This is an Exclusive Interview with actor Alexx Ekubo's US based ex Fiancée Fancy Acholonu...
She tells Stella Dimoko Korkus that she did not break up with Alexx because of his s#xuality and explains a lot of things including their chats that leaked.
It is a must read Interview!
FANCY - Hey Stella, Happy new year. Sure, what would you like to discuss? Please Let me know
STELLA - About all these stuff going on: do you wanna grant me an interview?
i was really excited and looking forward to you and Alexx' reconciliation but it looks like that's not happening anytime soon what went wrong?
I will understand if you dont wanna talk but i would advice you do.
FANCY -I have seen your blog before, it’s positive, especially when you speak of Alexx and I.
So this is all very devastating. I feel like speaking up makes me look bad but so does my silence...
I’ve never done an interview about this, I chose silence but Alexx continues to want me to make public apologies and it’s hurting me in so many ways. I have never even shared reasons why I left. I know he has an image to protect for him to look cool. But this last apology statement we wrote together broke me and it was just all for revenge from him to clear his image and ruin mine.
STELLA - Why did you break off your engagement Fancy?
FANCY - There are so many reasons I ended it. It’s very personal. I don’t want to embarrass him or myself further. If I say why, people will say well how obvious was that and you ignored the red flags. We tried to reconcile, I asked for us to do it privately, get counseling , he disagreed. Even his family and friends said privately would be better but he needed the grand gesture apology so he can have the grand wedding he wants again. Not caring the issues were still there.
I’ve never done an interview about this, I chose silence but Alexx continues to want me to make public apologies and it’s hurting me in so many ways. I have never even shared reasons why I left. I know he has an image to protect for him to look cool. But this last apology statement we wrote together broke me and it was just all for revenge from him to clear his image and ruin mine.
STELLA - Why did you break off your engagement Fancy?
FANCY - There are so many reasons I ended it. It’s very personal. I don’t want to embarrass him or myself further. If I say why, people will say well how obvious was that and you ignored the red flags. We tried to reconcile, I asked for us to do it privately, get counseling , he disagreed. Even his family and friends said privately would be better but he needed the grand gesture apology so he can have the grand wedding he wants again. Not caring the issues were still there.
Everything is about social media for him, and somehow it’s now looking like I want the attention when this is the WORST attention I’ve ever had in my life. I have a full time job, clients, family businesses etc this was what I wanted to avoid. He ruined every chance of us being back together by thinking humiliating me will make me still love him.
Now I’m hearing my break up text has leaked. I sent it to my close people at the time of the break up. They’re so upset with Alexx and how he treats me that I know they leaked it. We would have married quietly and moved on. Now everyone is in our business so here comes the sabotage because they feel he’s bad for me based on everything they know.
STELLA - So there is no chance of a reconciliation?
FANCY -No
STELLA -Now let me ask you straight up.. There has been so much talk going round since you broke up with Alexx... They say you found out that he swings both ways? if its not true, at least correct that impression that your break up caused, it would only be fair to him...
FANCY -We can’t, it’s too messy, i tried my best. He wanted to get back with me as much as I did. We’ve been at this for one year. But he felt since I broke up with him I should do more of the work. I was fine with that but his methods are cruel and constantly public
His s#xuality is not the reason I broke up with him. I’m very open minded so regardless of what he prefers, love is love for me. I loved him for his personality and heart nothing more. He didn’t want to be with me intimately which was confusing and difficult for me to understand especially for 5 years so it did affect my self esteem as I kept myself for him and when he would cheat with curvy women he wouldn’t perform with them either so I don’t know, I can’t confirm or deny his s#xuality but for me, I loved him despite all and he still found ways to hurt me.
STELLA - Dated five years and no intimacy? Did you confirm he was cheating? caught him or you were told?
FANCY -Yes, that is embarrassingly true. When I met him I didn’t have much experience so it was easy to convince me that his decision was because of religion. But as he would constantly cheat and yes I caught him, it would hurt me because that’s not part of the religious believe he made our celibacy to be. Honestly this whole thing has been complicated beyond words so it’s unhealthy for me to continue this relationship. I guess I needed this post he begged me to dp so that i can see his intention was just to clean up his image. I am truly sorry I ever posted a break up message, it’s a guilt that has haunted me and he plays on that. I can’t fix the past, but his constant punishment even though my live in their truth statement has truth to it, this embarrassment is not something I deserve.
STELLA -And from the break up text, it looks like you were the one to pay for the wedding both of you were to have..?
FANCY -You have seen it?
STELLA -Yes i have
FANCY - I’m so embarrassed, but everything in that message is true. At that time I was angry and sent it to close peoples and when they saw it they were shocked. It’s bad because with all that I still wanted to go back to him because I loved him. But it being so public has made it impossible to repair this.
STELLA - Do you think too many outsiders are involved in this? Have both families intervened?
FANCY - Way too many, My family does not want him anymore in our family. They know too much. They were In support of a reconciliation if it was private. But his tit for tat was concerning. That August statement not being enough was concerning. He only focused on my reactions; never on his actions.
Now I’m hearing my break up text has leaked. I sent it to my close people at the time of the break up. They’re so upset with Alexx and how he treats me that I know they leaked it. We would have married quietly and moved on. Now everyone is in our business so here comes the sabotage because they feel he’s bad for me based on everything they know.
STELLA - So there is no chance of a reconciliation?
FANCY -No
STELLA -Now let me ask you straight up.. There has been so much talk going round since you broke up with Alexx... They say you found out that he swings both ways? if its not true, at least correct that impression that your break up caused, it would only be fair to him...
FANCY -We can’t, it’s too messy, i tried my best. He wanted to get back with me as much as I did. We’ve been at this for one year. But he felt since I broke up with him I should do more of the work. I was fine with that but his methods are cruel and constantly public
His s#xuality is not the reason I broke up with him. I’m very open minded so regardless of what he prefers, love is love for me. I loved him for his personality and heart nothing more. He didn’t want to be with me intimately which was confusing and difficult for me to understand especially for 5 years so it did affect my self esteem as I kept myself for him and when he would cheat with curvy women he wouldn’t perform with them either so I don’t know, I can’t confirm or deny his s#xuality but for me, I loved him despite all and he still found ways to hurt me.
STELLA - Dated five years and no intimacy? Did you confirm he was cheating? caught him or you were told?
FANCY -Yes, that is embarrassingly true. When I met him I didn’t have much experience so it was easy to convince me that his decision was because of religion. But as he would constantly cheat and yes I caught him, it would hurt me because that’s not part of the religious believe he made our celibacy to be. Honestly this whole thing has been complicated beyond words so it’s unhealthy for me to continue this relationship. I guess I needed this post he begged me to dp so that i can see his intention was just to clean up his image. I am truly sorry I ever posted a break up message, it’s a guilt that has haunted me and he plays on that. I can’t fix the past, but his constant punishment even though my live in their truth statement has truth to it, this embarrassment is not something I deserve.
STELLA -And from the break up text, it looks like you were the one to pay for the wedding both of you were to have..?
FANCY -You have seen it?
STELLA -Yes i have
FANCY - I’m so embarrassed, but everything in that message is true. At that time I was angry and sent it to close peoples and when they saw it they were shocked. It’s bad because with all that I still wanted to go back to him because I loved him. But it being so public has made it impossible to repair this.
STELLA - Do you think too many outsiders are involved in this? Have both families intervened?
