out to seek advice on what to do? Truth is that, she gave in to this going by her narration.
Did she report to the hotel management to start with? Did she go for medical at least to have the fact/evidence to build up a legal case.
Stop blaming this woman Mr. Man. She was raped. Only animals raped. Abuse the man that raped her. Stop blaming the victim. Get enlighten and stop displaying your ignorance here. Even if she did everything wrong, the koko is she was raped!!! Teejay mind yourself!!
DeleteYou didn't go to his house but you followed him to a hotel, just imagine. What's the difference between going to his house and following him to the hotel. By the time you saw he had taken your whole money was when you should have realised this guy is a fraud then decide if you were going to the police or not. I don't know how rape cases are handled though. Let's hear from others
ReplyDeletePlease, go to Health center or general hospital to receive PET drugs.. Jesus, I hope he is not HIV positive. Herps nkọ?
DeleteYour health is in danger now.
Please, Stella contact her to meet a health officer.
Going to the police will not help her case except she involves NGO that will petition the police on her behalf.
That guy is EVIL 😈.
How a man will give a woman appointment in a hotel room and she won't suspect anything, go there with a free mind is being naive. Above all, someone that's been toasting you? Even if he is a pastor or whatever, it's supposed to be a no no. It reels of naivety.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, you said you saw the red flag and went ahead. It was pre determined by him and you helped execute his plans.
No evidence against him apart from the CCTV in the hotel and it will show you were not under pressure or duress when you walked in meaning whatever happened was consensual.
Sulk in silence. Heal with time.
He will call you in future. How you manage that is up to you. When he apologizes and wants a comeback, your decision, your choice.
Sorry.
My dear, it takes intelligence to avoid such scenario. I met a guy friend online who claims to live on the island while I live on the mainland. He asked to see me and I suggested my environs, only for him to suggest hotel. I asked him why an hotel and he said they had a nice lounge… I was like ‘oh great, it had better be the lounge’. Only for the guy to cancel that location, telling me that when he arrives a lounge in my area, he will call me to drive there. In my head, I was thinking that bros was trying to lose every trace of tracks. I just told him that I wouldn’t be available if that’s the technique he plans on using as he needs to tell me where we are meeting, to enable me inform family and friends. That was the last time I heard from him till I relocated abroad. Not saying he had a bad intention but I didn’t trust him not to do what I was thinking and avoided such situation.
DeletePlease report him… Also have yourself checked out.
ReplyDeleteLadies please be careful who you follow out please 🙏 especially someone who you met on social media.😭😭😭
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
Sweetheart, I'm sorry for the ugly incidence.
ReplyDeleteYou need to visit a hospital for proper medication and proceed to report him to any of the organisations listed below;
1. Mirable Centre
2. WARIF
3. Lagos State DSVA
You won't pay a dime for the service this organisation will render, let them fish him out and deal with him.
I'm sure this won't be his first time, probably someone decided to let go and gave him more chance doing it to others.
Felicity
Can one still report a rape case that was done some years ago?
DeleteThanks for mentioning the NGO and govt welfare center.. That's her option to get justice.
DeleteI am very livid. She must be a novice to fall for such trick.
Slim yes one can
DeleteOoooh dear,
ReplyDeletePlease report it asap, the earlier men understand that sex should be consensual the better.
There more to this than you're telling us. Have you been receiving gifts from him? Has he been spending on you before? Did you tell him you're a virgin? Or he got to know you're not just giving him but giving others
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteI still feel this story isn't complete. It makes judgment and advise sometimes difficult when a story isn't told fully and exactly how it happened.
Are these are all reasons why a man should have rights to a woman’s body?
DeleteWow
Why am I not surprised teejay is agreeing with such rubbish ?
Who has raped all the man who collected money from women?
Anon 17:57,
DeleteThere's no justification to rape anyone. What the anon above is insinuating is, could there be some information that weren't disclosed in her story. That's all. No sensible person will justify rape.
