Hmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVETHE CHEATER AND THE CHEATED
BVs pls help me. Pls don't insult me.
I have been jobless for the past 6years. Getting another job has not been easy so my wife has been the one footing 100% of the bills while i take care of the house (cook and clean) and the kids.
Apart from taking the house responsibilities, my wife also gives me money to send to my parents every month, I have 2 younger sisters in the University, she also assist too.
My wife is cheating on me. She has a big man that loves her and spoils her silly. I know about everything but I have never confronted her about it since I am benefitting from the proceeds.
My younger sisters were on vacation and came to spend few weeks with us. They noticed something odd about my wife and decided to investigate. They told me they were suspecting my wife of cheating but I told them its a big lie.
In order to prove me wrong, they traced my wife one day and caught her red handed. They took pictures, posted it in the family group chat and informed our parents.
The shame was unbearable for my wife. My parents came and insulted her plus my sisters too. My wife took our 3 kids, got a transfer from her job and relocated to another state.
I never told anyone in my family that I lost my job. They all believe I am the breadwinner. Even when my sisters came for holiday, I told them I was on leave.
The problem now is.......
My sisters are planning to go back to school after election so they have been disturbing me for money.
The shame was unbearable for my wife. My parents came and insulted her plus my sisters too. My wife took our 3 kids, got a transfer from her job and relocated to another state.
I never told anyone in my family that I lost my job. They all believe I am the breadwinner. Even when my sisters came for holiday, I told them I was on leave.
The problem now is.......
My sisters are planning to go back to school after election so they have been disturbing me for money.
My parents have been on my neck for their upkeep cos my dad buys his drugs from the money.
I am just managing myself with the little money with me which my wife gave me before everything went bad. My wife has blocked me and my family from contacting her. I don't even know her new address so I can go and beg. I am so confused. I don't know what to do right now.
You know what you did and thats why you started with no one should insult you...If i tell you what is on my mind you will cry!....... MSCHEEEEW!!!
Your wife Dey fuck another man come use the money Dey feed you and your family and you know and you Dey enjoy am.God Abeg o
ReplyDeleteFor 6years you he dint look for any job?
DeleteHe just sat there and was enjoying
Well he said we should not insult him,…but sir you are a very wicked man sir, I am very sure your wife did not start cheating immediately you got broke so why dint you learn a skill?
Why dint you go into IT
She would have helped you pay for it, instead you were carrying your family on your head.
You are a very funny person o, why can’t you open up to your family, they will accept you just the way you are, they won’t have put so much pressure on you.
Your cash cow has gone so own up to your family, let them know you are struggling, and kindly look for something to do… the earlier the better because see you see house rent🤣
Push up (original)
Her salary couldn't take care of your black ass, your kids and your family so she resorted to sleeping around. The woman covered your shame.
DeleteNow tell your nosy sisters and your parents the truth. Tell them you have been jobless for 6 years and that the money you used to send to them was proceeds from your wife's illicit affairs.
If I am unable to provide for my family and my wife sells her body to provide for us, I will feel bad but I won't let my family disrespect her. She had other options. She could have divorced your broke ass, but she chose to stay to take care of you.
Go and get a job and take this a God stepping in to straighten things out in hour life. You would remain poor so long you keep have sex with your adulterous wife bcz the other man is using youa nd her, in fact entire family for his riches.
DeleteBut you also need to work and never relinquish your role as the Head of your home to your wife. It us a distortion of God's order on marriage.
Tell your family the truth and everyone of you apologise to your wife but
Things are happening ooo.
DeleteTell your family the truth that you lost your job for years.
DeleteShe did wrong for sleeping around but she covered your shame. May be she was even trying to get you a job.
Tell your family the truth that you lost your job for years.
DeleteShe did wrong for sleeping around but she covered your shame. May be she was even trying to get you a job.
Chaiiii. I felt this.
ReplyDeletePoster I pray everything turns out well for you real soon.
Omo!!!
Tell your family the truth. This is very good for an ungrateful man like you
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Ungrateful? What part of the chronicle shows that he's ungrateful?
DeleteHe must tell his family the truth or else he will suffer more disgrace than the wife suffer because of his wickedness. Six years of living off the woman and you allowed your family insult her. You and have just started the hunger e sese bẹ̀rẹ̀ ni.