FANCY - Way too many, My family does not want him anymore in our family. They know too much. They were In support of a reconciliation if it was private. But his tit for tat was concerning. That August statement not being enough was concerning. He only focused on my reactions; never on his actions.
STELLA - One last thing. Say something to Alexx through this interview. Talk to him through me
FANCY - Honestly I don’t know what to say to him. This has to be the most devastating thing I’ve ever been through, and for it to be so public; I pray we both find healing and peace because it won’t be an easy journey. One breakup statement shouldn’t have led to all this. I wish I never said anything but I am human; I was fed up with good reasons. I pray he doesn’t only focus on people’s reactions but evaluate his actions too. I also pray he learns to be real and more f
orgiving with his next person and not be so consumed with having the perfect image because it’s draining to keep that up. My mental health can’t tolerate our relationship anymore.
STELLA - Wow. Catch a hug from me Sissy!
Thank you for opening up to me, I pray you both find closure from this.
FANCY - No problem. There’s been reports that he blocked me on the social media; that’s not true, that would be really bad on him. I don’t want people to think that. He just revealed himself to me after the post very quickly. I genuinely feel bad all this is happening, I was hoping for a different outcome but God knows best . Thank you for your hug and prayers for us:..
orgiving with his next person and not be so consumed with having the perfect image because it’s draining to keep that up. My mental health can’t tolerate our relationship anymore.
STELLA - Wow. Catch a hug from me Sissy!
Thank you for opening up to me, I pray you both find closure from this.
FANCY - No problem. There’s been reports that he blocked me on the social media; that’s not true, that would be really bad on him. I don’t want people to think that. He just revealed himself to me after the post very quickly. I genuinely feel bad all this is happening, I was hoping for a different outcome but God knows best . Thank you for your hug and prayers for us:..
SOME OF THE LEAKED CHATS...
Na u break up na u still want make them call u… dis fancy girl na werey and I like the fact that Alex gave her d silent treatment
ReplyDeleteDid we read the same thing?
DeleteThe way you people are blinded by an image of what you think someone is is really funny.
DeleteYou don’t know what people are capable of until they are in a different scenario.
They both got into the relationship for different reasons, she saw a popular face and fell inlove, he saw a rich naive girl who he could manipulate.
He gaslit her for the whole 5years and their distance was like an excuse, how do you not touch a woman for 5years, no form of affection even if sex wasn’t on the table.
This is why I said this revenge was stupid of him cus he shot himself in the foot, she was too inlove she dint care if he was BI.
Fancy, next time look before you leap, most people go into a relationship because of one selfish reason or the other. Please do not speak on this issue again.
Alex kept this girl based on his sexuality, he would have gotten someone who was willing to sign an NDA rather than get someone who fell inlove with him cus she was a ticking time bomb, he also wanted her to finance the whole wedding like…
Why Live a fake life, at the end of the day nobody really cares about your wedding.
Fancy never handled the main issue and she was going back to him thinking he had changed.
In everything I wish them both peace.
Push up (original)
It is clear now
DeletePeople have been questioning the sexuality of him and his chop life gang for years especially him and that divorcee with gorimapa head. Now we know.
Fancy move on from him, I heard it is hard to get a good black guy for marriage in abroad but God will help you, you can go for a another race.
It is evident that Fancy is helplessly in love with Alex even to the extent of funding the so called glamourous wedding. Who does that???? Fancy have you forgotten you are an igbo girl, your husband is to pay your bride price. We Nigerians don't pay groom price. Alex is 1000% Ego drunk, dominating and extremely selfish. Fancy if you read this; Please Stop the pity party you are hurting yourself more. God did not give you your beautiful life to revolve around a mere human. The worst has already happened. Pick yourself up and look at the Great future ahead of you. if you are still crying it will blur your vision. In everything give Thanks to God and watch him do the unthinkable for you. Stay Strong Beautiful and never forget you are stronger than you imagine. This unpleasant phase will pass, that is for sure.
DeleteFor Alex - Mr. Macho, Obiakpu, i must have the perfect imagine, pepper them geng, fake it till you make it Alex. You really need to evaluate your life and be true to yourself. It is a new year, new day. Please release yourself from the unnecessary bondages you are tying yourself by yourself. Take a Deep Breathe Brother. ease off on the unwanted pressure you give yourself. i feel really sorry for you. This lane you are towing only leads to destruction. (Whatever you are looking for and more Almighty God can do exceedingly abundantly above anything you ask/want. Jesus loves you) - I wish you both Peace that surpasses all understanding. It is well this too will pass
God is GOOD. Stella, this interview was a good one. You are the BEST.
DeleteWe saw it 1) Bromance Foolish. 2) Desire to Score Point. 3) Financial Irresponsibility.
AGAIN and AGAIN, Fancy had all the character building blocks to be a RIDE or DIE woman if you mold her right. Just lead her on the right path, update your mindset a little and move right…
Seriously, a western Nigeria woman is an incredible asset to ALL single Nigeria man in this present buhari economy. When Peter Obi becomes president, if you vote #OBIDATTI, the pendulum ball will swing in the favor of Nigerian women in Nigeria :)
As of today, Nigerian MEN in Nigeria LOST an asset in America. If she marries an oyibo man, it is the fault of all single UNMARRIED Nigerian men and not us(married and divorced one).
Married and divorced men
Asia, if good black men are scare in USA, what about good Eurpean and Asian men?
DeletePush up, she spoke about no s3x not about no form of affection. S3x and affection are two different things. It is now understandable why and how menn/women deceive themselves with s3x and confuse it for love.
No evidence of she funding the wedding ceremonies. She did not want to over-spend, preferring to buy be a homeowner instead, which is very sensible. She appears prudent and wise on money matters.
On the whole, they are not compatible. Both of them mishandled the break-up and announcement of it.
Pity that she is spoiling her future chances or limiting them further over a dead relationship by re-writing and re-explaining what she first believed and published first time, and still believe as this interview confirms. A double speaking woman. How many men will trust her?
On a second thought, we are still scratching our head how any MAN (a Nigerian man in Nigeria for that matter) successfully stay celibate with a beautiful lady like Fancy..Like how ? You see how fine she is ? A SERIOUS believer can manage and hold it together for 6-12 months without drilling…How much more an UNSERIOUS unbeliever that willingly said NO to some good!good!!from fancy legs… ? HABA!!!!!There is God ooooo!!!
DeleteNormally, it is the woman that suggest let’s wait till marriage. This is a HISTORIC act that a Nigerian man(in Nigeria) not only suggested let’s wait till marriage but actually enforced it for 5 years.…. Siri, play “something fishy” by davido…
That said, we made a commitment to God in 2023 to tell the truth and stand by it… The only faithful man in Nigeria, that can say NO to any open legs; that CAN’T cheat and has NEVER cheated on his partner is PETER gregory OBI….
Well, everyone is entitled to our own conclusion.
Married and divorced men.
Chimooooo! All that glitters is not gold indeed. Alex??? OK. The truth is slowly creeping out. Fancy just move on. You will be fine You will be fine. Just believe it and hold on to God You will be fine
ReplyDeleteUna don see am nah?
DeleteHe's so calm and sweet yen yen yen. Odiegwu!😁🙁
I pray for healing for both of you
Deletefor me this girl is messy, narcissist and attention seeking. if this was the way she broke up with him why did she put out a statement about living your truth then linking up with sonia. now she's playing victim. please fancy receive sense because all these your tantrums and manipulation reeks of someone who has no sense, self centred and immature. grow the fuck up and take this issue out of social media ewu gambia.
