WHAT!!!
''In 2022, I sent in a chronicle about dating a man I was 8 years older than.
Towards the end of the year he started acting funny, not picking up my calls and when I complained he said i was nagging.
I just decided to give him a break only for me to see his pre-wedding pictures Yesterday on Facebook. I'm shocked!!!!!.
He is getting married this Saturday in Abuja.
l don't even know whether to cry or to laugh but I'm trying so hard not to start crying now.
The funny thing is he has a very good job which is100% better than the salary I receive but he kept on borrowing money from me and never paid back a penny and now he's getting married .
I sponsored most of our outing cos he complained of not having enough cash.
I AM SHOCKED...
I AM SHOCKED...
Oh well now you know why he never had enough cash.... What a wicked human being...You have learnt your lessons i hope.....
Cry if you have cos you must still have liked him for you to go and be checking his Facebook...
Cry and laugh and try to forget the wicked man.....
Send him a mail to tell him if he doesnt return all the money he borrowed you will turn up at the wedding cos you know the venue, include an account and the amount...Even if he doesnt pay or respond, he will be looking over his back the whole time at the wedding...hehehehehhe
Abeg poster, be mindful of threatening him o. The wife to be may not know about you, make guy no go arrange for 'boys' to deal with you so you don't disturb his wedding
ReplyDeletePoster jam gigolo direct, sorry poster, just count it as your loss and shine your eyes better next time.
DeleteHe didn't get that money from you under duress so there's really no way you can get monies spent back from him.
Oh, so you are older by just age, but he's wiser and sensible than you? Why on God's own earth can you be giving a man your hard earned money? Shey na juju ni!! Him asking you for money should have sent a bad signals to your brain Na.
DeleteMugu fall, guy Man gain. He's gotten what he wanted from you and him don move.
I'm sure he sample the kpekus join am, right 🙄?? You go fear free groves Na 🥶
Please, na to just go lick your wounds jejely o. Na you fuck up.
Next time, close those legs kpa kpa, so that you can think properly.
Nwanne,akpago gi.😢
Why do men do this?
DeleteWhy
Funny enough there are a lot of girls who will still date you even if you tell them you do not want anything serious
So why stress someone’s child forgetting youd have your own daughters some day
Push up (original)
@Push up, exactly, many ladies are okay with an in-between guy, marriage isn't in the picture but companionship, sex, outings, trips etc. I've had them on more than one occasion when I was single. I hate deceit, just come open and say you're not sure if you want anything serious but you like her, many reasonable ladies are okay with this, much better than being alone and dateless.
Delete"Sample the kpekus join"
DeleteAt least not only the man samples.
As he was sampling, he was being sampled. This might even be the hook for Poster. Just that women rarely talks about this when they complain about money they spent in a failed relationship.
Even the feeling of being genuinely wanted is enough for the money spent by a woman in a relationship.
Jesu Christi!!!! 😳😳😳. What did I just read
ReplyDeleteBest advice for the month of January Ma'am Juweluchi. That man didn't do well at all for serving you breakfast like this. Cry small, laugh and move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteCollect your money in full
DeleteNa she fuck up nah!
DeleteAnd she didn't include the money aspect of it when she sent in the chronicle.
Selfish and wicked man. Actions like this have repercussions. They don't know.
ReplyDeleteYup. Tell it to the man and he would say go and sit down. When the repercussions start, he would be asking what have I done 😩😩🤦🤦
DeleteChai! I’m sorry! This kind of thing can destabilize one. Please wipe your tears, you will fell better with time. He’s a wicked person and will meet his recompense.
ReplyDeleteThis is not to say one cannot date someone younger but whenever there is what can be perceived as an ‘imbalance’ in a relationship, be extra careful so you don’t give your heart to the wrong person.
Love will find you.
Hahahaha, Stella this your response is sweetening me like crazy.
ReplyDeleteAnother way to deal with a fool learnt.
Good for you ,when they ask you be born again,you will call us second Jesus , fornication is a sin,I know it is not the money he took from you that pains you most it is the fucking that a person old enough to be your junior brother three times shine your honeypot ,as per money you better don't disgrace yourself by asking na double punishment you won't get shishi.Next time look for your age and keep yourself ,all those telling you that age is a number are also gigolo like him,
ReplyDeleteIs that all you can say, judgemental judge. You have never made a mistake in your entire life. I would like to know what and how you are in real life. And you come off as a bad some body.
DeleteWhat has age in marriage got to do with being born again?
DeleteGone try kind responses. Let your light shine!!!