Are you 12???????
ReplyDeleteMinus 2 from that 12
DeleteI tire o! My question is WAS IT RAPE sef?
DeletePoster so you don't know where this idiot rapist lives or where he works or what he does for a living.
ReplyDeleteYou followed him to a hotel and paid for the the room.
I don't understand what gets into you girls head.
Someone very close to me was raped after she went to see a stranger in a hotel room.
You all should do better.
What happened to hanging out at an open space?
That idea if lending money to a guy ehh scratch it, they never pay back. If you must lend out money let it be to man you are with, whom you know very well, and even at that make up your mind you might not get it back.
As for this issue on ground ehh, hmm I don't even know what to tell you, do whatever will give you peace.
The Lifted, their problem is GREED.
DeleteThat was how one that went for hook up with a guy in a hotel was duped.
After transacting hook up business with the guy, the guy promised her iPhone 12pro max. They reached the phone shop, that guy bargained the phone price with the seller. He told the girl that the money remain 50k to complete, that she should send the 50k to his account and he will transfer the money to the guy.
The girl sent him 50k. The guy did like he wanted to transfer and said his app is not working. He said he will go to his bank close to the shop and withdraw the cash.
Na so the guy carry the girl money disappear.
It was when the guy was nowhere to be found that the girl while crying confessed that the guy was not her boyfriend and she don't know where he live or work, that she just met him last night for hook up.
Why I'm saying this is because poster story no clear.
Read her story well, she said she noticed the red flag. What happened that lead to the noticing of red flag and what is that red flag she noticed.
What made her give a guy she don't know where he live or work her more?
Did the guy promise her something huge that made her gave him her money?
She is that pained after the rape, then why is she updating the guy when she entered and alighted from the bus?
Real rape victim will be cursing and swearing for the guy.
They lend money so that they will be seen as potential caring wives or independent women
Delete👌🏾 No offense, I know I’m in my 50s but what is wrong with ladies nowadays? What happened to dating in open places like restaurants and zoos or parks to get to know each other? Or going to the movies? At what point do ladies realize the danger in following a random guy into a hotel room when news if killings inside hotels are always on Naija blogosphere? I don’t mean to sound harsh and I’m sorry if I did but report him.
DeleteLadies, get pepper spray keyrings and carry it on you on your purse all the time. A little pepper spray will s disable a wannabe idiot. Stop following men to hotels. A man who really treasures you will take you to a park or restaurant. A hotel has its definition and uses and dating isn’t one of it. That’s hook-up.
Lesson learnt my dear. Just move on. He is a serial r.. and could have other criminal vices.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you go to t he hospital to be checked and get treated against infections, diseases, pregnancy et al.
It's well with you
Move on as how so he can go and r*pe another person abi. Poster don't move on report his crazy ass to any of the organisations mentioned above pls😡
Delete...but you sef no try at all you paid for your own doom😡
This is what desperation to be in a relationship causes. So sorry about your ordeal, but learn to be enough for yourself. If as a woman you are not attracting quality men, or you feel you are not beautiful, learn to love yourself. Dress, spend money on your yourself, step up, get the right vitamins, use good perfumes etc you would attract a lot of people. Not every one that chykes you as a woman should get a response, please.
ReplyDeleteNice 👍
DeleteThese are the types of chronicles I hope not to read because I really feel helpless in aiding you. Please find your inner strength. I hope a lawyer on the blog can advise you. Did you go to a hospital? There should be signs of trauma from forced sex. Do you have bruises scratches on you from struggling to escape, then take pictures. Please reach out to women’s group that are there for women who have been raped, they should be able to help you. You can try to draw out a confession from him through text or a recorded conversation, but you would have to be very good at stealth and know exactly what to say to prompt him.
