MESSAGE TO ALL VIRGINS
Hello Babe,
I am sending this message to you so you could rest from all the worries about your virginity. Keep it till your wedding night! Nothing is wrong with you. You are perfect. I lost mine at 25 before my wedding but I could have listened to several warnings from people. I never did and that has cost me more than I could have imagined. Though I have forgiven myself but I thought I should share my story to the Virgins that are so confused about what to do.
I have a very promiscuous aunt who took her time to sit me and pleaded with me to keep my virginity till I got married. I was very shocked at her preaching to me about keeping my body. I cried as she narrated her story. Having s#xual relationships was the beginning of her downfall according to her.
I was 18 as at the time we had this discussion and a virgin. I followed a friend in school to church for a program and the visiting pastor who was invited to preach faced me during his sermon and specifically looked at me and told me" young girl, keep your body till you are married. In fact, he walked up to and pointed at me.
I was so embarrassed as everyone turned their eyes to me.
I was so embarrassed as everyone turned their eyes to me.
At that time I was a troubled girl in school. Non of my friends were virgins but I was a virgin. My life was going on smoothly until I thought I was in love and sacrificed my purity to someone whom I had thought I was going to get married to. We were together for more than 6 years. He had waited for me so long and disconnected from the all the several warnings.
The first s#x that broke my virginity led to a pregnancy. I pleaded with him that we should abort the innocent baby. We did and he travelled out. He never came back and we did not get married as planned. I stayed away from sex thereafter and met my husband. I was celibate for years before I met my husband. He was ready to get married. We had sex 2 times and I got a warning again!
I was so desperate because all my friend were all getting married. I tried to convince my husband to let us remain celibate till we tied the knots. He refused. I seek advice from other people and I was told it is better that I know my husband can perform in bed before we get married. We continued to have sex but my spirit was not at peace. We were planning our wedding gradually. After the introduction, i realised I was pregnant!
I miscalculated all through, I have been married for 12 years and I only had good sex life with my husband for only 2 years. Babe, you do not need to confirm the performance of a man in bed before your wedding by sacrificing your celibacy or viginity. Keep yourself for yourself. My husband who used to be very good in bed is no longer good. He would not visit the doctor. I cry to bed most times when my body is in need for it. Keep yourself!
So many things I lost after I started sexual relationship. God will have mercy on those whom he chooses to show mercy to. Do not compare the lives of others with yours. Keep yourself. It is going to worth the wait. This message is for just one person, I hope she finds it.
*WOW!!!
OK o, it's good to follow one's mind
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Keep it for yourself and may God protect you from evil people like rapist
DeleteI lost mine without consent....
I wonder where ang is sef?
Poster,pls go and get a vibrator and leave all this sermon. You are starved of good sex and a vibrator can give you the desired multi orgasms. Or is it a sin to use a vibrator?
DeleteYesso, just follow your own discretion which the Holy Spirit uses to speak to you, but the noise from the outside world and social media can be distracting.
DeleteI know the devil sometimes using sexual things as a door to manipulate one’s life and destiny, that’s why some successful people are told to stay off sex.
A friend of mine was warned by various people at different times to stay away from sex so she can experience Gods intervention in her life.
Dear virgins, please keep yourself, not because of your husband but for yourself, and to have a deeper relationship with God, trusting God that He will give you the best cus His plans for us are always good.
Push up (original)
I gave my own up with marriage a week after my wedding. That didn't stop him from cheating on me several months after and for several years for the course of our marriage or abusing me physically and emotionally. The joke's on him though.
DeleteI don't regret being a decent human. I just hoped things would have been different.
I doubt the loss of your virginity is the issue here. Life is not a one size fits all. You need to deal with whatever issues you are having and stop mourning the loss of your virginity.
ReplyDeleteThis message is for just one person, I hope she finds it.
DeleteI know people who started having sex in their teens. They are married and they are still enjoying mind-blowing sex.
DeleteKeeping your virginity until after you're married won't guarantee the longevity of your marriage.
You could have led a promiscuous lifestyle and still ended up with a sexually satisfying marriage.
