TROUBLESOME EX
I just wish to clear some things that have been weighing heavily off my chest.
I married a man who has four kids with his ex, they never married( the initial plan was to get married, but the elder bro. of his ex took the money his contribution, meant for the wedding and gave it to some else, which he never recovered, so the wedding never happened). And when he was ready financially, they were no longer compatible.
When he proposed marriage to me, he told me the whole truth which his family also corroborated to be true, I accepted and the wedding took place.
I just wish to clear some things that have been weighing heavily off my chest.
I married a man who has four kids with his ex, they never married( the initial plan was to get married, but the elder bro. of his ex took the money his contribution, meant for the wedding and gave it to some else, which he never recovered, so the wedding never happened). And when he was ready financially, they were no longer compatible.
When he proposed marriage to me, he told me the whole truth which his family also corroborated to be true, I accepted and the wedding took place.
Once the ex got wind of the marriage she started spiritual battle against us, even before I came into the picture she had refused to move out of the place they were living which is still under construction and is for commercial purpose( all on going works stopped cos she has refused him entry into the premises) he has being pleading to her to get same two bedroom apartment for her and the kids and he will pay, she has refused and vowed that over her dead body will she move!
Stella we fought for our lives and I almost died in the process, and she finally left by court order coupled with force.
Now everyone of her family knows how evil she is, she has lost so much, as we were informed she took a lot of loan to embark on spiritual killing spree,
Do you know she does not allow the children access to their father? Cos I'm sure she feels I will kill them, God forbids I do such..
And she is still not done with me despite being defeated, she swore and still fighting spiritually to make sure I don't conceive, I know I will definitely have my kids as my hands are clean, I've never wronged her.
But that has never deterred him from paying house rent ( she lives there) school fees and Child support for the kids.
Some women are evil, live peaceful with a man, no! Leave, problem too.
Stella we fought for our lives and I almost died in the process, and she finally left by court order coupled with force.
Now everyone of her family knows how evil she is, she has lost so much, as we were informed she took a lot of loan to embark on spiritual killing spree,
Do you know she does not allow the children access to their father? Cos I'm sure she feels I will kill them, God forbids I do such..
And she is still not done with me despite being defeated, she swore and still fighting spiritually to make sure I don't conceive, I know I will definitely have my kids as my hands are clean, I've never wronged her.
But that has never deterred him from paying house rent ( she lives there) school fees and Child support for the kids.
Some women are evil, live peaceful with a man, no! Leave, problem too.
WOW, after four kids, he didn't marry her and went on to marry someone else, how easy do you think it is to let go? Even if she is evil, she is a human being, even if she was nt an evil person, this is enough to turn her evil. She was quiet until she heard he has remarried....#
Tell your husband to go and make peace with his EX, i think he wronged her by not marrying her after 4 kids.... It is not wasy for a woman with kids to find anther partner in Naija..
I hope i made sense!
You have to be strong spiritually and make sure your hands are always cleans. You will conceive and give birth, keep praying.
ReplyDeleteYou didn’t push her out, she should let you be. Some women are evil. So cos he didn’t marry her, you are the one she wants to kill? Lol
Some are badly behaved and expect you to remain with them like that, where e dey work?
She will use her own hands to ruin her life. Like I said, keep praying and do not relent.
Sluttychic.
Poster really tried, the man had baggage already. Keep staying strong jnChrist and pad yourself with the whole armour of God cos the devil no dey rest
DeleteAfter 4 kids?? Heii God! Some people get mind Sha π³
DeleteAnd you're blaming her for being evil? π
YOU are the evil one, poster. You found out a man has 4 kids with a woman still living with, and in love with him, and connived with him to throw her out, haba! Have you no shame, no conscience, to do this to a woman like you?! She gave birth to number one even though she was "evil," he remained with her. They were incompatible but he had baby 2...incompatible...3...incompatible...4...incompatible.
DeleteDon't mind her and she is saying she did not wrong the woman. Poster the man is an irresponsible man, he just painted that woman bad, and you believed because you were desperate for marriage.
DeleteGod bless you for saying the truth.Madam poster, you are shameless.How can you say your hands are clean? Madam your hands are very very dirty.Brace up,your battle isnt ending anytime soon.see the kind of marry u married,desperado.that man is evil and lacks integrity.After birthing 4kids with a woman,he just discarded her.Omo una d try oo,una really d try to d marry nonsense.
DeleteDon't mind her. Who will his family support before? Will they tell you he is lying? Especially when he has little money?
DeleteYour battle just started, I pray you don't lose your life in the process. If you love yourself, leave that man and go get your own husband, especially if you want to have your own kids
Poster.
DeleteWhat would you do if he suddenly fell in love with someone else after you have had 4vkids too?
The next girl won't push you out, she will fall in love and beg you to park out into another 2 bedroom flat which is fully paid for by their serial daddy.
Where is your conscience babe?
I wish the lady left without a fight....and wished you well.
Lord knows how much of her personal funds went into the building under construction
Goodluck step mum!
A baby mama to 4 whole kids........ No wonder she so mad at ya'll asses..... I hope she finds peace and is able to move on with her life. Guess she feels shattered and used. Why is it that when men get money they sometimes decide to get the woman that fits the new income, and forget the one who was with them when they were struggling. Now you know you are not compatible, after 4 kids.........you can tush the woman up you know. Poster I am not blaming you but pleading with you to put yourself in the ex's shoes. I don't support her going diabolic, but that should tell you the level of her pain. Hence her being so disagreeable. Pls be prayerful and pray for her to find peace. Maybe you and hubby can prayerfully meet with her and ask what she wants. May the Lord see you through and please update us.