DeleteGoke, you complain that people look down at you because of being born again. Read what you wrote and tell me if a true child of God will write that. You have just sinned as much as she may have had in her relationship if at all she did. Ask yourself if you've been Christ like.
DeleteYou must be very stupid. Hypocrite hiding under the umbrella of religion. Next time, just keep moving if you have no uplifting advice for someone downhearted. Imagine your choice of words. Shameless idiot.
DeleteStella oooooooo🤦🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteU wan give the guy HBP..I can't laugh I swear.
My take is, try and call him and if he is not picking then send him a text about it and let him know u will be there but be careful oooo cuz he might tend to act funny ooo..
If u send such, ur life might be in danger..so be warned..Some people might be dangerous oooo
E hugs to you poster, you will be fine..
ReplyDeleteYou deserve better my dear, your own man will come by the grace of God.
Cry if you want and move on and also follow Stella's advice. So sorry sis
ReplyDeleteNo spend for man way no fit stand up to his responsibilities. By the way, cry, it will help you burn out bad energy, after that send him a message like Stella said, ask for all your money and also wish him good-luck after he sends the money.
ReplyDeleteSomeone please post link to original chronicle
ReplyDeleteSo poster what's the issue here? Did he promise you marriage? If the money you gave to him was a loan please go and report him to the police. In your state of desperation you thought a Nigerian man, born and breed in Nigeria will get marry to a lady 8yrs his senior? And he is also richer than you. Come on. Next time use your head.
ReplyDeletePls go sit down with your victim blaming
DeleteHe’s a thief and yours blaming her
What’s wrong with marring s younger guy
I feel sorry for her the desperation made her turn a blind eye. May true love find her.
DeleteIf the story is true
DeleteThe man is a thief and thought he could use her and go Scot free
Hand go touch am surely
What is the talk of using her? They both enjoyed the relationship.
DeleteSorry poster. Shut your doors and cry very well to expell bad energy. Shower, then look for a good peppersoup joint, enjoy yourself, wash it down with your favourite drink, go home and sleep like a baby. Wake up fresh, then send him a congratulatory message. After that, block him and delete him from your memory. Forget the money he borrowed except you have proof that it was loan. Going forward, do not finance any boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteDo what Stella said or tell one of your trouble maker friends yo send the text for you and say she will show up
ReplyDeleteIf you’re like me, if you send it the guy may not believe cause we’re too calm
I honestly don't know what's wrong with some guys nowadays....serving young ladies breakfast up and down. That's how my kid sis' boyfriend who already introduced himself to my parents as their son-in-law to be, woke up one morning & told kid sis' that he had impregnated another lady & had been mandated to marry her. He told kid sis that he could no longer go ahead with their planned introduction scheduled for Dec. 2022 as a result of this; only for my kid sis to see his pre-wedding photos on Facebook a week after. She don kuku move on with her life because the guy is wedded already. What baffled kid sis is that this guy is a Deacon in his church.
ReplyDeleteShe should go report to the church
DeleteAt least let them know who he is
18:40,
DeleteShe said she's left him for God.
That’s a very timid and enabling behavior. Left him for God . Next time he’ll do worse
DeleteAunty go and collect your money abeg..
ReplyDeleteNa Una way be that..
As relationship end na to find bad name wey you go give the guy..
You no go talk about all the ones wey him give you..
This is the reason I NEVER collect money from a lady I'm involved even when SAPA wants to finish me..
Even when she 'forces' herself to give me and say it's dash, I dey return am immediately cash enter my had and tell her I'm returning back that money she gave me, sometimes with interest..
The last time I did this with an 'ex', she began calling me names, saying she knows I'm refusing to collect anything from her because I don't want to 'owe' her so she doesn't feel like she invested in me.. na she Sabi, better to be insulted for refunding money back with interest, than to be insulted for collecting money and not refunding.. God abeg🙏
I have nothing against being in a relationship with an older lady, but 8 years older, haha na, na sugar mommy you suppose dey do to am.. you won dey enjoy that young blood time, attention and what not and you no won pay for am, you think say na love before?
Even if not for the money, at least you should know it's just for fun, ABI you really think say him been won marry you before? The age difference is too much.. when this happens most times, it's usually for some certain things the lady is offering..
Tell yourself the truth and stop trying to be spiteful..