Anonymous 15:11 God bless you, poster biko get a life and help your husband , encourage him to visit a doctor he might be shy, or the taught of him having weak erecting might have affect his self esteem that he finds it difficult to visit the hospital. Biko go and help before you dey complain over spill milk.
DeleteYou people are misunderstanding the poster because you hate to hear people preach about celibacy.
DeleteHer point is, people keep advising to know how good your partner is in bed so you won't end up marrying someone that has poor performance in bed and she did the sampling as advised yet her husband still developed the same problem that she was avoiding, it would have been better if she remained celibate till marriage at least she would have gotten a thumbs up from her creator and would have even be more proud of herself for enduring till the end, after all the sampling she still met what she was afraid to meet.
Testing different people to know if you are sexualy compatible is not a guarantee that you will enjoy sex in marriage more than those that kept their virginity. Virgins can also learn sex skills in marriage their marriages and end up performing far better than those who have been in the game for decades
Slim shaddy leave them Nah.
DeleteSo you think they don't understand what the message was about. Make dem dey play
They will enjoy premarital orgasm and still be fighting those who are they think are starved.
Poster thank you for sharing. But have it at the back of your mind that what did not work for you may work for another. Some people have kept their virginity and end up with the wrong partner. Some did not keep it but are happy with a good partner. Just do what will work for you.
ReplyDeleteExcited courtesy and co that love to talk about testing before marriage on this blog. Hope you now see testing is not foolproof for a sex- machine? You can be celibate, get closer to God and watch him give you the desire of your heart. That beautiful marriage you seek comes from him. Kindly obey him and see him make you happy.
DeleteWell said Slim shady & anon 7:35
DeleteEven though Keeping yourself is not a guarantee to a good marriage keep yourself for yourself it saves you a lot of troubles. (Stds, unplanned pregnancies, abortions, emotional and spiritual entanglements etc. )
ReplyDeleteGod is a very merciful God so even if you are no more one but trusting Him now He still has great plans for you.
God Almighty bless you Yvonne
DeleteAmen.
DeleteGod bless you too anon16:10
Well said Yvonne
DeletePlease everyone's race is different. I personally would strongly advise for both men and women to stay out of fornication/ masturbation until marriage! And masturbation is a very huge sin, even those of you that encourage dildo, is inviting demonic spirits into your life, especially if you are married. This is for the chosen ones; I was pressured into sex when I just left secondary by an evil 😈 wizardry guy ,as I was born again. It affected me a lot because I am a chosen one, even though I retraced my steps later in life; it cost me good relationships! I had to go for serious cleansing, because I remember vividly,a white garment prophet in cherubim warned me no sex until marraige,I just remembered today as I read this chronicle ; holidaying in Lagos, Ijust finished pry 6, a church near where I went to spend holiday then, as I am not a member. I noticed things will go completely wrong for me,any time I fornicated. I had to retrace my footsteps, though the damage had been done.
DeleteI became celibate in my 30s! I have had over 6 disappointments, even though no sex involved, because of that wrong foundation as a chosen one. I am getting married this year at 46 and two weeks ago,I was warned again inside congregations by a man of God,who has never met me,that bed must be undefiled until,every thing is legal. For those who care less;you can do runs sef and man go marry you and you born 1/2 a dozen after 10 abortion. The chosen ones can't live like that, there are consequences for such like Samson. Our blessed virgin mother Mary was pure; that was why the Holy Ghost could use her to birth our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. So like poster said, this chronicle is not for you that want to live anyhow or has lived anyhow, and still want to justify sin and reprobate behaviour.
Let me go Anonymous on this, I'm already thirty two still no sex same with my sister but guys sees me and think I have done it countless time ,I always get disappointed even those I trust that said they will wait but if I don't give in I will be left heartbroken, sometimes I wanted to give them sex to stay but my sister will use herself to motivate me that God will bless us with a Good man.it's not easy my dear but with this my spirit is up again.Thanks dear
ReplyDeleteMarried at 40
DeleteGot pregnant immediately
Keep your virginity if you want to for yourself not because you want to please anyone and most ESPECIALLY PRAY FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
God Almighty will show up for you 15:18, e- hugs🤗
DeleteWe don’t serve God because of the reward he can give, we serve him cus we believe in Him.