Delete22:05
DeleteSay no to builder wives
You just put yourself into a problem that you should have avoided. Haba
DeleteYou want to kill yourself over a man?
No woman will be happy nah.
Poster you try shaaa, marrying a man with four children from another woman who is still alive and single. More strength for the battles ahead.
ReplyDeleteBig battle ahead. She married a useless man because of money. Imagine. He was living with her and birthing kids with her and then went outside to marry another person , then they expect her to be calm. Una never see anything.
DeleteDear poster
DeleteWhy is this marriage so important to you
Is this the only man in Nigeria that you want to kill yourself over rubbish, even paying rent and upkeep for her
You used your two legs to work into spiritual battle, a man who left a women after 4kids before he realized he isn’t compatible (you too check am)
It’s like you are under a spell but the spell is done by the man because why would I walk into this kind of baggage.
I don’t have an advice for you as long as you remain there
Push up (original)
I'm the poster of the chronicle
DeleteI wish to clarify some misconceptions the readers have concerning this post.
This post is not about a woman who was wronged and dumped, far from it, she rejected the man as matter of fact, and we're living separately peacefully before I came into the picture, she doesn't want him or marriage, that is not what the battle is all about and if you ask her she will tell you outrightly that she is not interested in marriage, but I guess she had change of mind towards that.
The ex was interested in pr***rty and was ready to kill whoever stands in her way to getting what she wants. And she intensified the battle only when she saw that he has a new family, so those laying curses, pls save yourself the stress as I am no husband snatcher.
And when I finally realized what was actually happening, I started regretting why I married him in the first place. And yes she has every right to fight against been removed from where she calls home, which he had no intention of asking her to leave but she was instructed in the court to allow him have access to the place, as she should, since there are lots of flat there but she wouldn't even allow him gain access to the place, what was he supposed to do? Abandon such a huge pro***ty when she does not even occupy all the flats?
I accept all the blame cos my only crime was marrying a man with fours kids but if it wasn't me it could have been some else cos since she has taken him to the shrine ( who summons the father of their children over misunderstanding?) any chance for reconciliation was shut and she knew that. thanks all.
Poster don't mind all the over know people on this blog. All they know is to blame without any reason.
DeleteI am a guy and was married until she woke up and left. Till today no one can tell why she left. After 5 yrs she has refused to divorce bcoz she doesn't want me to get remarry
Poster well then, deal with the consequences of your action! Na you open eyes to marry man with 4kids and craze baby mama!
DeleteNawa o
ReplyDeleteHow old were you when you got married to him to make you think he's your last hope? Are you also a divorcee that made you shook your head inside such trouble?
ReplyDeleteSee, it will be hard for her to free that man, they were incompatible after 4 children, haba, the man should fear God o. That woman is going nowhere
*Larry was here*
There’s something called love
DeleteShe loves him. She married him. God will take care of the rest
Thank you.
DeleteIncompertible and he allowed her give birth to four children for him. Children o. Not pets. That man is evil.
15:48, love alone is not always enough in a marriage. See the battles you are fighting now. You better leave, for your own life.
Delete18:41 don’t leave
DeletePoster you get mind o, married someone who already have 4 kids with a woman, still leaving in his property and you guys chased her out.
ReplyDeleteYou get mind Sha.
You don't see yourself as evil fir agreeing to marry her partner but you see her as evil for refusing to leave his property.
Well done o
They chased her out o and rented a two bedroom apartment for her. Evil people.
DeleteThey were not compatible to marry but they were compatible to gbensh and have four kids.
Poster you and your husband are evil. Put yourself in her shoes and tell me if can stand it.
DeleteYour ex is mean sha, threw out his baby mama with 4 kids. The sensible thing he could have done as a decent person was to leave that building for them if he was actually a good person and both of you can go and start elsewhere.
ReplyDeleteI have no advise for u as I do not believe this woman did you people any wrong. Instead y’all did her wrong and when karma came calling, you concluded she went spiritual.
He didn’t know they were not compatible until she gave him 4 kids and now he thinks he can just move on peacefully with another.
Women, continue birthing upandan for men that have not married you. This May just be u in a few years time.
She and that man deserve each other. Karma is still doing press up
Delete@Eka, I couldn't have said it better...wicked poster n husband. 4 kids n u pushed her out of her kids inheritance. They were compatible from baby 1 to 4....after 4 babies he pushed her out for incompatibility. Poster u are in for a life long battle ,after his baby mama then the kids will continue. 4kids n their mama need more the 2 bedroom wicked new wife.
DeleteYou just said my mind, Eka
DeleteAnd she jumped in to marry the man when she heard that he did not marry the woman. Both she and the man are very wicked people.
DeleteThank you Eka. They will live with a man for years and keep breeding babies without dowry being paid. He will soon chase you and your kids out when he "falls in love" with another woman outside, according to the Anon up there.
DeleteGod bless you Eka Joy. Poster continue forming Saint for us you hear, one thing you should bear in mind is that karma exist. I can't even imagine what your husband's ex is going through right now.
DeleteYou said it all
DeleteOmo!
A man with 4kids ,you still jump enter. You'll keep fighting battles,that woman is not about to let go easily.
ReplyDeleteMa'am, sorry to say, na battlefield you enter so. Man with 4 kids, and their mom is still single... he decided to marry someone else when money came, (forget that compatible story). Omo, tie your wrapper well o.... It's gonna be a long fight, unless she decides to let go.
