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DEEPLY HURT AND NEED ADVICE
STELLA AND SDK FRIENDS OOOOO. I was hoping to do Friday Night gisting in the usual post when the info I heard was too heavy for me ...
STELLA AND SDK FRIENDS OOOOO. I was hoping to do Friday Night gisting in the usual post when the info I heard was too heavy for me ...
As if that’s not enough Sunday I con enter anoda Wahala. People ewooooo! I heard gist that the man of God I’ve so faithfully followed has had head at choir as his mistress since 5 years ago — before you yab me, this man always points us to God and the Bible so my relationship with Christ had been personal and I’ve experienced several blessings and miracles.
Friends I no know what to kukuma do! As in the story plenty! Apparently she got pregnant once and aborted and also his wife was dating her female bestie, worse of their marriage is such a fb show off marriage that if I even told any other member this they would faint!
On Sunday the worst happened to me please I need comfort no yab me!
I found out hubby had gone to see his ex to help out with her relocation papers! I also found his messages with his close friend where dey joked about Women’s butts and all ,he said all is just man banter etc.
I’m not the type to carry man matter for head ooo I’ve never over loved and made sure to marry someone who loves me more than I love him so I reacted but said that there’s no point making drama when I know how it will end I go still details here but not cause of you just cause I don’t believe in D word.
So I stayed in the room and have been cooking as usual and minding my business should I act drama and punish him?
Worse off how do I get over all this including Pastor own, I wanna leave the church honestly but God hasn’t yet spoken on me moving— HELP I AM HURT. I know it says anonymous but you cannot call me Jen.
Hmmmm two Chronicles in one!
There is no proof of your man cheating, or is he not supposed to be friendly with his ex? Please let that matter go and don't use it to build negative energy in your home please.
As for leaving the Church, if theres so much drama there then it is no longer Church but a movie location, please change venue of worship or stay at home and praise God!
Yeah sounds like they re just talking about her
ReplyDeleteNo need to think he’s sleeping wit the lady
If he can help her relocate, why not
The problem that is not your personal issue worries you more than your own?
DeleteIf the message your pastor has been giving has been leading you towards Christ and has given you a better understanding of the Word, my dear, focus on that and leave the messenger even if you do not remain in the church.
Speak to your husband about being transparent, even if he wanted to help his ex, why not inform you?
Push up (original)
How did y’all even understand what she was typed..
DeleteI almost had migraines..
Tf??
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Well, a man is allowed to be friends with his ex too. He can also help his ex out if she needs it, and vice versa, ABI no be so Una talk am? 😄😄😄😄 He can even fund her trip abroad too😆😆😆 sorry ma'am. ABI won't you ask your ex for help if you need it? Abeg o. I'm just saying based on algorithm 😆😆
ReplyDelete🤣 @algorithm
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLol..
DeleteUncommon babe..
You're a sweetheart.
God when nah ,.🤦
🤪🤪🤪,savage BB
Delete😂😂😂😂😂 this BB ehn....
DeleteThese men are also human and they are bound to temptations but for him to indulge in it for that long is really bad,am glad he has groomed you up for you to have a really close relationship wit God, continue knowing God for yourself and don't let this news shake your faith,after all you have testified of God's goodness in your life under the mentorship of this man,when it's time to leave,please do.
ReplyDeletePoster, if your mind is no longer in the church, just leave.
ReplyDeleteAs for your hubby, just open your eyes well and be certain of what is going on before confronting your hubby.
Since you don't have evidence of him cheating, don't make too much trouble. Just let him know you don't like the idea of him getting close to his ex because of okafor's law. Ask him if he will feel good if the reverse was the case. This is if you hate cheating like I do
ReplyDeletePoster change church if you are sure you pastor did that.
ReplyDeleteAs for your DH you haven't caught him red handed, so just make him know you are not comfortable with his friendship with his ex. Don't create drama, just caution and move on.
Dear poster, the supposed man of God pointed you to God and you have a relationship with the Lord. Are you following man? Man of God to is human not to excuse his sin. Keep your eyes on the Lord. If you feel like leaving its fine. But keep your eyes on Jesus.
ReplyDeletePls abeg oh. Stella I don’t agree with u on this matter especially if s3x was involved. They cannot be friends Periodt.
ReplyDeleteLet bygones be bygones. Or else Okafor’s law will take place
My dear, put your foot down on that ex matter or else water go pass garri
Zendaya
Going abroad can be a once a lifetime opportunity
DeleteLet him help her
🤣🤣🤣@movie location. Stella, that your statement just made me lol.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure what spoken word you are waiting for from God, when you have his Spirit within you, convicting you (which is why your heart is not at peace with what happened) and you have the Bible which is clear about adultery and admonishes overseers and pastors to be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled (1 Tim 3:2) and states that teachers will be judged more strictly (James 3:1).
ReplyDeleteA similar situation happened to me then, pastor impregnated leader and divorced his wife for her. His members supported him as no one was perfect, but I was very uncomfortable in my heart and knew that I couldn't be sat under that "anointing" and I couldn't be preached to or encouraged in my walk with God by such a person, so I bounced. I was hurt and felt betrayed, I prayed about my feelings and honestly it was a lesson to me to remember that human beings are fallible and fix my gaze on Christ alone, and avoid carrying these people on my head, talking about "They can do no wrong in my eyes."
Now I look at the fruits and refused to be drawn by sweet words and shows of revivals, but rather ensure that the leader is living according to the Bible, from the messages preached to the actions upheld by him/her.