ReplyDeleteSo if she had been friends with Sonia she should quit the friendship because she broke up with Alex?
DeleteWe know there is more reasons which she can't divulge. I and my husband separated 2 years ago and they are so many thing my eye saw that I can't even tell anyone. Shemae no gree me talk. All the 9 years I was swallowing a lot.
DeleteShe dint tell you to interpret it the way you did
Delete“Live your truth” could also mean stop the fake life, stop forming like you have the money you claim to have.
Don’t make it look like fancy was the one to start the rumors, he had those rumors trail him way before Nancy and this whole stunt actually raises an eyebrow because why was he so interested in her clearing his name than the actual relationship? Even from the beginning he made it seem like he couldn’t have enough of her when the real truth is that they weren’t intimate.
Even IKs wife complained about her husband not having her time and always with Alex, he practically spent more time with his friends than his wife.
Push up (original)
We now know part of the truth. Baby girl dogded a bullet. Alex is a manipulative he goat and bi animal, I can't even believe she was going to finance the wedding all by her self and he kept on making unrealistic demands, shame on Alex.
DeleteHe should go get himself a bi girl that will take his rubbish...
Yesterday on IG after reading This girl's post I just knew there was more to it and I was trying to convince my sister Alex was manipulating her but she didn't believe me. Now I know, I hate rubbish, I have unfollowed him don't wanna be seeing such face on my timeline
11:35,
Delete"Over spend" she wrote before the interview is now finance the wedding all by herself?
What is wrong in a woman spending on her wedding?
@push up original… You really CONNECTED those dots beautifully. You are LETHAL. Nice to see people who are observant, analytical and read in between the lines.
DeleteMarried and Divorced men
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ReplyDeleteWhat a wawuuu Stella. Thanks for the interview. It explains a lot. I stand with Fancy even though I can't recognize her on a post if her name isn't written I.e I don't know her at all but menh Alex played her like a trombone oh. Strung her along for more than 5 years.
DeleteHer reasons for breakup are very valid. But my anger with her was trying to make up with him this year after that last years breakup message she posted online. I would never do that.
I would lick my wounds, count my losses and move on. Why would she try to apologize and dance to his tune after calling off their wedding online?
Even if he had changed and never had Tit for Tat in mind, their relationship would never be the same. She should have moved on and blocked him since last year.
Well thank God she has let it all out of her chest now. She has directly and indirectly confirmed that Uncle is gay. Goodluck with the next girl he tries to deceive. But Alexx fine shaaaaaaa.
Bianca Bruno.
Hmmmm it is well with both of them. You see why not good to marry celebrity. They are all after their images. Nonsense and ingredients
ReplyDeleteNonsense image
DeleteTheir image comes first. Everyone of them just like this show off. Like what's the deal with this showing off for goodness sake. What's this trying to belong for. Oga oh.
DeleteWow! That’s why it’s good to hear from both sides. Alex has been gaslighting her. Fancy MOVE ON AND NEVER LOOK BACK! You deserve better.
ReplyDelete@stella can you also conduct an interview with Yul and Judy? To hear from all sides.
Have you heard from both sides or am I missing something??
DeleteAll these calls and chatting as a major means of communication for a couple about to get married - I don't get?
If they are too busy to have a physical conversation then they should be too busy to get married.
It is obvious that this marriage shouldn't happen but the way and manner she called it off is wrong IMO.
@annoy 8:51 … a May-Judy all side interview., Siri please play “this ain’t what you want..” by Lil Durk.
DeleteIt will EXPOSE a lot more than what you bargained for. Trust…Aren’t surprised that none granted any explosive interview to Aunty Stella including the victim ? E shock you. They know what they are all doing.. Stop believing all these celebrities and connect the dots.
Unlike in Fancy, you see how fancy was open. It was clean and neat. You feel the authenticity.
Divorced and Married men.
Interesting much
ReplyDeleteI took my time to read everything from the beginning to the end
Wth!
😂🤣😹
I can't believe i just did that
All said and dusted,going their separate ways is the best thing to do now cos the relationship looks irredeemable at this point
All I can say is that Alex is obviously gay,Fancy is trying to cover up his sexuality.He is a user and now playing the victim card, typical of Nigerian men.I wish both of them peace.
ReplyDeleteAwele
Alex isn’t gay what I can deduce from this is Alex is bisexual ,I keep laughing when people think Alex is all that , I’m not just one to put my business out there but Alex isn’t the presumed perfect gentleman.
DeleteIt's actually as clear as the day. And that's why he went for her type. The type that doesn't care if he swings both ways in the name of open minded and understanding.
DeleteI pity the girl that's going to end up as "p" in this game of cheese.😎
I'm not supporting either of them but from recent happenings their union has now obviously become toxic. They're better apart.
ReplyDeleteFancy in her apology post stated she has learnt her lesson and will control her emotions, but almost the same thing played out again and she went exactly the same route ranting on social media. What has she learnt then.? If they had reconciled, and be doing lovey dovey again, then later they have misunderstanding she won't be able to handle it well.
What if Alex was testing her to see her reaction after the apology.
Alex sef, his friends are too involved in his personal life. I really want to know what happened that caused the first break up. Why is she scared to say it, its definitely not him being gay cos she won't return begging if that was the case. It's something else and no one knows but the two of them and maybe a few friends. I wish them well apart but definitely not together. Their love is now toxic.
So all you deduced from all what Fancy said is what if Alex was testing her? Are you serious right now . It’s one thing to read , it’s another to read and comprehend and lastly read, comprehend and then read between the lines. Next time try the third inugo
DeleteWhat stupid test ? What silly test ? Even with evidence before you , you’re playing nonsense devils advocate
DeleteRhapsody, didn't you understand what you read up there? No intimacy for the 5 years they were dating, dude was claiming celibacy but cheating with curvy ladies and still couldn't perform with them. Wanted Fancy to sponsor an over the top wedding while he spent his money buying a doctorate degree and other things to maintain his celebrity image.
DeleteAlex should have accepted her August apology, reconcile as friends with her and move on, knowing his hands are not clean in the matter, he wanted to humiliate her with more apologies and dumping, she don kukuma cast everything, now everybody can put two and two together and know what happened.
It's good she spoke up, as Alex didn't know when to stop despite the amount of dragging she faced after the apologies, he was bent on being vindictive to a lady who had come this far with him. Fancy, just move on and watch your back, this type of person can do and undo to protect image.
Rhapsody did you say his friends? They are his Agagay partners.
DeleteSo these leaked messages up there isn't enough to tell you what really made them break up???
DeleteWow! So this how you think and deduct issues?
DeleteI actually overrated you.😲
I over in support of her casting him
DeleteI am tired of men that break women and think they won’t speak up
That’s why I love tonto
Keep speaking up o
Don’t keep quite
If them show you speak up and heal
Rubbish
Push up (original)
Please work on your self esteem
DeleteRhapsody,
Delete9.52am, and a few others have responded to you. Please heed their advice. Read to understand, and in understanding, you can deduce.
Stella, I knew you were going to get around to doing this. Thank you very much. And I know you are a bit disappointed in the man but it is what it is. I hope people can see him a lot better.
From the get go, Fancy was a means to an end. But what can you tell a good and innocent person that is in love.?
She isn't home based.
She isn't as sexually exposed.
She'll get him a different passport.
Be responsible for herself, and probably their future kids.
She isn't problematic.
She was in love.