DeleteTrust in Him with all your heart, even when things do not make sense. Just trust.
Push up (original)
Anon please keep it. Don't mind what people will say. If not for anything please fear STDs , HIV. Many people are battling one disease or the other and are really regretting , when you see them , they look very happy but deep down they are not happy. Some want you to share in their frustration , that's why they advice you against your belief
DeleteAnon let me tell you anybody who demands sex from you( this applies to both men and women) should be avoided with alacrity. That is if you are on a spiritual journey with Christ.
DeleteIf they can't love God enough to have self-control you think they will be the right one for you? Don't cast your pearls to pigs. People don't value what they don't see the importance.
So you think If you gave them fornication they will marry you? Do you think most people are married to the first person they slept with? Think again.
Self-control is a fruit and evidence of the holy spirit. So you want to join yourself with someone who lacks such spiritual qualities.
If you know the spiritual entanglements God has been saving you from (sexual sin is the easiest channel and portal the devil and demons use to penetrate other every aspect of a Christian's life) Someone who is spiritually lukewarm and has 2s1t century-wokeness will not understand this message. It is sheer stupidity in their eyes. They think life is all physical meanwhile life is 100℅ spiritual. We are spirit beings so how can things about us be only physical?
Pray to God to give you Godly men. My cousin got married as a virgin at almost 30 years. He was very spiritual. He advises me all the time. I am a 3yearrs old virgin and let me tell you something. I am not ready to fornicate and never will by his grace even if that is the only way to get married. To hell with worldly marriage. I know the devil is waiting for me to slip up. He has visited me in my dream before. He was snatching souls but I was under a covering and he couldn't get in. Those outside the covering he sucked their souls out. I spoke in tongues in the dream. I casted and binded him and he left angrily and defeated and said he is still going to come back.
Marriage is for God's purpose he created it so if He doesn't do it for me I have nothing to lose after all it is all about him in the first place. When I meet guys who wants fornication I run at and block them everywhere because I won't let the devil trap me through them. The devil knows you want marriage he will lay traps for you through sexual sin(spiritual portal) to get to you. Be wiswise.
Greet your sister for me I love her already.
Oh dear...
ReplyDeleteMay God help us, we may have lost this opportunity but we can teach our kids to cherish what they have
ReplyDeleteGod bless you as you do so. At least you are honest.
DeleteThere's no award for being a virgin till marriage night. Being dis virgined by your husband does not immune you from challenges of life. Being a virgin is not a race to heaven. Being a virgin does not guarantee a perfect husband. There's no guarantee a virgin till marriage night will be more successful than those who were not. Being a virgin till marriage night does not guarantee hitch free, sugar coated, honey laden marriage.
ReplyDeleteIt's all of the mind. God is waiting for us at the end of our journey on earth. Virgins statistically (if there's one) are not better than none virgins in every way.
It all comes down to personal wish and intentions. To whom that wants to remain a virgin till her wedding night, it's all good. To whom that's not, it's ok. Let no one look down on anyone because of not being a virgin.
Apt !!!
DeletePlease don't parade this mindset if you are a Christian. Keeping one's virginity is in obedience to God's word. Fornication is still a sin and may we not pay dearly for our sins.
DeleteTwins ♊ Squared.
Don’t try and belittle it, cus regarding it in this way makes it feel like it’s not worth it so no one should bother keeping it
DeleteIt’s an instruction from God
So yes like every other instruction it should be obeyed
16:57 what do you expect? People trivialise what they can't uphold. It is a defence mechanism.
DeleteNice piece.
ReplyDeleteVirgins stay mermaid till the wedding night but also know that it guarantees nothing. The world is a tangled place.
Why do you have to use "mermaid"
DeleteMermaid in this context is about keeping leg intertwined or tightly closed till marriage
Delete2 years only? So what went wrong?
ReplyDeleteIt is good to keep the bed undefied before marriage in other not to attract all manner of diseases with guilty conscience if you are a good christian who fears God.