DeleteDont be a weakling. Tell your family what you know and how she is the bread winner. Go out there and get a job. Do something.
ReplyDeleteYour wife was making a Huge sacrifice for you and your family by sleeping with another man. Can you just imagine, how she carries all the responsibilities of both you and your family with her little salary, that she had no other option than to sleep with a big man to make you all comfortable.
ReplyDeleteGlad she left. Take care of your parents and sisters. Better still your sisters can use what they have to get their fees and medication for your parents. You could not even defend your wife. Mumu man
Lol @ huge sacrifice. Can you hear yourself? If the tables were reversed, will you type this?
DeleteI can only shout Cheiiiiii😱
ReplyDeleteWhy do I feel like it was an agreement between u and ur wife to fuck another man in exchange for financial gains?
ReplyDeleteJust look at what u people have reduced marriage to? Condoning cheating and even encouraging it because of how it benefits you?
See what lying to ur family also caused you. You wanted to continue forming macho man for them while u use the proceeds of adultery to do that.
Don’t go and get a job, no matter how little. Be waiting for a promiscuous woman to foot ur bills. All of u are not serious
It was good while it lasted abi? Time to wake up man up.
ReplyDeleteExactly! Tell them the truth, ask God for forgivenes and search for another job you might be lucky this time around.
DeleteOpen up to your family that your wife has been the breadwinner, you'll see them looking for your wife's address to go and beg her.
ReplyDeleteSo you mean you couldn't gather the money your wife has been given you and find a business to do with it, you just sat and someone's daughter was pampering you.
As a matter of fact your wife knows you knew (English oooo). I am not supporting your wife though
Why should they beg her, That is no marriage, both you and your wife were shameless. You better go and look for something to do. By the way you should have told your sisters yo face front when they came in holiday since you knew where money was coming from before. With all you narrated though you are a very weak man.
DeleteKai, you are a lazy man.
ReplyDeleteYou lost your job 6 years ago and till now, you haven’t been able to get something to do.
You knew your wife was cheating and you were collecting the proceeds from the affair. Una nor dey forbid that thing?
What are you begging her for? To give you more money or to accept you back? Lmao.
Better open up to your family, let them know that you lost your job a long time ago and it has not been easy for you.
You don’t have to be shamed about it.
Go out there and look for a job and when you’ve finally sorted yourself out, go and look for your kids.
How do you even feel comfortable knowing your wife is shouldering all the family responsibilities?
Make sure you conduct a dna test on your kids to be sure they are yours.
Lazy husband and promiscuous wife 🙄
Sluttychic.
You knew your wife was cheating and you still condoled her all because you were sacked at work? and didn’t have money to take care of your family? That alone would make you drown in poverty in Urhobo Tradition. You should have told your family/hers, trust me, you would have gotten a new job. But not too worry, God does not sleep, a great door will be opened as far you don’t go back to that harlot that you called wife. #TSays
ReplyDeleteGreat door will be opened...kai what religion has done to us ..how can a great door be opened when the man is lazy???
DeleteUrhobo tradition my fine ass. Urhobo men that are lazy and very promiscuous.
DeleteSee your mouth.
Saves you right.
ReplyDeleteI like your wife. You men think its only you that can cheat. Ofcourse you were benefitting from the proceeds. Shame on you
It is well oo
ReplyDeleteSorry simp. Tell your family the truth. You simply lost your status the day you found oud out and kept mute coz you were spoonfed by your "husband". Instead of you to double efforts and get a job, and maybe remarry you are managing the money she gave you, and thinking of going to beg her. Ijiot.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, I pray the Lord shows you mercy and Things pick up again
ReplyDeleteTell your family the truth that there's no job.
Be positive
Hmmm, I pray the Lord shows you mercy and Things pick up again
ReplyDeleteTell your family the truth that there's no job.
Be positive
If you're really innocent about the whole thing, why did you allow your sisters to come for holiday? Am not supporting immorality but you're the one that encouraged your wife.