He would have married her(for PR), convinced her to keep her job and businesses abroad, he'll fly over for the photo rounds, have sex a few times to get a baby or two if he can get it up, and the Nigerian Netizens will wow wow and awwwww awwwww.
For those that can't comprehend Stella's transcript of the interview, good luck to you.
There's more, but no need. This is my first comment on them. I knew Stella will do what she knows how to do best when ready.
Well done Stella. A journalist that blogs!
Fancy did a public breakup... What was she thinking.. You sent the guy the message, he hasn't responded for some days and you went ahead to post it in the group page. A message with that much weight needs time to process. If it takes Alex a week to process and respond to her she should have waited not going public. Group or not.
DeleteA break up you did in a public way and shattered the guys ego. You now want a private reconciliation. Alex is in show business. Know the man you intend marrying and act accordingly. They're both mentally not fit to do any marriage cos they both act like children. He used her clearly and that's sad. She loves him more and couldn't see it. She should learn and move on. When your actions are fixed on hurting, damaging and ruining the other person's Image, you'll end up hurting yourself the more. That's the game they're both playing now. They should stop.
Apple of God's eyes... You were rating me? Ahhhh!! On here we all come read, learn, get one or two advice and face our lives outside. My Sister channel that rating to Stella ooo. She's put in so much work to keep this blog educative.
Anonymous' ona try. Read and assimilate it your own way. I'll do mine.
Dull rhapsody
DeleteRhapsody she sent it after he ignored her for days
DeleteRhapsody, you got it essentially right.
DeleteFancy is bitter on being played in revenge. Now, she wants to go full blast. In this revenge for revenge game, she will lose too.
Rhapsody, are you in love with Alex. Go and read again.
DeleteNawah o
ReplyDeleteSo she can't confirm his sexuality?
Hmmmm🤔
She doesn't want to talk,she didn't mind his sexuality and Loved him, sorry Fancy just move on , you'll be fine, and love will find you.
DeleteYou obviously did not read the interview or perhaps don't know how to comprehend subtext.
DeleteBe waiting for prooke to feed you through the nose.
Wonderment!
ReplyDeleteFancy, it is well with you.
It now makes sense..thanks stella for the interview
ReplyDeleteHis sexuality is not the problem here. He is mentally abusive, and verbally too. Too much ego in his chats. He cheats too, he was just a handful, he never loved this girl, maybe he wanted to marry her for papers? Because it seems the girl was more into him than he was for her. The relationship looks forced by her, and he was just laid back. He is full of ego and thinks too highly of himself. Fancy, you talk too much too. You guys have broken up, go back to US in peace, you leaked the chats and claim victim too, both of you are so incompatible in so many ways.
ReplyDeleteMaybe not for papers but for his image. She seemed reserved, carefree and seemed like she didn't mind being with him no matter what. Yes, they should both move on.
DeleteThat cheating is a real deal breaker. Wow people really have shock absorbers in them. To see this and still go ahead! I'm in awe.😲😲
DeleteIf only I can give you a hug. Alex never loved that girl,it was all a cover up. I just feel sorry for her that she had to be the victim. Alex is a great pretender, all these cool guy image stuff is misleading.
DeleteAll join!
Delete5 good years for goodness sake!
Wereeey de disguise.😏
If they had s#x in those five years, she would have still complained that he used her to satisfied himself.
DeleteNothing is left out when a woman and a man really fight after a failed romance.
FANCY!
ReplyDeleteIf you're reading this,I want you to know that you're a very smart and compassionate human.
How lucky and blessed you're to have escaped Alexx,I really envy you because you've finally been liberated.
My goodness!
love is really blind that you were willing to sponsor his extravagant wedding,just to validate himself to the public that actually gives no f^#k!
You don't need to confirm his sexuality for us,we already know!
You f#cking dodged a bullet baby girl.
She doesn't know what God has done for her yet,if I were her, I'd do a Thanksgiving.
DeleteBless your soul dear, bless your soul.🙏
DeleteSo in all these,Alex was just trying to use Fancy for financial gains, thank God the girl was wiser. Money Alex no get, but he wants a good financial image,all packaging ontop nothing and controlling and threatening the poor girl upandan. Five years of no sex in a relationship dt the man is sexually active, it's possible dt the rumors are true then
ReplyDeleteAnd cover up.
DeleteOn top manipulation laced with emotional and verbal abusive.
God abegg oo 🏃🏼♀️
It was all about his image, and changing the public perception about his sexuality. It's well with you Fancy.
DeleteSo no more asoebi for we online inlaws, it pain me sha😔
ReplyDeleteAlex! Alex!! you re such a big let down😳😳😳
Where are those leaking mouths that were insulting Fancy, Y'all opened mouth waa to insult her for calling off the wedding without putting yourselves in her shoes to try and think maybe she had a good reason for doing that. .😞 y'all need to apologise to her.
You had a PRUDENT girl with a good head on her shoulders that knows the importance of saving money instead of throwing it away all in the name of big wedding and trying to impress strangers wey nor send your papa, instead of you to dey thank God for this kind sense cause most girls of nowadays don't have such financial sense, you were acting up.
wait o, no gbenshing for 5years abi na wetin my eyes see😲😲😲
They responded based on what was out there so not drag them
DeleteNo be only you see that one oo
DeleteYou know what? When they first broke up I didn't say shit cos e no concern me. I only talked this time around because why will you break up with someone online (screaming "live your truth") and then went back to that same person apologising one yeye apology online as if you were the only one at fault (well according to this interview put online now). Why did she go back to such a person? And people can put their mouths according to whatever is put online and you people should stop this insults when we all have right to our opinions. What's the meaning of "leaking mouths and opening mouth waaa"? We can do better this year, please
Deletethey responded as if they all had a personal vendetta against her, abegi the bashing was too much.
DeleteYour sense of reasoning has always been a top notch.
DeleteI admire you a lot.🤗
Thank you my sister@Apples of God's own eyes.
Delete@Lane Minder: which one is "people can put their mouth anywhere blablabla", why don't you people put your mouth inside gutter then, when you all were insulting her you didn't think you could do better, it's under Kidjo's comment you want to come do better.
Your question as to why she went back to apologise is total bullshit, have you ever love someone genuinely? if you had then you ought to know that it's not not easy to get over someone you love genuinely even after initiating the breakup. there are days you end up yearning for that person and wanting them back in your life, forgetting the reason you broke up in the first place.
I'm a Realist and before I do anything, I try to see things from the angle of the person(Fancy) , Most folks here were sentimental and hateful towards her and that wasn't fair.😞
Thanks Stella for reaching out to her.
Well, there's always right of reply and from the message above, I understand Fancy did the right thing calling off the wedding.
ReplyDeleteBut, I will not fail to notice that she intentionally tried to embarrass him from the beginning of the break up because I don't understand why she didn't send him a personal break up message but instead chose to send it to the group with the wedding planner knowing she revealed a lot of personal details and still refused to delete it. Then proceeded to go online with the break up story as well. Maybe this is where Alex need for revenge stems from.
And also from that chat, it is obvious Alex has a huge, very huge ego problem, misplaced ego for that matter.
With the way Fancy broke up with him, she should never have sought a reconciliation, what was she expecting? Btw, did their reason for breaking up finally disappear?
And Alex, if u like, be pulling a Funke Akindele and don't share ur side of the story. She has clearly insinuated that u are most likely gay. Like I said, don't come and say ur side oh, see you, see ur reputation going down the drain!