ReplyDeleteI got married at 27years as a Virgin because of my family background, unwanted pregnancy and fear the of God. After marriage, I discovered my husband can only sustain erection for 1min with watery release. At first I taught it was normal because I didnt know the different. He didnt also bother because I was naive and didnt know if that is how it should be till I couldnt conceive which now took us to the hospital and with all the treatment, no improvement. To cut the long story short, I have left the marriage oooooooo . Do I regret not testing before marriage? YES
It is treatable now? Why don't you talk to his family to advice him to go for a medical checkup if he wouldn't listen to your advice?
DeleteSilly man. Instead of him to let you know about his health challenge. Na wa o
Deletemy husband was strong sexually when we got married, few years along the line, 2 minutes man is better than him. my dear, preserve yourself because of God and your relationship with him. God alone gives peace of mind and joy. nobody else can.
DeleteAre you minding those who say, "how will you know if he is good in bed?"
ReplyDeleteHe can take viagra to please you then after marriage you get to meet the real thing.
I am going to say this here for spiritually receptive people. Your spiritual make up differs from others.
Fornication and masturbation are not for everyone. We are all humans but we are different. Our divine calling and purpose on earth are way apart sometimes what sin others get away with will be the one that will ensnare you forever.
Look at the case of job, the devil went around just trying to make him open his mouth and curse God. Meanwhile, so many ungodly people existed back in those times who blaspheme God but the devil did not make them his focus. Why will Job cursing God hits differently for the devil? Why does the devil want the curse to come from his mouth and no one else? When he could have gotten thousands of people to do it without putting job through such pain? Why? Because Job was different.
I knew what I gained from being chaste. No material wealth can compare to the privileges I benefited. I know the spiritual goodies I was given on a daily so nobody could convince me otherwise. When you laugh at me I laugh at you in return. Who is right? Well ask God
King James Bible Romans 9.16
DeleteSo then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
Your Chastity got you NOTHING God showed you Mercy.
Even the BAD GIRLS are loved deeply by GOD.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Remember Rahab ....
The reformed and changed prostitute, Rahab, then becomes the Great-great-great grandmother to David and an ancestor of Jesus...while Chastity is great remember the stand of God on Rahab!
Good for you, and reading your experience. But what do you have to offer the poster?
Delete15:39 you're on point on your last paragraph,
Delete16:11 I already advised a lady down below. I don't know if stella has posted it.
DeleteI am anon 16:33 below.
Well said/written 👍
DeleteTwins ♊ Squared
I tell you there is a lot to gain spiritually and even physically but people don't know @16:14
DeleteThanks for reading.
16:11 why are you stylishly attacking her comment did the poster ask for an advice? Why don't you ask the others same thing who gave no advice? Even you, what do you have to offer?
DeleteThanks for this 15:39.
God bless you
DeleteSexual sins are really not for everyone o
I know this one very well, some engage in it and have their lives messed up
Some do and are still enjoying
Just be in tune with the Spirit so you can discern these things
@ Antonymous 16.49: Im 16.11 i married as a virgin myself but i have come to realise Gods MERCY TRUMPS OVER ALL. Plus im not stylishly attacking her comment im just giving my perspective of life as i have experienced it
Delete@16:49, because self-praise helps no one.
DeleteI don't know why you are getting riled up for nothing. I already said down in the comment section that getting closer to God is key and living for him. I said whether you are a virgin or celibate it does not matter as long as you now live a holy life. Rahab later got close to God. She turned a new leaf and left her former ways so what do you expect. I also said they are a lot of virgins who are not chaste and are not close to God. So what are you on about?
DeleteMy walk with God got me EVERYTHING. You don't know me so next time speak for yourself alone. Whether you like it or not they are benefits when you walk with God in spirit and in truth and you live a holy life.
I already said it might not be material blessings so I don't know why you are trying to make it look like I was bragging about vain things.
But the anon was not self-praising. Haba rather she was talking about spiritual gifts I think.