ReplyDeleteShe might not be guilty of those accusation. 4 kids for a man, drove her out of the building, married someone else citing incompatibilty, when the money came. That can be quite painful. Maybe, it's just her tears moving
DeleteOh hoo! Her tears is doing the spiritual battle, poster, I don't pity you
DeleteI don't know which woman in their right mind would want the tears of a homeless woman and four children on their shoulders. Poster, you play with fire and don't expect to get burn. Those children will always view you as the person who broke their family apart. Why wouldn't you choose peace of mind in your life. Always choosing fckd up situations for what? You haven't even listed one worthy quality of this man why you hitched yourself to him legally and spiritually amid what he was doing to another woman and his own children. You know how traumatic that is for the children.
DeleteSeriously she have not seen anything.
DeleteEven hear the extreme gaslighting coming from your mouth. 4 children for one man and he married another person. No evil will befall her. Matter of fact, he will still pay for what he did to her.
ReplyDeleteKarma will still beat him 4-0. Leave her o and pray for yourself so that you will suffer unjustly
Which one be 4-0 again π€£π€£π€£ the broom wey them use flog..
DeleteNa so!
DeleteSay no to nwunye dα»!
Some of you ladies just have fish brain. She is evil but, they both have 4 children?Poster, nobody is fighting you spiritually. The man you are married to is the problem, here. You'd better open your eyes before it's too late
ReplyDeleteYour husband is the evil one here not the lady.
ReplyDeleteAfter 4 kids. Not 1, not 2, not 3, but 4. That's when he discovered that they were no longer compatible.
The man deserves anything he gets from the lady.
She is his karma.
We are all humans. That's a selfish thing to do.
Poster, it seems you have strength to fight, continue. Why would you even go into such a relationship with so much baggages. Continue .
ReplyDeleteYou did make sense, Stella.
ReplyDeleteShe has to fight her husband not you, poster. I wonder why women keep fighting themselves when it's obvious and sure the man is at the center of everything causing problems. Impress it on your husband to go make peace with her. There must be some form of agreement which might not be okay with all parties involved.
But check am na, poster, he had no money to marry her. By the time money finally came, they were not compatible. If you were in her shoes, how would you feel? She probably sacrificed so much, even her life for him to be where he was when he met you. Let him find a way to compensate her. It's painful. It's truly is.
Best wishes.
You see how even in writing the poster has a sharp tongue...putting allegations of spiritual attack on the baby mama...you can imagine what she does in person. Saying he will pay school fees, rent as if it is not his no 1 duty. Nonsense.
DeleteNoting like if she’d were in her shoes because she will definitely up in the shoes with such a man
DeleteHaving four children with a woman without proper marriage rites say a lot about your husband. I just hope he is worth all you are going through now, cos you in for a long time battle.
ReplyDeleteSuch women don't back off easily, may God help you.
What about the women that opened her legs to birth 4 children for a man that did not marry her? Let us not deceive ourselves. Some women think trapping a man with pregnancies is possible, it is not possible. If you birth the first one and he did not marry you, close your legs till the right thing is done.
DeleteFan Emmanuel
Fan emmanuel, e don happen e don happen now what? Some women are not emotionally strong and trust easily when a man promise them heaven and watch instead of making sure their actions back it up. Also, most parents in naija don’t do a good job instilling a good self esteem especially the girl child!! Na pesin go dey figure things out and for some it might be too late.
DeleteTrap wetin? After 4? He must have been enjoying himself ooo, because 4 kids and countless fucks no be small thing. Then he gets money and boom! Decides to upgrade. She was good enough as long as money no dey. So all the while he was banging and having kids he was craving to have money so that he could have the actual chick of his dreams. She was used, no cap. Now he knows she's not compatible. It took 4 kids to know that... What a life........
DeleteI know Stella won't publish it but I will write it anyways.
ReplyDeleteMen are scum but women keep fighting and killing themselves to be with man. Why?
In a fallen world, that is part of the consequences of eating the dang forbidden apple π.
DeleteMadam just know you will never have a peaceful home. You agreed to marry a man that has four kids. If it were you, how will you take it.
ReplyDeleteYou are the evil one poster. How desperate can you be for the Mrs title that you dabble into this kind of situationship? After four kids with the man, stigma of a baby mama and the sacrifices and struggles with him with the hope that he will make it legal some day, then boom you came along. Do you know what it means to conceive, then pregnancy journey, delivery and taking care of a child entails? How much more FOUR? They raised those kids together. When you were the side fowl, couldn't you have advised this motherfucker to marry his baby mama? Because you felt you are hotter in the looks department or whatever it is that is giving you an edge, you chook head. How would you feel if this happens to you or your sister or a member of your family? I know you will fight to the grave.
ReplyDeletePoster you are EVIL. A DESPERATE EVIL at that.
Leave that man and his family alone. I'm angry here
Why did I even read this Chronicle? I dey para here seriously for the poster. Poster if I can catch you eh, I will fight you and give you mark. Nonsense
ReplyDeleteJewel sebi i see your comment for up....you still comment again? You don vex scatter be dat π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
DeleteAh as a tigress ba π€£π€£π€£
DeleteI am telling you.
DeleteThe audacity to shamelessly write that the baby mama refused to leave the accommodation with the children, until she was forced to via court, and you think that she's evil and into jazz?
Her tears and years of being with a man who she foolishly thought would make an honest lady out of her is enough to be making you run kiti kiti, kata kata.
You and your husband wronged the lady.
You know it.
Your husband knows it too.
Do the needful.
Read the chronicle well. Money he was to use to marry the mother of his kids was taken by her brother or don’t you think that brought issues between them? See how you people are saying the man is lying but what if he’s actually saying the truth? People should not live again because someone had children for them..
ReplyDeleteComing from another man..
