FRIDAY IN HOUSE NEWS..

  I GREET YOU!!!

IN HOUSE MEMO

Have a great weekend and stay away from angry people and anything anti peace.... Make sure you go out there to vote for the governorship candidates of your choice OK?... We will do updates tomorrow as much as we can...

Enjoy your day....

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A MAN GOING THROUGH FATHERHOOD

I detest house chores.

Even though my step mum made me do so much back then at a tender age, I still detest them.

When I left home and lived alone as a bachelor, I had some neighbor's children come in and do the chores for me while I gave them stipends.

As at when I got married, I had already bought a good generator, a fridge/freezer, washing machine, a good gas cooker/oven, blender, etc. I bought them so my wife would be relieved of the stress of house chores.

Now I hardly help her with them but I'm very good with the kids. I can babysit a child of any age including new born babies. I can even bath and back them.
So, she does the chores while I help with the kids. Any one she feels too tired to do, she leaves it and invites someone to do it for a fee, especially weekend soups. I love seeing her seated beside me seeing a movie together or just gisting on weekends.

My fellow men, it is not by force to do chores if you don't like doing them but make sure you arrange well before marriage. Provide all the necessary gadgets and resources, so that your wife is not stressed out from house work, stress makes one look older, angry and aggressive. It can lead to depression too.

We move (side eyes at Pinky)

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SAD GIST

My whole day is messed up, I saw the pidgin post you made and it brought back the pain again, on Monday morning I left the house around 4am to visit my bank because I did a transaction and it has not been reverted even until this moment, so as I stepped out, I saw this keke driver, it was very unusual of this environment because they hardly come out that early, so he asked me to enter, I quickly told him that I don't have money, but he said I shouldn't worry that it is not good for a woman to be walking alone that early...

  Stella na so I enter ooo, we started gisting about Nigeria and the current hardship, this man lamented so bitterly about how his wife treats him because things are hard for them, he said the woman collected some money from LAPO and he's been the one paying, so it's been hard for him to meet up with other bills in the house including children's school fees, I encouraged and preached to this man that all will be well again..

 I even told him that my kids too are owing and I'm trusting God to sort out the bills, he said he was tired of life, and will not continue with the way things are going, that he will fix things soon, he even told me that he slept in his keke around my neighbourhood till that morning and that once he gets home now, his wife will start accusing him that he slept in a woman's house, without knowing that he slept in this open environment...

  he took me to the bank and drove away, Stella yesterday evening, we heard that somebody jumped into the river, he was rescued, but he had ingested other substance and before they got him to the hospital, he gave up, Stella it was that same handsome man that did me a favour, he shouldn't be more than 45 years of age, I'm livid!! 

So seeing your post on Thursday afternoon brought that memory back, I could've said more, I shouldn't have allowed him go that day, I should've asked him what he meant by ending all his problems... I feel so bad, this government has dealt with a lot of people and so many homes are suffering, may God help us all ooo


Hmmmm i think what made that made give up and kill himself was the abuse from his wife.. There are lots of struggling men still alive and hustling despite the bad economy but they have women who encourage their hustle.... I hope that his wife will see that she is the one that made him commit suicide

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ADVICE TO BV WITH MOTHER IN LAW ISSUE

Please I want to advise the lady who talked about her MIL living close by to her future husband's house.

I hope you see this. Try and meet his mother halfway and compromise in any way you can.
Calling her once a week is not too much and getting her things from the market when you do your own market runs is also not too much. Even sometimes when you can you can create time get stuff for her and go back home. 

See her as your mom and go the capacity you can go for your mom if she was the one living close by just to make her feel loved and comfortable once in a while. Not all the time though but you should be smart enough to find a balance.

But you outright saying you won't go or you won't visit won't help you at the end of the day.

Don't let anyone try to make you feel stupid for showing her love. I know some people will say even my mother I don't do this and that for her but please does that make it right? Some people rejected basic simple training they got from home and think because their parent tolerated their excesses automatically makes it right and justified.

My cousin had the same issue you did and refused to get close to the MIL. The MIL "overloved" her if there is any word like that but she went into the marriage with the mentality of, I don't want familiarity, later the woman left her. Whether she calls or not the woman does not complain, whether she visited her cup of tea. She is now the one looking for the woman's face but she can't find it.

Even if your husband doesn't help you speak to his mom it doesn't mean he is a bad person. Maybe that is his shortcomings. Nobody is totally perfect. Nobody is married to a perfect being no matter how it appears so. so don't ignore the other beautiful qualities he might have that others lack even though they speak to their mother on behalf of their wives. 

Don't compare your husband with others. So It is left to you as a woman to apply wisdom when you have a husband like that. Don't look down on him. Trust me there are other qualities he has that others who stand up for their wives don't have.
Both of you have to reach a middle ground. You will adjust and she, your MIL will adjust and know you can't be there for her all the time but try the little you can and show her love. No two marriage is alike


Nice advice...My late mother in law was soooo good to me and spoilt me silly but she had her stern side which i overlooked and she also over looked my flaws...Kai i am glad to i got to know her.....

Those of you with Mother in laws, try to get to know and love them oh and stop comparing them with your mothers...



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FROM FAQ ON THURSDAY

''I had a dream that I have a very beautiful shiny silky hair but with a little of white strands, in my forties. Please, what might it mean?''

Aging young gracefully...

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''I had a dream that a family member who's a wife was passing serious excreta, I mean plenty plenty poo that almost filled the toilet bowl, please, what does this mean ooo''

Acute diarhea

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