DeleteOkay 17:31 but I don't see any self-praise there...She said the truth. some things others will do and get away with it someone else might not be lucky...Look at Sarah she was told she will have a baby in old age, she disbeliefed the angels and they did nothing to her but zechariah disbelifed the angel too just like Sarah and he was made dumb till his wife delivered. They both did same thing but he was the only one that got punished. I also believe People have divine path carved out for them and should be mindful of following the crowd. We are all on earth but have different calling.
DeleteShe also said she was given spiritual goodies everyday which means she acknowledge that God was the one giving her. I agree with her because I have experienced everything she said. When you get right with God he guides and also gives you spiritual discernment which serves as a guideline for you in life to help you make the right decision.
In psalm 32:8 God said I will counsel you and instruct you in the way you should go. This is only possible when you live a life pleasing to God else you won't know when he speaks.
@ 17:58: Its right here sis.
DeleteCopied : When you laugh at me I laugh at you in return. Who is right? Well ask God
20:18 Am I suppose to cry when people laugh at me and mock me?
DeleteYou don't see people mocking virgins like they are stupid for keeping themselves and doing the right thing? Talks like virginity is not the kingdom to the gate of heaven so and so.
Talking about a so-called virgin that kept herself only to end up with... You don't read Comments like, Who good girl epp? some would even say, "I know a virgin who got married but she is suffering in marriage" They never have a good tale to tell about virgins who are happy in marriages it is always the ones that are suffering they all know about.
You don't see the subtle shade, the snide remarks, the gloating and leering over the supposed miseries of virgins they know who ended up in wrong marriages? If in your self-righteousness you have never gone beneath their comments the same way you come under mine then you are a hypocrite and I apologise for even responding to you.
Oh, yes! when I was single and mocked for living for Christ when I was laughed at to my face and called names like virgin mary mother of Christ, ogbanje with spirit husband that needed to go for deliverance simply because I did not have a relationship till my thirties because all the non-virgins were having weddings every Saturday instead of breaking down due to the mockery I laughed back at them too and I don't feel bad for it. They laugh because they think I am stupid and I laugh at their folly.
When people laugh at me for living according to what God expects and still I had life challenges they don't have but they do the opposite and God blesses them I laugh at them because I know what I gain in my walk with Christ.
I repeat, At the end of the day who was right, well ask God.
My message is not for you, those who understood already so, so have a nice day ahead.
16:49 this is why I hardly comment. You will comment someone will try to twist the comment to suit their comprehension.
Smh bye baby girl 👶 Have a wonderful day
DeleteWhenever I see people talk about Rahab. I just wonder if they think it was all about Rahab in the first place. It they had not passed through her door but another prostitute you think you would know Rahab
DeleteLook here, Salmon married Rahab after the promise to save her and her family. Salmon was the patrilineal great-great-grandfather of David. And he was from the line of the tribe of Judah. He was the great great..... Grandson of Abraham. Jesus was meant to come through that genealogical line. So because salmon married Rahab you expected God to stop the process and cancel the whole divine journey. Even with the Virgin Mary, it was never about her it was about Joseph instead, Check his lineage. Remember it was prophecied that the Messiah would descend from the house and lineage of King David. And Joseph was the defendant of David. If Joseph was dating Paloma at the time (and she was a virgin as expected of unmarried people at the time) who says she won't be the one the angel visited?
Anon 15:39 was right all along abeg. People are different and have calling that differ from each other. Micheal Faraday's calling was different from Francis of Assisi's.
You think if Joseph had slept with Potiphar's wife you will know who Joseph is today or he would have fulfilled his divine destiny. God would have just looked for a replacement. The same thing person A did that didn't cause a problem for them, person B will do and suffer great consequences because their calling is divine. look at Samson. How he ended his life due to an insatiable desire for women, who knows he might have been another Daniel if he learnt to control his lust. People are not the same even siblings have different paths in life. It is not bragging, it is what it is. David was anointed among his brothers because he had a divine calling but look at how he ended his life. God doesn't take it likely with you when you have an anointing on your head and you mess up. He might be lenient for others whose callings are different but he expects you to have sense. To whom much is given much is expected.