DeleteTaken by her brother not her...so if my inlaw does something bad, my partner should suffer for it...transfer aggression 101...that wicked man for say I have used,dried and dump u...not this flimsy excuses of brother issue n incompatibility
DeleteIf the "big money" was taken by her brother, why not just pay bride price with drinks and co and do church blessing? Why go for a different woman? Poster, you think you are hot and fine? Or because he married you? That man has a bad character that will still manifest and Yes, the baby mama is justified in whatever action she takes against the both of you. Best of luck cos your gonna need loads of it on this journey.
DeleteSo poor people no dey marry again
DeletePoster, your sufferness just dey start. You see shege.
DeleteI hope your time will not pass before you run for your life and leave that evil man.
Not an excuse because now he has the money to do right by his ex baby mama of 4 but chose not to. I put it to you that he never really wanted to marry that lady but led her on until he dropped the bomb. Anybody who will side with such a man is either a scammer or a potential one. Mtchew
DeleteYou and that man ehhn the kain karmaru wey flog una ehhn. Naija na wrong place to marry it always favours the man. Imagine kicking out four of his own children just like that !! Tueh for him
ReplyDeleteYour hands may be clean but your man's hands are not clean.
ReplyDeleteAfter 4 kids!! The excuse was his in-law didn't have money? Your man could not gather money money and see her people? What about a court wedding? All of a sudden, they became incompatible. And you accepted and chook your own head inside.
This fight is above you and you never should have gotten yourself entangled in it. The ex might be handling the matter wrongly, but my dear, to her mind, she is justified.
You too check well na, you went and aligned yourself with a man who had the mind to kick out his 4 kids, if he truly wanted to avoid her wahala, why not leave her and his children there since they've already been living there, and rent another place for you both?
I am not even understanding your reasoning for joining yourself with this man. As a single lady, beautiful woman, you did not see single men without this baggage that you could have married, now look at you fighting unseen forces and spiritual attacks.
This man was never meant for you. And I wish you'd had the self-worth to realise this from the start.
Poster you married into trouble oh. Is he the only man in this world you could have married. The truth is u may not win this fight oh. A woman scorned haba! Think am now. What if it was you
ReplyDeletePoster,you watched your so called husband,throw the mother of his four kids out of their property,because of you.πππ
ReplyDeleteI am so angry with you. Chai the anger is deep maybe because of this election thing. Must you marry?. Who did this to you? A man has four children with a woman. The woman is still living in his house and you went ahead to marry him and made sure she left the house. What a life. That woman is not doing any spiritual battle against you. The forces of nature are fighting you on her behalf.
ReplyDeleteYou still have another chance. Divorce that man immediately for your sanity and posterity sake.
All I can say is the level of hunger and unemployment must be forcing ppl's hands in desperate ways. The poster will one day have children too, it is only then she will understand if she has any compassion or empathy in her what that woman was trying to hold on for. She has no clue what that woman worked and contributed or denied herself and her children so the building could go up and an opportunity for a better life could be had. See man offering two bedroom apartment, two bedroom for five ppl, how will they be comfortable?
DeleteMen are not short on the planet and this man was not one you should have entertained if you are a mentally well person. But you are there now, so what are we supposed to do with this chronicle? He has shown you how he deals with those close to him. My dear, you have won no prize, so work with your second hand man and pray to God that same or worst don't meet you and your future children like what met his common-law wife.
16:06, she may not have children with this particular man, I doubt it. For him to throw his kids and baby mama out, this poster may not be able to have any child for him. If she has sense and leaves him on time, she may have children with another man. Evil poster and her horseband.
DeleteShe was actually his common law wife if they lived together for long enough to have as many as four children so he needs to be properly divorced for your life to even start with him. How is she taking care of four kids in such a harsh economy? Who determined and calculated the child support? Most of the time women add a lot to housekeeping so how are you sure this woman isn’t struggling everyday to fend for herself and four children?
DeleteIf you were my sister and you listen to advice, I will advise you to leave this guy. He is selfish. Four kids and they have no man in the house as father figure yet you camp with him alone? You will find another man that will give you peace. Advice him to get back with her if they can reconcile since it’s not like she is married to someone else and watch God do wonders in your life. Some people blame Pero the woman with 3 kids for Tuface but it’s really not easy. Once you leave the man, your spiritual battles may just disappear. How long do you want to do this for, is he worth it, what if it’s a fight to finish? Technically since those are the only kids he has, the property is for them according to Nigerian culture so why did you get involved in the eviction? I say this because “Oni Memorial Hospital” owned by the late construction magnate of 50 years ago in Ibadan is the only huge mansion that I know of in Nigeria that a man willed to charity and not his children! May God give you wisdom and an obedient spirit in Jesus Name.
Thank God for your life
ReplyDeleteSo u saw fire and entered and u want to live happily?now read my lips...
ReplyDeleteU can't have a peaceful home,how are they not completable after 4kids with no marriage? really,see how u narrated it like it her fault.. this is just the beginning oh
She might even be responsible for their breakup in the first place.
DeleteAs in, out of 5 billion men in the world you picked baby daddy with 4 kids???
ReplyDelete1,2,3,4.
He did not marry her after 1.
He did not marry her after 2.
He did not marry her after 3.
He did not marry her after 4.
After 4 children, he is no more compatible? And he wants the woman and the 4 children to move into 2 bedroom flat?
He now came to marry you?
You sef no fear?
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Aunty, anything wey you see, chest am like that, inugo?
Why chase her away from the house,why not leave it for her for the sake of the children. Get ready, it's not over yet.