ReplyDeleteYou pimped her, drink her blood and feed your family her flesh and still...You are a LAZY man. Six years no job? Can't you learn a vocation, IT programme or do business? Do you think that woman enjoys being 'married' to you, laying with another man and feeding you and family with it? Do you think she does know it is morally wrong for her to be in such situation? Do you know what it takes her to undress for another man to see her nakedness then watch her own horseband feed from the proceeds of her whoredom? You killed your wife's conscience; you killed her while she is still alive and breathing. What else do you want? Do you think she can ever be normal again even if she leaves you and that her financier? A woman's body is a temple and once destroyed, only God can redeem it. In this case, just beg God for mercy, come clean with your family, go and look for work to do-POS service, marketer, security man, bricklayer, house painter, alabaru, road sweeper etc. Just use your two hands and find something to do and stop giving excuse, please.
ReplyDeleteThere's nowhere in the narrative that says he pimped his wife. While we are blaming the man for being a lazy fool, let's still criticize the woman's actions. She's not a saint either.
DeleteUseless woman wey de enjoy orgasm and soft life from big man na she you de describe like say she be Jesus wey them say die for us, na wa o, abi you are the wife?
Delete🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteTell your family the whole truth so that everyone can start looking for how to make money. You don't love your wife, you just use her as your money bag. Adultery is a sin so what your wife is doing is wrong. Now that you're on your own, dust yourself up,look for jobs like menial ones before your rent expires then move to a more affordable rent. When you start to make enough money, go and look for your children before your wife corrupts them or transfer the spirit of sexual sin into them. Be a man,go out there and toil,hustle and see if God won't open doors for you. Maybe its your wife that turned you into a house husband by bottling you up,so take this as a blessing and deliverance for you
ReplyDeleteYesso
DeletePut it on the woman’s head, she put him inside bottle that’s why he dint have the sense to love for a job for 6years
The bottle also made him lie to his family and form “mr bread winner”
Shey if reverse was the case we would tell the woman “it doesn’t matter if your hubby is cheating as long as he is providing for you and your kids, he is a good man”. So why are we changing it na
She’s a good woman, she’s providing for her hubby and kids
Mtcheewe
I don't know what to say. If your story is true then e be as e get.
ReplyDeleteYou and your wife are both wrong and destroyed your family.
I understand that things are difficult but you stayed too long without a job.
I totally condemn your wife's actions. However you directly and/or indirectly encourage her by your actions and/or inactions.
It is inappropriate to raise children with "that kind of money".
You fell and failed even more by not taking charge of your home and letting your sisters come to poke nose in your affairs.
I don't know what you are truly worried about, your wife and children leaving or your inability to support your parents and siblings.
You and madam have erred badly. Dust yourself up and see what you can do for now while you also process all that has happened and accept your responsibility/role you played in all these.
Above all pray. May God direct you
I don't know how to feel. I feel bad that his wife cheated on him to feed him.
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for him, that he had to act like he was okay with it due to poverty. We have all been through bad situation, and to resort to infidelity is very bad. I am so sorry for your situation and i pray God will turn your life around for the better.
My gender...
When he found out she was cheating, he should have confronted her straight up but instead he kept enjoying what she was bringing in. No real man would take that.
DeleteShouldering the family’s responsibilities is not an excuse to sleep around. Men do that and more and still behave.
Poster, man up and face the challenges ahead.
Sluttychic.
First of all a lot of men know thay their wife cheat and cant do anything about it because of one reason or the other.
ReplyDeleteSo this is no news.
What money cannot do doesn't exist..
Poster hmmm.
I cannot bash you because omo this life no easy o.
You should have kept your sisters away from your wife/home
All I can say is that this is the end of the road for you.
Breeze don blow and fowl nyash don open.
You need to move on.
Dust up your certificate and skills then go job hunting, do anything to make money atleast to feed yourself.
As for your parents and sister you just have to spill the whole tea to them, then to your tents oh isreal, everybody lick their wound.
E no pass like this o.
A lot of men?
DeleteSo, a lot of married women cheat?
You should have told your sister and family that your wife is the breadwinner before you went ahead to do anyhow. You should have asked them to stay off your wife case but you kept mute till everything spoiled. Now that your sisters has spoiled things you should have handled yourself while covering your shame oga you do not need any pity.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you not confront your wife on that since you knew, selfish man who kept mute cos he was benefiting from his wife cheating? That woman will not forgive you cos you are a bad man. You should have looked for small work to do but enjoyment will not let you, now let me see who will give your sisters and parents money again.
