Hmmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE....ANOTHER WASTED YEAR
I am confused....
Another year has come to an end and this guy hasn’t asked me to marry him.... I will have to start withdrawing my emotions, feelings, attention, time.
I have wasted two years plus with him and nothing reasonable coming out. I have asked him the way forward but his reaction didn’t show he wants to settle down soon. Its possible I am not the woman he wants to marry but he is wasting my time.
2023 I move cause i don't have no time to waste anymore.
*If you have asked him and his response was not encouraging, then please move on quickly before you wake up to see his invitation card to marry someone else....A woman always knows if her man will marry her or not... There are signs but some of us deceive ourselves.
Move on!
Huh
ReplyDeleteWhy are you in a hurry?
Wetin dey occur?
Are you under intense pressure?
Look before you leap sha
It's fine if you want to move on o
After 2 years???? are you kidding me?? She has every right to be in a hurry and leave the damn. Relationship! E no dey go anywhere. Time to withdraw emotions kia kia, take time to heal, work on yourself and move on to the next amazing guy!
Delete18:55, this one above us is still a small boy na, fresh out of NYSC. He has plenty time on his hands so he won't understand.
DeleteStory. That dick game that kept you glued even when his actions showed you otherwise, will still glue you.
ReplyDeleteGbam. Na the 🍆. Which kind yeye emotions. Mtscheww
DeleteAsk him. It's likely marriage is not in his books.
ReplyDeleteAfter dating time wasters for years my husband only took 6months to propose.
Find out where he is in his calendar.
Exactly ask and be sure I wasted 5years with one guy because of love. I was obviously delusional. What a ducking bastard. Anthony where ever you are may you never have peace of mind. May you never find happiness and may the most important things in your life be dragged and wasted as you did me. If you ever have daughters then I pray thesame you did to me is fine to them. If you don’t then I wish thesame exactly thing you did to me be meted out on your sister. The pain ,disappointment,shame, insecurity and confusion and insults from my family still hurts. You cause a psychological scar a trauma and for that may you never find peace and happiness in any area of your life… my prayer always
DeleteExactly ask and be sure I wasted 5years with one guy because of love. I was obviously delusional. What a ducking bastard. Anthony where ever you are may you never have peace of mind. May you never find happiness and may the most important things in your life be dragged and wasted as you did me. If you ever have daughters then I pray thesame you did to me is fine to them. If you don’t then I wish thesame exactly thing you did to me be meted out on your sister. The pain ,disappointment,shame, insecurity and confusion and insults from my family still hurts. You cause a psychological scar a trauma and for that may you never find peace and happiness in any area of your life… my prayer always
DeleteYes o he’s not ready. A man always knows when he’s ready that’s why they readily accept arrange marriage. Trust me he’s just using you and enjoying while he dormers this ga out for the next woman. Anthony wherever you are my prayers for you is that as you wanted my time and caused me psychological trauma, shame, embarrassment and insult from my family. May things in your life never go well, if you have a daughter o pray with the tears I shed and the confusion your brought my life that thesame will happen to her. If you have a sister, I pray thesame thing you did to me will be meted out on her. My spirit has been hurt and disturbed. May you never find peace and happiness and may the spirit of confusion delay and insecurity abound and cover your life. For what you did to me, may you know no joy. ATA
DeleteThat’s how you people rush into marriage.If you think two years is too long to date someone pls go and look for the one that will marry you after 6months o.You think marriage is a joke that you can rush yourself or even your partner into?for some people 2 months is enough and for others it’s 5 years.so pick your poison
ReplyDelete2 years is long Abeg
DeleteIt’s too long for him not to know if he wants to marry her
It’s long if you are both of marriageable age, have your careers at it’s peak, have been together and probably spent days together.
DeleteA man who is responsible but doesn’t chose to wife you is only waiting to meet his actual wife, because an intelligent man already knows who he wants around him even after just two weeks.
My dear, have a conversation with him and be open minded, let him know you’d be okay whatever his decisions are and if he still acting aloof please withdraw emotions
Push up (original)
Everything you wrote is lies. 2 years is enough to know that you can spend you life with someone because at this point, you have known the person’s basic character, it’s in exceptional cases that new character comes after that. At the two year mark, he should be getting ready to propose marriage if he hasn’t already, she shouldn’t be the one begging to know his mind.
DeleteAt a certain age, people don’t even have the luxury of waiting two years
2 years is long enough to declare your intentions abeg. Even if you are not ready per se, the party should be fully clear that you have chosen him or her and there should be clear plans with timeline in sight.
DeletePoster this man is not your husband, waka fast fast.
Why do women like to deceive themselves? If you're both of marriageable age, things are OK with him financially (I.e. he can afford his own place, pay his bill and extra for family etc) and you're ready yet he hasn't proposed after dating you for 6 months, MOVE ON!!!
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteAnd not everything has to be fight
You do or you no do simple
Most men know who their wives are from the first and second conversations…
Push up (original)
Is it that someone else is asking you to marry him or what? What are you moving on to?
ReplyDeleteMust there be someone else that wants to marry her before she moves? How will she meet a serious man if she remains there? So she should remain there till after 10yrs and he will serve her hot breakfast?