Anon 21:31 don't stop commenting. Your message was clear enough.
Please @15:39 what we're the spiritual gifts God gave you asides the gift of dreams,how can I improve on my gifts?
DeleteSome of us didn’t marry as virgins and we are just fine!
ReplyDeleteI personally advise women who want to keep themselves till marriage to do so because they want to and not because there’s any extra perks that come with being a virgin after marriage.
Before they will label me a sinner, make I no too talk Abeg.
But Abeg, do u for u, not for any other person!
I agree. Whatever your beliefs systems stick to them, honour them.
DeleteI do not get why so many, not all, but many women tie in virginity with the expectation of a problem free life. Who did God promise that will not get problems on earth. Even the Christ got many problems while on earth, so how is the average person expecting to have this blissful, problem free experience in the world through the preservation of their hymen. Every prophet had problems. Mary and Joseph had problems, Noah had problems. Every single person of great spiritual fortitude had problems while they were alive. Some had many many problems that kept coming at them year after year. Yet, the average Christian expects through their prayers, bodily preservations, fastings and whatever else problems will magically elude them.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I will continue to keep myself for my God and my would be husband. This message goes a long way. Sex outside marriage is sin. 1 corithians 6 vs 18.
ReplyDeleteDon't have it at the back of your mind that you are keeping yourself for your husband, please. Do it for your walk with God only to be holy in his eyes. This was what I did. I married a great man and married really really well. But let me tell you the secret.
DeleteBe chaste but please for your own sake have a personal relationship with God. That way God will guide you else you will just marry anybody.
The first guy asked me out, and I slept. He was chasing me in the dream he turned into a wolf. That was someone good on paper. Very calm guy. I turned him down straight. people thought I was stupid. Later a friend narrated how she was almost raped by someone she was getting to know when she visited. Okay, I said let us see his picture. You guessed right.
The second one also seemed angelic and good on paper. When to bed. Saw him getting about married to a dark-skinned short lady. I am light-skinned and very tall. In the dream, The pastor asked him if he would take her as his wife he said yes they asked the lady she just kept staring at him like she was deaf and refused to say yes. Which I took as, her rejecting him in real life. I turned him down because I knew immediately he was engaged and about to be married but wanted to play me. But he refused and told me he is single. He was a church brother.
Okay, the next week in church, a lady walk past and my friend said, that is Emeka's fiancee, I said which enema and she said the head chorister nah. I laughed because he tried to deceive me and yes she was dark and short. I shook my head because I knew she will not go ahead with the wedding and she will dump the guy according to my dream. Six months later she broke up with him due to his cheating ways and brother Emeka left the church.
I can give you a lot of instances where God warned me to avoid men he did not want me to get entangled with but it would be too long to type. I never dated a wrong guy as a matter of fact I married in my thirties and the man I married was the only one I dated. Because God kept saying no all the time when Guys he did not want approached me and that was how he helped me to marry right. When I met my husband God told me he was the one straight away. From the first day to the wedding, all the dreams were perfectly sweet and mesmerizing. God told me sweet things about him that happened in real life.
You don't have to be a virgin you can be celibate but just have a close relationship with God and walk holy. The holy spirit will be able to come close to you remember it is his presence in your lifethat shows you divine revelation. He will talk to you and you won't marry wrongly.
One more thing I forgot to add. It's is not really about virginity perse but about living a holy life through and through. You can be a virgin and not be holy or chaste or you may not even have a personal relationship with God. So you may make mistake.
DeleteJust live a holy life thoroughly you will be fine.
I see things before it happens the next day not just about men issue also about fake friends, my career, my colleague and the success of my plans and about any situation of my life. If you are not close enough to hear God speak and warn you ahead you may falter. That is what sin does it blocks your spiritual ear. Though sometimes he let you make mistakes to strengthen and teach you but it is not something damaging.
Nice one Anon 16:33 keep your relationship with God. Everyone doesn't get the privilege to see things before they happen.
DeleteThanks, deheroine. I will by his grace, Amen.
DeleteAnon 16:33 what we're the exact things you did to get really close to God? I mean Like your daily lifestyle?