DeleteIf you find out your brother’s wife is having an affair, you will keep quiet?
Sluttychic.
Exactly. You should’ve defended her. Looks like you want to beg cos you need her financial support.
DeleteWhere did he do any how?. It was his sister who did any how.
DeleteThere are jobs,you POSTER is the one looking for the job with one million net salary,private mopol,foreign trips and company car.
ReplyDeleteIt’s okay to be out of Job,but six years? And you are comfortable eating money brought by your wife through infidelity?
Like you knew your wife was cheating and you cheered her on while enjoying the proceed??
Nwoke,that was the minute you lost everything that makes you a man,father or Husband..
It’s a Taboo where I come from to sit down and allow your wife work and feed you,not to talk of money gotten through whoredom..
Pray to God for forgiveness,you messed up big time;and you have lots of pride hence why your extended family think you have money;and that same pride is why you can’t see yourself doing jobs lesser than your acclaimed imaginary “status”..
Bring your shoulder pad down in this life as a man;so helpers can know where and how to help you..
Go out there and work;if you don’t see white collar jobs,get menial jobs..
Stop that Laziness;don’t be a disgrace to yourself..
@MARTINS
Very well put @Odogwu Martins.
Delete👏👏👏
@ Martins...you took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you
DeletePoster you killed your favour of getting job when you started using money you are aware your wife got from infidelity.
DeleteTo move on as Martin said cry to God in humility and honesty for God forgiveness and mercy.
Then go out for Job hunting and als ask God for favour of job.
As for your family open up to them.
Go and beg her and continue your life
ReplyDeleteSlavery you mean? Or you are being sarcastic.
DeleteE go too pain me if I no see Dante and Ceasar comment on top this chronicle today. Na people like Stella dem and BVs wey get church mind you dey tell make dem no insult you because e no concern ndi obi okute like me.
ReplyDeleteEh-hen, Mazi Sylvanus, i si 6 years? Like 6 years? Dem dey use hookup money feed you and your entire family for 6 years and you no complain, you no use your mouth tell your family the truth about your condition, you no look for work even if na to learn how to ride okada, drive Keke or fry puffpuff by the road side?
That you have not found another job in 6 years or learned a skill/trade tells me you are lazy, unambitious and very wicked (especially to yourself and children). If your training was in high demand, you wouldn't be content living a lie and polishing it with you "cook and clean". If the skill you have or course of study no dey lucrative,
explore other options na! The men that women respect for "cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids" are those who also contribute financially to the family purse (the act is then seen as being caring and romantic); it is not a medal for those who have sold their self-worth on jiji.
Fear no even gree you confront her for her piom piom piom because you want to secure your stomach infrastructure. Kai! Ogbeni Rasaki, you are indeed a man to be pitied.
However, if you are truly serious about redemption, first leave your community-wife and tell your family the absolute truth about the last 6 years. Then find something for your hands to do and find it fast. The sugar-wife picking your bills is gone but the bills must still be paid except you want to go back to your parents' house to go and be fighting your sisters over who should eat the "bottom pot" of concoction rice. When you have become or taken active steps to become a man that your children can be proud of, then you can discuss steps on how to co-parent with their mother when you eventually find her. There is no insult (by BVs) that'd be greater than what you've taken in the last six years, so take it like a man, absorb it, cry if you must (in fact, I strongly recommend it), fast (even you would agree that you've eaten more than enough abomination in the past 6 years), pray for a turnaround, work hard and come back with an uplifting testimony before December. We'd be here by God's grace to congratulate you when you do.
NOTE: To all the hookuppers forming super-wives, there is nothing noble or virtuous about feeding your husband/family with the proceeds of adultery. Change NOW before Amadioha and Sango strike you down in one dingy hotel.
Dante will not support the man or his wife. Let him chill if he doesn't want to comment.
DeleteWhy didn’t you clue her when they were on to her
ReplyDeletePoster your wife did a very wrong thing. It's better she left. When a woman cheats. It prevents the man from being successful. You have to open up to your parents and siblings how you have been coping for 6years without Job. It's not your fault. You tried to cover up for your wife but your siblings did what they had to do. I will advise you go for deliverance. You will see how your life will turn for the better. Cheers
ReplyDelete👍🏿@15:59
DeleteWhen a woman cheats. It prevents the man from being successful
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
A woman cheating prevents the man from being successful.
