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IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG GUY
I fell in love with the wrong guy, he was all lovely and nice, giving me so much hope of us ending up as husband and wife.
After few months of meeting him, he started abusing me emotionally. At a point he ghosted me without any reason for 5 months and later came to apologise. I forgave him. He did same thing for the second time, I still let go.
Why I kept doing the forgiveness I don't know and taking a man that hurts me so much especially at my lowest moment when I lost my job.
My sister was so angry with me. The foolish me thought he would change, then he left me again, I feel so broken cos I left so many responsible guys both home and abroad, who were ready to marry me for a man that got no iota of love for me.
I'm such a faithful lover. My hurt is why a strong girl like me whom a lot of people admire for both my beauty and character left herself to be abused severally.
I feel sad remembering how my sister kept telling me a chameleon would never change its colour.
*If you have not ended the relationship already, please d so at once and move on!
*If you have not ended the relationship already, please d so at once and move on!
You saw the red flags and would have left back then
ReplyDeleteIt's high time you moved on then
Don't be sad. It's a choice you made on your own. If he comes back again, you will still forgive and accept him back.
ReplyDeletePoster forgive yourself by accepting all that happened in the past. Notwithstanding there's still a future and you can still meet a right man to build a beautiful tomorrow together.
DeleteTake my hugs
Do you love yourself? I ask cos he ghosts you for 5months, and then comes back, and you forgave him. And then he did it again. Babes, drop him, he's not worth it. NO ONE is worth your peace of mind. He knows you're "always" available, so when he comes back, yea forgive him, but do not accept him back.
ReplyDeleteNo she doesn’t love herself because which kain nonsense be this??
DeletePoster see a therapist to help with your self esteem.
Sometimes I wish emotion is something we can plug off or on, its hard. I was once in her shoes. I so loved this guy but he never treated me like I was a priority. I moved on and still came back. What I did was give someone else a chance which made me forget the unserious fellow!!!
DeleteMartyr complex or what's wrong ? You enjoy being emotionally down trodden? FTRs: you ain't strong anything.
ReplyDelete😂😂😂 Matyr complex
DeleteExactly,poster you are not strong anything
DeleteHi poster. You dont love him. You are attached to him. You need to learn to love yourself more. When you love yourseld, a man who treats you like this becomes unattractive to you. Pls chk your family history. It seems unhealthy love was modelled in front of you. Maybe ur parents? Or you were raised by a family who put you down so you dont value yoursslf. Pls work on self worth so you can get the love you deserve
DeletePoster go online and find out google your attachment style
DeleteWork on your self esteem
Block him everywhere, he is worthless as a partner unreliable and selfish
I am so sorry dear,, some people love so hard like that.
ReplyDeleteJust like Stella said,, make up your mind and forget about everything about him. He obviously doesn't love and deserve you.
May the right man locate you soon in Jesus name, Amen!
He won't change. He knows you'll be waiting so taking you for granted. Saying enough is enough will do you a whole lot of good. Your life's regrets are piling up and accumulating. Only you can stop it now.
ReplyDeleteLeave him and be useful to yourself while thinking about him from afar than wait for him to appear from no where after months and be filled with regrets.
His acts, be sincere to yourself, you know he won't change, you just don't want break up of the relationship to be blamed on you. But the question is if you're in a relationship in the first instance?
We wait for time. Time waits for no one.
If you want us to tell you to leave him because you can't on your own upon all your sister has been saying, LEAVE him.
Cut him off, block him everywhere
DeleteYou are better single than attached to that korofo
Cut him off, block him everywhere
DeleteYou are better single than attached to that korofo
Too many ppl have confused how one should act in forgiveness. Forgiving someone does not mean you open yourself up to them again. You can forgive someone and never speak to them again. You can forgive and move on. Forgiveness does not mean you must expose yourself to abuse, you must be friends or be in some contact with an individual that is harmful to you. Not everyone should have access to you, start setting strong boundaries for yourself.
ReplyDeleteYour mumu never do?
ReplyDeleteContinue
Sorry dear, that was me before oo, chop breakfast, forgive on replay, until I gathered sense, I left the wicked man, and met the best man that the Lord kept for me, Babe if you see me now, You won't know me again, My life changed in every ramifications. So Cry not. God is in control.
ReplyDeleteChronicle Poster,
ReplyDeleteI think there was something you were getting or gaining from him else I don't see a reason he will will ghosted you twice and you still accept him back.
Are you that cheap or what?
