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BITTER
I'm so bitter.. I can't even pray, how do I handle this, we've been married for 7years and he has never done something like this?
I just wanted to check something on his phone when I saw a particular number he calls constantly, read their massages and realized hubby has Been talking with her for months..
He apologize and said nothing has happened between them but I'm broken, how do I face him? he says it's temptation, we just have a child and I lost a pregnancy in September to ectopic..
Stella it happens
ReplyDeleteYou’re with the phone a message pops up that gets your attention and you go look at more.
Read the post again.
DeleteThis is Not snooping at all, I am not have such experience before, I was having network issues and my husband gave me is phone and a message pop up, he had an affair when he was a for 2 months for job in the north.
Delete16:37 there’s nothing missed
DeleteIt’s the reason I’ve changed notification on my phone so it doesn’t pop up on the screen
If you give some one your phone and a message pops, they’ll surely read it without even thinking
Later he will lie that he was seduced. Men ehn!
ReplyDeleteEven if she went to snoop
DeleteWhat stupid temptation?
Would he take it if he said the same thing?
Wo, merry Christmas dearies
To my dear poster, talk in through and let him understand how hurt you are
Push up (original)
Exactly,push up,they keep dishing what,they cannot take,mtshew.
Delete15:04,
DeleteNot men, ehn. It is some people, ehn.
Me and my partner slept about 4am+ this morning because of a similar matter.
After stout denials I used the phone record to prove who the most frequently called/received calling number is.
My partner had cavalierly told me that the caller wanted friendship, but my partner indicated no interest in such request.
Why is the number now being frequently called? Why are all calls from it answered behind closed doors? We are just gisting.
What do you want to talk about so early (4 calls @ 7am) in the morning with the person called when you have not gone to check if your partner who works at home is alive or dead or at work in the other room? No answer.
Did you tell this person you are married? Yes, the person only asked for my friendship. The calls are pleas for that friendship.
You guessed right. I a man.
And my partner and I are married with a child.
This is the second incident. The first caller used to call only after midnight. A married woman doing midnight calls with a man. Yesterday, she claimed she had not met the first caller face to face. Yet she laid on her matrimonial bed to chat for tens of minutes with him after midnight.
Despite the popular narrative here, men see things too in marriage.
Thank you o Push up. Dear Poster, please take your time to go through the emotions, you will be fine eventually.
DeleteAt least you now know who you are dealing with, we are all mere mortals.
So sorry 18:07, I dont why people can't just be faithful and establish boundaries. Poster also so sorry, I can imagine how you feel.
DeleteDo what you want because of seeing text with another woman does marry means you owned him ,you will soon get HBp leave snooping you won't listen continue he will soon do it again
ReplyDeleteReally? 🙄🙄
DeleteAbeg today is Christmas. No just let me talk wetin dey my mind now.
How long will you remain bitter? He has been doing it, but you only just found out. There is nothing you can do apart from talking and crying. Two options: stay or go.
ReplyDeleteHe will up his game and you won't find out, ever, except by chance.
You need to see the way I was waiting to see your slogan 'you've two options; stay or go'
DeleteFelicity
Na so Judy take start to the diaturb Yul, madam wake up.
DeleteU wanted to check something abi u snoop? Aunty, no confuse us jare.
ReplyDeleteForgive him n re-ignite ur love
You snooped big time and got the shock of your life.
ReplyDeleteYou should have activated your shock absorber na
Poster I know exactly how you feel. This was me four years ago on Christmas Day. My head was spinning, my husband kept apologizing. I thought I was going to pass out because I couldn’t believe my eyes.
ReplyDeleteDo I have a remedy for you? I don’t. But all I can tell you is what made it easier for me. I FOCUSED on myself for my mental health. Made sure my self care was on point. My marriage was VERY rocky months after that because any time hubby was leaving the house, I hated him and thought he’s going to meet her. 1 year after that incident, my marriage was still struggling. Best decision I made was to Japa out of Naija with my family. My husband then became a changed man. No more social media, talking to girls etc. his focus now is making money and giving me and the kids a comfortable life. That Nigeria did my marriage a disservice! Find a way to japa from that country, if he is truly a good man, he’ll drop all these on his own.
No be everybody getoney to japa nau
DeleteIs it that ppl don’t know that cheating breaks their husbands and wives? Why will u intentionally do something that you know will hurt ur partner? Why?