ReplyDeleteThe thing with being raped is that you need to gather the evidence fast, before you shower and clean yourself up. They need semen samples and the doctor to document the observable trauma seen, your mental state…etc. Once you go and get cleaned up and the bruises healed up, it becomes a his words against yours and that is when the real trauma begins because the questions those lawyers will ask, the way they will paint your character is not for the faint of heart……this is why I suggested that you go to a woman’s group. You would have to tell your city of residence, so someone on the blog can guide you.
I wish you all the best.
Too late for all these medical tests and swaps, she can only get confessional statrment from the rapist that's all.
DeleteThough I think Poster should report the guy, so at least he fets shaken upand not try this with another victim.
Poster, take care of yourself, take this as a lesson and wisen up.
Goodluck
Bee Hill it’s not late for swaps. She needs to be sure she’s not pregnant or infected with anything
DeleteI don't think it happened like you are thinking. Poster gave in to the guy having a different expectation and called the experience rape when her expectations were not met. No adult woman in her right sense follows a strange man into a hotel room without the normal level of doubt or fear of bring raped. If she left that room with what she was promised, relationship, gifts, love, she will not be here posting she was raped.
Delete08:26 don’t say what you don’t know
DeletePeople tend to feel and become very familiar with people they jnteract with regularly
She never thought he would do this. She was trying to avoid them having sex that’s why she didn’t visit. She wasn’t thinking he’d actually force her if she says no
When i was 17, a guy asked me out. He was older than me, generous and easy to talk to. So one day he asked us to hang outside the university. i schooled in the north, so i thought were else could we go. He drove us to Sabon Gari and parked inside hotel. I started sweating inside, because i was 17 [ trying to act grown up] and also a virgin [ i remained a virgin till i got married at age 27].
ReplyDeleteWhen this guy parked inside the hotel, my instincts kept telling me to tell him no, take me back to my school, another was telling me, ''he will think you are a small girl and will not respect you again''. SO i followed him inside the hotel room he booked in my presence. When we got there, he started touching me seductively, i explained to him that i was a virgin and i intend to remain so till i got married, he then asked me the same question Stella just asked you, what do you think was going to happen when we entered here. Ha! my mind cut, i prayed inwards and i decided not to fight him, since he was physically stronger than me, older than me and richer than me.
I decided to let him have his way with me, since na me carry leg follow am enter hotel room. Nobody will believe me, if i tell them any other thing. He started to enjoy himself. I guess the Holy spirit ministered to him and he said ''get dressed, let me take you ack to your school''. With shaky legs, i got dressed. He drove me to school and asked if i needed anything, he even gave me money. When i entered my hostel, i blocked him and never spoke to him again.
I write this to let you know that we have all made mistakes at certain times by not following our instincts. However, the most important step is accountability. Acknowledging your own fault in all this and moving forward. Don't accuse this guy of rape or anything, make this your secret forever. But forgive yourself for being trusting. Don't let anyone guilt trip you into speaking to this guy again and do not listen to anyone that wants to blame you. You have no prove of rape and the fact that you called him afterwards to ask for money [even if the money is yours] negates your claim in court of law or public opinion. Be rest assured, he will get what's coming to him in future.
Sorry for everything. Love yourself.
How did you remain a virgin till age 27 after the guy enjoyed himself?
DeleteUr last paragraph is everything!!
Delete19:55 maybe just foreplay cos me sef confuse
Delete19:55 this is not a hard thing to understand
DeleteHe started foreplay and didn’t penetrate
Poster like you too wasn't trusting but 'greeding'. You had this kind of cringing experience with a man and still collected money from someone like that afterwards. What was the money intended for? To pay for the almost rape? So if he had raped you and 'paid' you, would it still be rape pls?
DeleteWonder what being a birgin entails? Virginity and enjoyed himself in the same sentence.
Delete@ anon 08:32, i was not raped! i never said i was raped! i told her my story, so that she would not feel stupid about going into the hotel with him against her better judgement. The guy was my boyfriend, albeit older, but boyfriend nevertheless. I had no intention of having sex with any man until wedding night and this guy almost made me lose my virginity because i would never have been strong enough to fight him off. It was not greed, it was stupidity. When he gave me money, i was too shocked and relieved to have gotten out unscathed, that i just collected the money and went to my hostel. If it were greed, i would have continued dating him, because he even promised to take me shopping the next day and true to his words, he came to pick me, but i was never going to put myself in any dangerous situation again, so i blocked him and moved on with my life.
