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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE:
MARRIED TO A CHEATER
I have a partner who shares his finance details with me, spends lavishly on me and the kids, bought a car for me this season, sends me cash randomly (nothing less than 200k)to buy anything I may need, we take local flights when traveling interstate but he CHEATS once in a while and he will come back to beg for forgiveness even if I didn't catch him and he will tell me his conscience is disturbing him...
These girls are hookup girls not permanent girlfriends, he said some of his friends are calling him woman wrapper for loving his family so much so I guess it's just to prove a point even though I told him it's actually what he wanted he did nobody can force anybody.
This cheating hurts so bad, we stopped making love for some weeks now because I told him to give me time to heal because each time he touches me I feel irritated and I just begin to imagine him with another person, thinking is it the same way he does with the girls too? What can I do in such situation?
WOW...are you not scared of catching something from him? You need to put your feet down though and ban him permanently from your coochie until he repents..
You are there for the money,simple. Keep managing his cheating inugo?
ReplyDeleteThis cheating hurts so bad, we stopped making love for some weeks now because I told him to give me time to heal because each time he touches me I feel irritated and I just begin to imagine him with another person, thinking is it the same way he does with the girls too?
DeleteNa that one be tour problem ba? You are not even afraid that of the deadly disease and infection he is exposing you too?
Na wa for Waya road.
*Singing* Jesus take the wheel, take it from their hands, they can't do this on their own.
ReplyDeleteStella sef...
ReplyDeleteWhat if he didn't confess to you?
Your worry is understandable and valid but you have to decide what you want to do just the way your spirit tells you to. You either forgive him and help him overcome his temptation or move on than deny him his marital rights and still resent him. Good-luck ma'am.
“Help him overcome his temptation?”
DeletePls “expantiate”
How can she help him over come temptation? Naso una Dey put big load for worn head
DeleteAnons: from her chronicle, it shows that the man has a conscience but also have a weakness of low self esteem among his friends. It's not easy to confess to such a crime even if you have nothing to lose in the relationship. I think he can stop it but he needs help in any form. It can be psychological.
DeleteIt's a lie, as a guy, that man knows what he is doing, he knows bv isn't going nowhere, that's why he report himself and continues, trust me he is worst than those friends of his, man is just a player. Séems babe is with the guy for the comfort he provides that is why he comfortably cheats on her. He is playing a physiological game with her..... Plead, forgive and continue .
Delete@15:44, isn't Poster chopping big money and good life by her standards?
DeleteWomen so because it's hookup girls that makes it better or what ? You are not even concern about the disease you can contact from is illicit affairs. See how you start by saying he showers with you money and comes to beg you with gift even when you didn't catch him o. That man has no single respect for you at all and the more you accept all his cash gift the more your value drop you better put your foot down.
ReplyDeleteYikes!! Poster All these ones that decorated ''shit''...He feels like he can buy with all those orishirishi and ask for lame forgiveness from you and keeps sleeping with hookup girls...That is the highest form of manipulation...Respect yourself and dump him abeg....All the best.....
ReplyDeleteLol..
DeleteDey play..
Dump kini.. poster wey just dey follow you play,. Baba get fundz.. no leave no trasfer for momma,. She pin for the house dey whine herself 😂
You awuff money is beclouding your sense of reasoning until he gives you HIV them your eyes will clear ;kodei
ReplyDeleteMadam,there is nothing you can do about it..
ReplyDeleteMost men cheat..
95% of men asking me out are married men with beautiful wives at home so it's nothing new..
The ones that will tell you to leave your partner are enduring and managing with theirs...
This guy takes good care of you guys so stop complaining..
You are even lucky he cheat with hook up girls so no need getting scared of marrying them!..
It's hard to find a married man that does not cheat these days...
Its extremely hard!..
Be managing him inugo!..
Not true about hard in finding non-cheating men. It depends on where you go looking for them. You look for them amongst fu.k boys, you won't find them. You look for them amongst non+cheating men, you will find them.