Exactly my thoughts Eka. Why will she try to reconcile after public breakup of last year? I never would have. I would just lock up and move on no matter how much I love the person because typical human mind will be to do Tit for Tat.
DeleteBianca Bruno
Didn't you read her message to Alex which he left unanswered for days before she posted it on the group chat? I'm not supporting her embarrassing him in public but he is the one with public image yet he chose to ignore a lady he had been stringing along for 5 years, while expecting her to bankroll a wedding that will prove to the world that he is not gay.
DeleteAs she rightly said, he focuses on her reactions and not his actions that led to them. Alex didn't know when to stop, simply accepting her August apology and reconciling as friends(knowing he has no plans to marry her) would have sufficed, basking in his ego has led to this public ridicule on him. Of course, he has a right of reply, we are listening if he has anything to say.
I thought the chat above was between Fancy and Alex.
DeleteShe didn’t post that breakup message in the group chat with the wedding planner she only sent it to Alex and he ignored for 3 days.
DeleteShe then posted in the group chat with the wedding planner that the wedding was off and thanked the planner!
Eka he didnt reply tbeir break up text for 3 to 4 days till she sent it to group one with wedding planner. I agree she talks alot but this happens when you are hurting and the person hurtn u is not even keeping malice. U find urself over venting to others so u dont loose ur mind.
DeleteFirst@10:00,
DeleteOverspend, which she complained of in chat is not same as bankroll.
Second@10:00
The chats are between Fancy and Alex. But there are inserted comments by a third party.
This woman is too fickle minded for the type of marriage she wanted to enter. She should go look for a grounded save-my- salary-for-retirement/pension guy.
She said her truth, turn around to apologise, turn around again to say her truth. Wht is next ?
I don see am say this 2023 go sweet well well *wide grin*
ReplyDelete😂🤣
DeleteE go sweet mehnnn
DeleteIt is well o...
ReplyDeleteNawa oooo. Never believe anything you see on the internet
ReplyDeleteSDK's blog visitor favourite celebrity guy, what an exposition...
ReplyDeleteBuilding a Relationship that will lead to Marriage is not a Walk in the Park.
ReplyDeleteMay Fancy and Alex find the Healing they both Deserve.
This is straight up ugly. I didn’t break up with him cos of his “sexuality” that’s it right there..
ReplyDeleteOh fancy, she saw hell.
Alex, you have a lot of growing up to do. You knew you messed up and instead of cleaning up your mess in private, you decided to be stupid and all macho just to show the world you are a “perfect” being.
But why would fancy even contemplate going back to Alex after all this? I guess her self esteem has been seriously battered. For the fact he wasn’t intimate with you for years and was cheating with others was enough for you to never go back.
All these men leaving off women. After shouldering most of the wedding expenses, you’ll still shamelessly want to be “the man” shame on you Alex.
Sluttychic.
Exactly. Cheating is a deal breaker.
DeleteShe is obviously inexperienced in these relationships stuff. She still has a long way to go, she would later learn to love with her head,she is letting her emotions do the most.
Delete"cheating and still wouldn't perform with them"😩😩😩😩 it's like oga was trying to stop being *** before the wedding and tried to practise normal s*x with other women since Fancy was still based in America,so he could get use to gbenshing a woman before her arrival but he just couldn't because it's difficult to stop an old habit
DeleteAnother Sharp mind.
DeleteIntelligent people read between the lines, and listen More to unspoken words.👍
"cheating and still wouldn't perform with them" This was said as if Fancy was in the room with them or going to the "cheating partners" to ask if he performed with them.
DeleteSo how was she expecting him to perform with her. Oh, she didnt care. yet compalined about the five years non performance.
The woman is confused. The both of them are petty and vindictive.
She should focus on foreigners going foward. Otherwise, her next Nigerian man will be asked at home: "no bi dis woman wey no mind any kain of s3xuality in marriage? Abi you ...?"
How are you so sure he was cheating with women?
DeleteIts possible he just pretended to be with those women, to allay those rumours of ageygey in his fiances head.
The chats do not even look like its from 2 people engaged, it looks like it is from solder to civilian.
Was this lady desperate or what????
Thank God I don't even have a heart. Loll
Anyway, everything is as clear as day.biko before you approach anybody, do your research reach the stones in their village.
Ahnahn waawuu!!! The girl has tried Abeg, tho I don’t support that public breakup but she has tried. It isn’t meant to be and God is saving her from something worse. If they went ahead to marry, they would have broken up in no time. This marriage thing requires maturity and goodness of heart from both parties.
ReplyDeleteFancy, it’s okay. You’ve done an interview, let this be once and for all. Everything will soon pass and you will be able to move on.
He was so mean to her
ReplyDeleteI’m here for the comments and I’d go back to the previous posts , to read people’s hasty conclusions.
ReplyDeleteSo it seems Alex wasn’t attracted to her at all and just wanted to marry her for the abroad connection. That’s devious if true.
ReplyDeleteAbroad connection, family money and quench the gay rumours once and for all, yet he couldn't treat her well. Na wa oh.
DeleteGbam! @10:02
DeleteAlex wanted to pull a stunt like what Gbenro did to actress Osas but the God of Fancy didn't allow him to succeed.
To all Nigerian single ladies based abroad, pls expand your dating pool, so many Oyibos/Arabs re out there, seeking to date black women but their major problem is how to approach them. tired of seeing those gigolos using these abroad based Nigerian ladies to achieve their wicked aim
13:26
DeleteHow many of them are interested in African (Nigerian) women. How many Nigerian women want their kind of marriage.
She said it all without actually saying anything.
ReplyDeleteFor you to accept all this just to be in a relationship says a lot about your mental health. Please evaluate my sister
5 years of gaslighting will do that to the best of women.
DeleteYess I think she needs therapy. She is beautiful and accomplished but is ready to accept being treated badly
DeleteThe girl self esteem dey inside gutter, I swear.🤯
DeleteUpon say I no fine reach am my self esteem too high . Not pride but self worth.
DeleteSo sex after marriage is now a red flag. I thought that is what ladies campaign for. Is it because it is the man that is asking for it? You see why men shouldn't fall for this sex after marriage bs
ReplyDeleteSecondly, the bone of contention here seems to be that he chose to spend money on his doctorate degree instead of purchasing a hose and spending on the wedding. But after you called it off, he bagged the degree and purchased a house too. You were actually a clog in the wheel of his success. As soon as you perceived he was doing well you want to come and destroy again. Alex get sense abeg. Just go find another person life to finish. Leave Alex alone I use GOD beg you.
Doctorate degree is honourary and it's not paid for
DeleteYou didn't read that he was cheating with other people while claiming celibacy,
DeleteHow are we sure that he actually bought the house,
Alex wants to have a society wedding but he doesn't have money to sponsor it,
Fancy just forget about him and move on Biko.
At your first paragraph, it wouldn't have been if he wasn't cheating. Understood?
DeleteBia Alex's boyfriend / gay partner you are all over this comment section.
DeleteAlex PAID for the honourary degree, it cost $1500.
The house is not paid for, in fact it is rented.
Disappear from this section before I expose more about you and Alex.
9:48 you want make we open nyansh or nah cus its gonna be bloody.
DeleteFancy you need a better man, definitely not Alex.
ReplyDeleteI don't need to read what Alex will post or say.
This is more revealing and straight forward. Keep being you nwa ada Fancy.
Nwa Ada need to work on her self esteem as a matter of urgency.