DeleteFor the idiots, who have been acting confused about virginity, Virginity means the state of never having sexual intercourse. Foreplay may happen, but as long as the intercourse itself never happened, a woman is still a virgin.
When they start running from Pillar to post wondering what happened to them, that's when they'll starting begging God for mercy. How do you do this and expect the universe not to deal with you.
ReplyDeleteAnd to my sis so sorry but stop going to men's house alone especially if it's a new person.
Please speak out to ease the pain. If you can afford a therapist, speak to one.
She couldn't make a scene because her nervous system was still in a state of shock.
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteWe are better than asking a victim why she didn’t shout
You decided to take action now because he blocked you and won't return your money. In other words, you would've continued if he kept communication open and returned your money. You have no case darling.
ReplyDeleteOh! You saw that.
DeleteThis just reminded me of a lady that had a consensual sex with a man and after it, the man gave her a cheque. When the cheque bounced, the lady changed the narration that the man raped her. Unfortunate for her the man had a voice recording of them arranging and agreeing for the sex. The only thing the police did to the man was charging him for issuing a dud cheque that it was a criminal act under the law.
The man later settled the police and left without giving the lady a dime.
Exactly!
DeleteYou didn't act right by going with him to the hotel.i know you are hurt by this ugly incident but I will advise you to learn from it and move on.
ReplyDeleteDon't move on report to police and human right organization pls don't keep quiet let him be drag ,even if it is small.Anything can happen even in the open so I don't blame you for that but after you came out of the room you should have created scene anyway maybe you don't want idiotic children post your face on net just like they will be posting accident victims instead of helping pls just drag this boy and tell police and human right council save his next victim please
ReplyDeleteThis looks like hook-up gone wrong..
ReplyDeleteTho, whether hook up or not, no one has the right to touch you without your consent..
I think you consented tho, but the issue was the money he collected from you and the ones he stole from you, plus him not still paying for the backs as agreed.. he must have spoken big and promised you a lot, na wetin make you give am the money base on say you dey look am as big boy..
Cos the whole story of going to logde with him, but don't want to go to his house.. shey you dey whine yourself nii.. na prayers you won go pray nii.. Stop playing abeg🤷
God bless you, DANTE.
DeleteHook up gone wrong.
Just like I told Bv The Lifted, up there.
E be like she carry greed go do hook up and the guy outsmarted her.
Things like this dey play out every day and her likes will play the rape card because they know say people go believe her rape story easily.
Poster, no matter how you twist your story, I can never believe it.
*nacks not *backs
DeleteHow old are you again? 19/20? How could you be so stupid?!
ReplyDeleteSo many red flags in this story and I’m so tempted to be upset with you but rape is never ok ! If there was no yes then he didn’t have any right to violate you In such a way. Dude is a serial rapist and you were his stupid victim.
You’re still going to hotels with people you met online ? Does your life not mean anything to you at all? And for someone you call boyfriend who you don’t know his house or work that’s even if he works , how’s he your boyfriend?
Hopefully you learn sense because you lack it . This could have been avoided why I’m so upset.
Lady MORGIANNE
Poster, ladies like you encourage rape by your behaviour. I will blame you.
ReplyDeleteWhat we're you thinking when You went to a hotel with a man ?
Saying you are half naked shows you might have been romancing with him and he had an erection and you will now say no sex.
Do you think is all men that can control themselves at that point?
Are you even sure he raped you because some of you ladies now use rape to frame men up.
Until you bring a strong evidence to convince me of the rape or I hear the guy side of story and agree to raping you before I will believe.
Ladies, don't start what you can't finish. If you don't want sex with a guy, please don't visit him at home or hotel.