The guy too fvck up by not being straight with you.. me i say it as it is, cos insinuations can be denied.. but words are unequivocal.. I won't ask you for a relationship or say we're dating just because I want to chop kpekus or wants the status quo to continue.. if you want me to lie, then abeg carry your kpekus dey go,. No be me you go come call our later say I deceive you, when we both know we knew what we were doing.. but in this case you'll have a defence to rely on because I was too sensitive to be playing according to your script cos I didn't want you to feel some typa way..
Kings, for the last time..
1. Stop accepting things from Nigerian women
2. Don't hide behind relationship because you want to chop kpekus..
Keep it Gee..
Blessings
After threatening to show up at his wedding. Just go and hide, don't stay in your house o and don't tell anyone your location. He can send guys to kidnap you for that day
ReplyDeleteThe problem here is the guy using the lady, you see Nigerians we re hypocrite s there is a guy my brothers age say like 32/33 yrs he is abroad married to a lady of 40sth years with an 8 yr old boy, the mum don go abroad for omugwo for cos he now had his own son with same lady, when I asked him if it's a Nigerian lady this age with a child you go marry am he said ,if I hear it's only in abroad naija dey marry who senior them.
ReplyDeleteBiko any Nigerian lady in this kind of rshp abeg tight your purse cos of it happens , the sadness no be here.
Sorry poster still call him and hear from him as for the money ,it's bygone
Useless pple everywhere
The sadness no go be here
DeleteIt's not hypocrisy anything..
DeleteHe married her for the value she's offering,. Do you know what a foreign passport is?..
Same reason why a young lady like Regina can marry a Ned
Tell me what he stands to gain from marrying a broke Nigerian lady who is 8 years older than him?
Make Una dey talk truth abeg..
When we tell you ladies to develop yourself, you'll be insulting us,. With value on yourself, if you can't get what you want you buy it..
Some of such abroad marriages are for papers and better work. Both partner silently know.
DeleteYou can't "buy" genuineness Dante, cold users are parading around manipulative thieves
DeleteDating a man 6 years younger who collects money from you never ends well. They collect from you and spend on another lady.
ReplyDeleteKeep it moving poster. Count it as one of lives experience.
See that miss independent you ladies do to keep guys, una dae try
ReplyDeleteDon't threaten him just let it go, u where not forced to spend it. What if he threaten you with nudes, do I have the heart for the battle... Me as I lady I hate threats I will fight back in ways the person won't imaginel not to talk of you dealing with a shadyman
ReplyDeleteIf I notice you are a day younger than me. Nwanne gbago agbagoo
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHe earns more than you yet you kept lending him money... You don't just fall blindly in love especially when you are dealing with someone younger. Play along but don't give in even when he engages you with a ring.
ReplyDeleteThe ones that can marry older laddies are the ones who don't have good source of income. Check it everywhere.
Well, we all learn from our mistakes. Ask him for your money but don't threaten to cause problems on his wedding day because he may plan to harm you and even act smarter than you. May God help you to heal
Hi Slim..
DeleteIt depends..
2 years older or maybe 3 is ok.. love can still happen, they're within the same age grade.. I can do such..
But 8 years.. haba.. it's sugar mommy.. let's be honest
Dating a younger man is dicey, because he only sees you as a sugar mommy, even if he professes love like Mr valentine, forget it, a younger girl is somewhere who knows about you. Just 1% marries their sugar mommy... And make sure you continue being the money bag, coz if you are broke, that younger guy will not settle for you. Age is just a number doesn't work for everyone, forget motigbensional speakers.
ReplyDeletePlease don't ever call him for anything, let it go, cry if you want to cry and move on.
ReplyDeleteBut next time, don't ever give any guy your money,if a guy always ask you for money, it's a big red flag and a shameless act.
Ladies, stop giving guys your money, you won't hear, you will be forming lover girl, any guy that always ask you for money without giving you doesn't love you and stop dating younger guys.
I can't even date a day old younger guy let alone eight year old, they will be seeing you as their ATM machine.
Age is number is a big scam in Nigeria.
I'm sure you got good advice here but Nigerian women ni dey ever get sense when they are in relationships.
ReplyDeleteNigerian an will never marry an olderceoman except it can benefit him ie money, citizenship etc. That is when they will eagerly marry their grandmother's senior.
Buahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaa 🤣🤣🤣
Abeg he's not earning more than you anything. He's a scam.
ReplyDeleteWomen, stop dating men significantly younger than you, especially Nigerian men. It almost always never ends well
Even the guys that are older than you can still dupe you in the name of love. My dear na only God know person with good intentions.
ReplyDeleteStill better than one gigolo shining congo forming relationship things meanwhile he just wants to suck you dry of your money. Amusu.
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