DeleteI am inspired by this.
I always advice young girls around me to keep theirs, I regretted not keeping mine ,and it's a mistake that can never be reversed.
ReplyDeleteAny advice for the young boys?
DeleteAs a man, if a young boy or man comes to me on this matter, I will tell him to wait, to focus on all round personal development, and that a man is beyond a phallus. I will use my on experience to teach him and let him decide.
DeleteMy dear, you feel you are being punished because you broke the vows you made for yourself. If you have been forgiven then how does punishment factor in? Even Christ has explained forgiveness. God is not punishing anyone that has been forgiven.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, just as we cannot look upon someone and know their thoughts, we cannot look upon anyone and know how they will be in bed or the future. You are frustrated because you are stuck in a marriage where the intimacy is unfulfilling, your annoyance is understandable. Why don't you both seek medical intervention and learn other ways of intimacy. Don't you think those who are physically disabled have not had to learn how to help thenselves, whether that means purchasing tools, getting medical help or finding partners who are willing to explore alternative methods. What about seniors who are still very much sexual beings, but their bodies may not do what it used to be able to in their younger years, they had to adjust and do things in different ways.
You are not being punished! You are being called to become stronger and more united as a couple, to work together as one unit, to dive into new expressions of intimacy and become closer through overcoming an obstacle together.
Some people didn't marry as virgins and they are fine. Keep your virginity if you wish, it pays mostly in the sexual health department. If ya keeping it for man, e fit shock you.
ReplyDeletePlease keep your virginity FOR YOURSELF.
ReplyDeleteNot for any baga.
FOR.YOURSELF.
I don't see anybody lecturing men on being virgins, why are people always writing longwinding epistles policing women's vaginas.
Please keep your virginity FOR YOURSELF.
You can't be offering someone something brand new and he will be given you run down fairly used.
E no work.
It's like putting a gold ring in a pigs snout.
And they happily take the run down, fairly used. Because even as virgins they want an experienced man, but look down on the women the men have to go get the experience with. One little piece of flesh causing problems since the dawn of time.
DeleteI don't know what kind of magical powers they expect it to have. If armed robbers hold them up, will they shout, by the power of my virginity you shall release me. When has virginity saved lives, healed the sick, bring the dead back to life. Come on now, some of these folks losing their damn minds on what they expect marrying a virgin will do.
I'm a man and it's sad nobody tells us about virginity. Get to the church and it's the female. Very sad. Very sad. If not for my mom. She has 2 boys only because of fibroids issue and she drums virginity into our THICK SKULL everyday and opportunity. We literally can't escape it. I still remember the day I had to tell her about my masturbation addiction (by my therapist) and she was disappointed. Yikes that face is scary 🤧🤧🤧.
Delete17:23
DeleteBut your mum told you. Other mums and dads told their sons.
It is just a myth that only girls were or are told about it.
Most churches have always taught on sexual chastity.
Contrary to popular belief, ,numberso the 7virgins are slost
Isn't it funny that they never guilt trip men on this topic? Is being chaste for the woman alone? I agree with keeping it as the Grave of God strengthens you, however some people have made virginity an idol in their lives such that they attach any good and bad to it. Remember God will share His glory with nothing.
ReplyDeleteThey are male virgins too. Lots of them. I have even read a few here. We were told to keep ourselves both male and female holy and three of us listen the other one didn't.
DeleteThe topic is for everyone male and female. Society has made it look like it should be for the female alone
DeleteYou don’t get that the girl child bears the brunt of everything?
DeleteKeeping your virginity is a personal decision most especially when you find peace with your creator and being determined.Also setting goals for your self and allowing the holy spirit to help you find the right partner is key to a successful marital life.
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ReplyDeleteDear poster, I think your mindset is actually the issue you have. You've tied your mind to the warning prophecies and now think you made a huge mistake ur entire life by giving in to peer pressure hence the reason u cannot enjoy sex. Let go of the regrets and embrace your marriage with your heart, if your husband has sexual issues find a solution and enjoy life to its fullest
ReplyDeleteVery sad. Men just seems to be exempted. As if it's not the same God we're serving. PATRIARCHY can be a mess.