DeleteIf she dates someone else while still dating this one now, you will call her ahewo. You may even be a woman like this o. SMH!
She is moving so a fine, serious, honest marriageable man with good intentions will clearly see her and make his intentions known.
DeleteMake she no use this rotten market block her road.
Before em use her pound yam for his engagement party.
When you enter store, don't you select what you want to buy and go and pay?
Or are you one of those that will press here, press there, toss up, toss down, then leave with your chump change and enter another store because ehn, the AC in that one no cool you well well? Mtshewww.
He is not wasting your time, you're the one wasting your time..
ReplyDeletePerson go tell you in every way that you shouldn't take him too serious as he doesn't want something serious with you, but you go dey feign ignorance.. later na to come call am time waster..
Maybe we go need to dey kuku call ourselves Time Waster for Una, like: "Hi princess, I like you, my name is Dante and I'm a time waster so please don't take me too seriously" so una no go get excuse say Una been no know so as to play victims as usual..
Why must you waste a lady's time? Why can't you spell out the relationship from the start and if she is fine with it, she stays? Mtcheeeeeeeeew.
DeleteNobody can waste your time without you permitting if. The handwriting is always clear but our emotions will not allow.us to do the needful.
ReplyDeleteHave you the poster ever truly tried to find out or understand, why he is delaying.
ReplyDeleteFinancial issues is what is keeping most men from getting married.
How do you expect a man to get married, when his source of income is on the low side.
Na una go force the man to marry, come still dey send in chronicles say, the man is in-capable and start using that excuse to link up with former and new flames.
GOD abeg, help man oh, make this women-folks no destroy us.
If it were financial, she will know. Most men who have found the one they WANT to settle with will bargain for time with that woman, they will let her know what their exact plan is, when he will be ready, steps he is taking to get there, just so that the woman won't jump ship.
DeleteThis one is dilly dallying about even after poster has asked him, he is definitely still searching.
GOD has saved the man in this chronicle from destruction.
ReplyDeleteIf not, na this babe for kill the man with pressures.
I asked my ex the same question in September that where is this relationship going to but he told me half the truth.
ReplyDeleteWe sha broke up early November when we had an argument and then he told me the truth that he can’t even consider marrying me because I complain too much about his level of communication. Basically his communication skills are actually trash but I tried to compromise because of love. We were in a long distance relationship with rubbish communication from him most of the time.
Anyway we broke up that same day yes I ended it because he isn’t ready to get married at all to anybody he is married to his hustle and dreams and there is nothing wrong with that but this girl is ready to get married so I dipped.
We were clearly not on the same page and I refuse to waste my time, emotions and energy on a man that doesn’t even wanna get married.
Don’t get it twisted I love him and miss him a lot but we are over and I’m never going back infact we are not even friends as I blocked him everywhere early December because he would message me weekly to check on me but for me out of sight is out of mind.
I personally don't think he wants to marry you.
ReplyDeleteEven if he doesn't yet have the finances for marriage, he should at least discuss it with you or actually get you engaged with a ring or bride price.
Abi oooo.
DeleteSister abeg move on to better days
ReplyDeleteSome guys find it difficult thinking of settling down as long as they don't have enough money in their account. If you feel he's not ready yet and as a woman, your biological clock is ticking. Pls move on if you find a better man.
ReplyDeleteI ask mine how far, he only replied with "Don't be scared, I'm with you, relax "told him to explain but he said just relax and have no fear. Hmmmm. Ours is 6 months relationship
ReplyDeleteE be like say ur engine is faulty, if not, u go don move on teytey
ReplyDeleteBabe just travel to your village this period and go find your bone of bone, your husband is waiting for you in the village. Stop tagging along with time wasters and osho free chewing gum bois 😏
ReplyDeleteGet into a relationship, define what you guys want from the get go, and both parties should be truthful about, if it ain't working or not on same page, just keep it moving...no need to dilly dally.
ReplyDeletePoster you can move while hoping for something better. Some guys are not ready to settle down but will never speak out to the lady they are dating. They keep on wasting her time and after some wasted years boom you see wedding card with a younger girl
ReplyDeleteCome 2023 if he is not making any meaningful moves please move.
Some men are known for this (both women too) will trick you knowing well that their mind is somewhere else.well one should be smart enough to know people next move,is the move is not encouraging you move.if he has not discuss family life with you,shown you his family members, number of children you will both have etc. I doubt his intentions
ReplyDeleteSpeak up! . Tell him you want to move on because he isn't ready to settle down. If he tells you to go ahead then my sister, MOVE ON!.
ReplyDeleteLook, in life you cannot force anyone to desire you, love you, or marry you. Those things spring forth naturally and easily out of a man. How is it that a woman can be with a man for years and in three months he goes and marry someone else.
ReplyDeleteIf you have asked and nothing positive then he is just not that into you and holding onto you until he finds what he really wants. Worse if you are cooking, cleaning, washing his clothes and keeping house. Who is going to give up a live in maid and access to easy sex, he ain't gonna break it off with you if he is getting easy benefits without the need for marriage. Know yourself woman! Know Thyself!
Abeg don't allow any guy waist your time this coming new Year, 2yrs is enough for someone to know where he or she stands in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, just go with your instincts.
ReplyDeleteWish you the best