Thanks and God bless you Mystique. You saved me from typing.
DeleteFor your 2nd chronicle poster, like Stella said, don't create negative energy in your home without real proof. You gotta be wise and put your ear to the ground to know EXACTLY what is going on and plan your next steps. Assumption can be the biggest fuck up. They could just be helping themselves based on familiarity. It happens. Sha be vigilant and prayerful.
As for me, the toxicity of soshu media, the negativity, is really getting to me these days. I am seriously considering a fast from it. I need a break. *Sighs*
Couldn't be *seated* under...
DeletePls don't act any drama for your hubby.just let him be.men hate women who nag,this will push him into the arms of another woman.
ReplyDeleteAs for the church,if u don't feel comfortable,then you should worship elsewhere.what's important,is your fellowship and love of christ.
Like seriously????? She nags, he’s in someone’s arms. She doesn’t nag he also is already in someone’s arms. O di egwu!
DeleteYour mentality is warped @Ross
DeleteYou enable rubbish and later come here to post Chronicle after they serve you breakfast
The probability of your husband getting down with his ex is 50-50.
ReplyDeleteSure,anybody comfortable with their partner remaining friends with his ex should go on,my hubby is not permitted to be friends with his ex,as I'm not friends with my ex and don't intend to.
DeleteRegarding the church issue, please pray about it.
ReplyDeleteYour prayer point should be about how you feel.
You will be guided by God.
About your husband.
Talk to him decently about your findings and how you feel about it.
The funny thing about men of God is that they may do all those things and still have a successful ministry (See Moses, married a woman God said they shouldn't marry from their tribe and actually sent his wife, Zipporah packing at some point). Since, I realized this, I'm very selfish about my Christian race, any church or gathering that stresses me, I leave at one before they bring confusion into my life.
ReplyDeletePoster, if the church is making you uneasy, find your square root, look for another ministry, in the time being, there are lots of gospel messages online. As for your husband, investigate further and talk to him, not with quarrel but with love, it's not wise to communicate regularly with an ex to avoid temptation.
Abeg read the Bible properly. Moses never sent his wife packing. He even had a good relationship with his non-israelite father in law such that the man's descendants had a good relationshipwith the israelites. Also, at the time he married his wife, there was no rule against marrying a non-israelite, and even at that, non-israelite women who turned to God like Rahab and Ruth who were from Jericho and Moab respectively were accepted and are even ancestresses of Jesus.
DeletePoster your husband may be planning to relocate with his ex. Do your findings before slippers wear you.
ReplyDeleteLet him help her
DeleteTomorrow she can help them
Wouldn't Poster be better of if that be the case?
DeleteHow can she be better off when the husband abandons her in Nigeria and relocates with his ex? He will go and settle down with his ex and live together happily ever after, leaving the poster stranded here.
DeletePoster do your findings, you are woman, you know what I'm saying.
Nobody is perfect and ppl are invariably flawed, that means Christians too. Building our spiritual perfection in 70-90 yrs of life is extremely hard. This is why ppl lived for hundreds of years in old history. Now we get 70 years and now many ppl die in their 50s and 60s, how can anyone build spiritual perfection in that short period of time? Not even those who become nuns and monks who claim to devote their entire lives to spiritual perfection make it, look at the state of the Catholic church. The only ppl who may stand a good chance are the ones who completely remove themselves from the society and have limited contact with it. The vast majority of church and mosque ppl will not be counted as wholesome by God.
ReplyDeleteMen will always be visual creatures. Husbands or wives do not suddenly go blind because they have married. They will still see the attractiveness of others. There is no sin in observing or stating that someone is attractive. Sin comes through lusting and having physical intimate contact with someone other than your spouse.
Poster why do we humans believe that pastors are the second God, they are humans like you and l. They could do things we do cos blood flows in their vain, we all have same grace like the pastors. You should pray for your pastor that going about gossipping him, ask God to speak to you to either leave the church or remain there.
ReplyDeleteYou give pastors too many credits the reason why you get disappointed each time you hear about pastors. Learn to know God on a personal ground, do not believe God cos of a pastor. Have a personal relationship with God on your own and see.
Your husband may not be cheating , you want to set your home on fire cos you saw a chat.
While it is true that pastors are human, the lack of consequences common after news of such misbehavior filters out is concerning. If sexual misbehavior is frowned upon by worldly institutions, how much more the church? Many found churches in the US but the government oversight due to their tax exempt status allows their boards to operate independently and ask founders to step down to preserve the integrity of the system. That is not the case in the Nigerian church and it needs to be.
ReplyDeleteThe pastor is involved in adultery with a woman while his wife is involved in adultery with another woman, her bestie? I heard about transfer of spirits so if you remain in a ministry headed by two adulterous folks you may just be empowering the enemy to deal with your home in that area. Could there be a reason for God allowing you to know this since it’s not known by most in the church? I wouldn’t want to be in that church. I remember listening to a Joel Osteen joke where he said, to paraphrase “God left some church gatherings a long time ago”. There are many that still go through the motions without the Spirit of God being present. “God is a Spirit and those that worship him must worship him in Spirit and in truth”.
As to your hubby going to help his ex with her relocation papers, I don’t know the dynamics of your relationship. While I agree it’s not good to nag, the optics of my husband going to help his ex fill any form in her place is a red flag for me. Do you guys find it easy to talk about difficult topics? It would be nice to know how much interactions he has with his ex on a regular basis while praying that she relocates and settles with her own person. May God grant you wisdom in Jesus Name.