DeleteNobody ask you out abeg. You and your malicious evil soul!
DeleteMy boyfriend of two years has never cheated since we started dating.I know that for sure, I’m not doing anything to prevent this but it’s because he is self disciplined.I met him on sdk 😂
DeleteAnon 20:28, he has not cheated because he cant afford the bills.
DeleteChief that’s not true,he is doing very well for himself and so I am.If you’re used to your men cheating,that’s your cup of tea.Not all successful men cheats,not all men are trash or piece of shit.Know this and know peace.Bye
DeleteIs he married to you? Jeweluchi, partner is different from husband/wife.
ReplyDeleteRegarding your worry, I don't think there's anything you can do about it, because it's who he is.
Some men can't stay faithful to one woman (bitter truth)no matter how they tried.
From the look of things, he's everything to you and your kids, so you can't leave him.
Start by reducing the love you have for him, before you go get HBP.
Make sure he always use condoms.
With time he will stop, if he makes the effort.😎😎😎
Some men have high libido that their wives can't manage effectively.
ReplyDeleteI havent seen any remedy from the comments section on how it can be managed
He handles all his part as a husband and father but wife gives fake reasons.
If she says no who is at the loss?
Very Selfish Woman. You want to have it all!
ReplyDeleteHe spends lavishly on you and the kids, bought a car for you this season, sends you cash randomly (nothing less than 200k)to buy anything you may need, take local flights when traveling interstate....Just one cheating , that's what you can't forgive.
I di wicked!
Now you have stopped making love to him for some weeks, did you also stop collecting money and other good stuffs he gave you?
You're wicked! lol
Huh
DeleteAll you can do is either develop thicker skin and a stronger stomach and receive him with a smile and open arms when he confesses, live with him as roommates and have separate lives, or leave the relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf you must stay because of economic factors, then start learning to save and try to open a businss so you have something of your own to survive on. One day he may cheat with a woman he really fancies and disrupt your lives forever. So secure your finances that you will be standing and not on your face if the worst happens.
Your hubby is being influenced by friends.......he need to change his circle to overcome this act...He is a good man that's all I can say.
ReplyDeleteMen don't hear oh. Stay away from bad friends.
DeleteI agree with you, most times those guys will make them feel less a man for not doing same thing. And they do to prove they are not women wrapper.
DeleteA grown ass man being influenced by his friends. So when his marriage pack up, will the same stupid friend be there for him?? I can’t stand men like this poster’s husband. No mind of his own. So what if he’s a woman wrapper? Can’t he just tell them if loving his wife that way means woman wrapper, then so be it. But no, he has intentions to cheat obviously. It’ll be hard to stop his cheating ways trust me except God himself. Goodluck with you decision poster. Sha start saving money seriously because with the ways things are going, you need to secure yourself. Hoping for the best.
Delete@16:21, so you believe it when the man said his friends are saying...? Who told his friends what goes on in his home?
DeleteMen and women who cheat are the most brilliant in thinking up alibis.
No. He is not being influenced by his friends. And he is not a good man. If he was not loading the poster with money/gifts but cheating without spending a Kobo on his cheating partners, we wouldn't call him a good man.
DeleteA spade is spade, not a shovel and not a farm implement.
Any man who blames his friends for his cheating ways Is actually the leader of the pack. It's jus to divert attention and sympathize with him
DeleteEhyyaah
ReplyDeleteI really feel your pain
It’s hard to leave a guy when he’s great in all things but the one he’s bad in really is bad
Make I no just talk
ReplyDeleteLol 😂. You'll be dubbed "the controversial Eka"
DeleteYour hubby is manipulating you;buys you gifts and gives you money,only to cheat away.The only advice I have for people that have cheating spouses is to leave and never turn back,before problems without solution comes knocking.