ReplyDeleteGreed or selfishness and lack of self discipline or self control. Some are attracted to things that are forbidden and against convention. Some feel it is their right to play around, some feel they are smart and enjoy cheating others, some have no values or standards and prefer to remain that way. Others do not love their spouses and simply don't care about what they do against them, they are with their spouses for a purpose and minus that purpose they could easily ditch their relationship. And the list goes on............
Deleteexactly oo,
DeleteWhy are people acting like her reaction is abnormal? Poster, you have every right to be this way but don't stay there. Pray and ask God to help you to forgive him because you need to let go of this hurt before it affects your health.
ReplyDeleteYou need to do this for yourself and definitely for your marriage. It will take time, but it will get better.
Madam forgive your husband and move on jor, men are polygamous in nature una nodey hear, we nodey chop one food for so long.
ReplyDeleteDiseases, demons and prostitution no dey tire una?
DeleteYoung people have so much expectations from their spouses. It is good o but buy a shock absorber that is commensurate with your expectations! Just tell yourself you're married to a dinner because the saints have gone home. Madam, forgive and condition your mind. Shun bitterness and resentment, so you don't hurt yourself. There are men who are faithful though but they are in the minority.
ReplyDeleteThis!! I am still struggling with my own discoveries but mine is feeling me with rage,pain and anger each passing day because;
ReplyDeleteHe is not even remorseful.
He is still gloating (on social media) throwing shades that he is a good man lost by a careless woman.
He hasn't even made an effort to work on his marriage( we are separated currently for almost a year now)
He is still cheating. As he sis staying alone now,his body language says it all.
He gave his family room to devalue me. They make it seem that it's my luck to be married,so if I insist on walking na me lose pass.
Infact all these and more strengthened my resolve to take a walk. I cannot fight for a marriage the man is not ready to fight for too and be committed to. I gave myself willingly down to my lowest because I thought I married a man who I loved and loved me too(u don't want to know the shit I put up with for those years) imagine being married and wishing for days u were a spinster. I have resolved to take a walk,I have my children and i have been blessed with a good job with prospects,I am starting afresh and putting me and my children first. So poster,be realistic and up your guard. He May not stop,juts get ready for that and let it help u plan. I still want to vent to a therapist because I am still bitter.
Your rage is because your attention is still there
DeleteWhenever him and family matter come up , laugh loudly at how dysfunctional they truly are
@16:42. Dont let the rage destroy your health. Good thing you have a good job, take care of yourself. There are good men that will appreciate you...yes, you, with your choldren. Dont let a dysfunctional family make you feel less of yourself.
DeleteYour heart still hurts and cares about him, his opinion and that of his family that’s why. You can’t force people to change, only the Holy Spirit or if they make up their minds to change. Continue to Chanel your energy on you and the kids. Join a gym, meet new people, make new friends, join social events that includes men and women so it balances out. Deep down you still want your marriage but does he? Even after all your efforts, he doesn’t give a damn. So why continue to use up your energy and emotions on a man who’s not making efforts equally. That shd you help you continue to stay stronger when these thoughts come up. Also completely avoid his posts on social media to help you heal. See a professional therapist if it’ll help
DeleteYour healing process much faster. Marriage takes two! I’m also struggling with mine. The moment I stopped making effort, the passion don go. His fragile male ego won’t feel the need to make effort because he’s gotten used to the love affection and attention. He’s too too laid back. He complains I changed but yet no effort on his part.I don’t know if a woman is getting his attention because I’ve caught him talking about pussy with a female when we first got married. Im also drained at this point and I’m also focusing on myself and it’s been helping greatly me so far. Unlike you, we live together. I’m not financially capable to stay on my own. So do what’s best for you sis. Goodluck.
Another marriage about to go down the drain? can couples just face their significant other and leave the devil alone. Poster, since he's remorseful pls forgive. You two should maybe go see a therapist, marriage counselor and work on making it work. What pen*s and tot* can do surly exist.
ReplyDeletePray for him,he has weakness in which he has disclose to you and also apologize.pls forgive him and I hope he doesn't continue.
ReplyDeleteIt is not a weakness. People should stop terming it as weakness. It is a sexually compulsive behaviour that takes 2years to control. Cheating Is a sign that a person lacks control over his sexual urges. It needs to be addressed urgently and seriously. But no the me don't admit that they have a problem. They just seeing as a bad habit.
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