DeleteAs she left, is he successful? This is a lazy man.
Tackle the issue.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
The man and his wife are both
Deletelazy and crooked.
The woman cheating enabled him. His laziness enabled her to continue. That's why he is thinking of going to beg.
There are lazy men who will not allow their wives to cheat.
There are wives married to lazy and jobless men who do not cheat.
Now the woman has left, he will rise or sink to his level.
Wo, nothing shocks me anymore. Shey Janaemena still dey run tinz with kpopo and others including videoing the matter and she still get peaceful home,
ReplyDeleteLook poster, Everything in life na negotiation, , act nollywoood 'return of prodigal wife' for ur family gbeborun. Say it was, fake news and photoshopped or whatever lai mohammed and trump used to say.
Then say you and wifey are starting afresh and need your space, also say she no dey bring money like before so the little cash she has is for nuclear family runs. Let your family and siblings find another cash source.
Then go and lie down and roll on the floor and call your wife to return home, reminding her of the sweet days of the past and reminding her you both have children to raise. Shed fake tears if need be. Tell kids to send love notes to loveofyourlife if need be. She is a woman and family oriented so she may soften and reconsider you
Zero your mind say na open marriage una dey run. If you wan bring in your own big nyansh smallie sidechick (side eyes to dante) ensure she too is earning pay from big gods&godofmen dem and can sponsor you and family. If you carry liability big nyansh sidechick, naim be say u no wan grow old.
You are honestly trying in the housework and children runs ppl don't appreicatre how much work this entails. Still find small something to do, no matter how small, just for yourself as an adult. POS, Uber driver, Barbing saloon etc, no shame in legit hustle. Its from mixing up, socializing that you can even meet your next big break.
There are many people living this sort of life but forming say na dem holy pass. Na because you open up and na whom dem catch be rigger or thief.
This sort of life is worth living to you? Kai!! What a mentality!!
DeletePoster, ignore this comment. Go out there, get a job and make something out for yourself and kids.
Sluttychic.
🤣🤣🤣 I can't stop laughing... Glad you begged not to be insulted before you started your story.
ReplyDeleteMr man I put it to you that you knew her salary was not enough to cater for you and your clan and she was getting it else where, your lazy ass was enjoying being a full house husband so you kept mute.
Do you men think we women enjoy sleeping with men for money? NO WE DON'T!!! But we can't sit by and watch out own suffer so we go the extra extra mile.
Now that the secret is out no need looking for her and begging her because she won't come back. Her loving sugar daddy has gotten a place for her and she will now enjoy her baby girl status. Wicked man and atafia sisters. Did they have to post the pictures in the WhatsApp group? Mtchewww
Oya na your sisters should go and hustle their fees. Their mates know how to make hair and do drop shipping. Let them learn too.
You and your wife need God.
ReplyDeleteYou open your eyes and your wife was commiting sin and you no fit talk because you are lazy and can't provide for your family.
Why can't you tell your family that you are jobless?Na shyness abi wetin?
Lazy husband .Lazy boy,I dislike men like you who depends on a woman.You cannot even sort your silly sisters out now that your wife(breadwinner)is gone.Shame on you.You knew your wife had been cheating and you allowed it,just because of benefits.Wicked and selfish boy like you.Can you accept that from any of your sisters?imagine you hear one of your married sisters had been sleeping with a certain man just to feed a grown Lazy man called husband.6 years of depending on a woman.SHAME ON YOU.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sad post.
ReplyDeleteWhat is so hard about telling the truth? You ate the proceeds of your wife's philandering and you stood and did not try to protect her when all hell broke loose. Yet, all you have done is being unemployed for six years and you are too ashamed to utter it to anyone. You cannot tell them it was your wife who was feeding and supporting everybody wihout complaint. Her one little punani carried you all, but your own pride will prefer to have her out here looking like a demon and you looking like a saint when not even a grain of salt you have contributed to your parents and siblings for six years now. You are too proud, too prideful. Confess and set yourself free!
ReplyDeleteI am not sure what would cause a man with young children to not be employed for so long. No matter how bad economy is what kind of pride can there be that you would prefer to be a house husband than a provider. And if it was something good in your eyes you would not be so ashamed of sharing it, even wih your parents.