ReplyDeleteMake she secure herself financially before she leaves. Plan strategically and hope you’re not the lazy type to own your own business or get a good paying job. Because if this your husband doesn’t stop, I don’t know how long you’ll be able to take it. He broke you guys vows period. And it seems you’re not the type the tolerate cheating. Others don’t mind. We are all different. Separation is allowed and he’ll continue to see and care for his children. I only pity the kids in this hot mess of a marriage. It’ll definitely affect them. If not, then Work things out and fight for your marriage!!!
DeleteLol..
ReplyDeleteLet me not say my truth cos Una no go like am.. madam, e go better make you divorce oh, ABI cheating is not a deal breaker for you because oga get funds??
Dey there dey whine yourself.. you better give am better backing this night when he returns if you never ready to pull out
She’s not leaving point blank. She is NOT leaving. She go stay and tolerate his bullshit because that dude will still go back out there to fcuk, especially now that he’s not getting any at home.
DeleteIt's more like the pamperings plus monies be entering your koro koro eyes but would you be able to deal with the STIs/STDs later?
ReplyDeleteHave a heart to heart talk with him,tell him to stop or you freaking leave.
E don they small for this corner sha
Tey**
DeleteMove him closer to the things of God and keep praying for him.i hope he changes and remain faithful.men like this are very dangerous, they may expose their wife to viral infections.
ReplyDeleteYou've got two options woman, stay or go.
ReplyDeleteShe firstly narrated the benefits she get from him, so she is simply tolerating him because of the money. If na broke guy ta! she for don waka tey tey...
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeletePoster forgive him ,beg him to always use protection with the hookup girls, don't leave your marriage because of this, your husband is a good man o . By the way I'm a woman
DeleteOmggg are you serious!!! Wife should beg a fcking husband who decides to commit adultery to use condom??? Because of money??? Ahhh a lot of our women are fucked up I swear.
DeleteShe narrated the benefits so Bvs will not advice her to leave the marriage, but to be creative with solutions for her.
DeleteBeg him kwaa 😳? Ohh my goodness! What money cannot do...😁
DeletePoster stay calm. Don't leave him, he is yours. The intruders will be the ones to leave.
ReplyDeleteHowever, start praying for him and let him also start praying for himself.
He is gonna change.
He is got a conscience.
May peace return to your home, amen 🙏
🙄🙄🙄
DeleteKrytiq is not that easy believe me ,if you start divorcing every cheating man before you know it you are a ten times divorcee
ReplyDeleteAnd is it not better than carrying STDs like wrapper everytime? Which might eventually be the end of her 🤷♂️
DeleteKuma, I know this woman is not leaving that marriage reason why she first narrated everything funds and goodies she always get from the man. Madam, stay or leave. Shikena
That man doesn't respect you cos of he does he will cheat and not let you know. Even if he want to tell it should be what he did in the past behind your back. You both talk about it and you both move
ReplyDeleteHe keep repeating the same time over and over, after confessing his sins he will still go back to you with gifts. He is using those gifts to buy you off so that you will not have mouth to say anything.
The choice is yours if you can cope, look if you can manage hie attitude.
Stella this your red pen no follow at all and that na one of the mistakes you women make. Banning him from having s*x with you will only push him out more, that's not the solution. Take this from a man and take it to the bank. Pussy na 2 for five naira out there in case you women forget.
ReplyDeleteSince he is rich and generous just manage him like that for now . All the money he gives you stop spending it stupidly. Invest the money so that when the kids are grown you can leave. Just find a way to avoid receiving diseases. Use condom and go for tests every month. I don't see the point of leaving and now be suffering if you are independently rich then leave immediately
ReplyDeleteWith this HIV that is in every Tom dick and Harry. You are not scared ?
ReplyDeletehards to advise a woman to leave a bad relationship....when he does the one that will break the "camels" back nobody will tell her to find her level..you are still with him because the money cushions the pain. as long as you still tolerate his attitude he will continue..
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