Guys, if a lady say no to sex, free her, even if you guys have romance to the point of penetration, I know the urge is very high at that point but try and leave her alone. But at this point, you are free to throw her out of your house or hotel immediately and irrespective of the time. Don't give her shishi. If she no get money to lodge herself or transport herself home, that one na her business.
Why didn't u run out for help when the action was taking place, it would have been better to have the guy caught right there and then saving other girls from pathetic storries like yours. Kpele but I think you need evidence to present in the station. Did you visit any hospital after the incident.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry poster!
ReplyDelete-Anyin
You didn’t cause it
ReplyDeleteYou felt hotel was safe because you can shout for help but then with our judgy culture, you didn’t shout because you didn’t want to be humiliated like folks are doing now asking why you went there
How you respond is up to you
For me I’m finding babalawo to finish him
On this matter, I can’t leave judgment to God
You can fall the police to investigate. They’ll say the same as most of the comments above but they’ll at least call him in for questioning and see what they can find. It’s he says she said so probably won’t go too far
You can also call his family and let them know but they say birds of a feather flock together so they may just be like him
She doesn't know his place of residence/work, is it family she will nw knw? It's only dem and God that knw what truly happened.
DeleteAmicable hell hath no fury like a woman scorned
DeleteShe can find his house and job and report him
Using your money to rape you. Poster l can imagine what you went through but thank God you are alive to tell the story You have admitted your mistakes. However this ends, let this incident teach you lessons you never knew and be careful who you trust and let into your life.
ReplyDeleteAre you able to locate him? Find area boys if you have money to pay them so they can beat the shit out of him and get him arrested afterwards. This loser won’t stop until something drastic is done. I’m sure he’s done it to other women and he got away with it. Hope he doesn’t know where you live. You might need to move out if he does. Before you do this, gather all evidence, hotel receipts, day you guys met, pictures of him, text messages of conversations that he took your money, take pictures of any bruises and go to the hospital for check up & confirmation that he raped you. They’ll give you the result. Somethings you need to handle immediately then let God deal with him afterwards. It’ll be less traumatic for you at least you got justice. If you don’t take action, this might really weigh you down the more. Moving forward, get counseling to help work through your emotions and what just happened to you and pray to God for healing. Hope you’ve learned your lesson because we’ve discussed this so much on this blog yet desperation clouds some of you guys judgement. Focus on you for now and work on your self esteem and confidence level!
ReplyDeleteOmg he is truly evil and you are so naive!
ReplyDeleteThis person might change talk that you are the one that have been pestering him for sex and all, hence paying for the hotel.
I wish you made a lot of noise after the incident and I pray you get help.
I am sorry about what happened to you, please be careful
Hmmmmm
ReplyDeletePoster you couldn't visit his house, but you had money to pay for a hotel, were you hoping to receive deliverance or what? You see fire, na you decide to enter, you can still report him thou, I wish you the best, and sorry for your ordeal.
ReplyDeleteIf your story is the truth(cos you guys lie a lot)you have a case.Inform a reputable police station and make sure a female officer is involved.
ReplyDeleteYou could go to court and get an order for reversal of the funds on the grounds that you accidentally transferred it.
ReplyDelete3rd paragraph, you went to visit him...
ReplyDeleteLast paragraph, you don't even know where he lives..
Hmmmm.
Poster ndo but I hope you have taken the necessary medical treatments? Make you for no leave rape matter come dey face diseases like HIV, gonorrhea and other dangerous diseases wey him give you, my opinion go for medical checkup first before any other thing, ukpana ukpoko gburu nti chiri ya
ReplyDeleteVery very important, poster, go and get tested and treated first. Forget police, they don't have anything to tell you, try any of the women organisations mentioned if they can help in getting justice and your medical report will help as evidence. I'm so sorry you experienced this. Good luck.
DeleteSo sorry poster. Lesson learnt!!!