ReplyDeleteThis poster is very selfish. Where were you when the other lady was suffering with him. Where were you when he had no money.
ReplyDeleteNow he has money, the first thing is to go and do wedding with another woman.
Karma will deal with that heartless man for his evil ways. He will suffer for what he put that woman through with 4 kids.
Poster, when you start having your own kids, you will understand why that woman is going crazy.
Keep enjoying another woman's sweat. Just be prepared for more battles.
Poster, you made a mistake and the nerve you have to think you are right here. Technically, yes, but why support a man to cause another woman sorrow. And you, why are you so comfortable the same fate won’t befall you?
ReplyDeleteA man is trying to send a woman and 4 kids out, talking about he will pay rent, for one year abi? And the remaining will be with plenty abeg, right? And you are comfortable with this?!
I don’t know the age distribution but definitely that woman has being with him through a lot and through many years, how do you think she feels? I know you don’t care, but for your own safety and sanity, you should!
That man should have tidied up his life before bringing you into this. He should have settled this woman first, before bringing you in. This shouldn’t be your cross to bear, and you shouldn’t take sides. If you must, be on the woman’s side because no one knows tomorrow.
And in case you don’t know, that man is untrustworthy, and lacks empathy. You see him being comfortable splitting his home and denying 4 children of a balanced 2-parent household and creating such a mess and you eagerly want to bear his children? May God help you.
Mystic
My dear that was not a wise decision. Put yourself in her shoes, how will you feel? find away to make peace & ask God for mercy. Even if it was the man that came to look for you, don't you know how to say No? May God help you.
ReplyDeleteIf you have the money, move out of the country and give her some space
ReplyDeleteYou too stop thinking about her and blaming all misfortunes on her. Get your doctor working on your baby stuff
Polygamy would have solved this,.
ReplyDeleteBut I don't know how the ex think he would marry her with all this nonsense she's doing..
Some women would form strong head and refuse to be submissive until you leave them, then you'll leave to be with someone who has sense, they'll start to vex and be shouting that you left them after wasting their life for 5 years, like the 5 years too wasn't wasted from your own life .
The truth is just that, they didn't get a better option so they are mad that you got one..
They know who they do the nonsense with sha
Stop biko. The useless man did not know she is a bad woman after 1st, 2nd child?. He allowed her have four children for him. That woman would have wasted like 10years of her life with the heartless man birthing and nursing children. She might have contributed in building that house they chased her out. May God take us far from our enemies in the name of spouse.
Delete@Za
DeletePeople can change anytime, some people can begin to act stupid after 10 years, you must not now begin to live a bitter life because you guys have spent 10 years together..
2ndly, it wasn't his fault that he didn't marry her, na the woman brother misappropriate the funds.. her brother 'ate' her marriage..
3rdly, what he owes her is what he's doing even tho she's denying him seeing his children.. he still pays schools, house rent and what not,. If I understood what I read, the house wasn't for residential purposes.. it wasn't meant to be lived in..
Abeg cut the man some slacks..
Is it by force to stay married when it's been broken irretrievably? You're not even talking about the evil the woman is doing and denying a father seeing his kids.. if he stops paying their school fees and rent now, she'll start calling him dead beat and playing victim.. when she's the dead beat mother here
Dante,
DeleteYou write the truth in a brutal way. Maybe that's why some Bvs find it hard to accept.
Some marital partners turn terrors when they think their wives or husband have no where to go again in the marriage.
Poster use the words. They refuse to stay in peace or go in peace.
He deserves no slack at all. If he had broken up and settled the baby mama of 4 very well before embarking on a new relationship this might be less messy. And yes her time was wasted. Look at how easy it was for Mr man to move on after making money. Without money I doubt this poster would have been attracted to him. So that his ex actually loved him and not because of money. Why shouldn't she be angry after 4 kids? Shows they lived together for years with she playing wife. Where will she start from now?
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DeleteHow you think he was a broke ass when he was with his ex is what baffles me..
Person wey been dey build oh..
Make Una dey play
He had enough to build but not enough to get the kind of woman he wanted, because as soon as he could he didn't waste time. Quit playing.
DeleteYou and your husband’s family members are evil and wicked. He cooked up a lie with his siblings and drove that woman away. I pray she deals with you all.
ReplyDeleteI pray so too
DeleteHe cooked up the lie with his siblings for real. Honestly he’ll do to you worse than the ex na here we dey more chronicle dey. Come
DeleteHow much is court wedding?
ReplyDeleteWhy didnt he do that while they were birthing like rabbits?
And save for the carnival wedding that they want?
After 4 children, he say e no do again.
Marriage is not by force sha but have you asked the woman for her side of the story?
Have you found out from the woman's family what happened?
No.
You wanted marry and wear ring and answer Missiz.
You say the man's family corroborated blah blah blah...before nko? Were they supposed to say opposite of what their son is saying???
You must be very very naive.
And you're not even afraid of the man you married?
You no fear sam sam.
Spiritual yadi yugu. Have you gone for fertility tests? More importantly, has your man gone for fertility tests?
Yesterday is not today. Has he gone for tests?
Buckle your seatbelt, you're in for a very long ride.
Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy I swear, I just pray the Lord help you out of this because it's gona be a continuous battle ...
She will never back down..
Poster you are evil and can kill!!!! Your evil self is after you leave that woman alone, enjoy your reign because that man will repeat all he had done to that innocent women to you also it only takes time. You threw your fellow woman out of the only roof over her children head and you want to conceive!!!! Tinubu no even do reach you witch π§♀️, when you mistakenly see one pikin born I pray you experience everything and even more the ex has experienced in the hands of that man. I am sure if we hear from that woman she most have contributed to that building. God punish you.