Delete@Apple as in like yesterday is way too late sef, gosh 5years of utter headless ness and cover up and you still wan chook head?
DeleteI read everything with my mouth agape.
ReplyDeleteOmo!
People be trying to put up a perfect front at all times, while their insides are nothing pleasing.
Be doing like "White washed tombs" upandan.
👍👍👍
DeleteThats why when I see people rushing to tap like ekemdili the palmwine tapper I just laugh.
DeleteEwooo! Why do I have this sudden urge to pee??? Chim o! Na packaging these people dey take do food! I’ll go back and read again… ofuru fu cha kwa !!
ReplyDeleteSo chop life gang don’t really chop life?
Karen
They are not chopping any life, chop life gang with vehicles that 2 of them rented, only one gang member bought his vehicle, others na rental and borrow pose.
DeleteMost of our celebrities live fake life's. Just so much fake life's.
DeleteIfugonu!
DeleteFake life gang.😳
Anon 10.07 insider welcome
DeleteJust speechless 🙊
ReplyDeleteHmnnnnnj
ReplyDeleteLong distance relationship.
I wish them both the best.
So for 5 years, no small touches and stolen kisses here and there.
Maybe they use to shake hands as godly man wey e be.🤔
DeleteReading this post the 4th time🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!!
Na wahooo
Ihe na eme oooo
I talk am yesterday but majority of people here no understand what's going on, fancy is not completely without blame but be objective in your reasoning. Alex na scam
ReplyDeleteBig time scam. Chaii I shock sha. All this cool guy was just to deceive people. Like how do people cope living a double life. So much headache and panic in putting things in place.
Delete"If you are silent about your pain, they will kill you and say you enyoyed it"
ReplyDeleteNobody should say she should stop talking please. She will stop when she has said her parts. You people always want to silence people's pain. People are insulting her everywhere and you want her to be silent. I know Alex is a fav of many people but Fancy is also a HUMAN BEING! She is not perfect and that guy hurt her bad. It is well with you fancy. You have said your piece. Wishing you the best for the future.
Alex was deceiving so many. Fake life. Chaii 🙆
DeleteAlexx is a fave of many people? Well, maybe not cos of his acting sha. Because.
DeleteWow,I haven't commented on anything concerning this two people.
ReplyDeleteFancy please move on and stop explaining to people,I honestly feel your pain but time they say heals all pain.
Stay around those that genuinely love and care about you,you will be fine eventually.
Lesson learnt, everyone should becareful of anyone who does the opposite of what they want you to commit to in a relationship or business.
Thanks Stella for this interview,you spoke with her like a therapist.
🤗🤗🤗🤗
I always thought this Alex was jovial, happy and just normal Chill guy. Wow social media is a sharp contrast to people's life. It just gives a false representation of reality. I'm disappointed sha😢😢.
ReplyDeleteBoth of them should quietly move on,since they're now even!! I hope some of y'all can see what she wrote about how he wants his perfect image to continue? All na packaging,some of you envying these guys are far better than them
ReplyDeleteFancy directly and indirectly reveal his sexuality,so both of them should live their truth init..no intimacy for 5yrs with her but he was busy cheating upandan says alot about him! He just wants a trophy wife with her footing the bills
Poor Fancy.
ReplyDeleteAlex defrauded her mentally, emotionally and financially.
I actually thought Alex was bisexual. But no sex for 5 years rings serious alarms. Fancy this is a learning curve, say no more, take a break from internet, seek professional help and support from your loved ones.
Move on Fancy dear, you have tried.
If he was all that, why did she come back for a reconciliation! What changed?
ReplyDeleteGood question.
DeleteAmericanNaija women who have Pure Naijas family/relatives bow to the pressure of get married, have all kids with one man, endure in misery inc not my portion etc etc.
DeleteI feel so bad for her, 5 years? He OBVIOUSLY wasnt interested in her, except her money,status and kpali... as most men seems wired for sex.
What kind of question are you still asking, she genuinely loved him and was ready to give him a second chance but guy man was just planning for a revenge
DeleteThank you @10:09.
DeleteI screamed and i scromed all through! 😱 My mouth was literally on the floor while reading this. Alex sha wan use this girl as client plus U.S kpali like his colleague Gbenga abi wetin. Thank God, God saved you.
ReplyDeleteOk....pick up your mouth, dust it.
DeleteAlex has succeeded in using her to an extent, 5 whole years? She must have spent a lot of money too, what she said here is just some not all that happened.
Alex is a bad market, the image wey nothing remain inside don kuku vamoose.
Nigerian yeyebrities and packaging is like 5 n 6.
Anytime I see where they're making noise especially on social media I jump and pass, all lies. None of them is my role model like this, God forbid!
1 John 4:8 - But anyone who does not know God does not love, for God is love.
ReplyDeleteLove is a godly quality and does not dwell in an ungodly heart.
Love is not in appearance or good looks.
A heart that does not know God cannot love.
Intense feelings is not love.
'He's so cute' is not love.
lessons learnt!!
Thank you!!!
DeleteFancy, Take heart.
ReplyDeleteJust thank God he didnt sleep with you. Trust me, you would have felt ten times worse than you do now.
The guy never loved her. Pls ladies, it's better a guy loves you more than the other way round. it makes marriage last longer.if he doesn't know your worth, Pls let him go. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry fancy, God will bring a better man who will wipe away those tears of yours. 🤗
Incredible
ReplyDeleteThey should both move on please
Alex definitely has some skeleton in his cupboard, Nancy your own dey your body too.
ReplyDeleteThey're both immature in handling things, why ignore her? Reason she went open with the frustration, 5 whole years? You're celibate on her side but active on others Alexi.
Alex sees himself as a trophy to Nancy, you're valuable to her but you can live up to that financially 'red flag' Alex pride goes before a fall.
Humility is very important in our lives, pride on top packaging haba!
Alex na gigollo, he feeds off women and yes he wanted that apology to clear his name in public, he's bisexual, the fancy is so in love with him and wants him so bad, he took advantage of her desperate state and did her bad! End of story
ReplyDeleteYou've said it all, simple and straight to the point
DeleteAlex is not bisexual, he's 100% gay. He only made fancy believe he's bi because she's open minded.
DeleteSomeone who can not get his thing up for any woman but only uses them as his meal ticket because of his good looks.
That guy is crazy.
This is just too messy.
ReplyDeleteShe should have broken up with him the proper way instead of letting a few people know first and also posting it on the group before letting him know. That's not right.
There were issues which was why she called it off, why was she thinking he will change?
Alex needs to grow up. See responses na.
We know Alex from his law days in Unical, doing Sporadic awards. Alex is a hustler. I knew that this marriage was a hustler stunt to him. He is a narc and sleeps around with people who do favours for him. He uses his looks as bait for others and once you get close, he bills you. He is also a smooth talker so can put anyone in a corner with his words.
ReplyDeleteWas not surprised when I saw him acting. This is the industry that fits him. He likes the drooling and attention and being in control. He would never have to go through the rudiments of practicing law and answering to anyone in that industry. He can’t.
As for his pompous nature and trying to control women, this is typical with Igbo men. They always try to manipulate and control their women. If they cant control you, they won’t marry you. That’s why they work so hard to make money. It gives them control.
Very true about a lot of igbo men.
DeleteBut what's this deal with controlling another human being? Who taught this men these. How do you want to control another human being that has her mind, emotions and choices. Ha men need orientation seriously 😩😩😩
DeleteThat's why I cant stand igbo men for anything. Very very very power hungry and always looking for how to steal the carpet under your feet.