Don't know why I don't believe this story. Something is off about it.
ReplyDeleteWell, if true, Poster tell your sisters the truth and go look for a job.
Expectedly, your family will give you a break while you are looking for a job.
Thanks Stella for posting.
OP. This is the best advice your will get here. Kill yourself. You are dead already.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe this story jare
ReplyDeleteLet your family go and hustle. Now they know the woman that they humiliated has been the one feeding them
ReplyDeleteWomen can do better! Why commit adultery to shoulder village responsibility? Both the man and the wife are proud. You lost your job, instead of letting your parents and siblings know so that they can adjust to the reality. You continued to maintain statusquo in expenditure. Only an arrogant fool does that. Your wife lack a moral compass so she sold her dignity to maintain your social status! Go and sanctify yourself, look for job. Begin again as a man . Tell your family your true situation, they're are adults so they can sort themselves out.
ReplyDeleteHnmmm
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad. Your wife is a broken woman.
ReplyDeleteMost married women cheat in one form or another. Traditionally, a woman doesn't have to fuck another guy to cheat. Allowing a man to touch your wrapper or any other clothing item amounts to cheating where I come from. You became too comfortable with allowing your wife pay your bills. It was foolish to have continued leaching on your wife immediately you got to know she was cheating. She didn't cheat primarily because of you, she cheated because that is who she is. No decent well raised woman would cheat to feed her husband and his family. You should be ashamed of yourself. I am glad your sisters exposed the your stupidity and your whoring wife. You had better tell your family how you degraded yourself. I bet if the asshole fucking your wife wanted to sleep with her on your matrimonial bed you would have allowed him. You were not jobless for six years, you were simply lazy.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Alexander. You cover all grounds. Nothing to add to your comments.
DeleteTufiakwa!
ReplyDeleteTufiakwa!!
Tufiakwa!!!
This is sacrilege, aluu!!!
For your wife to feed you is a serious abomination.
She now sleeps with another man to feed you, that's sacrilege.
You are not even ashame of yourself to vomit that disgusting abomination from your mouth.
Nkea bu aluu kwò nwa n'azu.
I don't know where you are from, but in my place, nkea bu nso ani.
Udi ifea adiro .
When I said ending SIMPing is my goal,. Some people don't understand how disastrous it's results are, especially females, they just think you don't want men go treat them like babies..
DeleteThis is an example of a SIMP man, staying home, cooking and managing the children, of course, he'll always go online to sing praises to women and support every rubbish they do, just as he supports his wife's whoring, so far as she feeds his lazy ass..
Is this the kind of men you girls want? Is this the kind of men you want your sons to look up to?
See him saying he which he knew her address so he can go and beg her..
God forbids 🤮
Thank God for my life and for that of my male friends and relations,. Cos Omo.. wdf is this?!
Dante, I don’t think he became a house husband out of love for his wife or supporting feminism. He did it because he is a lazy so and so who doesn’t want to work and is happy to close his eyes to his wife’s actions provided the money keeps rolling in. He didn’t say he misses his family. He said he is running out of money and facing pressure from his parents and siblings. He is upset that he has lost his cash cow. He is nothing but an unrepentant pimp. Simple. I’m sure if we dig deeper we will find out that the woman was still doing majority of the cooking, child rearing etc. He is the definition of shameless.
DeleteFor sure. He was not doing any cooking or cleaning. His type will not do so. He is just there with no job, in his stupid pride and ego thinking that being a man is enough while the wife carries all. He also probably left her to be doing it as a form of punishment to her for cheating. Forgetting that he has children, offsprings from his loins to take care of. I am just pissed with this type of person. Poster, how long did you intended to punish your wife?? 6, 10, 15, 20 years??
DeleteGosh! Instead of you to be the head of the family and perform your responsibilities AS A MAN!
Your wife sef, was she under a spell?
You need a totally shift in mindset poster. You have failed your family: wife and children. Fortunately, one can always repent and make amends.
6 years you couldn't get a job? Not even POS or Uber ba?
ReplyDeleteOh I forgot you are too big for that?
But you are not too big to open 4 corners of your mouth and enjoy from the proceeds of her extra marital relationship since it was benefiting you.
You were forming unlooking.