ReplyDeletePoster i pity you. See where mumu love took you to, a man with four kids and an ex who is not ready to move onππ...instead of you to enjoy marriage you are fighting battles up and down. If you like keep choking mouth on matters that dont concern, If anything happens to you that man will mive to the next available mumu woman. Mtcewwww
ReplyDeleteEvery decision or step in life one takes is like the two sides of a coin, one is advantage the other is the opposite, the question is which will weigh more when its put on a scale.
ReplyDeleteAlways aim for what will give u peace of mind.
#My two cents#
True!!
DeletePoster I don't blame you too much (that is if you had no hand in their seperation). However I think your partner is very wicked and irresponsible. He dealt with his ex without mercy. So while they were birthing kids like rabbits, he didn't know the way to a court to do wedding? But he knows the way to a court to drag properties? The ex-girlfriend sef is foolish because how do you open leg and birth 4 kids for a man who hasn't married you?. The whole situation is a mess.
If I were you, I would not have involved myself in this mess but as e Don be, you have to fight it out. I don't know what you saw in that situation that made you think it is the best marriage for you and now you've chosen the man, you have to accept both good and bad that comes with it. I hope and pray God who sees the hearts of everyone has mercy on you and gives you kids.
After 4kids you still have mind to shook head there, na wa o. Your husband is a wicked man, See how he easily moved on after making her to drop 4kids, he didn't know they were not compatible when he was gbenshing her . I don't believe the part you are accusing her of being diabolical at all. you are a wicked woman as well.
ReplyDeleteIt is her head that is fighting this poster, the woman is not diabolical. Some people have strong head/spirit
DeletePoster, I hope you find peace in this home cos ordinarily, it's not easy marrying a divorcee not to talk of one with kids already and the ex fighting spiritually. I pray God grant you wisdom to tackle this both spiritually and physically.
ReplyDeleteSo na so the desperation to get married dey be? Men really scarce for naija! After 4 kids you still chook head put..deal with the ish madam!
ReplyDeleteThe man obviously has money now and you know woman no dey take eye see money
DeletePoster you get mind oh.
ReplyDeleteAnd & then it looks like you know how to fight this kind of battles.
You are already in it, so either you keep fighting or leave.
Your man did wrong. How dare he ditch her after 4kids, not like she wronged him.
He should have gotten ready for polygamy. Cos its still same battle.
Una doh o, it is well
You shouldn't have married that man until his ex is married or things has been settled between them both. Hope you have strength to fight this woman both physical and spiritual.
ReplyDeleteYou have work to do oh cos you saw the sign and still went ahead to say yes to a man who has four children with a woman he didn't marry
This poster get mind sha. You married a man with four kids from same woman and she still lived in their uncompleted building. You aligned with your so-called husband to drive her out. Apply the golden rule to this matter. You married in error.
ReplyDeleteError marriage π€£π€£π€£π€£
DeleteThere must be something you put your hope or trust on that made you opend your eyes and married this man. You have mind oh. See babe, in this life, no be every man person dey marry oh, some you see them just run away. This is a long time battle you just signed up for. Do you actually have peace with this man?
ReplyDeleteLeave the man for the woman ooh. She is his original wife and mother of his kids,even if you born you will still be number two,haba wetin carry you go marry man with four children and a "living" partner and you know very we she has not.kobed on Haba . You for do more investigation before the relationship.
ReplyDeleteMore investigation for what? Did she tell you in her narration up there that she didn't know the situation of things? She is just plain evil
DeleteSome women are allergic to peace of mind if not why would you get involved with a man with four children and an ex who is still very much in the picture.
ReplyDeleteYou and your husband are very wicked to have thrown her out of her home with her kids. That house is also her children’s inheritance. You absolutely lack empathy.
You have to start by asking God for forgiveness for your role in this.
Finding peace in this situation ship you call marriage is like finding a virgin in a brothel.
Good luck with that.
She doesn't deserve peace
DeleteI have a big cousin.
DeleteI have said his story here.
He's one of the greatest guy I have met.
But he was a SIMP.
He got involved with a girl from a Muslim fanatic family.
We're Delta, they're Yoruba.
He already own a home in Lagos in his 30s.
He was an only child, his mom is late, his father in another state married to another wife.
The Muslim girl got pregnant (I don't want to say she trapped him with it, but that was exactly what happened)..
As a SIMP he didn't even stress, he accepted told my dad, they went to see her fam.
Her father said he won't accept unless he his converted to a Muslim.
My cousin said he is a Christian and can't become a Muslim cos he wants to marry, moreover, he is the one marrying, if anyone should convert, it should be her.
They refused. He left.
The girl left home and parked into my cousin 4 bedroom flat.
My cousin took over..
She gave birth, he sent her to further her education.
Her parents and brothers always come around to collect money, beverages and all, even though they still insist he must convert before they allow him marry her.
He buys them ram for their celebrations, send them money when they need help, allow the girl still practice her religion except that she shouldn't pray infront of the kids so they don't get confused on their religion.
They had 2 more kids.
They were together for about 5-6 years I think..
He opened a big shop with a ware house for her.
I'm sorry to say, she was a disappointment of a wife in every word. She's good in pretending in public until she was outed.
She'll call my dad reporting that my cousin locked her out in the night, when the truth was that she was fighting him and he decides to go and lock himself in one of the rooms, she steals his money, ge would only find out a huge sum of money is missing when he wants to pay for a transaction.. (he mustly deals in dash due to the nature of his job).
She was fetish.. she denied this swearing and cursing until he went in and brought out the calabash from where she hid it..