DeleteWell done Stella! You are the only blogger I know that attempts to hear from the people involved instead of copying and pasting like others.
ReplyDeleteShe was obviously dating herself and liked him more. He probably kept her for Yankee pali. Why did she want to get back with him though? She is too fine for this and should open her heart to better oyibo man abeg. She should stop commenting or granting any more interviews to avoid shalaye. Just go off social media for a few months.
I agree. She should just go back to America and focus on her life there. I think a white professional man would be better for her
DeleteMy love for fancy just increased..
ReplyDeleteI thought Alex was bi-sexual like his mates .
ReplyDeleteAlex nothing you say changes this. This interview was heavily ladden, it seems this lady was mostly telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteShe is even still being respectful towards Alex.
Naija girl for don show you shege privately or publicly.
Too many Nigerian men defrauding women these days.
The other women dating Alex freinds must be going thru hell.
Sdk world people don start to dey conclude.if he was all that bad,why is she still trying to get back with him,even her family wanted them back?she even sat down to construct an apology come on na.she said everything for him was about the internet but na you dey run mouth for everywhere.In my opinion, the breakfast Alex serve her pain her well well.case closed
ReplyDeleteAnd she has gotten her pound of flesh, they both fit each other
DeleteYou didn't read that all the apologies were made under duress, as in he asked her to do it?
DeleteTry dry use your sense reason.
This is serious
ReplyDeleteSee Alex the internet fine man with no drama in the mud🤣
How are we even sure that he bought that house?🤔 It might be rented or leased out to him, we have seen them do these things all the time. Rented car, rented house and they post as their own. Only God knows what they give to the real owners of these houses that makes them keep shut🤣
Now I trust some sakamanje blogs to go and dig deep to know if he truly owns the house and cars🤣
Exactly my thoughts, even the Doctorate degree might be a sham too
DeleteHis sugar daddies can afford to give him the houses. Have you seen how Alex followed the rich guys like a lady. S(he) even rides on the madam side of a car
DeleteAnon 11.11 tor 🤣🤣
DeleteWhere is the "madam side of a car"? Some of us are here to learn.
Delete11:11🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteDid he force you to apologise? If doing the public apology doesn't sit well with you,why do it? You are an adult,you shouldn't be forced to do what you know that you do not want to do.
ReplyDeleteYou guys broke up,you don't need to come online to explain why you guys broke up,you can break up respectfully and go your separate ways quietly.
Whaaaaat? Five years of dating,that's a long time.
This Fancy talks tooo much ,chai. You sent a breakup text to him and he didn't reply so you had to forward it to your own friends, that was soo childish,too many people involved in this their relationship
Sorry oh,both of una still need a lot of growing up to do .
This kain matter sef tire me
What is the talking too much there now? That she granted interview is now classified as talking too much? You want her to keep calm in this height of mental and emotional abuse? You sent your FIANCE a message and he ignored for days and you would keep cool? Someone you are about to spend a lifetime with? Are you serious that you see all these as over reaction on her part? What would the likes of Tonto do in this case and how would you mainland girl react in this case. Let's know?
DeleteDon't worry when you experience a thing like this let's see how you will handle it
This here is an insight as to how most celebrity marriages crash quickly , if they had married the marriage would have packed up under a year.
ReplyDeleteSilly man-child, that Alex. Wicked, vindictive, lazy, and greedy.
ReplyDeleteThis one don hook you for throat. Mtchewww
Omo, Fancy, you swallowed so much shit just to be married to a celebrity. I don't want to talk about Alex because I knew that he's not all that.
ReplyDeleteWhat were you thinking? You want to enter hellfire in the name of marriage?
Chukwu ajuu!!😱
Na fine face she wan chop.
DeleteE remain Judy. Stella pls interview Judy.
Lmao.....women and their manipulation.
ReplyDeleteYou broke a wedding despite having issues with bobo. You broke wedding and told everyone before you even agreed with the guy. Yet...you want him to take it standing.
Alex is a public figure. His income depends on his image. And people on this blog are bashing him for wanting a specific wedding in a specific method.
Didn't many women want this? When women want a fairy tale wedding...it's alright. But when a guy want it...it's suddenly not okay?
You stylishly made it look like you are paying for all the wedding when in actual sense...it's the hotel that you didn't want to pay for.
Shey Na only hotel dey do wedding?
There are a lot of expenses in the wedding...and nowhere in your chat does it say you are carrying it all. Alex also will be carrying expenses too.
Did you all see where she tried to make him drop his msc simply because of her? Smh. Like really? Even if the guy is doing his msc for ego...how is that your business? Don't women do msc so they can come online to brag that they are high achieving and they are independent? Suddenly Alex did it and it's not okay.
Let's all be objective. Alex said...forget about me if you share this with Mrs Toyin.
Alex said that because his source of income is threatened. Once you share negative news about a celebrity...they lose sponsorship...they lose acting contracts etc. I mean...who wouldn't be mad for that?
Make Una dey reason am too.
You call him manipulative...but none of what is in that chat is manipulative. Dude is angry...and rightfully so.
But trust women...they will be emotional. They only care about themselves and their feelings and not the guy.
She even started making it look like he is the one that wants them back. We know it's a lie!
As for celibacy....since when did celibacy leads to gayism?
But it's okay, this is a lesson to all men. If a woman start forming these behaviours...dump them. Don't let them control the narrative. A word is enough for the wise.
And yes...I don't care what all the feminist on this blog post as responses. I said Wht I said.
Alexx PA welcome
DeleteAnd she has woken up and moved on. He can go find the next funder of his life and live his truth in peace.
DeleteThink before you comment. I said think again. Your role models aka celebrities live and lead fake lives. I pity people who compare themselves. Double life everywhere 🤦🤦🤦.
DeletePoints well made.
DeleteIt is not M.Sc, but Honorary Doctorate. Fact is conferment of honorary doctorate especially by an out of Nigeria university cost money. That is why even in Nigeria, it is usually the wealthy who are conferred with it. Most pay or show gratitude for it by endowments or buildings or donations of cash/facilities.
She says "overspend" and preferred buying a home. Some of us now interpret that to mean fully funding the wedding.
And the no s3x for fiiiiiiive years. Why the shout about this? Men should learn from this that consenual s3x in a romantic relationship is not a favour to the man. But tomorrow, when a man breaks up with a woman she would still complain about the s3x between them and shout he used her as if the man took one of her lungs away.
This woman sounds like that Amber .... (or wetin be her name again) who was married to the actor.
You probably don't live abroad. In the USA, the hotel which I'm suspecting is the reception venue IS the MAJORITY of the wedding expenses which can be huge depending on the status of the hotel and number of guests.
DeleteMajority of the venue places will not let you bring your own food where you may have a cheaper option, and definitely not with the hotels. They take care of all that, expensively.
Some weddings I attended in the late 1990s and early 2000s, the venues in our zone charged anywhere from $60 to $150 per head, this is 20 years ago o. In 2006, the quotes I received from wedding venues ranges between $10,000 and $17,000 for a wedding reception for 100 guests, pere. On top of that, you had to use a caterer from their list even for the cake. Only one agreed I can have a caterer vetted by them who will provide the cake, however,, the venue still charged for the cost of their cake whether to take it or not, no discount. Chai, after reviewing eh, none would make a fruitcake like we do. I vex eh. Wedding no easy here, if you insist on lavish one with plenty people, be prepared to pay for it and not harassing, guilting, or blackmailing your partner into what they don't ascribe to.