It's obvious there was something that held you down with him. If not I don't think you will keep trying to make it work when it was obvious he's a play and fuck boy.
A wise man once said;
''Don't accept the same apology twice.''
It's good you've given yourself a great sense of respect by quting the nonsense you were indulging on in the name of relationship.
A man that truly loves and value you will come your way.
A fresh start is always a new mindset.
All the best.
Are you trying to suggest that she has been dickmatized by the guy? Or some hope of prospective benefits involved?
DeleteShe might not be oo. Just mumu love, co dependency type of love. Self esteem dey completely on the floor so she dey chop shit anyhow. Poster please don’t bring kids into this world without working on yourself first oo because I don’t know what self esteem you’ll instill in them. This is so worrisome. Please talk to a professional therapist to really work on your deep fears and emotions and childhood trauma. I bet you a lot of your past is associated with this type of behavior. Pray and ask God to fill any void in you that a man or human being can’t fill. Goodluck.
DeleteAnon just maybe. Cos I don't see why someone will allowed herself to be fooled thrice.
DeleteHe will never change its your choice to leave him
ReplyDeleteWas it yesterday or so many comments from ladies here were supporting ghosting..
ReplyDeleteWhen some of you support rubbish you'll never put yourself in the shoes to see how evil that thing is until you become the victim of it.
I wonder how someone who claims to be matured would ghost a person or support ghosting without communicating the issue first..
Anyway, end this trash relationship
What is even wrong with you?
DeleteEvery chronicle , you must pin it on ladies.
It is becoming irritating.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
But it was a man that ghosted her, not a lady. Which means so many men support ghosting too.
DeleteXoxo....cud this b love?? Dante is right ..most females yesterday supported ghosting...I gues that's y...No vex King!!
DeleteThe mistakes we made and looking for time that will never come to correct. And you guys are doing same. We the older people than you can give anything to turn back the hands of time to correct these mistakes but you that have time and young are with your eyes open jumping into these mistakes. At least, during our times, we were blind.
ReplyDeleteTalk less about love in this relationship. You're in a situationship.
You left people that wanted to marry you hoping he will change, really? Once, could be coincidence, second time is intentional.
Common open your eyes and face life. What kind of useless love is that? Are you under 24? He marries you, ghosting you won't be not talking to you. He will leave house for as long as he wants and come back when he's done. And you talk or argue? He will feel you're infringing on his rights because he's used to it.
Am trying to be civil. Will you respect yourself and end this rubbish you call love?
Keep dreaming he will change. I know that's the rope you tied yourself with. He won't. Bear this in mind and get up and go. You're not going to be the first that walked out of her so called love.
Even if you don't love yourself, do it for your sister. Take a walk.
The reason she keeps forgiving is the man makes think it is HER FAULT for him leaving.
ReplyDeleteHe has made her think something is wrong with her.
He also makes her think he is ghosting you for another woman
He makes you think it is your character.
Poster, walk away from that mad man or else he will finish you off emotionally and you will start questioning your wellbeing.
That's why some people says that love is wicked
ReplyDeletemy gender are so funny, so someone kept on abusing you and you could not leave that ship till he left you with all the abuse you went through. Una dey really try.
ReplyDeleteBecause you don't love yourself.
ReplyDeletePick your shoes 👞 and run from that man..
ReplyDeleteDon't look back again.
Ahead ahead
Hmmmmm the things we take for love. Abeg take a walk
ReplyDelete`no need advising you as it appears that the guy has taken your sense with him
ReplyDeletePoster, E-hugs to you. There are some of us looking for women like you. And we know your value. You did nothing wrong trusting your man. There are better days and a better man ahead for you. Don't beat yourself up.
ReplyDeletePlease free him! If the wrong person doesn't leave,the right man will not come. May God strengthen you but don't accept him back,move on and be hopeful!
ReplyDeleteCan't advise people like you. You're not ready. When you are, nobody go tell you.
ReplyDeleteThis was me last year. I was desperate to marry last year, I took a lot of shit from men cos of my desperation. As I got into this year, I said goodbye to last year and am completely focused on God to build my self esteem, self worth and self confidence and to ultimately bless me with a good man that will know my worth and value me.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing. All the best to you.
DeletePoster, pray against soul ties. Go on three days fasting and prayers to break the soul tie between both of you.
ReplyDeleteWe know your type na. You hate the committed, faithful and calm dudes. You prefer the bad, rugged and toxic players. By the time you realize, you would be 45
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