She was always forcing him to hit her which he didn't, reading his clothes, throwing the marble stones on his mother's grave all over the compound, using stick to break the windows of the house shouting that she wants to provoke him to hir her, but he still won't touch her..
She was unfaithful..
Very long messy story though, now they've been separated, for years now, if he decides to remarry, shebi the werey would start fighting spiritually that after she had 3 kids for him he want to marry someone else..
I blame him for few things tho, first is getting involved with someone with such a girl from a face me I face you home, low education, zero class and all.. second is allowing himself to be trapped with pregnancy and third is being a SIMP (tho he isn't a SIMP anymore, he learnt the hard way).. you carry babe wey dey follow her family live for face me I face you come house wey na you get, she come turn landlady for your head Lol..
So, Yvonne, sometimes,. Things are not what you think it is.
Goodnight
I am so upset reading this...
ReplyDeletePoster, BIG SHAME TO U & UR SECOND HAND HORSEBAND.
Your thoughts, intents and doings portrays you as a desperate hag.
All that u have done in the home of another woman and mother to 4 children, The ALMIGHTY REPAY YOU IN A FULLER MEASURE.
Poster fear God o o o. Do you have human sympathy at all? So you feel you are a saint now because he met you when he was financially buoyance to marry you legally huh?
ReplyDeleteI am sure he would have married her legally if he was financially OK in the beginning , and he wouldn't have found it easy to divorce her just because of a little misunderstanding. Many relationship/marriages have bad times; you don't expect people to just discard a person whom they have sown all their seeds with and when it's time for them to enjoy the fruit of their labour you tell them because of a misunderstanding they had they can't reap the fruit of their labour together. (Who knows , maybe he no longer finds her attractive since he found you . You are slaying now because you don't have kids yet and he is loving you for that abi?) And you expect her to take it lightly?
My sister it is not easy to let go especially for those who put all their hope in a relationship. Some people go as far as building their man without building themselves and tomorrow the man sees them as local women and decide to go for brand new slay queens and you respect such a woman not to fight? It is not everybody that can let go just like that .
This woman was with him when he was still struggling. She even fasted and prayed and supported her man until he became successful, and now that he is successful he realises that she is not his type even after four kids? Jeeezz ! You are so mean. The audacity to call her evil. Have you tried to put yourself in her shoes? I am sure you won't take it lightly if it were you. This people have been through thick and thin together my dear.
Poster leave that family ALONE IJN
ReplyDeleteDarling, I read your writeup with a smile on my face, not because it is amusing in the most remotest form, far from it. I smiled because from my vantage point, the wrong woman is the one writing in. The mother of all ironies!
ReplyDeleteDo you have any idea what it means to carry a pregnancy for 7-9 months, be delivered of that priceless angel, have mum and baby survive the whole ordeal? Sweetheart, it is my earnest prayer that you get to experience it. It will certainly put things in perspective. It is emotionally, mentally, PHYSICALLY, psychologically and economically draining and daunting! Now multiply that experience by 4. Of course, the issue of incompatibility will be super convenient, wouldn't it? Some men stop finding their wives sexy and appealing after baby #1, let alone baby #4. How can she possibly compare, placed beside you, all perky, taut, shiny and new. Not "tainted" by multiple child births? Incompatibility would have made sense for refusing to marry her before knocking her up... FOUR times!
True, they never married but in law she was his common law wife. She deserves some respect. It worries me that you seem to applaud your hubby's unfair and harsh treatment for the mother of his children, the woman he shared his bed with for years until you showed up. You should be repulsed by it. Can't you see that this may well be a preview of how he would treat you if or when he finds you guys are no longer compatible?
You married her man, the father of her kids, and both of you kicked her and their kinds out of the house she called a home and you expect her to go quietly? Really? Can't you see you are the vilian in her story? With all the rancour, accusations and counter-accusations, how do you expect to get pregnant so easily? She may not be responsible for your predicament, your environment isn't ripe for conception.
My candid advice is that you and your hubby should sheath your swords and go and make nice with her. You guys should be compensating her, not adding insult to her injury. Darling, you haven't behaved well. After all, you chose to go into this, eyes wide opened. I honestly hope the man you married is worth this drama.
e-hugs and kisses.
πππ
DeleteSet awon judy austin, they never see anything wrong with their actions. It's your audacity to come here and claim the victim for me. Shebi he succeeded in throwing her out of the house with court order and a lirru force, maybe na inside body bag them go carry you comot laslas.
ReplyDeleteI wish the baby mama is truly diabolic so that she can show you and that irresponsible man premium shege. Banza kowai!!!
Judy Austin neighbour.
DeletePoster , hope you are spiritually equipped?
See ehn that thing that gave you liver to marry a baby daddy with 4 children, continue to pray to it to guide you. Simple.
ReplyDeleteAbd who told you she is responsible for whatever you're going through?
Your husband has dumped 4 children with her and gone to rebrand himself?
Do you think it is easy to take care of 4 children or for a woman to remarry with 4 children? Especially with all these faworaja men that abound? Can you see what a disadvantage she is at now? Especially if throughout her marriage she was not working or did not upgrade herself in any way.
And you are opening mouth to say, your husband wants to get her 2 bedroom apartment. For 5 people.
How many rooms are where you and your husband are staying?
Women, I hope you are reading and LEARNING. You see how easily men walk away from their marriages, regardless of years spent and number of kids?
I hope you can see.
You that they are treating like faeces, dehumanizing like rubbish is still choking head in a DOA marriage.
Read and learn.
Not gon lie, if a man should try this rubbish with me I will deal with both of you.