ReplyDelete1.Embrace yourself and stay away from men for awhile!!
2. Don’t follow any man or stranger to their house except you have known him very well.
3. Carry pepper spray Gobforbid anything. .
4. Report to the police and speak about it more. It’s helps to have a support group.
Some men are animals. Zero self control. I wish you well and go to the hospital for checkup.
You don't follow a man you met online to a hotel and expect to play chess, press phone and go home, unless you have been dating him for months or years. Were you guys dating? No, so why did you go to a hotel, gave him money to pay? What were you really expecting? This is hookup, you decide to play the rape card because he blocked you and took your money.
ReplyDeleteIam sorry about your ordeal but this is a lesson to women,when I was single I don't take shit from men! How will you even ask me to follow you to a hotel in the first place? You can go to the movies,pool,or joints but not hotel,it is not ideal except you travelled outside your station together for an occasion and it must be somebody you have been dating for long.
ReplyDeletePlease try and do test and report him to the authorities up there or leave him to God,this really peeves me because it will look like you were the one that paid for him to be with you since it was your account that was used to pay for the booking.
Iam so sorry but you have to be very smart,you could have shouted when he started roughing you up but you kept quiet,just leave him to God and be wise as as a serpent
Sorry for what you went through.You should not have followed him to an hotel room, whatever discussion should be done in an open place like an eatery.I would advice you forget about him and move on.
ReplyDeleteGo to his work place and report him with a lawyer in tow.
ReplyDelete'Leave him to God' 'leave her to God' is the most useless phrase I've ever heard. Stop it.
Its because women are not speaking up that these useless beasts you call your men are performing such despicable acts, raping children, raping babies, killing woman. Was it not that another bas.tard that stabbed another woman a few days ago and still raped her dead body???
You are still asking JAMB questions when you should have nail.ed his testicles to a wooden plank. Mtshewww.
Hanty, calm down and read again, dod you see where she said she doesn’t know where he works nor his residential address?
DeleteHope the guy never use you?? You follow a stranger you met on line to hotel room to read Bible or pray???
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for what happened to you,I dont want blame you dear,.
ReplyDeleteReport him to the above authorities and I believe he will be dealt with...
So sorry
First of all: GO TO THE HOSPITAL FOR POST EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS against HIV. Second: Send his picture to a blog! Stating that he is a rapist ànd a thief to warn other women. Since he blocked you everywhere, let his people at home and at work be the ones to tell him his picture is trending and he is a rapist. For him to have the balls to do this, you are probably not his only victim. Break the cycle by exposing him. Even offer to conduct an interview, a process journalist can blur your face while you share your story to protect you from stigma.
ReplyDeleteI’m so sorry that this happened to you.
I would do this
Deleteso sorry about your expereince girl❤️
ReplyDeleteSorry about your experience with that idiot but you sounded so young, you should have sent us a chronicle before he took you to the hotel. The idiot planned it all along before he invited you over and also collected money from you to foot the hotel bills cos you gave him hard time of having you
ReplyDeleteYou cannot do much especially in a country where no one consider our gender truthful. If you report him to the police now you will get more hurt at the end of the day than you are already.
Let this be a learning point for you that you cannot trust the opposite gender no matter what. Learn that you don't have anything to discuss with the opposite gender in a hotel room tham sex. Let it cos it has already happened but never allow such to happen to you again no matter what.
Wishing you a very quick healing, forget him with the money you gave him. That idiot will meet someone who will deal with him soon.
This girl said she was raped and see think pieces everywhere blaming her for being raped instead of that monster without imagining what her present state of mind is. Yeah, she should have paid more attention to her instincts but there is only one rapist here. Some of you on here are scary cos I am imagining real life and you people are telling people physically that its their fault they were raped.
ReplyDeletePoster if you know where he works, yes proceed to involve the police so you can at least recover your money I am sorry you were raped . Praying for your healing.
God bless you
DeleteBecause she said so doesn't mean that's what happened my dear
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