I began to understand why in weddings here, the invitations used to say "NO CHILDREN PLEASE" Because if papa, mama and 4 kids attend, that is like minimum $360 for them you are paying on their head, na how much gift them go give the couple? So most naija weddings na usually just the kids in the bridal train go dey there.
So, unless you know their actual expenses, don't trivialize her own. Moreover, they did not agree on the nature of the wedding. He obviously wanted a very lavish ceremony which is not a problem unless you demand that someone else foot the bill. He should have paid for the wedding to be as lavish as he desired. Infact, aside everything else, this alone could have been a deal breaker for some people.
Were they planning to do the wedding ceremonies in the USA?
DeleteGod forbid
ReplyDeleteStellz, nice to see you still doing field work.
ReplyDeleteWell, this Fancy loved the wrong man. All that love she wanted to pour into someone she poured into someone who was incapable of pouring into her. Obviously, Alexx is only in love with Alexx. She dodged a lifetime of pain. He only brought celebrity, but had no intention of them building a legacy together. And while I fully support celibacy, me being celibate myself, how can any warm blooded man hold off a beauty like Fancy for five whole years? When she actually wants to be with him in some form of intimacy, it doesn't need to be penetrative, five whole years that young woman was going to the river to fetch water with a straw basket. Mtssccchw
Tchaii, this girl has seen and endured too much. Girl if you ever read this, here's plenty of hugs from me to you. Move on sis, you deserve better.
ReplyDeleteAnnonymous 10:59
ReplyDeleteSay what? You are clearly Alex
Alex not being intimate with Fancy for 5yrs has deeper meaning ! He is not a daddy GO.
And no employed human being will write this long epistle in the name of supporting Alex. Alex you are no saint!
Pure definition of a narcissist.
ReplyDeleteStella, well done.
ReplyDeleteThe interview at least closed the marriage between this two. It confirms what the woman said first time is her truth. It teaches that the social media and writing of any form is not the best way to end a romantic relationship.
The old advice is still true. Write all you want to say down. Go and sleep. When you wake up, tear it up and burn. Find a way to tell the person face to face in few well rehearsed words and no more.
If you choose to write or send what was written before you slept, chest up and stand by every dot of it.
The damage control is good. But it would have been better if she stood on all she wrote first time. Now, she may have cleared one doubt or more doubts by replacing it with another doubt. This time, only one doubt about herself.
Mr. Mann
From what came out in the public — you can tell this Alexx is so vain about his image, he makes it a point to keep his image squeaky clean in public commenting nothing but hosting hate in his heart!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy ex looooveeeed his image oooooo looooveeeed it! He would even block me to post shirtless pics and all (don’t know why)… see ehn this man is living like it’s tv or on social media off vibes! Them kind that won’t work on themselves but have a great public image. I feel this viral pain sha oooo hmmmm I had similar issues and have faced few narcissists — imagine him not talking to you except it benefits him , like your opinion don’t matter, if you’re hurt, giving birth it in pain the person won’t come oooo, it’s when their image can be amplified positively they’ll show up and real life doesn’t work like that, this girl must’ve been lonley, Omo this man over love himself!!!!!
I have seen women will be their own undoing.
ReplyDeleteShe insinuated clearly in this interview that there are questions over his sexuality (‘His s#xuality is not the reason I broke up with him. I’m very open minded so regardless of what he prefers, love is love for me. I loved him for his personality and heart nothing more. He didn’t want to be with me intimately which was confusing and difficult for me to understand especially for 5 years so it did affect my self esteem as I kept myself for him and when he would cheat with curvy women he wouldn’t perform with them either so I don’t know, I can’t confirm or deny his s#xuality but for me, I loved him despite all’)
Yet she still wanted the marriage! You see red flags but still want to wed this man?
I am happy you had the courage to back off the first time. Sad you allowed yourself get arm twisted into an apology, and I am happy he has not accepted a reconciliation. You will be better with a more mature man. Biological maturity is not the only requirement for a successful marriage.
Leave Alex and move on. You lost nothing.
Mystic
Well, in my honest opinion, I believe that Alex is gay and Fancy was so in love with him that she was willing to marry a gay man and settle for a platonic relationship. I personally know of a situation similar to this and the woman in question used the same words as Fancy re falling in love “with his personality”. The woman hoped that the man will remain faithful in the relationship whether he was into men or women. Alex, on the other hand, saw Fancy as a cash cow and a beard to protect his public image. I think what Fancy and her loved ones had a problem with was Alex’s arrogance and God complex - he is really a narcissistic fool. The tone of his messages is really shocking. They’ll all be fine in the end. The personal situation I know of ended with the gay man falling in love with another man and then dumping the woman despite her remaining in the marriage and giving up everything for him. It rarely ends well with women who knowingly marry or remain with gay men. Move on; especially while you are still young.
ReplyDeleteI agree completely with your first sentence.
DeleteIt also shows that as beautiful as she is, she's got self-esteem and confidence issues. Chai!
Or it was a planned PR from beginning. But Alex didn't keep his end of the deal
DeleteShe knew he was AGAGA. She was his beard. She need to grow her online business. The breakup didn't do it. This scandal would. She is causing scandal and indirectly clearing Alex's name. She needs her family members to get off her back too.
Because if this is not PR stunt then the sign was too obvious. Alex played her and used her as a beard without her knowledge.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
But some women are strong ooo, hey God please give me strength.
ReplyDeleteShe say 5 YEARS.
My boyfriend has refused to touch me, our relationship is just 3 months.
It is like he want to use sexy to make me faint, but don't worry I know what to do.
I have decided to seduce him this weekend, because I cannot faint on top of getting to know each other.
Anyway sha, let me continue reading.
Not everyone is a sex freak
DeleteI dont know their situation but by right people shouldn't be having sex before marriage. We are called to exercise self control, which is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. I know many virgin or celibate christians, both men and women. It's difficult but possible- starting with what you fill your mind with. And God provides grace for that.
DeleteSomething is wrong somewhere.
DeleteThe whole relationship is a PR stunt. I could be wrong but it seems like.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Hmmmm I don't know, I just discuss this topic with my oyibo colleague. Fancy what have you been doing for 5 whole years, is it possible for someone to be this naïve in todays world?
DeleteUnless you were also been serviced elsewhere.
Aunty are you also bisexual and into girls?
Hmmmmm let's hear from Alexx too,..drama plenty
ReplyDeleteit's well.
ReplyDeleteGirl dogged a bullet. Go and thank your God Fancy. Hmm
ReplyDeleteFrom the leaked messages, you endured a lot. So much disrespect and arrogance.
Fake life and shit.
After reading to Fancy's right of reply, I am more worried than before.
ReplyDeleteSomething is missing.
He tried to ruin your reputation yet he didn't sleep with you for five years. He didn't publicly break up with you. He didn't release the first apology nor the second statement. You called off the engagement yourself.
What is going on?
Did both you and Alex plan this? To what end?
Fake that you are dating, fake a proposal, fake a breakup, then fake a scandal. It seems he didn't keep to his end of the bargain. Both of you were never going to marry, right.
You knew the rumour and went ahead. Why? He also proved it by not touching you. But you still went ahead. You lived miles away still you went ahead. You mentioned he was cheating with curvy girls to dispel the rumour.
What is going on Fancy?
KING XOXO MYSTERY