ReplyDeleteYou will be alive o, but death will look like a very very very attractive option.π
I pray God have mercy upon you Poster! I once had a suitor back then,an American citizen with 3 kids although they didn't marry but he left his house for her due to her diabolic nature,I refused to marry him when I prayed in my heart and got convinced I should move on,I did,why cause another woman pain? You allowed him to chase out a woman with 4 kids? Haba! Did you know what she went through with him before you came into the picture? Please ask God for mercy and beg for forgiveness,no one knows tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteHow do you know she is diabolic?
DeleteDid she use juju on you.
Nigerian men will trash talk their wives to absolute strangers for the most useless reasons.
I ask again, how did you know she was diabolical? Did she turn you to turngarri?
This is why they call you lot fish brain, critical thinking o di ro.
3 different pregnancies as 23 different marriages and he didn't marry her. If she was truly diabolical wouldnt she gave out him in a bottle to marry her?
This poster go rΓ©crΓ© sending this chronicle in! Loooool!
ReplyDeleteBut seriously, the poster is kinda tone deaf, how can you not see something wrong with this situation?
4 Kids??! 4!!!
I’m sure both genders make up the 4 kids.
See poster, run from any man that will abandon (yes, that’s what he did by throwing them out of the « commercial property » house) his children- his first fruit. Children born in his youth.
If the property was for commercial purposes, why did they start living there?
Abi you no reason am?
Is it likely he told the lady to stay there while they were raising money to complete the building and paying fees for the kids?
This woman was making sacrifices for her children’s sake! HIS children too because they bear his name and blood.
I’m sure he has boys AND girls, wetin you wan come born for am wey he no get?
Have you for once even tried to put yourself in the woman!/s shoes?
You are now « The Special One », who will give birth to a savior for him so in your mind you’ve decided it’s alright for him to not live in the same house with his biological children.
If he cared about seeing them, why did he thro their mother out?
Poster you and your husband are PURE EVIL!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThe earlier you leave that marriage the better for you. Mark my words your co wife not husband's ex will never rest until she finish you.
ReplyDeleteEvil witch poster and stupid evil witch man. You better leave this man alone and Go on your knees and beg this woman and her kids for forgiveness!!!! Go on your knees and ask God for forgiveness!!! Forgiveness for invading into this woman’s life and adding more emotional stress to her life. Because you’re the true witch! Which kind stupid love! Read your Bible and read the true meaning of love! I wish I could see you in person so I can beat you very well so your eyes go clear! I’m just hurting on this woman’s behalf with 4 kids! And you even get mind to kick her out of an uncompleted building. Not even a completed building ooo. Ahh posterrr ahhhh π³. YOU ARE EVIL WITH NO CONSCIENCE!! Only God will forgive you.
ReplyDeleteSuch a wicked poster, and an EVIL husband. Na your type of husband them dey pray against. Destiny destroyers, better move out of that woman's inheritance, rent somewhere else start afresh with your horseband, let him pay child support and you stay away from her maybe then you can have a little peace of mind. Until you give her her right, karma will keep dealing with you. Laslas na frustration go drive you comot from that marriage. Wicked couple plus wicked family people
ReplyDelete« Spiritual killing spree » my nose! Of course she is in debt. Did you ask your second hand husband if her money was inside the commercial property? They were still living together when you were paroling with him. You want to reap rent from a property you put nothing into.
ReplyDeleteSee you forming saint, God forbid you do anything to the children yet you supported the use of force and a court order for him to evict his children from their father’s house. Yes! Their father’s house, whether you like it or not. If you don’t like how the truth sounds, change your behavior to make it sound better. Now you are forming « I need to get some things off my chest. »
Of course it feels wrong inside because you know it is! What desperation cannot destroy does not exist!
« Spiritual killing spree » my nose! Of course she is in debt. Did you ask your second hand husband if her money was inside the commercial property? They were still living together when you were paroling with him. You want to reap rent from a property you put nothing into.
ReplyDeleteSee you forming saint, God forbid you do anything to the children yet you supported the use of force and a court order for him to evict his children from their father’s house. Yes! Their father’s house, whether you like it or not. If you don’t like how the truth sounds, change your behavior to make it sound better. Now you are forming « I need to get some things off my chest. »
Of course it feels wrong inside because you know it is! What desperation cannot destroy does not exist!
Not nice at all poster
ReplyDeletePoster
ReplyDeletePlease send her account number to us so we can raise some money for her. She needs to go for proper spiritual battle against you and him.
Who does that?
You took over house and kept her and the kids in two bedroom.
That woman is a nice kind woman.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Kindly change the 'us' to 'I' and your fetish kinds..
DeleteNa only you go contribute for babalawo moves
God forbid. Some women are so terrible. Even if the man is evil must you support his evil agenda.
ReplyDeleteNawaoo, 4 kids, no be say na one kid, some men don't even know themselves, after 4 kids you now realized that you guys were not compatible. Poster no go enter trouble all in the name of marriage.
Some people can't tolerate what they wanted us to tolerate.
Licious babe
* what they want others to tolerate*
Deleteposter, why did you chook head in a place of wahala. i don't understand how people see baggage and choose to pitch their tent there. did you feel you wouldn't see another man??? ladies abeg learn, run away from troubled men or homes or places you know there are spiritual battles. na introduction you dey see before the real marriage, RUNNNNNNNNN
ReplyDeletePoster, why did you carry your head and entered there all in the name of love and compatibility. Those two will also fade for you, or you did not know? You are the problem. Leave them alone and have your peace.
ReplyDeleteThe man have serious baggage - 4 children!!! 4!! And you went there to do what?!?!?!