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DeleteMen are not exempted. As a young boy and later a young man, my father made clear to me that I would be responsible for any result from pre-marital s3×. My father fought my older half brothers over the matter. With us, he used iron fists because he had us when he was already a man financially and societal reckon.
Why do some women always want to be bad as men?
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DeleteSame here. My dad warns us as boys. I also think friends influence a lot.
Keep your virginity
ReplyDeleteThis post will surely touch raw nerves.
ReplyDeletePoster made clear that it is for one person. If you are that person, you will know as you read.
Whoever does not want to keep his or her virginity for self and or God, should go on.
Any time this topic arises, some of us think it as judgmental and become overly defensive.
Those who ask why men are not preached to about it should ask why it is women who are the majority of principal complainants in cases of adult rape.
It is in this blog I learned why women receive more of this type of messages. That well known Bv explained simply that women are the gatekeepers of 5xual morality in any society. The Bible book of Leviticus explained better. The Bible book of Proverbs also tell men to flee from the stretched arms of the lecherous woman.
In those days of communal living, the best way vindictive women got back at highly opinionated, errand refusing, and "stubborn" young boys who had the support of their mothers was to rightly or falsely accuse them of "peeping". Usually, only a well respected female could extricate the boys from such accusation by countering with eye witness account. That is how much value the society attach to the woman's body.
Those of us who ask why not men anytime women are counseled. Do we also ask why men when duties and limits are apportioned to men as principal obligors.
Society has drawn some lines for the male and female.
And to think there are no men who regret losing their virginity before marriage is to think we know all. To think that young men are not counseled against pre-marital 5x is to assume we have heard all the moral messages in this world. There are men who learned too late that there is always a price tag to every pre-marital $x act.
Again, all virgins are not equal. There are covenant virgins. Those who know, recognize them when they see them. They do all to befriend them for good or bad. So, one person's thrown away virginity is not the same as another. That is why this message is said to be for one person who recognize the value of what he or she carries.
If virginity is not valuable, why are male (yes male) and female virgins specially sought to be the key presenters in some religious ceremonies from ancient times till date.
Poster, best wishes. May God help you as only God can help a human in a knotty challenge.
Everyone should keep their virginity because of diseases.
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The topic of your Chronicle should be how to activate your husband's penis.
How you can satisfy yourself sexually?
Le gi, lekwa lack of orgasm
KING XOXO MYSTERY
The whole thingy about keeping your virginity to me has nothing to do with making yourself for your husband or a proof that your husband will treasure you. To me it's about my relationship with My father, putting him first and keeping his words while knowing fully well that all his commandment was made just for my own good.
ReplyDeleteSo to me, keeping my virginity is an act of surrender and trust in God. I believe that he will bless me with what is mine in due time. I don't have to "try to get it" by own strength. And about the repercussion of not testing well proverb 20:22 answers that.
Best believe that I will seek and put God first and every other thing shall be added unto me.
Don't turn your virginity into an idol that will automatically make everything fall into place for you.
Your motive behind sth matters a lot.
Exactly! Stop the idolization of virginity!
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DeleteAnd of pre-marital $3x.
Thank you!@19:12
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Sorry I mean @ 09:07
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Poster I think the man you married was not the one God wanted for you. No vex but I feel anyone that pushes you to sin can never be right for you. Except you want to sin on your own accord. I feel anyone that pressure you into anything you don't feel good about should be avoided.
ReplyDeleteIf you had left him and go when he bothered you for premarital sex you would not have known what God was saving you from. But you have already married him so you have to be proactive in seeking a solution. Both of you. Maybe if you go to the hospital a remedy can suffice.
I hope those who clamour for premarital sex as an accuse to test the goods before marriage so as not to marry a man who cannot perform can see now that testing before marriage is not a guarantee for a good sex life after marriage.
First forgive yourself as I am sure God has forgiven you.
ReplyDeleteSecondly your husband should get help.
Being horny is not a good thing, hehehehehe. It can make you imagine many many things . Sorry the chosen one.
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