Useless lazy oaf.
That money your wife was bringing in, you couldn't learn a skill???
Just balancing waiting for the woman to bring so you will eat.
So 6 years she was paying school fees clothing you, feeding you, giving you money to give your own family, cobeing9you smelling jobless asians this is how you treat her ba?
Na when your family caught her you too decided to form aggrieved head of house.
Head of house with nothing to show for it.
You lack self respect and you don't deserve that woman.
Leave her in peace and carry your lazy self out to find a job.
Maybe hunger will teach you sense.
Maybe.
A Sissy, a simp and an excuse of a man. You collect feeding money from a woman and she fuck to feed and foot your bills? You think it's normal to be a Manhouse wife? You are more worried about the financial benefits from your adulterous wife than the entity family. You have no business being married. Go and get a job and provide for your kids if they are truly yours.
ReplyDeleteWe have seen shege in this buhari's regime. I feel so sorry for you poster.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you learn a trade or something? Why didn't you learn a skill? How is it that you were comfortable for 6 years? Do you not love your wife? We're you not a bit jealous? There's nothing else you can do now other than to sincerely repent from your sins, get a menial job or something so you don't end up on the streets.
Use this time to learn humility and learn to work hard. You also need to find your kids. May God show you mercy.
When you have conquered, kindly give us an update.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis is very sad. I have no harsh words for this poster. He has been humiliated enough. I advise you to first of all go for deliverance at mfm prayer city. Sex is spiritual & physical. Your initial job loss may have been natural. Your contentment as a man fed with proceeds of his wife’s adultery is not natural or normal, The whole thing is NOT normal. Watch some Nollywood movies to see the extent to which some evil women will go to be free to sleep around. I have been a breadwinner to my family very briefly. We managed what I made, I never slept around. The woman wanted to sleep around, nobody can force anyone to commit adultery. They are both very guilty. Guilty as sin. Poverty is very humiliating. He must have cried just like his wife may have when this whole thing was going on. It’s sad. The woman is probably now used to that life. Please if you can help him find something, a job kindly help him. Do not go and beg an adulterous woman back before getting into a position of strength and having a job, any job. Send your resume & contacts or email to Stella so those who may want to help can help.
ReplyDeleteMy second point is that the extended family system (borne out of lack of population control. & poverty) has become a huge problem in today’s world. Why worry about your wife & kids, your sisters, your parents, the village etc? Let your sisters learn make-up & fend for themselves. Let your brothers learn a trade or sell gala. Don’t let people weigh your life down with their expectations! I hope you both repent but that marriage may not work again. Get a job, find out where your kids are, do a DNA first, then you can start praying against the consequences on your generations. Please don’t go into depression. Get up and pray and look for work. Any type to start with. It’s hard to defeat someone if they never give up! May Gif have mercy on us all in Jesus Name🙏🏾
Putting the useless man aside for a second, what this lady did is really awful but it makes me remember something my aunty said many years ago. Her husband abandoned her with four children and ran off with another woman. She really struggled to raise those kids. She did any and every job. One day she was very exhausted and her kids were feeling so sorry for her. She said to them that she would do absolutely anything for them as their mother and she hoped it won’t ever get to this but if she has tried absolutely everything possible to put food on the table and nothing works, she would sacrifice herself for them because she is their mother and that’s what she signed up for when she chose to have them. Thankfully she never had to sacrifice herself by sleeping with any man and things worked out in the end, the kids became successful and they are now looking after her. However, this thought stayed with me. It’s very easy to judge from afar but I don’t know (and I pray I will never know) the desperation and fear a person must feel to see their kids homeless, out of school and hungry. Nigeria is not kind to poor people and desperate people do desperate things.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100%. Regardless...
DeleteYour wife is a good woman.
ReplyDeleteGood people make mistakes.
She should have told you that the burden was too much but she felt it was already a shared responsibility. How do you expect her to take care of the nuclear family and extended family?
Poster, you were supposed to cover her shame as she covered yours. Go and bring back your wife, dry her tears, tell her no more sleeping around. Get something doing.
Marriages are full of people covering each others shame. The challenge is, when one party covers the shame and the other party can't reciprocate.
Please disregard that whole abomination thing and bring her back. It is your forgiveness and God own that matters.
KING XOXO MYSTERY